This good good GAL and its just ME

• Patrik

  10 Feb 04, 05:47

  Same here dude...
  u are not alone...
  
• nightyoung

  10 Feb 04, 08:40

  Originally posted by Patrik:

  Same here dude...
  u are not alone...
  

  What's yuor case? Share it with us?
• nightyoung

  10 Feb 04, 15:17

  2 days to my birthday and 4 days count down to Vday...
  
  haven't come to a decision yet....
  
  Sighed
  
  
• lolsuck

  10 Feb 04, 16:25

  haha thanks for ur advise.. she once told me that she prefer frens to relationship as frens will not be lost easily,but relationship are fagile and easily broken.. can tell that she is hinting to me that she prefers to be frens than others.and i guess i know her too well.. so she prefers me to be ever lasting fren.. anyway,im not goodlooking and she still kind of prefer handsome guys i guess..
  
  anyway happy birthday to u in advance
  u may try to move another step forward towards her,but gals... dont know how they think,she might juz accept u/reject u..or worst like my case avoid u.. got to be mentally prepared... as the kind of feeling is really heart breaking.. no words can describe the pain there..
• oinkoink_pinko

  10 Feb 04, 22:06

  aso happen to mi 2 yrs ago..
• nightyoung

  11 Feb 04, 01:57

  After reading so many posts.. I decided already...
  
  I will call her and wish her a happy Vday
  
  But don't know tear will drop or not..
  
  Chorus -> So Yesterday by Hilary Duff
  
  If it's over, let it go and
  Come tomorrow it will seem
  So yesterday, so yesterday
  I'm just a bird that's already flown away
  
  Laugh it off let it go and
  When you wake up it will seem
  So yesterday, so yesterday
  Haven't you heard that I'm gonna be okay
• nightyoung

  11 Feb 04, 14:15

  So.........
  
  What's the final suggestion?
• awdsa

  11 Feb 04, 14:23

  GO FOR IT BOY!
  i like the song by hilary duff too! and the song by jessica simpson "with you"... GOOD LUCK!
• nightyoung

  12 Feb 04, 00:18

  Originally posted by awdsa:
  [b]GO FOR IT BOY!
  i like the song by hilary duff too! and the song by jessica simpson "with you"... GOOD LUCK! [/b]

  Go for what?
• vicara

  12 Feb 04, 02:03

  Haix... I also have the same problem. I know of a gal and she is attached with a guy le. But then le.. Their relationship is very rocky as they always quarrel. Her bf dun trust her when she talk wif me cuz though she kinda like me after we know each other for a few days. Then one day, her bf break up wif her. She feel very hurt cuz her bf dun trust her. We progress alot after that and soon we really love each other and her feeling for her bf slowly dies down. However her bf keep askin her for a patch and said he feel pain and ask her to do something. He wants her to stop contacting me but she didn't agree. He makes her makes a decision to chose between he and me. The gal i like feels that she owes him alot cuz one day her bf once beaten up becuz he leave gang for her. She told me she feels really guilty if she never goes back. So yesterday she made a decision to chose him. But then, her bf said he dun trust her and wants her to stop contacting me before they patch. Then she don't want and said after they patch then talk abt it. I feel really hurt not becuz i love her but i know she has her own difficulties. I feel even more hurt when i know that she might be hurt by her bf if she went back to her. Wat u all think i should do?
• lolsuck

  12 Feb 04, 02:58

  gers tend to love sweet memories... so its normal that she goes back to her old bf,but if they arent fated to be together... dont worry they will still have no gd endings..and eventually break up like b4...
  perhaps u could wait alittle longer to look at how things go..
  i understand that seeing ur loveone be the 1 she love is very hurtful... but the best thing is always right below,right behind.. dont rush no hurries..all the best..she will know that u are gd to her sooner or later..
  sometimes we human are like this,we only treasure things when we lose it,likewise..we only know that its hurtful when we really get hurt... she will be hurt by her bf again and she will come back to u..
  ok gdluck
• nightyoung

  12 Feb 04, 03:46

  Originally posted by vicara:

  Haix... I also have the same problem. I know of a gal and she is attached with a guy le. But then le.. Their relationship is very rocky as they always quarrel. Her bf dun trust her when she talk wif me cuz though she kinda like me after we know each other for a few days. Then one day, her bf break up wif her. She feel very hurt cuz her bf dun trust her. We progress alot after that and soon we really love each other and her feeling for her bf slowly dies down. However her bf keep askin her for a patch and said he feel pain and ask her to do something. He wants her to stop contacting me but she didn't agree. He makes her makes a decision to chose between he and me. The gal i like feels that she owes him alot cuz one day her bf once beaten up becuz he leave gang for her. She told me she feels really guilty if she never goes back. So yesterday she made a decision to chose him. But then, her bf said he dun trust her and wants her to stop contacting me before they patch. Then she don't want and said after they patch then talk abt it. I feel really hurt not becuz i love her but i know she has her own difficulties. I feel even more hurt when i know that she might be hurt by her bf if she went back to her. Wat u all think i should do?

  Looks like your situation is like version 2.0 of me...
  God.. Yeah.. for my case, I know that her BF is very possessive of her.. whenever someone calls her.. he will get very worried about who's calling.. I think whenever I send her a SMS and if I don't reply.. I will know that she is with him right now.. because she choose to delete my sms rather than letting her BF finds out...
  
  Sighed..
  
  Why gals are like that...
  
  I just don't understand too...
  
  My friend tell me to let this relationship go....
  
  For your case, its hard to decide what you should do then...
  But I know you will be just like me spending the Vday at home.
  
  Heard that woman only like those man who loves him the most..
  perhaps the other guy make lots of sacrifices to show that he loves him the most.. err .. that doesn't mean killing yourself or what..
  
  For what i analyze, for my case, I remember that the guy, who indirectly broke my heart, promised her that he will stop drinking, smoking, seeing other woman.... etc.. don't know how true..
  
  I think woman are soft hearted.....
  The good good GAL I know of is also very soft hearted...
  I just like her a lot...
  
  But if i know that guy don't treat her well or hurt her or what or just play play with her then i will go to him and confront him.
  if there is no law, I will definitely bash him and invites Ah MA.. hahaha
  
  
  
• AdAptAliS

  12 Feb 04, 04:56

  Ditto here.
  
  Girl liked me 1 and a half years ago. I was stupid and i did all the wrong things. She eventually lost interest.
  
  Don't know why, i seem to feel something special when with her. So i decided to try again after 1 and a half years and see if the feeling can rekindle. Gave a few gifts to start off. Tried smsing and calling, gotten a bit of response. One fine day, she started telling me about how much this other guy also like her and was feeling confuse about who to choose. Seeing her in that dilemma, i decided to give up for the sake of her, cause she dropped some subtle hints that preferred me to back off a little. I won't confirm the hints but according to her friend, she did say that she have true feelings for the other guy. Naturally i feel hurt, but at least now that she's attached, and me gave up on own accord, she is happy with that guy.
  
  Was feeling real down for the next few days but i eventually picked myself up and now, i'm alright. Continued to maintain friendship with her. Chats on MSN. But deep down inside, i know i still have that special feeling. Did something for her this V day. Don't know how she will respond.
  
  Anyway, i'm no love guru and i don't have much experiences to share. But would like to say that all is fair in love and war. So long as she haven't really decided on a life partner, you still stand a chance. Try to inch forward slowly from the friendship that you had already established after all, its easier to go from there. Hopefully, she realises that you're the one that stood by her all the time and you're the one for her. Good luck to you.
  
  Best wishes.
• RainbowPrincess

  12 Feb 04, 05:20

  Dear Nightyoung,
  
  I can't really picture a timeline, cosh from wat u'd written here, she went out wif u on New Yr's Eve, then after u went overseas, she got herself attached & has been quarrelling wif her bf eversince. Perhaps u cld elaborate a little more on tt?
  
  RP
  
  

  Originally posted by nightyoung:

  The situation goes like this:
  
  We went out together with a group of friends, at the eve of this new year to celebrate till dawn. It was the happiest day of the year.. of course.. haha.. First day of new year.. After for not seeing her for two days, I decided to let her know that I like her, although I know that at this moment I was not ready for any relationship..
  
  She did ask me what to do.. so i suggest we see each other more often..
  
  The second time I met her was that she told me she was sick that Monday Morning.. so I accompanied her to lunch and to Doc and send her home... Very nice job.
  
  After that.. things were pretty smooth, we met each other more often and just plain sms/call every day if we didn't meet.
  
  I did let her know that I like her in the form of letters and sms too.. Even told her i like her twice .. The first time.. was late 3am .. after telling her i ran off. Too shy. The other time was in the park. But she changed topic so i accommodate her.
  
  However, after my overseas trip from the Chinese New Year, every thing was not that good..We contact less often.. Its only when I wanted to pass her gifts from overseas then I got another excuse to see her.
  
  There 3 things I feel about her:
  1) Everytime I met her, I will feel very happy the whole day.. Whatever thing is good on that day.
  2) If she can't meet me due to her busy schedules then I will be sad.
  3) When she not around, I tend to think of her.
  
  I had plans to confess this V day but came to know that last Sat night that she was attached as I was with her.
  
  She squabbled with her BF over a small matter so i encouraged her to patch up.. I even encourage her... looking at the bright side of life. She said quite a lot of time the same thing happenned: squabbled and patched.. All her friends around her wants her to break off with this guy as they don't like the way he treat him or whatever stuffs..
  
  During last sat night.. she did asked me what i want to tell her the last time.. i was like .. huh.. my god. How can i say again knowing that she was attached.. She did asked me whether I had any relationship before.. and I said no..haha
  .
  From the way she talked to me, I know that she like her BF very much although they just started two weeks ago.
  
  Therefore.. whatever things i want to say to her are kept deeper and deeper in my heart.
  
  Its like a mixture of happy and sad feeling. Happy for her as she found her Mr Right.. Sad because I haven't even start but lost the courtship. From whatver movie/drame.. the title BF or whatever doesn't means much to me as I feel that as long she's happy and its alright and I will be happy too.
  
  Same like last time.. we just stayed out till day break and I send her home as usual.
  
  This time round ... I wasn't getting that kind of happy feeling back home.. I tried to sleep but the tears just rolled. I don't even want to cry or is just came like the rain. I just felt terrible.
  
  Right now, she said that I will be her good sister, good friend..haha
  
  I think i was like suffering from a curse or some sort..
  It always takes me a lot of time to like a gal,, then every time when I want to carry out my plans, she's somebody else.
  Then I will continue to spend time holding back to any new chances of relationship for a long long time.. The previous one, I held back for two years before I can move on, although she's single now, we're still friends. Tha's all.
  
  So gals out there, if you want to find your Mr Right, i can try to like you.. 2 years later.. and then .. tada... your Mr Right will come..haha.. jokes aside.
  
  Haha... I want to laugh and cry ...smile and remember and forget
  
  Any comments?
  
  
  
  

• RainbowPrincess

  12 Feb 04, 05:32

  Nightyoung,
  
  RP seldom advises others to hold back or to give up. But in this instance, I'm sorree, I'm gonna tell u to stop, for ur sake.
  
  Thgs were starting to dev. before u went overseas, yet, she was attached by the time u returned to SG. Obviously, she wasn't into waiting for u
  
  Going out wif her & seeing her will only make it more painful for u, & u risk ur feelings running even deeper... Listening to her bf woes may oso give u false hope, & it doesn't look like she's gonna give him up any time soon...
  
  Pls take a step back, enjoy ur life, & think abt thgs... When u've sorta gotten over it, then u can be frens wif her again.
  
  Gd luck, Nightyoung.
  
  RP
  
  

  Originally posted by nightyoung:

  The situation goes like this:
  
  We went out together with a group of friends, at the eve of this new year to celebrate till dawn. It was the happiest day of the year.. of course.. haha.. First day of new year.. After for not seeing her for two days, I decided to let her know that I like her, although I know that at this moment I was not ready for any relationship..
  
  She did ask me what to do.. so i suggest we see each other more often..
  
  The second time I met her was that she told me she was sick that Monday Morning.. so I accompanied her to lunch and to Doc and send her home... Very nice job.
  
  After that.. things were pretty smooth, we met each other more often and just plain sms/call every day if we didn't meet.
  
  I did let her know that I like her in the form of letters and sms too.. Even told her i like her twice .. The first time.. was late 3am .. after telling her i ran off. Too shy. The other time was in the park. But she changed topic so i accommodate her.
  
  However, after my overseas trip from the Chinese New Year, every thing was not that good..We contact less often.. Its only when I wanted to pass her gifts from overseas then I got another excuse to see her.
  
  There 3 things I feel about her:
  1) Everytime I met her, I will feel very happy the whole day.. Whatever thing is good on that day.
  2) If she can't meet me due to her busy schedules then I will be sad.
  3) When she not around, I tend to think of her.
  
  I had plans to confess this V day but came to know that last Sat night that she was attached as I was with her.
  
  She squabbled with her BF over a small matter so i encouraged her to patch up.. I even encourage her... looking at the bright side of life. She said quite a lot of time the same thing happenned: squabbled and patched.. All her friends around her wants her to break off with this guy as they don't like the way he treat him or whatever stuffs..
  
  During last sat night.. she did asked me what i want to tell her the last time.. i was like .. huh.. my god. How can i say again knowing that she was attached.. She did asked me whether I had any relationship before.. and I said no..haha
  .
  From the way she talked to me, I know that she like her BF very much although they just started two weeks ago.
  
  Therefore.. whatever things i want to say to her are kept deeper and deeper in my heart.
  
  Its like a mixture of happy and sad feeling. Happy for her as she found her Mr Right.. Sad because I haven't even start but lost the courtship. From whatver movie/drame.. the title BF or whatever doesn't means much to me as I feel that as long she's happy and its alright and I will be happy too.
  
  Same like last time.. we just stayed out till day break and I send her home as usual.
  
  This time round ... I wasn't getting that kind of happy feeling back home.. I tried to sleep but the tears just rolled. I don't even want to cry or is just came like the rain. I just felt terrible.
  
  Right now, she said that I will be her good sister, good friend..haha
  
  I think i was like suffering from a curse or some sort..
  It always takes me a lot of time to like a gal,, then every time when I want to carry out my plans, she's somebody else.
  Then I will continue to spend time holding back to any new chances of relationship for a long long time.. The previous one, I held back for two years before I can move on, although she's single now, we're still friends. Tha's all.
  
  So gals out there, if you want to find your Mr Right, i can try to like you.. 2 years later.. and then .. tada... your Mr Right will come..haha.. jokes aside.
  
  Haha... I want to laugh and cry ...smile and remember and forget
  
  Any comments?
  
  
  
  

• lolsuck

  12 Feb 04, 11:17

  RP might be right..
  do consider to give up..if u cant,than hold on and at the same time search for ur new love..?
• nightyoung

  12 Feb 04, 19:32

  Originally posted by lolsuck:

  RP might be right..
  do consider to give up..if u cant,than hold on and at the same time search for ur new love..?

  Just woke up..
  Okie.. I had a dream just now..
  to give up..
  
  Today is my bday.. she don't even send me a msg..
  I have no place in her heart...
  
  sighed
  
  
  
• coconut_oil_king

  12 Feb 04, 21:09

  think about it. you may be expecting too much from her without you realizing it. could it be?
• Saint`

  13 Feb 04, 00:02

  i guess we are so much alike .. sobz
• AdAptAliS

  13 Feb 04, 00:51

  
  Just woke up..
  Okie.. I had a dream just now..
  to give up..
  
  Today is my bday.. she don't even send me a msg..
  I have no place in her heart...
  
  sighed
  

  Guess thats the last straw.
  
  Sorry to hear that. Stay strong.
  
  Best wishes.
• t|rEd

  13 Feb 04, 02:25

  Originally posted by nightyoung:

  Just woke up..
  Okie.. I had a dream just now..
  to give up..
  
  Today is my bday.. she don't even send me a msg..
  I have no place in her heart...
  
  sighed
  
  
  

  have faith....
  faith in urself,
  faith in her....
  faith in love,
  faith in life....
  
  
• lolsuck

  13 Feb 04, 02:31

  Originally posted by coconut_oil_king:

  think about it. you may be expecting too much from her without you realizing it. could it be?

  hm.. ya maybe u expected too much from her,she might not be what she appear to be like,time to move on?bday msges..even a normal or gd fren will send u 1..
• nightyoung

  13 Feb 04, 14:30

  Originally posted by lolsuck:

  hm.. ya maybe u expected too much from her,she might not be what she appear to be like,time to move on?bday msges..even a normal or gd fren will send u 1..

  Maybe she don't know it was my birthday....
  anyway.. I know its over..
  Listen to this today.. Perfect10, say it wth music w/ Jamie Yeo, 10pm-12pm
  A song for all ppl here
  
  Hilary Duff - So Yesterday
  ---------------------------
  You can change your life- if you wanna
  You can change your clothes- if you wanna
  
  If you change your mind
  Well, that's the way it goes
  
  But I'm gonna keep your jeans
  And your old black hat- cause I wanna
  They look good on me
  You're never gonna get them back
  At least not today, not today, not today
  'cause
  
  [Chorus]
  If it's over, let it go and
  Come tomorrow it will seem
  So yesterday, so yesterday
  I'm just a bird that's already flown away
  
  Laugh it off let it go and
  When you wake up it will seem
  So yesterday, so yesterday
  Haven't you heard that I'm gonna be okay
  
  You can say you're bored- if you wanna
  You can act real tough- if you wanna
  You can say you're torn
  But I've heard enough
  
  Thank you... you made my mind up for me
  When you started to ignore me
  Do you see a single tear
  It isn't gonna happen here
  At least not today, not today, not today
  'cause
  
  [Chorus]
  
  If you're over me, I'm already over you
  If it's all been done, what is left to do
  How can you hang up if the line is dead
  If you wanna walk, I'm a step ahead
  If you're moving on, I'm already gone
  If the light is off then it isn't on
  At least not today, not today, not today
  'cause
  
  [Chorus 2X]
  
  http://www.lyricsondemand.com/h/hilarydufflyrics/soyesterdaylyrics.html
  
• nightyoung

  13 Feb 04, 20:30

  Originally posted by Saint`:

  i guess we are so much alike .. sobz

  How alike?
• winnerss

  13 Feb 04, 20:47

  Let the past past; u noe wat i mean ....
  
  Live forward towards the future Be at peace with withurself