Irritated with friend's boyfriend.
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Just get a bf yourself.
you should be thankful that she is still spending time with you instead of just going out with her bf w/o you.
once a person got a gf and bf, it is inevitable that the time spend with frends will be more constrained.
that doesn't mean the friendship is adversely affected.... your r/s with her must evolve to changing circumstances. -
you must be a butch?
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I understand how it feels..bo bian..had a frd who even brought her bf along for our project meetings all the time..tho he's a nice guy i hav nothin against him but ya..like how u feel lo..a few mths ago when i met her n there hasnt a tag along i knew they must hav broken up liao.Originally posted by Jerina:My best galpal just got attached and I'm happy for her, really I am.
But the IRRITATING thing is that, whenever I ask her out to hang out, she'll ask him along. INITIALLY I was okay with it, coz her bf is also my friend and I like hanging out with him.
Now, my best galpal and I hardly go out one-on-one anymore...she'll usually ask him along when I ask her out.
I'm okay hanging out with her boyfriend, just not ALL the time, you know?
And I cant exactly tell her NOT to ask him along because it will hurt her since she loves the guy,obviously.
It's bloody irritating the hell out of me....HELP!
And I'm also irritated that the guy is spending too much time with me....coz it's as if he's dating both of us or something. *quite pissed*
But if u've got other frds to spend time with not that bad ba.wait till all ur frds become attached then damn chiam..go out with them like buy one get one free.even if grp outing also all bring gf/bf n pda in front of me some more..i guess when ppl r in love they r blind to other ppl,totally insensitive sometimes.. -
1 of my guy fren got attached and was also those who can 24/7 be with his gf. and the worse was his gf only live 10 mins walk away from him, so u can think how hard was it to ask him out for a coffee? and when ever he msg me to go for a coffee or go sim lim, its confirm his gf is not free, so he look for me. but i understand la, when you are in a r/s, most of the time you want to spend it with each other, but pls think it thru too, you also need to maintain ur frens r/s too. what if ur r/s fail? you still can look for ur frens. so dun burn the bridge away. if now you always spend ur time together, how about when you get married? you will be seeing each other for the rest of ur life.
I told my gf b4, i dun like to stick to each other for 24/7, i also need some time to do my own things. and i told her that if u wan go out wif ur frens and cant go out wif me, its fine wif me. jus make sure dun get into trouble can le
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Erm... you should be glad that your friend still bothers to go out with you lor... some of my friend got attached liao doesn't even go out with you lor... just like strangers liao...
Be happy
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Start flirting with your friend's boyfriend.
After a while, your friend won't bring him along with her when she meets you. -
Ignore the forummers who ask you to get a bf or find other frinds or anything of that matter. They only want to increae their post counts.Originally posted by Jerina:My best galpal just got attached and I'm happy for her, really I am.
But the IRRITATING thing is that, whenever I ask her out to hang out, she'll ask him along. INITIALLY I was okay with it, coz her bf is also my friend and I like hanging out with him.
Now, my best galpal and I hardly go out one-on-one anymore...she'll usually ask him along when I ask her out.
I'm okay hanging out with her boyfriend, just not ALL the time, you know?
And I cant exactly tell her NOT to ask him along because it will hurt her since she loves the guy,obviously.
It's bloody irritating the hell out of me....HELP!
And I'm also irritated that the guy is spending too much time with me....coz it's as if he's dating both of us or something. *quite pissed*
Anyway, i know what you feel like cos i'm going through the same thing. After ahwile it gets a lil boring becos you just want to hang around wif your friend and not their bf/gf.
I have a similar situation, my friend brings his gf along to our late nite outings but never informs me. Why does he have to inform me in advance? Becos i end up have to send each of them home and his gf lives far away from our houses. So naturally i feel a lil irritated. Anyways i don't know how to help you as i also can't help myself. I just have to be happy for my friend and his gf and not provoke any war among us. LEast we still got the friendship. IF these types of people get bored of our friendship and constantly stick to their gf/bf then they really need to get a reality check. -
Bring ur friend to shop in female area like bra department or female department store where it is packed wiith gal and not much guy.... sooner or later ur friend bf will be sian liao
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Every time, your friend brings her boyrfriend along, call him "sweetie" or " honeybun" or "darling".
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Originally posted by charlize:
Every time, your friend brings her boyrfriend along, call him "sweetie" or " honeybun" or "darling". -
i know how u feel...i called my bunch of friends to go out together one time and one of my galpal bring his BF along... -.- i mean...wats the deal of not telling us that u are bring an extra dude?Till now,she still bring him along everywhere she gos as long as its not a school activity....sian...
Just tell her not to bring her BF along... -
Why you highlight "honeybun" in bold?Originally posted by kaobeikaobu:
Not to your liking?
Can call him char siew pau if you want.
Nobody's stopping you. -
i dont mind go out with u when u invited ur girlpal.
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just tell her something like can u please tell me when u are bringing yr BF along. By saying so she will at least get the mesg that u dont really like a bf to come tagging along at every event.
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I think its perfectly okay to tell your friend you wish to meet for some 'girl-time' can or not? I think she will feel touched that you value the time spent with her ALONE and not with another tag along.
When my friends and I meet, we will either check with each other if the partners are going, occasionally warn and apologise if our partner is REALLy free and nothing to do and wish to tag along, OR make it very clear its a 'no partners event' Even now that we're mostly all married, if a friend needs time for GIRL talk, she tells me, and I tell the hubby it's a NO-HUSBY-OUTING. And he just needs to entertain himself. Same thing, if hubby goes for his malebonding thing, unless he specifically asks me, it simply isn't nice for me to tag along.
And as for those people who ask her to 'get a bf', i think it is probably coming from people who totally don't have this problem because they tag along with their partner all the time (Or think it is shiok to have their partner be someone with no life and always want to tag along) cos that isnt the issue at ALL. -
some guys like dat horOriginally posted by huiz:ask ur fren out for girly activities like window shopping & chit chating. make him bored til he dulan.
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sometimes ppl get their partners to tag along coz they want to spend time with them, n at the same time go out with their frens. kill 2 birds with one stone.
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jus tell your freind u wanna go out with her onlyOriginally posted by Jerina:My best galpal just got attached and I'm happy for her, really I am.
But the IRRITATING thing is that, whenever I ask her out to hang out, she'll ask him along. INITIALLY I was okay with it, coz her bf is also my friend and I like hanging out with him.
Now, my best galpal and I hardly go out one-on-one anymore...she'll usually ask him along when I ask her out.
I'm okay hanging out with her boyfriend, just not ALL the time, you know?
And I cant exactly tell her NOT to ask him along because it will hurt her since she loves the guy,obviously.
It's bloody irritating the hell out of me....HELP!
And I'm also irritated that the guy is spending too much time with me....coz it's as if he's dating both of us or something. *quite pissed* -
this thread still going on ar?
i recall the scripted conversation between the warrior monk and Feng (played by Ekin Cheng) in the movie Feng Yun as translated in English....
do not use all your force do not say all you think
if you give it your all destiny will prematurely end...
Feng recalls the wise warrior monk's words and after pairing up with Yun (played by Aron Kwok) defeating XiongBa driving him into insanity, Feng deflected the coupe de grace Yun was about to deal on the tyrant.
mayb the person with problem can reflect on these words and apply it in this situation...there are better things in life to explore and more friends out there to meet.......try auntie FI and the BBQ outings sure rock 1