Does a guy mind if the girl........

Christy

28 Mar 04, 16:03

Does a guy mind if the girl has been molested or raped because she was drunk before?

epImetheus

28 Mar 04, 16:12

it depends. varies from person to person.
some guys are broad-minded, liberal & will not mind while some guys are petty & old-fashioned.

edLow

28 Mar 04, 16:26

u said is drunk le wat..
and nvr say she is willing to be rape or molest...

but i think even if the guy say dont mind.. but majority of these ppls will still somehow have some yin ying.

shan_cai

28 Mar 04, 16:31

Tat depends on how's e guy's mindset liao...

SpitFire08

28 Mar 04, 16:50

A man who says he doesn't mind says so out of love. But because it is out of love, it scars the heart as well. Which man would not mind that his loved one has been a victim of such acts? Unless to him, she is just but a sex object.

Although Honesty is the best policy for two couples to be together, It is best that these secrets are best kept as secrets. Since past traumatic experiences are pass regrets, leave it as a forgotten pass. Do not bring it up to affect the future.

Stay happy!

free_eagle

28 Mar 04, 17:58

Of Cos Not.This girl I was interested in told mi she was raped b4. Heck! Didn/t affect how i felt for her. But abit sad for her Crying or Very sad

SumOne

28 Mar 04, 21:57

I believe if the guy truly loves the girl, I wouldn't say he minds. He loves the girl for what the girl is, regardless of her past. But he would definitely feel sad for her that such a thing has happened to her before. And I believe emotionally it would affect him too. Still, I believe it's good to be able to share because by sharing, the two can be closer you see.

But if the guy is so shallow as to dislike a girl for having such a past, then bloody hell the guy should be ditched. Who cares about such a jerk.

eutjin

28 Mar 04, 22:00

it might bring the couple closer together ...... who knows? it does take a certain amount of trust on the gal's part to tell the guy such a thing

she has revealed something to close to her heart to him ...... if he takes it, the bond will be strong

BrUtUs

28 Mar 04, 23:19

wun mind... Cool

Saint`

28 Mar 04, 23:21

veri hard to say .. depends on the degree of love the guy have for the gal lor .. like he can say things like .." no matter who u are i still love u with all my heart .. " .. then u come say " ehh .. i m not virgin .. been raped b4 .." not until when one really experience such situation.. then u don koe how u will react one ..

WrX_STi

29 Mar 04, 01:37

mouth say can,but brain say cannot... its often lidat... Laughing

lolsuck

29 Mar 04, 01:37

it really depends,the guy might think that the ger doesnt have a gd behavior by drinking and worst of all getting drunk that lead to being rape..
but from another point of view..he might not mine bcos its not what she wants..cant blame her.. so its up to per individuals.

Bochupi

29 Mar 04, 02:06

what's over is over lah...hope she learn her lesson lor. No, I wont mind.

boy in blues

29 Mar 04, 02:19

makes no difference if the guy minds. you won't be interested in someone like that anyway.....

Dj_Shadow

29 Mar 04, 03:59

Mind or not is not the problem.... Accepting the gal or not is the problem... Some guyz say no, but some guyz also say yes... but if the guy really love the gal, he wun mind 1... Twisted Evil

ahzhao

29 Mar 04, 04:28

i think most guys will say dun mind 1 la.. but when quarrels break out.. all those old, bad things will come flying out 1.. confirm 1.. cos i've seen it many times be4..

shaunlaw

29 Mar 04, 08:32

I don't think a guy should mind it cos everyone has their past. What is important is the present and not the past. And I for one, sincerely do not mind this at all.

sadevo

29 Mar 04, 09:05

i dun think the guy will mind if he realli love her,he may not able to accept the fact at first but he will later he realli love her

weeeeeee.....

29 Mar 04, 09:09

i mind... in the first place, girls shud respect themselves and not to get drunk until they get themselves concussed!

CONTROL UR ALCOHOL INTAKE!!!

vx2132

29 Mar 04, 12:02

the girl must have deliberated for some time, on whether to tell this unfortunate event to others..it is definitely not easy.

and if she pluck up enuf courage to tell it to this guy, she must have like him enuf..and willing to take the risk of being rejected etc..

ChrisYX

29 Mar 04, 12:06

I agree. Telling your bf such a personal thing takes a lot of courage on the part of the girl.

After that it is up to the guy to react. To love her or hate her, it depends on his personal views.

But then mind and heart not always cooperative. Rolling Eyes

n305er

29 Mar 04, 12:27

A good way to tell if you'll mind or not:

Imagine 2 girls..
One is the one you have a crush on or love.
One is just a normal girl you know.

Both of them suddenly tell you they have been molested/raped before.. what will you feel?

I-like-flings(m)

29 Mar 04, 12:39

Agreed x2 on the jerk thing Mr. Green

but for mi.. it also depend on why is she drunk and rape;
1) she go out with bastard frens, knowing that her frens may do something to her but she heck care and still got drunk or go flirt with her frens wearing little cloth = then yes i will mind.
2)if she was molested or rape in a situation that no one can prevent or think that will happened.. e.g some stupid guy just followed her and rape her at some dark corner or staircase= then i wont mind

Sir_Horny

29 Mar 04, 13:46

i will appreciate & love her even more for all the pain she has gone thru

epImetheus

29 Mar 04, 13:53

x3