Valentine Day - i think i broke her heart
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yeah guess it was bit too harsh..all she wanted was a lil more attention from you to make her accept e flowers...
if i were ur gf i wld b sad too.. -
but however, you noe you die wrong le.Originally posted by alfagal:yeah guess it was bit too harsh..all she wanted was a lil more attention from you to make her accept e flowers...
if i were ur gf i wld b sad too..
so try to make Up...
girLs are sOFt-heARt... easy to touched...( iF she loves you) -
its no longer the flowers...its the attitude and the occassion u are at...just for one day...you should keep your temper in check...
girls just wanna get pampered like a little princess just on this day nia mahz... -
obviously u trashed someone's heart.
oh ya, i tot u going to say that u f her and break with her immediately after.
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After my thourough investigation using linear regression analysis, I condluded that the underlying cause was your built-up stress resulting from the bad office experince. As a result you were under pent-up stressful emotions and got angry easily.
Whatever happens is not what happens which made you angry, but why. Why did you get angry. The reason someone is angry is not because of a deed, but how much that deed is within or outside his anger treshold. Because of your anger treshold which went much lower due to recent office stress, therefore you got angry at whatever outlet you can find to explode and channel your pent-up emotions.
Another important point is, during a special events your senses and receivers will be in a heightened mode. Whatever happen will seemingly take a much more important meaning than a similar act on a normal casual day. You will take these acts disproportionately in your mind.
This combination of pent-up stress and disproportionate special events significance made you 'blew up'.
Well my recommendation is for you to start recognize any pressure or built-up emotions you have in you, and slowly calm yourself whenever the pressure is there. Remember it's not right to just channel it into a convinient outlet. Also specifically pay extra care during special events when you have to lower down your heightened and disproportionate senses. If you can realize and identify these factors, you're already in a high chance of succeeding. -
Don't listen to anyone. Listen to me!
Listen.. 'Nan Ren Bu Huai, Nu Ren Bu Ai'
Sometimes if you give way too much, girls will take you kindness for granted.
Don't ever fall into that!
Be HARSH! Don't soft-hearted.
You did a right choice brother. Girls should always listen to us and do what we say, and not you do what girls say. Get it? -
Some things aren't so easy to forgive. You blew it man. And if she does accet your apologies the relationship will still be marred by what you did. Never ever treat a girl be it your mum or sister or friend and esp your gf like the way you just did. I know you feel bad already but life sucks.
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Guys and Gals, thank you so much for your suggestions and advice...
some are good ones, some supported MCP, some pitied my gf...
Well nevertheless, last night i made some paper roses and drove all the way to her home and leave it on her doorstep...
this morning i receive a sms from her, she said she loved the paper roses, and the bouquet which i gave her on V-day, she likes very much too...
Well i think everything should be fine now, but hope this incident wun leave a bad scar on her memories...
Tks God! -
New bird means new bird....
SOP for LOVE:
1. All human (man, women, ah-qua or les) like to be pampered.
2. Asian (eg Sg) are very reserve and conservative. Most of the time, the mouth asy "No", but you must really take your time and more persistent....gently
3. Women, unlike man, like to receive attention in small way. You should look at all the details on how you shower your "tender, loving touch" to her heart (dun get me wrong, not physical but emotionally esp).
4. Take good care of your gal, she will be more responive to you.
5. Forget your workplace issue, esp when u date with ur gal.
6. Dun be a MCP... and drop ur attitude... u will need to apologise sincerely to her.
7. Dun worry for facing her "music" it worth it.
8. Woman loves to complain, man just listen. And listen effectively and selectively... keep ur mouth shut most of the time... DUN BE A SMART ALEK and OFFER YOUR WORLD - CLASS SOLUTION.....she just want u to listen. Sometimes, act "blur" is a good way out....
Experiences from my 10 year love affair with my gf (now my wife). -
u mean she found out about d sister incident liao? So how did it go? I've been reading some of your posts and i know bout your story...Originally posted by forum_man:She got diamond ring liao...
She muz be thinking why i suddenly mood swing and treat her like tat
Oh i such a jerk...i promised not to break her heart again after the sister incident....and now i did it again -
I feel for you. We guys like to be appreciated. I think it was a good think that you gotten the roses behind her back. That ought to have surprised your gf. Perhaps she was playing with you, when she said she didn't want the flowers anymore. But yeah, most times, girls like to play hard to get. Read between the lines. Sometimes 'no' can mean 'yes'.
You got a temper. Don't let your head blow off. Dumping the roses was a no-no. A moment of anger may take an eternity to patch up. -
If I did what I did to my ex...I would be slapped man.
Remember my 1st V-dae with her, was rushing projects the whole dayI lost track of time. And its not usual for her to ask me out do eat, cuz usually its me.Luckily, on my way down to meeting her, met my "god-sis" at the busstop and she asked me what I was going to do on V-dae.That was when it hit me...haha..immediately pia down to but a bouquet of tulips. Nabei...those florists realli noe hw to rip ppl. off man. -
i think this is very true...Originally posted by archon1234:8. Woman loves to complain, man just listen. And listen effectively and selectively... keep ur mouth shut most of the time... DUN BE A SMART ALEK and OFFER YOUR WORLD - CLASS SOLUTION.....she just want u to listen. Sometimes, act "blur" is a good way out.... -
my g/f likes to say things the oppsite way.
for example " i want to eat KFC" that is wad she ment she will say "i don't want to eat KFC"
and many times when we are together watching movie deciding where to go, she will do that and it seriously gets me annoyed.
so i will just stare at her then she will get my msg and tell me where she realy want to go.
till now i still find girls very werid
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haha.. complicated man...
yeah it was kinda harsh to throw the roses away etc then went back and throw it in her face. but she also at fault la, she should have been gracious enough to be surprised and accept the gift, then nothing would have gone wrong right?
girls.. never know what the hell they are thinking man.. one moment they think they can push you around, hoping u'd give in to them. the next moment, if u don't play the game, they beg and cry. sigh..
haha.. what do you girls think? what was that girl trying to do? why do u girls always want to pretend to be upset and ignore ur guys, throwing little tantrums?
always testing our patience.. sigh. anyway how now? -
looks like she learnt her lesson and became more appreciative =)Originally posted by forum_man:Guys and Gals, thank you so much for your suggestions and advice...
some are good ones, some supported MCP, some pitied my gf...
Well nevertheless, last night i made some paper roses and drove all the way to her home and leave it on her doorstep...
this morning i receive a sms from her, she said she loved the paper roses, and the bouquet which i gave her on V-day, she likes very much too...
Well i think everything should be fine now, but hope this incident wun leave a bad scar on her memories...
Tks God!
the paper roses were a nice move. too bad i dunno how to make those type of roses hahaha
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who the f.uck wants you, you f.ucking old haggard bit.ch...better get a dog off a street to f.uck you, cuz that's all you gonna get, you fat ar.se...Originally posted by carpe diem jur:hahar !! i cant be bothered with anyone who cant be bothered with mi... so, ur recipe of getting girls wouldnt work on mi.. -
f.uck you first lah...who the f.uck has time to read between the lines...if you girls don't know how to tell it like it is, you deserve a smelly piece of salted fish stuffed up your chao cheeb.ai...Originally posted by gr2012:Stupid stupid stupid.
She say she dun wan roses u believe her?
Please lah.
Sometimes must read between the lines right?
When she said she didn't want the roses anymore, and then u throw away, she might have felt u are not sincere.
and for all the MCPs who say it is the gals fault...f.uck you all. U dun understand ppl dont you? -
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i Seriously agree with her.. u better do something man.. wadever u done to her that day sure had caused enough damage to destroy this relation ship, if you are a real man, apologise and do something to make up to her.Originally posted by juz_A_gal:Apologise!!!
Explain to her nicely why you did that!!!
Make it up to her! You know her better than us... what makes her happy just go and do! -
stupid.. do so much for her for what? she not happy, break up la..Originally posted by forum_man:Guys and Gals, thank you so much for your suggestions and advice...
some are good ones, some supported MCP, some pitied my gf...
Well nevertheless, last night i made some paper roses and drove all the way to her home and leave it on her doorstep...
this morning i receive a sms from her, she said she loved the paper roses, and the bouquet which i gave her on V-day, she likes very much too...
Well i think everything should be fine now, but hope this incident wun leave a bad scar on her memories...
Tks God!
i thought u make all man proud that day, now u disappointed us alot.. -
no leh. i tot it was good wat.Originally posted by FadeToBlack:stupid.. do so much for her for what? she not happy, break up la..
i thought u make all man proud that day, now u disappointed us alot..
he showed her that he can't be pushed around, she should be appreciative. and she did learn her lesson. and they're together again. =)
the girl's got heart. most impt is learn lesson, forgive and forget! -
U did the right thing on valentine day ia lso tried to give the girl i like some presents... but.. mission failed her mum fetch her =[ i told her i m so sad wanted to throw the teddy away but cant bear to.... ur way lucky dude hope u'll learn ur lesson treat ur gf well
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I think you reacted the way a typical guy would react on such a situation, given the built up stress during work... So a special man is someone who takes control of the situation, and not give in due to pressure, which in the end you succumbed to. That is a weak link. A typical guy makes mistake like that and apologies and make up in the end, but a special man with a vision sees mistakes before they happen.
During my "perfect" V day outing with my girl in Orchard, I've seen 2 of the incidents where the guy thrashed the flowers in front of the gf, probably to gain attention or whatever, but that shows how typical such behaviors of rash headed youngsters nowadays can be. That really seperates the boys from the men. -
ORLY!Originally posted by DailyFreeGames.com:I think you reacted the way a typical guy would react on such a situation, given the built up stress during work... So a special man is someone who takes control of the situation, and not give in due to pressure, which in the end you succumbed to. That is a weak link. A typical guy makes mistake like that and apologies and make up in the end, but a special man with a vision sees mistakes before they happen.
During my "perfect" V day outing with my girl in Orchard, I've seen 2 of the incidents where the guy thrashed the flowers in front of the gf, probably to gain attention or whatever, but that shows how typical such behaviors of rash headed youngsters nowadays can be. That really seperates the boys from the men. A special man can only see mistakes before it happens if he is psychic. Everyone can 'see' what mistakes may happen, but the thing is what can u do to prevent them ? The world is not in your control. Only your actions. How you react at that situation shows how u handle urself. U can either eat the steak alone.. holding it n being a gentlemen to the end and go about ur business or u can pay ur untouched meals n go crawling like a sad puppy dog after her.