what if i suspect my ex & his frenz raped me?
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wat if this is true??? i was drunk & was brought to my ex's home, which i was blind-folded....... ...etc...... :*( -
wat u found after u woke up?
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were u undressed, etc?
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When was that??? Didn't you go to the police?Originally posted by joeythay:all,
wat if this is true??? i was drunk & was brought to my ex's home, which i was blind-folded....... ...etc...... :*( -
go to the police pls.. they can arrange a medical checkup..
go with a family member or a friend close to you..
for your own sake..
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i was blind-folded, which was pretty normal whn both of us ever played this type of "game" b4..... but tat nite was diff......... i was drunk & high and bos i was blind-folded, i couldn't see anythng at all. i was stripped naked of course & the session went on & on..... it's like repeating itself again & again... u knw wat i mean??? :*(
Worst thng was, i could vaguely feel tat some were nt "his"..... think u knw wat i mean...... i was too drunk 2 remember others.... -
happened how long ago?
how come now then mention? -
some?! u mean there were many?Originally posted by joeythay:i was blind-folded, which was pretty normal whn both of us ever played this type of "game" b4..... but tat nite was diff......... i was drunk & high and bos i was blind-folded, i couldn't see anythng at all. i was stripped naked of course & the session went on & on..... it's like repeating itself again & again... u knw wat i mean??? :*(
Worst thng was, i could vaguely feel tat some were nt "his"..... think u knw wat i mean...... i was too drunk 2 remember others.... -
Poor thing...by now..no traces left behind liao right? Should have reported to the police..Originally posted by joeythay:i was blind-folded, which was pretty normal whn both of us ever played this type of "game" b4..... but tat nite was diff......... i was drunk & high and bos i was blind-folded, i couldn't see anythng at all. i was stripped naked of course & the session went on & on..... it's like repeating itself again & again... u knw wat i mean??? :*(
Worst thng was, i could vaguely feel tat some were nt "his"..... think u knw wat i mean...... i was too drunk 2 remember others.... -
Probably quite a few PMs going to her now...
But this case is a bit hard to bring foward isn't it?
Since she is blindfolded willingly, has played this game b4 and willingly as well. Not sure that his friends took part or not. Hmm.
But I suppose she should go for a medical checkup....no idea what the doctor can find though....it's a bit hard to do a DNA sequence analysis without confiding in the doctor the reason for it. -
Hmm....
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rotten guys.
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if u suspect it, u shld straight away go for medical checkup and confirm it. now mayb the chances of detecting will be gone le. Mayb u can stil go for it, and go to the police if its true.Originally posted by joeythay:all,
wat if this is true??? i was drunk & was brought to my ex's home, which i was blind-folded....... ...etc...... :*( -
Originally posted by joeythay:all,
wat if this is true??? i was drunk & was brought to my ex's home, which i was blind-folded....... ...etc...... :*(
The longer you stall, the more likelihood they can get away. Go find your best friend and tell him/her now because chances are, they will be so `fringing pissed and will bring you to places you are supposed to be visiting now.
P.S: Quit waiting.
Cheers -
glad tat so many ppl here r willing 2 listen 2 me. I juz joined this forum 2day & find tat it's a forum full of helpful ppl.
abt the case, i bliv it's too late as it's already 1 mth ago.... i couldn't sleep or eat. It seems tat it keeps haunting me....
I still got my PMS & tat comforts me a little bit.
The reason i said "some" is bcos i could feel tat few hands were around me... at least i still able 2 notice tat whn i was drunk. i was too high & disgustingly enjoyed tat session. I told my best fren (only one) & she told me tat i did nt hv evidence, etc... & probably w nt win the case. Moreover, i couldn't let my parents knw too... :*(
HELP!!!! I juz couldn't get ovr it.... -
This is not true. Actually, my motive of me asking you to tell your best friend is release your stress. Please seek professional advice because THESE are the people who can really tell you IF you able to do something or not.Originally posted by joeythay:glad tat so many ppl here r willing 2 listen 2 me. I juz joined this forum 2day & find tat it's a forum full of helpful ppl.
abt the case, i bliv it's too late as it's already 1 mth ago.... i couldn't sleep or eat. It seems tat it keeps haunting me.... I still got my PMS & tat comforts me a little bit.
The reason i said "some" is bcos i could feel tat few hands were around me... at least i still able 2 notice tat whn i was drunk. i was too high & disgustingly enjoyed tat session. I told my best fren (only one) & she told me tat i did nt hv evidence, etc... & probably w nt win the case. Moreover, i couldn't let my parents knw too... :*(
HELP!!!! I juz couldn't get ovr it.... 1 month isn't too late and don't be silly to keep mum. Please call hotlines to ask if you want to make sure first before approaching real life.
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nothing much we can help, but advise you to change your charecter.Originally posted by joeythay:glad tat so many ppl here r willing 2 listen 2 me. I juz joined this forum 2day & find tat it's a forum full of helpful ppl.
abt the case, i bliv it's too late as it's already 1 mth ago.... i couldn't sleep or eat. It seems tat it keeps haunting me.... I still got my PMS & tat comforts me a little bit.
The reason i said "some" is bcos i could feel tat few hands were around me... at least i still able 2 notice tat whn i was drunk. i was too high & disgustingly enjoyed tat session. I told my best fren (only one) & she told me tat i did nt hv evidence, etc... & probably w nt win the case. Moreover, i couldn't let my parents knw too... :*(
HELP!!!! I juz couldn't get ovr it....
1) you say he is your ex
2) & disgustingly enjoyed tat session.
if he is your ex, or after that you break off with him, this only happens 1 month ago, you enjoy ?
I wonder how old are you, if you don't know how to protect yourself there were be worst on the way.
For your own good, please love yourself. Can't beleive you can choose a boyfriend like that in the first place. -
since its ur ex, i assume u broke off after this happenOriginally posted by joeythay:glad tat so many ppl here r willing 2 listen 2 me. I juz joined this forum 2day & find tat it's a forum full of helpful ppl.
abt the case, i bliv it's too late as it's already 1 mth ago.... i couldn't sleep or eat. It seems tat it keeps haunting me.... I still got my PMS & tat comforts me a little bit.
The reason i said "some" is bcos i could feel tat few hands were around me... at least i still able 2 notice tat whn i was drunk. i was too high & disgustingly enjoyed tat session. I told my best fren (only one) & she told me tat i did nt hv evidence, etc... & probably w nt win the case. Moreover, i couldn't let my parents knw too... :*(
HELP!!!! I juz couldn't get ovr it....
hope u hv learn fm this n can get over this soon...dun let this affect ur future -
call SOS if u need to tok 1800 221 4444
u either go to a police now, and its never too late, although all evidence is gone liao.
next time, pls control your alcohol intake. getting drunk like tat and letting any guy bring u back is juz asking for trouble. -
High chance you were badly gangscrewed. Time to assess yourself, your lifestyle and your company.Originally posted by joeythay:i was blind-folded, which was pretty normal whn both of us ever played this type of "game" b4..... but tat nite was diff......... i was drunk & high and bos i was blind-folded, i couldn't see anythng at all. i was stripped naked of course & the session went on & on..... it's like repeating itself again & again... u knw wat i mean??? :*(
Worst thng was, i could vaguely feel tat some were nt "his"..... think u knw wat i mean...... i was too drunk 2 remember others.... -
go see doc & check, but a month ago maybe canot check tio ..
anyway, pls refrain frm playing those stupid games strip alone with guys...only guys gain, & u dono hw to drink dn drink till drunk.....easy for guys to take advantage...& u realy describe this as "rape" when u say u enjoyed this ? nex time bring along few close frens (girls who dont drink) if u wana get drunk....
u r lucky tat ur PMS come arbo get pregnant aso dono whose child is it...Pls wake UP!!! Do not regret for your actions! -
I'm sorry, to be brutally honest about it, there is very little you can do. Even if it can be proven that his friends had intercourse witn you, it will be their words against yours whether it was rape or consensual, unless the sun came up from the west and you can get one of them to testify for you. And you will have a hard time proving the former given that you willingly got yourself so drunk, played the game, etc.
So where does that leave you? Knowing that you cannot do much about what's past, the only way is forward. My motto in life - "If you can't do anything about it, there's no point worrying about it." Stop brooding about it - you have a choice whether you allow something that has happened in the past affect your future. To be frank, I won't be surprised if in that intoxcated state you were actually aware of what was happening, especially since you "enjoyed" it. So don't feel sorry for yourself. Just take this as a major lesson learnt, and don't be so silly to get yourself into this situation again. Seek official help, as suggested by others in this forum, if you find that it is haunting you.
But remember - it is ultimately your choice whether or not it will affect you for the rest of your life. -
Suspicious?
were u the only girl with them? -
u are wrong.... being in the state of drunkenness is already constitute as non consensual... and they can be charged for rape or even outraging modesty..... the main problem now is how much evidence she can gather to prove that she was involved with the two guy.... rather than thinking that help can be rendered from the police....Originally posted by Elrond:I'm sorry, to be brutally honest about it, there is very little you can do. Even if it can be proven that his friends had intercourse witn you, it will be their words against yours whether it was rape or consensual, unless the sun came up from the west and you can get one of them to testify for you. And you will have a hard time proving the former given that you willingly got yourself so drunk, played the game, etc.
So where does that leave you? Knowing that you cannot do much about what's past, the only way is forward. My motto in life - "If you can't do anything about it, there's no point worrying about it." Stop brooding about it - you have a choice whether you allow something that has happened in the past affect your future. To be frank, I won't be surprised if in that intoxcated state you were actually aware of what was happening, especially since you "enjoyed" it. So don't feel sorry for yourself. Just take this as a major lesson learnt, and don't be so silly to get yourself into this situation again. Seek official help, as suggested by others in this forum, if you find that it is haunting you.
But remember - it is ultimately your choice whether or not it will affect you for the rest of your life.
call/visit a counselor and see wat he/she advises now.... do not wait further... -
agreed.. a v gd recent eg is the CNA guy being charged for having sex with drunken female colleagueOriginally posted by anfuni:u are wrong.... being in the state of drunkenness is already constitute as non consensual... and they can be charged for rape or even outraging modesty..... the main problem now is how much evidence she can gather to prove that she was involved with the two guy.... rather than thinking that help can be rendered from the police....
call/visit a counselor and see wat he/she advises now.... do not wait further...