What happen's if your GF was raped/molested b4?

• fanseen

  11 Sep 04, 03:55

  
  If your gf suddenly tells you that she was raped or molested before, will you marry her?
  
  
• ak0

  11 Sep 04, 04:29

  must see the situation lo.... but if really rape by starngers i will marry her.. but if she flirt with the guy then end up tio rape i will leave her lo.
• Qitai

  11 Sep 04, 05:03

  I will add a few question for you.
  
  Do you think this is any different from if she just told you that she is not a virgin and has had sex with her EX or had ONS before?
  
  Would you consider that as being worse/better then being rape/molested?
  
  Or is the bottomline to you is whether she is a virgin or not?
• beavan

  11 Sep 04, 07:34

  virginity doesn't matter much nowadays...but if she went out willingly and had sex with people,of cos that matters larhx
• Fire Aries

  11 Sep 04, 08:09

  For me, what past is past.......what matters is that the feeling and confidence she gives me, that she will only have me as her one and only man in her bed.
• watah

  11 Sep 04, 10:30

  i think, nothing is going to happen? i think he's asking how would u feel if your gf was raped/molested b4? well i guess... how would a gal feel if her bf raped/molested other gals b4? will she marry u???
  it's not a serious matter, u love her, u have to accept her. and never bring up that matter. what Qitai was telling was quite true. let's say, u go out with ur gf, then when shopping she met her friend, and after that she told u he was her ex and they did it several times b4. then went to a restaurant, she saw another friend setting the next table, and after that she also told u that she had ONS with him b4. will u marry her??? if u can marry her, then what's the big deal?
• fanseen

  11 Sep 04, 10:34

  My friend was molested by the Indonesian Police several years ago. During the Indonesian crisis several years ago, a group of 4 police accused her of smuggling drugs, hand-cuffed her and did a body search. They fondled her on the pretext of searching for drugs.
• sgboy2004

  11 Sep 04, 10:39

  it is your threshold.
  
  speaking of being noble; behind closed doors, u weep...no point.
  
  If u cant accept it, so be it... nothing wrong ... cos each individual is different
  
  it is just like surfing sgforums during offical working hours is ok; it just take things out of proportion to admit it is part of the "JOB" by someone here.
  
  Be it what your choice, so be it...
• n0_Nick

  12 Sep 04, 18:42

  dump herz.. hahaz..
• chikopek

  12 Sep 04, 18:49

  If she is raped by strangers then I will accept her.......
• wavywave

  12 Sep 04, 18:56

  what else can i do if she was raped or molested ?
  thats the past already wor.. nothing i can do..
  the problem is the future, seems im his bf now,
  i have to responsibility to protect her from been rape, molest or even bullied, and everything with everything i have now
• Goondu74

  12 Sep 04, 19:28

  Originally posted by chikopek:

  If she is raped by strangers then I will accept her.......

  Does it matter who did it? Rape is rape!!!!! The fact that it was a stranger doesnt make it any easier for her.
• the Bear

  12 Sep 04, 19:30

  does it matter?
  
  you love her right?
  
  you'll help her in any way you can right?
  
  
• Larry

  13 Sep 04, 13:37

  Can't be bothered with her past.
• Eiizumi

  13 Sep 04, 13:39

  Yes, past is past.
  
  If you're her love, you should help her overcome her past and make both your futures.
• amuletgurl

  13 Sep 04, 13:40

  heys,cant help it if this happen,nobody freaking wants to be raped neither molested,so how can this traumatic experience change wat u think of her at the presence?!Guys should show more support n love
• Kenashi

  13 Sep 04, 13:43

  Nothing can change the past. We can only walk toward a better future.
  At least she is honest with me, furthermore she is the victim.
  I will shower her with more love n attention.
  I love her 4 who she is not who she was.
• De|usi0n

  13 Sep 04, 19:00

  i think all gers prefered to be raped by pple known to them than strangers...
  
  
• Ito_^

  13 Sep 04, 19:01

  anything la, dats the past.
• ozon

  13 Sep 04, 19:48

  Originally posted by amuletgurl:

  heys,cant help it if this happen,nobody freaking wants to be raped neither molested,so how can this traumatic experience change wat u think of her at the presence?!Guys should show more support n love

  i agreed with u
• Forever84

  14 Sep 04, 00:03

  I will surely treat her better at times
  
• universe

  14 Sep 04, 01:16

  What if the gal kena molested by a close friend but then he say sorry and she forgive him, and she will still remain contact with the guy though once a blue moon...
  What would u bf or a guy who chasing her do?
• Evolution_X9

  14 Sep 04, 08:12

  I had an ex who was raped before when she was 16. Went to deliver some books and got drugged. There's side effect in her from the traumatic experience. Whenever we made love too wildly. she'd suddenly cry. For me, I understand that it's not her fault that she was raped and I gave her support. Like ensuring to send her home even late at night, or not showing her attitude face when I enjoying the sex so much then she suddenly cry, spoiling the mood.
  
  I think if you're able to look beyond the fact that she was raped and accept her as she is, she'll be grateful.
• the.raven

  14 Sep 04, 08:15

  Originally posted by fanseen:

  If your gf suddenly tells you that she was raped or molested before, will you marry her?
  
  

  if you really love her, why would you not marry her? in fact she will need your support
• mercutioz

  14 Sep 04, 09:39

  Passe topic... next !