Y things turn out so bad?
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I broke off wif him on v day jus because i think he's not sincere in getting and celebrating the day wif me. I feel that he simply celebrate wif me not because he loves me but because of the obligation. i called him and say nasty and hurting things to him and he never wanna clarify. Immediately few hours later, i call him and say sorry and wanted to patch back but he couldnt forgive me and say we are impossible.. we met up after his work but i dint force him back to me, instead he say he not worth my love and told me to give him time. when he's ready, he will chase me back. Initially i dont believe but i trusted and have faith wif him thus i believe and say will wait till he's ready.
However, things turn out so bad.. We did meet up once a week for a walk and movie. He bought things for me and treat me very good jus that we did not kiss and hug or call each other "dear". Last week, he change suddenly, he did not meet me up on his off day but i manage to patch back wif him as i waited at his house.
but jus this thursday, i saw him bringing a gal at my house void deck when he needs to pass me somethings. my friends ask him who tt gal and he reply that she's her colleague. Den i sms him and ask him did he treat me as his gf, y when i sms him, he never reply, when i call him he never pick up the call or say that he's busy. Sadly, he reply me that isnt it obvious that we are impossible and he does not want to continue anymore and call me to find someone else.. my heart sank to the bottom and it bleeds. i changed so much to satisfy his needs and give him the things tt he yearn for but in the end this is wad i get back..
we met up tt night and i beg him back cos i dont believe that he does not love me. I trusted him so much and love him deeply, already feel that he's the one i want forever.but he say tt gal whom i saw jus now was his gf, tt gal was 5 yrs older than him. he said that she takes care of him and very understanding. i called up that gal that night to clarify and she say my bf was not his bf.
Den, i wanted to see him the next day so i waited for him for almost 5 hrs. He said he will go sch on that day but he never as i waited at his sch and never see him so i waited for him at his house void deck. Sadly, my frien called him and tell him that i was waiting for him and he burst into anger. He was so frustrated and came down to see me. He say he was so terrify to see me and say that his love for me had died. I do not believe as everything ends too abruptly.
We were so sweet in the past but becos of a small matter, he did not want to accept me again. I say he has changed after he got his job and he admitted.
I was so sad that i keep crying and went sleepless and without food for 3 days.
Pls give me ur advice and tell me if there still a possibility for him to get back to me. will he still think of me and accept me as a new person again. I will wait for him till the day i die -
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U mean he's anti-social and dao?Originally posted by SGpork:...
He's not.. he' a very socialble guy and good to his friend -
sometimes it is better for things to end....
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Hi, thanks for the reply but i would wanna know will he feel regret and still think of him. we are together for 1 & 1/2 yrs.. not too long but everything is se sweet tt's y i cant face the fact that he left me.Originally posted by the_don:sometimes it is better for things to end.... -
Do you mind sharing the relationship pattern? Example: Frequency of Arguements/fights, were there any unsatisfaction between one another or anything drastic happened before the break?
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From what I see in what you've written. You're better off without him. Move on. He will only regret in time to come. And when he does, its all too damn late for him, he doesn't know what he's lost yet till he tastes the bitter.
Cheer up and move on. You're only torturing yourself thinking of such things while he's not. Is it worth it? I don't think so. -
Let go and move on... No point holding on and keep on thinking that he will come back to u... Unless he's the one u can really 101% trust him...
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We broke up b4 but not many times but he always feel that we broke up many times.. think everytime he changed his environment, he will break up. Think ard 5 or 6 times. he always say i demanding, not supportive and understanding.. But all i care was him, maybe not nice words but givig him good advice to help him. He never listen to my advice instead he say i always sian here and thereOriginally posted by M©+square:Do you mind sharing the relationship pattern? Example: Frequency of Arguements/fights, were there any unsatisfaction between one another or anything drastic happened before the break?
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i trusted him more than 100% as loving someone is having faith on him and give and take.. Since i always wanna change myself to suit him y cant he compromise and start over again instead of saying it's impossible for us.Originally posted by Dj_Shadow:Let go and move on... No point holding on and keep on thinking that he will come back to u... Unless he's the one u can really 101% trust him... -
A lot of things are cumulative...it is not just a single event....but a series of events that triggers off a certain response.
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only he will know the answer if he would regret...
it is only natural that u still think of him...
humm... you mean things are sweet when u guys not quarrelling, but it seems disagreements are not uncommon between both. if this is the case, better that it is over now than later. 1.5 yrs is not short nor long, take time to let things cool? maybe then u will realise the end is for the betterOriginally posted by Angie74:Hi, thanks for the reply but i would wanna know will he feel regret and still think of him. we are together for 1 & 1/2 yrs.. not too long but everything is se sweet tt's y i cant face the fact that he left me. -
i feel that he is just giving excuses... change of heart is what i can say... anyway be sad and cry for awhile (thats normal) after that live normally, and cheer up.. mayb he isnt the right 1? mayb its fate, this kind of ppl say not ready and yet in the end going with another girl? next time be ur husband how? mistress?
well, angie i hope u will recover soon... sometime have to learn to give up at the right time, if not u urself will be very hurtful... -
By right, u shouldn't change juz to suit him... That guy should love u for wat u r... Anyway maybe someone better may come along and suit u... We'll neva noe, coz this world is round and it will keep on spinning... Cheer up, okay??Originally posted by Angie74:i trusted him more than 100% as loving someone is having faith on him and give and take.. Since i always wanna change myself to suit him y cant he compromise and start over again instead of saying it's impossible for us.
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Originally posted by sgboy2004:A lot of things are cumulative...it is not just a single event....but a series of events that triggers off a certain response.
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judging from wat u wrote...i must say that u need to look at ur action as well...
1. dun treat a relationship like a switch... suka suka flip on and off like nobody businese, give ppl that u r not serious.
2. dun pressure the others when things dun work out...a r/s needs communication not about shooting the others down. do reflect on yourselves to see if u r in the wrong.
3. dun take things for granted and different person show love differently...true love are shown constantly when the person are not aware that it is being shown...
4. dun take things for granted...many couples dun even have time for V day celeb...
5. u can say that u do things for him, but is it wat he needs? it needs to be giving but give at a morderate amount.
6. u r doing things a little too extreme, 5 hrs waiting for him etc... effect same as 2- pressure... him and u r pressured...
as for him...
1. seems a bit unfarmiliar in handling a r/s
2. takes u for granted...
3. dun know wat he wants
of cos this could just be the tip of the iceberg. there should be many other contributing events that leads to this failure...
regarding the possiblility, hate to say this but it is considered low...Both of you dun seems to be able to handle each others properly. once the thought of breakup is there the r/s will no longer be the same...
my comments is a little biased, cos ur account is based on ur actions and a single event.
if he dun respond, move on, no use waiting for a person who dun treasure u...but do learn it as a lesson and dun repeat in the next r/s... -
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hey....dun post those pics when obviously people r looking for help n advice...it's not bery nice.....
but must admit u should post this in Aunt Agony...more appropriate.... -
okie...first things first.....
1)neber say breakup too often cos it will lose its effect n he will think u r not taking the relationship too seriously.....
2)watever u do....dunthreaten suicide....it will only put e guy off....
3)how long have u been with him?Better find a friend who knows him well n ask him to help ask hime problem....his frens.....not urs..... cos he doesn't need the world to kow about ur quarrels..... a buddy of his knowing is still
okie....not that much lost of face....
4)he is using her as an excuse to break up with u cos he cannot think of a better way to do so...too bad he never let her know in advance.....it's a real crappy way to try n break up with someone....
5)i know ur heart aches now but search for an answer....y did he chase u in e first place???Is it because of SEX??? cos some guys do...n once they r tired off it...they break up with u.....
6)Dun pull his family into this...cos even if u do patch back....it will only caused the family to dislike u.... which brings us to the point...could it have been family pressure...i doubt so...no longer the 60's liao lor.......
7)Dun cry n cry n cry...it will only irritate him.... many guys will go soft seeing a gal cry but in ur situation...it might just make it worse.....
start eating again...going on a hunger strike ain't gonna work..... it will scare him off....
9)Dun call him every mintue n every day...give him a while to think...he is probably overwhelmed rite now by all e crazy things u r doing n looking him up will add fuel to the fire...allow him a week or 2 to cool down....
10)Dun stalk him...following him or staking out at his house or school will make u look despo...dun freak him out,pls....
11)sit down n have a good talk with him....in the presence of a netural fren....dun get over excited...stay calm n listen to his excuses n reason.... after that tell ur side of the story...if it still does not turn out than i suggest u let it go for now....
might not work out now cos u 2 r still not ready...but in future...who knows??? -
ya lor.... inconsiderate sia....Originally posted by panja_v:Wah lau... people so sad and post pics of ppl kissing... very siong leh... -
that's not e point..we r supposed to console n give advice...help if possible...not destroy e thread ya...Originally posted by panja_v:the pics r really spore girls or not? -
/me pats in Angie74's back..
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if it is really like this then i think you should give up...there are more beta guys out there...don't torture yourself over this kinda of guys...
it is not worth it...hope that you will find your beloved ones oneday and may god bless you... -
oh what actually happens to this thread?
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it's hard to let go ya....we all know e answers in our harts but we do not wanna accept it.....sad but true...we rather hold onto something we know than risk it all again out there cos we fear we might not find someone as good....Originally posted by Danisdead101times:if it is really like this then i think you should give up...there are more beta guys out there...don't torture yourself over this kinda of guys...
it is not worth it...hope that you will find your beloved ones oneday and may god bless you...
E pain is there n it hurts... that's y there are things call rebound relationships.... cos e person is weak in mind at that particular moment of time n just accepted anyone who came along n show them concern....