Is it a must to have a wedding dinner while getting married?

• JLennon

  9 Jun 05, 14:07

  Originally posted by sneezy:

  $1.2k per table

  Ritz.....
• nismoS132

  9 Jun 05, 17:30

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  36yrs on this earth and left on the shelf, i oso not much hope liao...........

  forever 18x2?
• Homebody

  9 Jun 05, 18:53

  Originally posted by greengoblin:

  Yoh...tell your parents....you marry...not them.... unless they want to pay...then nothing to say lah
  
  When will I hear your wedding bells?

  Haha.. my friend told that to his parents and guess what his parents say? 'We can pay for you!!!'
  
  My friend LL.
• ubermagicseller

  9 Jun 05, 19:19

  I wont bother,at most have a meal in a restaraunt with both sides.
• tranquilice

  9 Jun 05, 23:40

  Originally posted by hyuuga neji:

  ever realise nowadays mostly its the parents who want the wedding dinner...
  and not the couple themselves???
  

  It will come to one day when no Chinese S'porean couples will hold their wedding dinners anymore.
• iveco

  10 Jun 05, 12:35

  Originally posted by tranquilice:

  It will come to one day when no Chinese S'porean couples will hold their wedding dinners anymore.

  Go Malay style. Hold it in the void deck. Cheaper, I guess.
• icebaby0

  10 Jun 05, 14:54

  Originally posted by FaTe_TwisTer:

  is it a must? how much will an event like this cost? guys who are married already can talk bout the plannings and money?

  is it a must? --> depends on urself, family, future wife, etc. It's up to u all to decide!
  
  How much an event like this cost? --> Depends on the no. of tables, table price, etc. Normal chinese dinner wedding, a table can cost from $300+ to more than $700+
  
  unfortunately I am not a guy here...but here are my own experience.
  
  Regards to the wedding dinner, alot depends on the culture or dialect that you are in. But alot also depends on the current society. There are some couples who still believe in "table-giving", while some couples just do away with it as regardless give table here or there...it will be the couple paying for the tables themselves.
  
  My wedding (thankfully) was paid by my in-laws. 10 tables given to my family and remaining 4 tables (my side) was paid by my parents. i.e. the 14 tables' angpow goes to my family side. My in-laws believe alot on this (they are teochew).
  Besides that, we also had the dowary, cakes, oranges, pigs' trotters, etc. Alot of stuff lah.
  
  Initially my husband and I planned to pay for everything ourselves (but of course except for the dowary) but since my in-laws offered to pay...we happy lah! We saved the money lah...which we eventually used for other stuff!
  
  But just the wedding dinner cost us almost $30k, dowary $5-7k, misc (wedding attair, tea ceremony, etc) $5-6k
  Minus the returns (excluding the 14 tables my parents kept), I think overall cost my in-laws abt almost $20k deficit?
  
  
• tranquilice

  10 Jun 05, 22:49

  Originally posted by iveco:

  Go Malay style. Hold it in the void deck. Cheaper, I guess.

  Not even Malay style. They don't want to hold a dinner so as to save cost... etc.
• sbst275

  11 Jun 05, 07:56

  Originally posted by iveco:

  Go Malay style. Hold it in the void deck. Cheaper, I guess.

  Dun tell me Malays... In the good old days in 1980's, even chinese hold dinner at their home if possible in the afternoons
• sbst275

  11 Jun 05, 08:11

  Originally posted by tranquilice:

  Not even Malay style. They don't want to hold a dinner so as to save cost... etc.

  Some just dun want the extra spotlight
• Gordonator

  11 Jun 05, 11:28

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  36yrs on this earth and left on the shelf, i oso not much hope liao...........

  in line with the great singapore sale, try putting a 50% discount banner on yourself. might work.
• vincentchean

  11 Jun 05, 12:27

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  i dun like the hassle
  and i dun see the point in inviting a hall of ppl, half of whom i do not know, risk myself being sabo-ed, have to smile the whole nite till my cheek muscle cramp and worst is......unable to enjoy the food......
  
  but bo bian leh, parents want.........

  fireice is married women ???
• FireIce

  11 Jun 05, 12:31

  Originally posted by vincentchean:

  fireice is married women ???

  im old and left on the shelf
• Deportivo

  11 Jun 05, 12:37

  Not a must.
  
  The rate is declining now. A echo what a someone said here before that one day, we will no longer hold wedding dinner. Not in our generation, but 2 generations later.
  
  nonetheless, depend on who you invite, it can really be a memorable event. once in a lifetime experience, unless you have a wedding more than once.