i am vex, someone help me
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Rather vex these days, because of BGR
The guy i like doesn't know
giving hot and cold treatment
The guy i am not interested doesn't take my clear hints
Hate the way he prester me and question me like his partner
Yet i doesn't want to hurt him
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Sometimes you need to know when to say no and when to say yes firmly. You cannot attempt to please everyone, in the end you will end up suffering yourself.
If you don't like the guy, just tell him directly. Sometimes they take it and if they really like you they will respect your decision, but sometimes they don't. These are the ones you need to completely avoid and forget... -
renorenalOriginally posted by renorenal:Sometimes you need to know when to say no and when to say yes firmly. You cannot attempt to please everyone, in the end you will end up suffering yourself.
If you don't like the guy, just tell him directly. Sometimes they take it and if they really like you they will respect your decision, but sometimes they don't. These are the ones you need to completely avoid and forget...
i have given straight clear direct hints. But it just doesn't helps, every single things i commented he project it as if i am trying to hint him.
I am so afraid i might misleading him.
I like the company as friend but not partner.
Because he is not the one i wanted
I guess that is life
I having no enough courages to tell him straight afraid he might not be able to take it. Am i worrying too much ?
And i don't want to ignore him because it is so rude -
hint for what...tell him straight ba...if he doesn't listen...den ignore him lohz...after awhile he will get the idea...
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Often enough, as a girl, you will always receive proposals... and the way you respond to it depends much on both your character. That explains why he is like that. For a fact, perhaps he like you too much until he is deeply madly truly in love with you he will not accept no as an answer (Dumb and Dumberer, the movie)...Originally posted by gmail:renorenal
i am given straight clear direct hints. But it just doesn't helps, every single things i commented he project it as i am trying to hint him.
I am so afraid i might misleading him.
I like the company as friend but not partner.
Because he is not the one i wanted
I guess that is life
Have you approach him telling him NO directly? If you have and he still responds this way, it is important to bring in the third party to explain things to him. Try to take it up the level until he fully understands your position. As in after your friend explained the situation to him, and he still acts the same towards you, take it up another level by recruiting your parents in... -
try distancing urself from the guy u dun like...
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as a guy i have to say i would very much appreciate straight answers of whether you like me or not rather than hinting here and there esp since i am very insensitive
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Knowing how it feels to be rejected or hurt, that was the main reason why i am trying to minimze the hurting part if i am able to do so.
why can't he understand love cannot be order ?
Worst of all, materialistic tactic to attract me over
But sad to said i have seen and enjoy much before and i am aftering some feelings not etc . .. -
28 years old...Originally posted by gmail:Knowing how it feels to be rejected or hurt, that was the main reason why i am trying to minimze the hurting part if i am able to do so.
why can't he understand love cannot be order ?
Worst of all, materialistic tactic to attract me over
But sad to said i have seen and enjoy much before and i am aftering some feelings not etc . .. -
You can't please everyone as humans will demand more and more, even though they already have more than enough.Originally posted by gmail:Knowing how it feels to be rejected or hurt, that was the main reason why i am trying to minimze the hurting part if i am able to do so.
You have to put your thumbs down firmly and explain to him, or tell him bluntly.
If you are afraid that you would break his heart, imagine how bad it is going to get once he spends too much on you just to win your heart OR imagine how hard it is going to be for you when a lot more guys will come after him to win your heart.
Start to say NO now firmly and don't show your unsure or fear attitude... that is a giveaway... -
It's not that i am in-capable of straight answer but of trying to save some skins for both.Originally posted by hisoka:as a guy i have to say i would very much appreciate straight answers of whether you like me or not rather than hinting here and there esp since i am very insensitive
And i am attracted to a guy in my office, but both of us are too shy to made things bloom. In the office conversations are short and straight forward regarding work only Private sms rather closer yet not that close he would sit very close to each other whispering chat to me. Recently we just came back from Uk tour, during tour he is so sweet and caring, carrying luggage for me. Asking me to cover myself well as the weather is cold. Wait for me to board bus before he went for his mrt after work.
I am acting more and more like an school girl. Oh my
He got me mixed up too.
Shy guys are hard to understand too.
Any shy guys to tell me is he interested ?
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There will always be time human get lost in path.Originally posted by Ayukat:28 years old...
Even though 28 ? what is 28 ?
i am only a normal simple girl
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reminds me of a song..
by qiu hai zheng. -
do yourself a favour and tell him straight.... dun care about hurting his feelings lah. rejection is bound to hurt.
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Well, if a guy is shy, he would more likely avoid the girl he likes. Ironic? Perhaps.
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Agree, personal experience...Originally posted by JuMbLeBoY:Well, if a guy is shy, he would more likely avoid the girl he likes. Ironic? Perhaps. -
This is true...Originally posted by JuMbLeBoY:Well, if a guy is shy, he would more likely avoid the girl he likes. Ironic? Perhaps.
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Tell you something, last time I Primary 4 that time hor...
I got walk one gal home everyday 1... I also dunno why I did that... but I don't like her also...
Then when we were Primary 5... we different class liao, so seldom tok to her or bring home liao... den she like hate me lehz... I also dunno wat I did... -
Maybe she liked you during Primary 4 and wanted you to sweet talk to her or become her boyfriend... I assume Primary 4 is around 10-11 years old when girls will reach their puberty first?Originally posted by Ayukat:Tell you something, last time I Primary 4 that time hor...
I got walk one gal home everyday 1... I also dunno why I did that... but I don't like her also...
Then when we were Primary 5... we different class liao, so seldom tok to her or bring home liao... den she like hate me lehz... I also dunno wat I did... -
cruel lah you ppl..
haa... blew off some dreams ..
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Just tell him a firm NO. God, pls don't dilly dally..chang tong bu ru duan tong!!!
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really meh?Originally posted by Ayukat:Agree, personal experience...
i tot a guy, no matter how shy, will still try to woo the girl wan. -
You think...Originally posted by browniebaobao:really meh?
i tot a guy, no matter how shy, will still try to woo the girl wan.
Everytime I see her, I will hide, run away... or avoid eye contact... she tok to mi, I also try to keep it short...
After she noes I like her worse, I avoid going to any gatherings or outings when she goes...even though I really really really really want to see her... All I do is SMS her like a scary cat...
Only way to return to b4... is for her to agree to come out with me 1 on 1... if not I... -
not true lah pple like me no guts oneOriginally posted by browniebaobao:really meh?
i tot a guy, no matter how shy, will still try to woo the girl wan. -