What happen's if your GF was raped/molested b4?
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If she tells you that... it means that she trusts you! how many people will go around telling people that they had been raped??? none except under very special circumstances.
If she actually told you that, it means that she really trust you and have a special relationship with you - whether its BGR or its bro/sis I dont know but i know that she trusts you.
Its important how you handle this. If you love or care about her, you will feel the pain that she experienced but dont clamp her down nor avoid the issue ... she opened up bec she needs to talk about it and deal with this pain with someone she trust. if its dealt with properly, she can get over that pain!
If you love her and can accept it, help her thru this and tell her that you accept her regardless - and pls mean what you say - if you cannot take it ask for some time so that you can calm down but explain why.
Nobody wants to be raped!
There is no difference between being raped by a stranger or someone she knows! 
This should not be a reason to accept her or not! In fact its more traumatic for the person if its a date rape than a stranger.
Be sympathatic and if she needs help... even after many years, please help her get some counselling help... to rid of the past so that she will live properly again!
Finally, V or not... if she wanted to keep it and was raped... I will not hold it against her. bec I love her for her heart and mind and yes for her body and person that I will do all I can to protect all my life.
I would personally be a little more wary of the girl who has multiple sex partners and ONS than one who was violently violated! -
Your words more or less represent my exact thoughts. And like others have said, show her support and concern.Originally posted by supercharger:If she tells you that... it means that she trusts you! how many people will go around telling people that they had been raped??? none except under very special circumstances.
If she actually told you that, it means that she really trust you and have a special relationship with you - whether its BGR or its bro/sis I dont know but i know that she trusts you.
Its important how you handle this. If you love or care about her, you will feel the pain that she experienced but dont clamp her down nor avoid the issue ... she opened up bec she needs to talk about it and deal with this pain with someone she trust. if its dealt with properly, she can get over that pain!
If you love her and can accept it, help her thru this and tell her that you accept her regardless - and pls mean what you say - if you cannot take it ask for some time so that you can calm down but explain why.
Nobody wants to be raped! There is no difference between being raped by a stranger or someone she knows! This should not be a reason to accept her or not! In fact its more traumatic for the person if its a date rape than a stranger.
Be sympathatic and if she needs help... even after many years, please help her get some counselling help... to rid of the past so that she will live properly again!
Finally, V or not... if she wanted to keep it and was raped... I will not hold it against her. bec I love her for her heart and mind and yes for her body and person that I will do all I can to protect all my life.
I would personally be a little more wary of the girl who has multiple sex partners and ONS than one who was violently violated! -
Your words more or less represent my exact thoughts. And like others have said, show her support and concern. Prove yourself worthy of the love and trust she's given you.Originally posted by supercharger:If she tells you that... it means that she trusts you! how many people will go around telling people that they had been raped??? none except under very special circumstances.
If she actually told you that, it means that she really trust you and have a special relationship with you - whether its BGR or its bro/sis I dont know but i know that she trusts you.
Its important how you handle this. If you love or care about her, you will feel the pain that she experienced but dont clamp her down nor avoid the issue ... she opened up bec she needs to talk about it and deal with this pain with someone she trust. if its dealt with properly, she can get over that pain!
If you love her and can accept it, help her thru this and tell her that you accept her regardless - and pls mean what you say - if you cannot take it ask for some time so that you can calm down but explain why.
Nobody wants to be raped! There is no difference between being raped by a stranger or someone she knows! This should not be a reason to accept her or not! In fact its more traumatic for the person if its a date rape than a stranger.
Be sympathatic and if she needs help... even after many years, please help her get some counselling help... to rid of the past so that she will live properly again!
Finally, V or not... if she wanted to keep it and was raped... I will not hold it against her. bec I love her for her heart and mind and yes for her body and person that I will do all I can to protect all my life.
I would personally be a little more wary of the girl who has multiple sex partners and ONS than one who was violently violated! -
I saw light in the dark....
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IF you really love her ... you should dun care about the past
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Was pondering about this issue and I think I it is for her to decide whether to forgive or not. It does not mean that she has any special feelings for that guy. Just that maybe bec they are such good friends she was willing to forgive.Originally posted by universe:What if the gal kena molested by a close friend but then he say sorry and she forgive him, and she will still remain contact with the guy though once a blue moon...
What would u bf or a guy who chasing her do?
I think as a lifestyle, whether fren or not, it is always good to forgive otherwise, it will be hard for the person emotionally and mentally to move on. It sounds like she has moved on.
meetin once in a blue moon should not be a problem... but raise your concern to her that she ought to be very careful when meeting that guy. But as to whether you have a say in her breaking off all contacts, that is difficult to say. If you trust her and she is a sensible person capable of taking care of herself, she has the right to decide. Just voice your love and concern that you do not want her to be harmed by this guy and tell her to be careful. she will appreciate you more that way than if you tell her "STOP!"
As to whether is there any issue with someone who has been molested etc... She was violated. How can anyone use that against her... least of all a bf or someone who is interested. so I would not have any issue with it.
Just ask her to be very careful