Originally posted by Angie74:
I broke off wif him on v day jus because i think he's not sincere in getting and celebrating the day wif me. I feel that he simply celebrate wif me not because he loves me but because of the obligation. i called him and say nasty and hurting things to him and he never wanna clarify. Immediately few hours later, i call him and say sorry and wanted to patch back but he couldnt forgive me and say we are impossible.. we met up after his work but i dint force him back to me, instead he say he not worth my love and told me to give him time. when he's ready, he will chase me back. Initially i dont believe but i trusted and have faith wif him thus i believe and say will wait till he's ready.
However, things turn out so bad.. We did meet up once a week for a walk and movie. He bought things for me and treat me very good jus that we did not kiss and hug or call each other "dear". Last week, he change suddenly, he did not meet me up on his off day but i manage to patch back wif him as i waited at his house.
but jus this thursday, i saw him bringing a gal at my house void deck when he needs to pass me somethings. my friends ask him who tt gal and he reply that she's her colleague. Den i sms him and ask him did he treat me as his gf, y when i sms him, he never reply, when i call him he never pick up the call or say that he's busy. Sadly, he reply me that isnt it obvious that we are impossible and he does not want to continue anymore and call me to find someone else.. my heart sank to the bottom and it bleeds. i changed so much to satisfy his needs and give him the things tt he yearn for but in the end this is wad i get back..
we met up tt night and i beg him back cos i dont believe that he does not love me. I trusted him so much and love him deeply, already feel that he's the one i want forever.but he say tt gal whom i saw jus now was his gf, tt gal was 5 yrs older than him. he said that she takes care of him and very understanding. i called up that gal that night to clarify and she say my bf was not his bf.
Den, i wanted to see him the next day so i waited for him for almost 5 hrs. He said he will go sch on that day but he never as i waited at his sch and never see him so i waited for him at his house void deck. Sadly, my frien called him and tell him that i was waiting for him and he burst into anger. He was so frustrated and came down to see me. He say he was so terrify to see me and say that his love for me had died. I do not believe as everything ends too abruptly.
We were so sweet in the past but becos of a small matter, he did not want to accept me again. I say he has changed after he got his job and he admitted.
I was so sad that i keep crying and went sleepless and without food for 3 days.
Pls give me ur advice and tell me if there still a possibility for him to get back to me. will he still think of me and accept me as a new person again. I will wait for him till the day i die
Ok before I begin, think you should post this in Aunt Agony instead of Bar. Heng, I caught your post in top 50.
Secondly: wah piangz, evil clown posted one of my friend.
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Your relationship is in a mess, but because of a problem so major, but its how you people go about handling your own love affairs. I can have a small flame, but mis-handling can still burn the whole house.
The minute break-patch is used as a tool to avoid problem and come back whenever either one of you feel better, this relationship is good as dead, based on the number of cases, experience, theories and years in AA: result always the same.
Your ex has already make known to you that 'ITS IMPOSSIBLE between you and him.'
Why do you have to avoid that statement and finds means to move around it? Your suppose of this topic is to find people who will encourage you and reject this notion? You won't find it.
What does it take for you to see that this relationship was dead LONG ago?
What does it take for you to see that once love is gone and if he has decide to move on, no matter what you do, how well you change yourself, it never work?
What does it take for you to realise that whether the girl is his current gf or not, it doesn't matter because you never acknowledge that break-up with him and telling you to release him and move on with your life?
I do not believe as everything ends too abruptly.
We were so sweet in the past but becos of a small matter, he did not want to accept me again.
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ACKNOWLEDGE THEM! Why don't you believe? He made known so obviously and you are subconsciously trying to block off that message.
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You love him? I doubt so.
He say he was so terrify to see me
What kind of space are you giving him? Why is he terrified? Love him? Possessive Love has transformed you into something ghastly. You repel him.
Don't you ever realise that by loving him, you have to see him happy and pursue his own path in life?Have you? Did he?
What it takes to make you see all these? Are you going to keep avoiding and continued your behavior
till the day where he flare up and declare to you that he regreted being with you and don't ever wanna see your presence again? P.S: Are you a Scorpio, Pisces, Taurus?
Cheers
