On the verge of divorce ....
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liverpool lost yesterday.Originally posted by Poolman:The only time we don't cross swords is when i'm in my room , in the net .
And watching Liverpool's games .
Football seemed to be my best way out of stress at the moment !
i hope it did not bring you more grief.
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i suggest you seek the help of professional counsellors, not necessarily marriage-related.Originally posted by Poolman:I've given those options a lot of deep thoughts , parting ways seem to be the best option , any other opinions ?
at least they know what steps you should take to protect yourself and your kid. -
Well, sometimes bth parties have to understand
But the poor kid suffer -
It isOriginally posted by browniebaobao:pat pat Poolman*
Better get this over and done with fast.
Ur son needs a gd parent to guide him. Ur wife is a bad influence.
Doesn't matter if u are single parent.. can always take up more part time or what.
how scary it is to marry a wrong person!
But sometimes fate just give this situation to you
As for the debt, once you seperate with her, creditors wun lay a hand on you... They will deal with her
Dun let your precious son suffer together -
you think divorce is so easy??Originally posted by sbst275:It is
But sometimes fate just give this situation to you
As for the debt, once you seperate with her, creditors wun lay a hand on you... They will deal with her
Dun let your precious son suffer together
there're expensive legal fees involved and sometimes the judges will give all the man's assets to the woman, leaving him homeless.
...............on top of that, the man will have to pay maintenance to the woman!! -
I think the judge also takes into consideration if the wife got bad attitude or not.Originally posted by Mr Fugue:you think divorce is so easy??
there're expensive legal fees involved and sometimes the judges will give all the man's assets to the woman, leaving him homeless.
...............on top of that, the man will have to pay maintenance to the woman!! -
It add depends on the scenario...Originally posted by Mr Fugue:you think divorce is so easy??
there're expensive legal fees involved and sometimes the judges will give all the man's assets to the woman, leaving him homeless.
...............on top of that, the man will have to pay maintenance to the woman!! -
.....if the judge is a female?!Originally posted by sbst275:It add depends on the scenario...
may heavens bless his soul. 
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Arbo file for seperation first la..After that den decide whether wana divorce anot..
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They have to be fair...Originally posted by Mr Fugue:.....if the judge is a female?!
may heavens bless his soul. -
Anyway , thanks guys , let's take one step at a time , see what i can do tomorrow . I seem to say this everyday , everything tomorrow , see tomorrow can be better .
I will hope miracle arise .
Honestly , she die is better for me . I hope she die !
She die everything is settle .
I can tell my son , mummy is dead . Simple answer . -
That brings to mind the question how do banks recover money from their borrowers if the latter dies. Do they just write off the sum as bad loans?Originally posted by Poolman:Anyway , thanks guys , let's take one step at a time , see what i can do tomorrow . I seem to say this everyday , everything tomorrow , see tomorrow can be better .
I will hope miracle arise .
Honestly , she die is better for me . I hope she die !
She die everything is settle .
I can tell my son , mummy is dead . Simple answer . -
*hint hint: commando trial.Originally posted by sbst275:They have to be fair... -
That was fair enough liao..Originally posted by Mr Fugue:*hint hint: commando trial.
They went to appeal and got heavier punishment -
wed!!! big sweep and 4d sweep?Originally posted by Poolman:Anyway , thanks guys , let's take one step at a time , see what i can do tomorrow . I seem to say this everyday , everything tomorrow , see tomorrow can be better .
I will hope miracle arise .
Honestly , she die is better for me . I hope she die !
She die everything is settle .
I can tell my son , mummy is dead . Simple answer .
maybe your wife wagered again. -
maybe u can try sell your house if the worse case scenario ur wife declared bankrupt? and also, keep your cash in your own private bank account..
heard banks turn devils when they make ppl bankrupt.. assets all frozen and CC interest rate is 24% per year!! stil, i never like credit cards.. nasty. -
I think ur son is better off without a mother like her. And anyway both ur relationship is already so strain, sticking together would just affect him. A gd example is a friend of mine who caught his wife having an affair, but forgave her because of the kids. Even though they are together, the qurall and argue so much that their kids are affected.
On the financial front, did she clog up all that debt on ur credit card? or is it her own. Cause if it is on urs, I believe with a divorce it becomes ur debt rite?
On the custody front, I believe if u are able to prove in court that she is a inherent, obsessive gambler, you would have a chance of gaining custody of ur son. -
haiz.. now everybody take divorce like so lightly.. suka suka divorce.. little bit divorce.. duno wat are those wedding vows for.. next time think marriage dun need any vows liao.. my parents are divorced also when i was onli 7.. now my whole family totally destroyed.. everybody dos their own thing.. althou still a family but i feel as thou i'm like a orphan..
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seioursly, get some professional advice from the legal point of view
analyse what you stand to gain and lose when you file for a divorce
do you need to pay alimony?
do you need to half your assests?
probability of gaining custody of your child?
other factors?
ask the lawyer, you will gain better insight on whether to divorce your wife a not.. -
I no card liao .... chop off my hand liao .Originally posted by Quincey:I think ur son is better off without a mother like her. And anyway both ur relationship is already so strain, sticking together would just affect him. A gd example is a friend of mine who caught his wife having an affair, but forgave her because of the kids. Even though they are together, the qurall and argue so much that their kids are affected.
On the financial front, did she clog up all that debt on ur credit card? or is it her own. Cause if it is on urs, I believe with a divorce it becomes ur debt rite?
On the custody front, I believe if u are able to prove in court that she is a inherent, obsessive gambler, you would have a chance of gaining custody of ur son.
The cards all hers , not my problem . -
Think the bank got nothing if she dies .Originally posted by iveco:That brings to mind the question how do banks recover money from their borrowers if the latter dies. Do they just write off the sum as bad loans?
Want money back ? Go down find her la , find me for what ? -
if i were you i divorce her straight away.. the custody battle i think u can win lah no problem... once u divorce her you will have no problems mn trust me take of ya son and dont care about the b**ch who got you into this position dude... i also come from broken family so i can understand you a bit =)
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Yes, you do have a point. Funny, how a couple can be so in love, but upon marriage and having kids, that love which brought them together turns to sheer hate for the other, sheer hate upon the life he or she leads, sheer hatred of the self. I guess the best bet one has to ensure that he or she does not end up in such a situation is to be absolutely sure that marriage is the right path for them, and that their partner is indeed the person they want to spend the rest of your life with. As it states very clearly 'for richer or for poor, for sickness and in health, to love and only love (the other individua)l for the rest of your life'. It is a vow one takes, and not just words for one to utter in fufilment of a social compliance.Originally posted by BaBy_JaP_WaWa:haiz.. now everybody take divorce like so lightly.. suka suka divorce.. little bit divorce.. duno wat are those wedding vows for.. next time think marriage dun need any vows liao.. my parents are divorced also when i was onli 7.. now my whole family totally destroyed.. everybody dos their own thing.. althou still a family but i feel as thou i'm like a orphan..
BUT like it or not, shit happens. The morning after, u awake, and realize your wife or husband you loved is a hedious beasts and worst he or she thinks the same of you. You have kids, a house in disarray, the house instalment to fufil, the car instalment (OMG!), it just gones on and on. You just want to end it all and those vows you evoked all seemed so long ago. Love has found its resting place in this perfect demise.
Here in lies the dilemna, to continue and stay together for the kids? Or to end it all and grant yourself that whole new freedom that you so desperately crave? Either way, it is a 'catch-22' situation one has been cornered into. I evoke the suggestion of divorce to the threadstarter because of the fact that his wife is a inherent gambler (not exactly a very sound influence), and that her mounting debts are taking a toll on the quality of life at home and I believe the kids are invaribly affected by all the constant squabbles the spouses trade.
BUT I must admit the situation can be altered, if the threadstarter does indeed take it upon himself to spark some life into the marriage and persuade his mrs to forego the extravagant life she is leading. Afterall, a vow is a vow, and the kids and loans and the credit cards came with it.
I guess no matter what we say, at the end of the day, he is the best judge of it all as it is his life and he knows whats best for himself.
Wilde once wrote quite cleverly I thought that 'divorces are made in heaven'. However I'll rather subscribe to the self created maxim that 'Marriages are not made in heaven, Marriages are not made for everyone'. That is why no marriage or marriages for me, cause I know I'm not one for commitments.
Oh btw, Jap_Wawa, love the pictures u post especially of the rjc gals. It was quite a while ago, but I do appreciate it.
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are you sure it's those ''abit'' and trivial things that people divorce??
you're not in their shoes, how would you understand??
everything that happens to you is unique to yr destiny.............Originally posted by BaBy_JaP_WaWa:haiz.. now everybody take divorce like so lightly.. suka suka divorce.. little bit divorce... -
one thing's for sure; it's DAMN BLOODY expensive........Originally posted by jeramy:seioursly, get some professional advice from the legal point of view
analyse what you stand to gain and lose when you file for a divorce
do you need to pay alimony?
do you need to half your assests?
probability of gaining custody of your child?
other factors?
ask the lawyer, you will gain better insight on whether to divorce your wife a not..