My Gf is pregnant!
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I've got a girl fren who never really got over the trauma of her abortion.... I've seen how she suffered... and till now she's not what she used to be..
Please do think twice..... If there is any other way....
Things are not as easy as it seems... -
find a.... nevermind..Originally posted by alwaysdisturbed:i tink its better to end nw for u...
u already said u gt no income...
even the child when he/she comes to dis world....
everyone's gonna suffer....
who's gonna take care of the baby?
ur family members?
even if they dun...they'll hv to hire babysitter....
its gonna b a burden to everyone...
i wuld suggest u end it...
carry the regrets wif u for the rest of ur life...
u created it... -
Totally agree... I mean people shouldn't be so quick to comment and scold when they themselves are not in the situation...Originally posted by alwaysdisturbed:ppl r weird...
when ppl gt no abilty to bring up the child...
u guys keep advisin to keep n bring up...
if he's gonna listen to those who say dat..
later he's gonna post another problem on bringin up the child...
den ppl will b sayin dat since he can't afford to bring up den y bring the baby to dis world...... -
I knw it is cruel but we realli have no choice, we have to live with the guilt... it is a lesson to be paid. I feel terrible too, make my gf to go tru such a torture.
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Where is the sense of responsibility and guts? Take responsibilty, boy ! The child is innocent. You have ABSOLUTELY no RIGJT to end his life.
No money ? Talk to your parents. No point hiding at this hour.
Grow up, please. -
so very sad...
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Want to hv fun must take precaution. Is easy to say go abortion for the guys but gals will be the one that suffer. Wear condom lah...
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a lesson to b learn by many others....Originally posted by guitarist:Want to hv fun must take precaution. Is easy to say go abortion for the guys but gals will be the one that suffer. Wear condom lah... -
u'll b wonderin where he/she is n hw he/she looks like...Originally posted by the Bear:find a childless couple...
everyday keep tinkin...hopin to noe...
i tink it wuld b worst if dat happens....
if u abort nw...
at least u noe its gone...u can nvr c... -
flawed thinking...
after abortion.. they'll be thinking...
what he/she would look like
everyday keep thinking what if the child was alive
what the child would have grown up to be
the potential of the child
if the child would be... but we've killed our child...
the could-have-beens are sometimes worse...Originally posted by alwaysdisturbed:u'll b wonderin where he/she is n hw he/she looks like...
everyday keep tinkin...hopin to noe...
i tink it wuld b worst if dat happens....
if u abort nw...
at least u noe its gone...u can nvr c... -
It's harder to get over the incident if the child is alive somewhere...Originally posted by alwaysdisturbed:u'll b wonderin where he/she is n hw he/she looks like...
everyday keep tinkin...hopin to noe...
i tink it wuld b worst if dat happens....
if u abort nw...
at least u noe its gone...u can nvr c...
You will be wondering and wondering what the child is doing, where the child is, if the "parents" is treating it well etc etc...
Could go crazy esp for the girl as she has to part with it after carrying it for 9 mths!!! -
Dun totally disagree but have you ever considered what will happen to the girl?? Her future?? She'll have to give up her studies, her family??Originally posted by the Bear:flawed thinking...
after abortion.. they'll be thinking...
what he/she would look like
everyday keep thinking what if the child was alive
what the child would have grown up to be
the potential of the child
if the child would be... but we've killed our child...
the could-have-beens are sometimes worse...
Don't forget, this young couple dun have the ability to support themselves even, not to mention a child... -
do you think for one single moment that once the foetus is gone, life continues as though nothing happened?
she's going for an abortion, not a lobotomy..Originally posted by St4rduSt-:Dun totally disagree but have you ever considered what will happen to the girl?? Her future?? She'll have to give up her studies, her family??
Don't forget, this young couple dun have the ability to support themselves even, not to mention a child... -
congratulations
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Hmm... so u think it's better for them to born the child and let the fella suffer?? Ok...Originally posted by the Bear:do you think for one single moment that once the foetus is gone, life continues as though nothing happened?
she's going for an abortion, not a lobotomy.. -
of coz nt..Originally posted by the Bear:do you think for one single moment that once the foetus is gone, life continues as though nothing happened?
she's going for an abortion, not a lobotomy..
no matter wat....
there'll b guilt in dem..
even if they bring the child in dis world...
they can't bring him up properly..
they'll feel bad in future..
or they give the child away...
they'll also feel bad dat they can't take care of the child n had to give to someone else....
n the child hv to call someone else dad n mum whereas dat couple is their biological parents...
wat will happen if the child noes the couple dat adopted him/her isn't his/her true parents?
wun it create more problems? -
child?
childless couple...
too many out there with too much love unexpressed, ungiven because they do not have a child to bestow this love on...Originally posted by St4rduSt-:Hmm... so u think it's better for them to born the child and let the fella suffer?? Ok... -
one of my friends is adopted..
he's one of the nicest people in the world...
he thought about his natural folks.. a lot...
but he's thankful for his adopted folks who treat him (i daresay) better than my folks...Originally posted by alwaysdisturbed:of coz nt..
no matter wat....
there'll b guilt in dem..
even if they bring the child in dis world...
they can't bring him up properly..
they'll feel bad in future..
or they give the child away...
they'll also feel bad dat they can't take care of the child n had to give to someone else....
n the child hv to call someone else dad n mum whereas dat couple is their biological parents...
wat will happen if the child noes the couple dat adopted him/her isn't his/her true parents?
wun it create more problems? -
Originally posted by kopiosatu:congratulations
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i dun mean everything is endin up bad...chaos...Originally posted by the Bear:he thought about his natural folks.. a lot...
but look at ur fren...
he's tinkin abt his natural parents so much..
such a erm....problem? feelin? i'm nt really sure wat word to use over here....
but he has to carry dis for the rest of his life.... -
don't you think about stuff a lot?
if so, would you rather be dead?
that's the long and short of it... he's a happy person, thinks about it without being depressed or even sad... jokes about having 2 sets of folks...
all this may be thrown away
a life thrown away..Originally posted by alwaysdisturbed:i dun mean everything is endin up bad...chaos...
but look at ur fren...
he's tinkin abt his natural parents so much..
such a erm....problem? feelin? i'm nt really sure wat word to use over here....
but he has to carry dis for the rest of his life.... -
Perhaps your friend is one of the luckier ones...Originally posted by the Bear:don't you think about stuff a lot?
if so, would you rather be dead?
that's the long and short of it... he's a happy person, thinks about it without being depressed or even sad... jokes about having 2 sets of folks...
all this may be thrown away
a life thrown away..
There are people out there who are adopted but are ill-treated...
Just to remind you there are always 2 sides to life...
If one is able to cope or live with the bad part, if it happens by all means, go ahead... -
yeah, give them a break... if they are not really to have a child, keeping it will ruin their lives.
give them a chance, and hope they'll take more care and responsibilites next them. -
Its cruel to abort a baby. Pls spare a thought!
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If you decide to have the baby:
I know some couples with children living happily as a family. How they got the children was just like your case, an accident.
I know some people who end up in trouble, got married just for the sake of the child. Then they got divorced and the girl become burderned by the child and become a young toutured single mother.
however, abortion:
Everything will end and the only thing bad was the mentel and some physical problem hunting for the rest of your life.
Don't listen to all the advice above on you are a killer or whatever. The choise is yours and your GF's to make. I know you will feel guilty and sad but you have no choice. But if really must, Get out from this forum and go to a counceler. They keep everything confidential and have plenty of advice. They also have many numbers of docters you can call to find out, the options you have and they will always respect your decision. You won't get much advice here except flames.
Good luck to you and your GF.
By the way, how old are you?