how to not be an introvert?
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somebody pls help...
i really envy people with lots of friends, that's why i'm trying hard to change the introvert me. Many people consider me an introvert, but i don't think so, I think i'm in between introvert and extrovert as I can be quite 'high' sometimes.
Firstly, people consider me introvert because ppl consider my CCA as an introvert CCA too(symphonic band) and the things i like, such as classical music, perhaps, made me an introvert. I find that I fare pretty badly in terms of sports. I often dare not join in the basketball game with my friends because i never do well in that sport and I feel very shy to play with my circle of friends who are rather good in basketball. I believe some of ya might have the same experience too. i.e. you dare not do something which you're pretty bad at when you're with a group of pros. That's one reason why i think i'm often left out by that group of friends.
Also people often see me as a quiet person who doesn't talk much. I have been trying to talk more nowadays. But i think first impression really counts, when people first saw me as a quiet and inactive person, they tend to exclude me more often and now, even though I've change a bit, my friends are still not very 'close' to me compared to other people. Now I find it difficult to mix with most of my friends from different circles, perhaps because of their perception of me and hence the reluctance to call me out as I'm not considered a very 'fun' person to them. What I'm afraid is that if I suddenly change into a hyperactive person, they might think I'm mad. And you know how difficult it is to not be my usual self in front of them.
That's why I feel so lonely. Whenever I look at my friend's photos, I feel so jealous being left out. Some people say, 'just be yourself', but I just think that society and people just do not accept introverts.
I realised I've changed much since I came to JC compared to when I was in secondary school where ppl feel that I'm stranger to them. However, I still feel very left out because whenever my ex jc classmates and sometimes CCA friends go out, they often leave me out. I feel that I need to do more, but how?
Can someone give me some suggestion on how to change myself before I die of boredom and loneliness... I'm really sick, tired and stress... -
build up self confidence, im the same as you
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hmm so many friends also not good. Just need to have some true friends then is good enough already.
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thats my policy, but too little is not good alsoOriginally posted by stwl86:hmm so many friends also not good. Just need to have some true friends then is good enough already. -
be thick skin...really...
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be an extrovert..as simple as that..
but seriously don't try to force urself to change.never become who u were not meant to be..just be urself..
but if u wana be more outgoing,try making a few good friends first,and slowly u will find that u can open up more to people.. -
you can try collecting stamps and mix with those stamp collectors.
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the keyword is try.
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i agree on this...seriouslyOriginally posted by R3SsH|n:be thick skin...really... -
What's wrong with being an introvert?
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pick up the courage to go for ur first sgforums outing
after that it's the point of no return
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He hates silence, that's why.Originally posted by charlize:What's wrong with being an introvert? -
Wait till he gets married.Originally posted by ndmmxiaomayi:He hates silence, that's why.
Then he will appreciate that one minute of silence. -
I was an ultimate introvert inPri Sch...then improved...until I'm about 50-50 now
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basically you must try, do things that may seem stupid that others can do...observe how an extrovert acts and try to imitate...that's for me, I tried sticking around with extroverts
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You might want to work in sales line on a part time basis? I use to be one, I won't say I change entirely...but working in sales line does help you to build courage and confidence because you need to talk to people to achieve your sales quota...
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i feel tat its more impt to b urself than trying to b extrovert. mayb u haven met the group of frens which will opens u up. for me im also a introvert. if i dun feel like talking, i dun talk. i listen.
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Me same ... sport very bad. But nvm .try. to mix around with more people.[/u][/b]
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im an introvert too. but there's nothing to be sad off as it is your nature. just try to interact more and ppl will slowly accept you.
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you siao ding dong ..
who say symphonic band introspective de.
band very enthu and got teamwork hor.
takes unity to play a song in harmony.
go band/section outings lah.
band rocks okay!
i'm introvert too.
but with close friends, you sure become extrovert.
maybe you're just conservative. -
hey i'm from band too and bad did really make me have more confidence in myself I told them that before I left at end of sec sch...
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finoq one post to 2k ... haha
okay ... is there a sch band forum around here? -
introvert reporting too
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u need to b more confident...and even shameless. so wad if u suxx at bball, juz play la! if u think its fun then play!
ppl r like this de, would u prefer to hang out w ppl whu r fun or ppl whu r boring? if the ppl u hang around all veri optimistic and daring u will subconciously become lik dat oso... but watever, its hard to learn in a day. juz learn how to tok more cock -
....... anyway band got play bball de!
we play among ourselves .....