For guys, is ur gf's family bkground a concern ?

• countdracula

  22 Jul 05, 11:18

  Originally posted by Lovespirit:

  not so extreme la..
  but in this case, let say u got 2 gals liking u..
  
  one is from a rich background, stay in private estate, drove a sport car etc
  
  the other is humble background, maybe single family etc...
  
  will it be one of the main concern when choosin gf?
  
  

  if this is your main criterion for choosing a partner, then you're a moron...but then again, snce you are that cheap....choose the one with the money!!!
• heavenlyfire

  22 Jul 05, 11:28

  Originally posted by countdracula:

  if this is your main criterion for choosing a partner, then you're a moron...but then again, snce you are that cheap....choose the one with the money!!!

  so are you saying that all girls who do that are moron?? come on, they are the more clever ones who spare a thought for their future. of course it is not tha main criteria, but given 2 girls appaer at the same time?
• gerrykoh

  22 Jul 05, 11:33

  Family background is impt. esp someone comparable to u.
  It is better if her parents are relatively well off cos u don't need to support them in future.
  Make sure her parents have decent jobs & no gambling habits cos if she is the sole provider then will have a problem in future
  
• coffeeortea

  22 Jul 05, 11:35

  they should have acceptable characteristics and virtues.. and not suck money from the son in law all the time.. must be able to get along too
• CoolMyth

  22 Jul 05, 11:43

  Originally posted by starblue:

  i wouldn't want a partner with a totally different family background as me... there'll be a gap somehow...

  Boohoohoo....
  
  Actually, same here as well.
  
  Even though marriage is between 2 person, the truth is, both families will play an important part in helping and maintaining this marriage.
• spencer99

  22 Jul 05, 11:43

  Originally posted by coffeeortea:

  they should have acceptable characteristics and virtues.. and not suck money from the son in law all the time.. must be able to get along too

  I agree... with the above two posts.... for long term happiness a "wholesome" family background is ideal....
  
• Homebody

  22 Jul 05, 11:45

  Originally posted by ditzy:

  You're marrying her, not her family.

  WRONG! This is an absolutely wrong concept to have for marriage.
  
  When you marry someone, you literally 'marry' the family as well, through association!
  
  So if the family background is one that you don't want to associate with, you shouldn't marry the gal at all!
• teekh

  22 Jul 05, 18:15

  Ideally, a wholesome family and rich one too...
  
  Why rich? At least when she has materialistc demands, can always ask from her parents mah...who wants a poor but sucker gf who want you to support all her ideal lavish lifestyle, must give her $$ to buy LV, everyday eat restaurant, etc...knn machiam living like some aristocrats...treating u like a slave