R we that open minded???

• ^MaRcUs^

  4 Oct 03, 07:42

  Guys, You can say 1001 times that u luv her and so on...
  but what if she tell you one fine day that..
  1) she's being rape before /
  2) she have slept with one of ur close friend before/
  3) she used to sleep around.....
  will u still tell her: "I Luv U dear, no matter what"......or...
  "well, actually the two of us really cannot click together"
  keke..what will u do?
  and Girls, same thing happened to u....
  what will ur reaction be? (of coz ur bf cannot be raped hor..take it he raped someone be4...2) and 3) same)
  keke
• the Bear

  4 Oct 03, 09:40

  love is.. without reason..
  
  if you cannot accept her the way she is, you DO NOT love her...
  
  simple as that..
• dumbdumb!

  4 Oct 03, 10:17

  Originally posted by ^MaRcUs^:

  Guys, You can say 1001 times that u luv her and so on...
  but what if she tell you one fine day that..
  1) she's being rape before /
  2) she have slept with one of ur close friend before/
  3) she used to sleep around.....
  will u still tell her: "I Luv U dear, no matter what"......or...
  "well, actually the two of us really cannot click together"
  keke..what will u do?
  and Girls, same thing happened to u....
  what will ur reaction be? (of coz ur bf cannot be raped hor..take it he raped someone be4...2) and 3) same)
  keke

  good question.. honestly i would be shocked. and honestly? i duno what will my reaction. i cannot simply say "love without reason" and all that bull. i doubt anyone would be calm straight away and take it like nothing happen. that isn't love, thats blindness. maybe true love, would consider it, think things thru, if the gal/guy regrets it, turn over a new leaf, looks over the past, and move on. thats a diff issue. not simply just "dear... i slept with your best friend" "so? i still love you, i don't care" thats a friggin lie. lol no one would be calm straight away.
• dumbdumb!

  4 Oct 03, 10:17

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  love is.. without reason..
  
  if you cannot accept her the way she is, you DO NOT love her...
  
  simple as that..

  i dun agree with u totally. love has always a reason. u love someone, because she looks cute, looks chio, has good attitute, basically. appeals to u in some way. if love is without a reason, would u fall in love with a totally screwed up attitute person, with the face of an elephant blah blah?
• M©+square

  4 Oct 03, 10:39

  Originally posted by dumbdumb!:

  i dun agree with u totally. love has always a reason. u love someone, because she looks cute, looks chio, has good attitute, basically. appeals to u in some way. if love is without a reason, would u fall in love with a totally screwed up attitute person, with the face of an elephant blah blah?

  You may be shocked if there is such person.
• dumbdumb!

  4 Oct 03, 10:44

  Originally posted by M©+square:

  You may be shocked if there is such person.

  quote me a fellow.
  
  i wun say that you love without a reason.. but more like u cannot put the reasons into words, or u may not even realise it, so u simply say no reason for this love. but love always have a reason.
• makeorbreak

  4 Oct 03, 11:14

  I don't agree with the "love without reason" rubbish.
  
  There are always reasons behind everything.
• dumbdumb!

  4 Oct 03, 11:37

  Originally posted by makeorbreak:

  I don't agree with the "love without reason" rubbish.
  
  There are always reasons behind everything.

  thats what i say!
• angrynor

  4 Oct 03, 14:04

  guess if she is raped... cannot help it lor... but will accept.
  but sleep with my close friends? will be disappointed. see how lor
  erm... Sleep around? Lets go for medical check up!~
• dinga78

  4 Oct 03, 17:08

  In the heat of love, you may be able to decieve yourself that you are really able to accept the past.
  
  Please think what will happen when you do not feel the intensity of love anymore. I believe thats how most quarreles in a relationship are started, and thats why these stuff come to an end.
  
  So maybe you should cool off first and think logically under "neutral" conditions and see if you are able to accept it or not.
• the Bear

  4 Oct 03, 17:10

  then what all you have is not love... love is unconditional...
  
  what you all have are conditions...
  
  is it love then?
• dinga78

  4 Oct 03, 17:10

  Originally posted by makeorbreak:

  I don't agree with the "love without reason" rubbish.
  
  There are always reasons behind everything.

  It seems to me that its more like a reason that defies all logic and you cannot accept the fact that your brain is actually telling you to do otherwise.
  
  Thats why its termed as "love without reason". More accurately, its self deception.
• duotiga83

  4 Oct 03, 17:11

  how open we want?
• dumbdumb!

  4 Oct 03, 17:16

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  then what all you have is not love... love is unconditional...
  
  what you all have are conditions...
  
  is it love then?

  love is never unconditional.
  
  not human love anyway.
  
  besides read my post again
  
  

  good question.. honestly i would be shocked. and honestly? i duno what will my reaction. i cannot simply say "love without reason" and all that bull. i doubt anyone would be calm straight away and take it like nothing happen. that isn't love, thats blindness. maybe true love, would consider it, think things thru, if the gal/guy regrets it, turn over a new leaf, looks over the past, and move on. thats a diff issue. not simply just "dear... i slept with your best friend" "so? i still love you, i don't care" thats a friggin lie. lol no one would be calm straight away.

  can u honestly say u can do what u say? talking is easier than doing brother..
  
  i doubt any sane person who is in balance with logic and emotion will be calm when shiatz happen.
• the Bear

  4 Oct 03, 17:39

  love is unconditional...
  
  otherwise, it's trade..
  
  "honey, i slept with your best friend"
  
  "goodbye.. i can never be with you again.. but i will always love you.."
  
  love... has reasons reason can never understand
  
  

  Originally posted by dumbdumb!:

  love is never unconditional.
  
  not human love anyway.
  
  besides read my post again

• Christy

  4 Oct 03, 17:56

  1) she's being rape before /
  
  Ans: I think the guy will just dump her.
  
  2) she have slept with one of ur close friend before/
  
  Ans: He will dump her
  
  3) she used to sleep around.....
  
  Ans: Think most people fool around often now.
• dumbdumb!

  4 Oct 03, 18:07

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  love is unconditional...
  
  otherwise, it's trade..
  
  "honey, i slept with your best friend"
  
  "goodbye.. i can never be with you again.. but i will always love you.."
  
  love... has reasons reason can never understand
  
  

  love IS a trade, you love someone because there is something in that person that appeals to you, and you feel good when the same love is given back.
  
  if not its called one sided love, and that kinda shiat always ends bad.
  
  human love is never unconditional. if you think that is even remotely possible, its really silly. even one sided love, how long can it last? 1 year before you lose hope and interest? love is a trade. crudely put.
  
  now you are contradicting yourself homie, first you say love is without reason, now you say love has reason, so which do you want?
• dumbdumb!

  4 Oct 03, 18:09

  Originally posted by Christy:

  1) she's being rape before /
  
  Ans: I think the guy will just dump her.
  
  2) she have slept with one of ur close friend before/
  
  Ans: He will dump her
  
  3) she used to sleep around.....
  
  Ans: Think most people fool around often now.

  rape.. is a complicating issue...
  
  firstly.. it would be hard in a relationship cuz the scar will still hurt everyone in the relationship, she would be withdrawn, fearful to be close to anyone..
  
  takes time to heal.. thats why.. fcukin rapists ought to be given a heavy sentence.. death is too cheap. torture sounds better.. would i be too evil if i say it this way?
  
  as for dumping her cuz she was raped.. i duno.. i feel tts abit extreme.. cause it ain't her fault.. i guess u meant that due to the complication that comes after the guy cannot take it?
• Evil Clown

  4 Oct 03, 18:09

  
  
  
  
  
  
  
• dumbdumb!

  4 Oct 03, 18:11

  ok those pics are dumb.. i mean.. wtf? do you do that all the time huh? you some special headcase goin down or smth my f00?
• M©+square

  4 Oct 03, 18:52

  Dumbx2: i think you got to define what do you consider is LOVE.
  
  And for the quote. I guess the best i can give to you is the young man who got married to the 80 year old lady.
  anyway...things which doesn't happen in your life doesn't mean that it doesn't exist at all.
  
  Cheers
  
  About being open minded is not the issue.
  I'm cool with friends hanging around and having flings.
  I'm open-minded.
  
  If my gf does all those hanky panky stuff.
  It's not an issue of open mindedness anymore.
  It's a matter of acceptance.
  
  Open mindedness does not equate to acceptance on a personal basis. Get this right.
  
• M©+square

  4 Oct 03, 18:57

  Originally posted by dumbdumb!:

  love IS a trade, you love someone because there is something in that person that appeals to you, and you feel good when the same love is given back.
  
  if not its called one sided love, and that kinda shiat always ends bad.
  
  human love is never unconditional. if you think that is even remotely possible, its really silly. even one sided love, how long can it last? 1 year before you lose hope and interest? love is a trade. crudely put.
  
  now you are contradicting yourself homie, first you say love is without reason, now you say love has reason, so which do you want?

  May i invite you to read my humble THREADMaybe you could be the first who could refute my thoughts.
• dumbdumb!

  4 Oct 03, 19:41

  Originally posted by M©+square:
  [b]Dumbx2: i think you got to define what do you consider is LOVE.
  
  And for the quote. I guess the best i can give to you is the young man who got married to the 80 year old lady.
  anyway...things which doesn't happen in your life doesn't mean that it doesn't exist at all.
  
  Cheers
  
  About being open minded is not the issue.
  I'm cool with friends hanging around and having flings.
  I'm open-minded.
  
  If my gf does all those hanky panky stuff.
  It's not an issue of open mindedness anymore.
  It's a matter of acceptance.
  
  Open mindedness does not equate to acceptance on a personal basis. Get this right.
  [/b]

  hmm.. i see.. ..
  
  btw. i can't see yr thread.
  
  but acceptance is linked to open mindedness, don't you think?
  
  and i did define love. read above
• NeonTetra

  4 Oct 03, 19:43

  if she loves me then why she sleeps with my best friend???
• Nata|ie

  4 Oct 03, 19:45

  Originally posted by ^MaRcUs^:

  Guys, You can say 1001 times that u luv her and so on...
  but what if she tell you one fine day that..
  1) she's being rape before /
  2) she have slept with one of ur close friend before/
  3) she used to sleep around.....
  will u still tell her: "I Luv U dear, no matter what"......or...
  "well, actually the two of us really cannot click together"
  keke..what will u do?
  and Girls, same thing happened to u....
  what will ur reaction be? (of coz ur bf cannot be raped hor..take it he raped someone be4...2) and 3) same)
  keke

  If my guys is a rapist?? Forget it! Dump him man!! hahahahha
  His previous sexual life is of no importance to me.. the most impt thing is when he is with me, he dun slp ard.Slept with my friend?? Dump him too.. Of all ppl, he chose my friend. Bad choice.