My Gf is pregnant!
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yeah manz....Originally posted by n305er:If you decide to have the baby:
I know some couples with children living happily as a family. How they got the children was just like your case, an accident.
I know some people who end up in trouble, got married just for the sake of the child. Then they got divorced and the girl become burderned by the child and become a young toutured single mother.
however, abortion:
Everything will end and the only thing bad was the mentel and some physical problem hunting for the rest of your life.
Don't listen to all the advice above on you are a killer or whatever. The choise is yours and your GF's to make. I know you will feel guilty and sad but you have no choice. But if really must, Get out from this forum and go to a counceler. They keep everything confidential and have plenty of advice. They also have many numbers of docters you can call to find out, the options you have and they will always respect your decision. You won't get much advice here except flames.
Good luck to you and your GF.
By the way, how old are you?
dun make it happen juz bcoz of the baby....den regret everything in future...n end up everyone to suffer..... -
yes i wuld rather b dead......ur fren is lucky...Originally posted by the Bear:don't you think about stuff a lot?
if so, would you rather be dead?
that's the long and short of it... he's a happy person, thinks about it without being depressed or even sad... jokes about having 2 sets of folks...
all this may be thrown away
a life thrown away..
pls tink of the worst....
similar situations dun go the same way...
there r xtreme ends.... -
u wan the baby to come to dis world wif a possibility dat the child will suffer in future....Originally posted by r33b0k:Its cruel to abort a baby. Pls spare a thought! -
WHY DUN TAKE PRECAUTION IN THE 1ST PLACE??????????SHE CAN HAVE AN ABORTION,BUT SOME GALS KIP DREAMING OF THEIR BABIES U NOE????IT'S U N YR GF'S CHOICE AS EITHER 2 GIVE BIRTH OR ABORT,BUT THE GAL IS REALLY VERY HURT!!!!!!!!!!!!!WEN HAVING SEX,U R HAPPY,BUT NEVER USE PRECAUTION,THEN WHEN KANA LIAO,THEN U THINK OF WAYS 2 ABORT........CANNOT AFFORD THEN DUN HAVE SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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in the 1st place why didnt u shoot properly & where's ur condom ? If u really decided to take the risk then u'll have to take the responsibility. Not enough income is a problem lots of young couple faces & talking about abortion, needs an amount of $$$ also ! Plus, it's bad/inhuman to abort the little innocent dont u tink ? without knowing the reason. Not born but oredi dead inside ! so take deep consideration before taking any actions.Originally posted by Rox:My girlfriend is pregnant... it is impossible to have the baby becoz we dun have income . We decided to have abortion.... can anyone tell me any abortion clinics in spore and their fees. We are both 20. -
Come on, there's no point scolding...
Bet he already feel very bad...
What's done is already done... -
waz the pt of tinkin y he din use a condom n y he din shoot properly...
juz concentrate on solvin the problem...
n learn frm dis lesson.... -
y not tell her parents n c wat they have 2 say?no income?maybe they will help u 1st...
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I noe parents who throw their kids out of the house becos of that...Originally posted by curad:y not tell her parents n c wat they have 2 say?no income?maybe they will help u 1st...
But at least I noe you have wonderful parents...
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how u noe i have wondersful parents?Originally posted by St4rduSt-:I noe parents who throw their kids out of the house becos of that...
But at least I noe you have wonderful parents... -
well,if the parents really care abt their children,they wun hurt them more n throw them out...they shld instead give them moral support.........
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good for you....plan for marriage as a long term vision for both of you (since you love her deeply). be there by her side during the abortion and after the abortion. dun leave the clinic or hospital in case you're needed. just be by her side like what you've said.Originally posted by Rox:How much is the mount elizabeth one... any website i can refer to.
Thanx guys for ur advice... we knw this is a life but we dun wan it to come to a unhappy world. I loved my gf deeply, i will be there by her side.
this is regrettable indeed....one more thing, let her rest well after the abortion as she has lost quite some amt of blood and also her emotional aspects will be affected thus making her rather weak. i suggest you cheer her up and yourself as well...go to somewhere that will not remind her of the sadness. eat something light and healthy or whatever she wants. care and understand her as much as possible after the ordeal. its going to be tough but can be overcomed.
use a condom next time. -
people make mistakes....you're lucky you don't have to be in this shoe but if you happen to be in one, what will you do? scold if you must but do try to understand after that.
you will have kids next time too.... -
u referring 2 mi?Originally posted by tiggersgd:people make mistakes....you're lucky you don't have to be in this shoe but if you happen to be in one, what will you do? scold if you must but do try to understand after that.
you will have kids next time too.... -
I don't think your stead think carefully .... 2 year ago i agree with my stead to abort our baby now she blame ME WHY
Because she don't have a CHANCE to get pregnant again !! ... ABORT and FACE UR consequences....
I make my stead pregnant 2 year ago now i am only 18
Your baby cost around 400 to 600 dollar but mine forever priceless
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I share the same sentiment as n305er.
What's done cannot be undone. This will served a severe lesson to both of you that you two have to learnt.
Get a counsellor and see what's best for the two of you and the unborn baby. It's good to hear what the counsellor says since they will throw some light into what to expect mentally before and after or other options available for the best interest of you two.
Definitely a difficult time for you two and I sincerely wish all the best to you two. Love her for what she is. -
sorry to hear thisOriginally posted by anti.flirt:I don't think your stead think carefully .... 2 year ago i agree with my stead to abort our baby now she blame ME WHY Because she don't have a CHANCE to get pregnant again !! ... ABORT and FACE UR consequences....
I make my stead pregnant 2 year ago now i am only 18
Your baby cost around 400 to 600 dollar but mine forever priceless -
Originally posted by anti.flirt:I don't think your stead think carefully .... 2 year ago i agree with my stead to abort our baby now she blame ME WHY Because she don't have a CHANCE to get pregnant again !! ... ABORT and FACE UR consequences....
I make my stead pregnant 2 year ago now i am only 18
Your baby cost around 400 to 600 dollar but mine forever priceless 
Sheesh. Sorry to hear about that. -
I having my own life now and regret what i have done to her .... rox think carefully...
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sori 2 hear tat... rox, counsult a professional b4 any big decision lor.Originally posted by anti.flirt:I don't think your stead think carefully .... 2 year ago i agree with my stead to abort our baby now she blame ME WHY Because she don't have a CHANCE to get pregnant again !! ... ABORT and FACE UR consequences....
I make my stead pregnant 2 year ago now i am only 18
Your baby cost around 400 to 600 dollar but mine forever priceless -
Dun really understand how come after abortion no chance to get pregnant again...Originally posted by anti.flirt:I don't think your stead think carefully .... 2 year ago i agree with my stead to abort our baby now she blame ME WHY Because she don't have a CHANCE to get pregnant again !! ... ABORT and FACE UR consequences....
I make my stead pregnant 2 year ago now i am only 18
Your baby cost around 400 to 600 dollar but mine forever priceless
Anyway, if your gf is like dat, she'll probably blame you if she had borne the child too...
This kind of thing at that time she also had a say, besides she was the one to go through it... -
yeah its too late to regret that u 2 Opps! did it again! and even got fruit of love.
anyway... some people already suggested where the places are to get an abortion.
but please bear in mind. some people cannot give birth anymore after an abortion. especially if she's the weak body kind i think you better remind her that too.
but this consist of her future's stake. maybe you two can check with the doctor to see if he can determine whether she can give birth in the future anot.
you noe wat im saying? yes you 2 can't have the baby. i also agree. 20 years old nia. how to have baby. still haven't finish studies. she can't go school with big stomach also right.
hai. its such a fault.
the final decision is you and hers but i think u have to let your girl friend see the COMMENTS in this whole forum to let her have an idea wat might happen to her after the abortion.
if she wants the baby. i have to say. u gotta give her the decision. the ultimate decision should be hers. -
Hi All
I'm new here but I hope this will help Rox in coming to a more informed decision if its not too late.
Pls call this number 6339-9770 immediately. They handle your type of situations all the time and they will be able to help you explore many other options. More importantly, the whole thing is free and confidential.
You can also check out their website here http://www.catholic.org.sg/FLS/pcs/
There's a picture of a 6-7 week baby there.
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Wah...that's a very good advice.
Advice from most of us:
KEEP the baby.
Maybe you and your girlfriend can't take care of it, but there are other people who are willing to.
Talk to her parents. Maybe they accept you as their son in law already.
Or you really loved your girlfriend a lot, want to spend the rest of your life with her, you go to ROM. -
Its better to discuss with both sides of e parents first before coming out with a decision...but sometimes its not easy to keep it...its a big risk...what people will gossip...e kinda stares....relatives...studies..will hafta stop...its really not easy... i am hoping u discuss this first asap before e abortion... but i understand your situation..abortion is e easiest option around.
But after your decision, dont regret it and be supportive to each other...this is very important
Went thru e same shit in e past... still thinking back every now n then n look at e ultrascan