wat will u do if u find out that..
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u are pregnant at the age of 18?
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Perhaps discuss with the other partner first?
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I'll try to keep the baby. Abortion will the the last option. Don't have to be married to that guy but he must give money for the baby.
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*holy shit*
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i dun think i will ever be pregant la
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I am not a gal but I dont suggest getting married for the sake of the baby.Originally posted by BaBy_JaP_WaWa:u are pregnant at the age of 18? -
my partner noes.. n i've always wanted to have a baby which i have not tested it yet.. i told him to be prepared for watever the outcome but if i were to really be pregnant how m i suppose to tell my family members.. n financially it would be a problem..
i will be happy if i noe i'm pregnant but i jus duno how to bring it out to my family members n his family members.. i'm not in gd relation with his side.. i dun talk to them.. n i dun like them.. -
Why dun U get a self-test kit and test it out 1st?Originally posted by BaBy_JaP_WaWa:my partner noes.. n i've always wanted to have a baby which i have not tested it yet.. i told him to be prepared for watever the outcome but if i were to really be pregnant how m i suppose to tell my family members.. n financially it would be a problem..
i will be happy if i noe i'm pregnant but i jus duno how to bring it out to my family members n his family members.. i'm not in gd relation with his side.. i dun talk to them.. n i dun like them..
I have seen females walk into pharmacies and just buy it like its the most normal thing to do...
U told him...what's his reaction? -
Married le ma? haven then y wan baby so fast?..Originally posted by BaBy_JaP_WaWa:my partner noes.. n i've always wanted to have a baby which i have not tested it yet.. i told him to be prepared for watever the outcome but if i were to really be pregnant how m i suppose to tell my family members.. n financially it would be a problem..
i will be happy if i noe i'm pregnant but i jus duno how to bring it out to my family members n his family members.. i'm not in gd relation with his side.. i dun talk to them.. n i dun like them..
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hey there dun worry,a new life is formed.its ur baby and both parties of parents should respect your decison if u want to keep the child.dun destroy that fragile that innocent life.cheers.
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if im not able to provide for the baby and give them a good life, i would suggest aborting it.
why bring them to this world and suffer?
give up for adoption? nah... i dun want 25 yrs later some stranger suddenly appear at my doorstep and tell me they are my children. -
i'm not embarrassed buying it cos i did buy test kits before and tested before.. it's nervewrecking to wait.. i will buy it when i have the money cos now i totally broke n not working..Originally posted by Xcert:Why dun U get a self-test kit and test it out 1st?
I have seen females walk into pharmacies and just buy it like its the most normal thing to do...
U told him...what's his reaction?
i told him ' wat if i'm pregnant will u be prepared to be a father? '
he replied ' i'm prepared '
but no matter wat happen i will try my best to keep it if i were to be pregnant.. -
if i were to be pregnant it would be an unplanned one..Originally posted by Qing^.^:Married le ma? haven then y wan baby so fast?..
we're not married.. -
Kind of agree with this. All parties will suffer if you're not ready financially and emotionally for parenthood. And don't get married just bec of the baby...don't marry at such a young age, anyway.Originally posted by digicharat:if im not able to provide for the baby and give them a good life, i would suggest aborting it.
why bring them to this world and suffer?
If abortion is not an option, there are girls' homes that can help teens to carry the pregnancy to full term and then decide whether to keep the baby or give up for adoption. -
are you all using any contraceptions in the first place?Originally posted by BaBy_JaP_WaWa:if i were to be pregnant it would be an unplanned one..
we're not married.. -
no.. tats y i suspect pregnancy..Originally posted by R3SsH|n:are you all using any contraceptions in the first place? -
is it because "da yi ma" is not coming?
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can't deal with pregnancy, whether alone or with your partner, then don't have unprotected sex. Its common sense.Originally posted by BaBy_JaP_WaWa:u are pregnant at the age of 18?
Its your perogative if you happen to have a baby. -
i guess people here like to digress. the question here is what will you do if you find out that you are pregnant at 18. obviously, this isn't the time to talk about contraceptives or what nots, but focus on discussing what to do/what will you do.
first and foremost, be moral. although being pregnant at the tender age of 18 is not very common, sometimes not even accepted in some cultures, you should still bear with the pains and hardship of having a baby in your womb for 9 months. why? the main reason is that the baby is yours and thus you have a responsibility towards it. a 3 year old is a human, so is a fetus. if one feels that one has to take care of a child for life, then the same sentiments should be applied to a fetus. like the 3 year old child, a fetus also has a heartbeat, so the option of an abortion is intrinsically no different from cruelly murdering an innocent young child.
keeping the baby is one thing, planning for his and your future is another. planning for his future involves deep thinking. you have to take into account the baby's possibility of not having a father and the effects of that, and the age difference between you and the baby in the years to come that will lead to friction. you also have to take into account you future. how will you be treated in future, how you plan to overcome the challenges posed by your familiy, the society (friends), and even your baby.
taking on such challenges as an 18 year old is, i believe, an uphill task. this is probably one of the reasons why abortion is so popular in the world. humans are intrinsically selfish, in that ultimately, everything is done for their self-interest. here, it is shown by many that if having a baby creates a problem, it is discarded. sadly but truly, these irresponsible parents make use of the fact that abortion is not legally wrong to take away the life of another in the name of convenience and "thinking about the future". no matter what advocates of such frivolous arguments say, such careless actions should be condemned.
to the audience out there, when faced with a question like what our dear BaBy_JaP_WaWa has posed, do not callously answer, "go for an abortion lah". abortion is not the solution. it will pacify your emotions temporarily, but think of the repercussions, the chronic psychological effects of this irreversible decision.
look into the mirror, and give someone else a life. -
OMGOriginally posted by BaBy_JaP_WaWa:u are pregnant at the age of 18? 18 yrs nia 
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I agree with the above. Dun becos some ppl or whatever things said that you cant abort the baby cos they have a choice if they want to be born. Thats bulls*it. They nv think that if you are unable to support the baby in the future, what can you do? Do you want ur child to hate you when they grow up to know that you cant support yourself, let alone them? There are already a lot of kids in the world who are suffering, dun add one more into it.Originally posted by digicharat:if im not able to provide for the baby and give them a good life, i would suggest aborting it.
why bring them to this world and suffer?
give up for adoption? nah... i dun want 25 yrs later some stranger suddenly appear at my doorstep and tell me they are my children.
A word of advise, if you want to do it, pls use protection, although its not 100%, its 99.98% safe, its better then nth. -
why would a child hate you for bringing him into this world? if you have tried your best to bring him up (which includes giving birth to him), he should be contended already. after all what's the best thing that can happen to you? it's being born, so that you can interact with the world, and let what happens happen to you.
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ya it didn't come..Originally posted by ^tamago^:is it because "da yi ma" is not coming?
wat i think abt abortion.. is that thats the worse thing in my mind.. althou it's easy to say 'i will go abort it' but have u ever think that u r killing ur own flesh n blood? some ppl wan to get pregnant also need help.. but if i were to concieve naturally y not keep it.. if i were to abort it can u guarantee that i will be able to concieve in the future? going for abort will decrease the chances of having a baby in the future..
i noe it would be hard cos i'm still young but if u can see ur baby grow up see their smiles their cries.. i'm not going for abortion cos i wan to give him/her a chance to live.. i'm not gonna kill the baby cos it's a creation of me n my love one.. after my child grow up tell him the entire process n make him learn..
abortion is so irresponsible.. financial problem can be solved abortion canot solve anything.. -
Each decision will reap it's own end.Originally posted by BaBy_JaP_WaWa:ya it didn't come..
wat i think abt abortion.. is that thats the worse thing in my mind.. althou it's easy to say 'i will go abort it' but have u ever think that u r killing ur own flesh n blood? some ppl wan to get pregnant also need help.. but if i were to concieve naturally y not keep it.. if i were to abort it can u guarantee that i will be able to concieve in the future? going for abort will decrease the chances of having a baby in the future..
i noe it would be hard cos i'm still young but if u can see ur baby grow up see their smiles their cries.. i'm not going for abortion cos i wan to give him/her a chance to live.. i'm not gonna kill the baby cos it's a creation of me n my love one.. after my child grow up tell him the entire process n make him learn..
abortion is so irresponsible.. financial problem can be solved abortion canot solve anything..
Non is right, and non is wrong as well.
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Ya, but have you think what will happen if they are unable to support the baby? Give up of adoption? As a parent, do you think they will want to give up their own flesh and blood? What you said its only for the 10 mths till the baby is born, but what about the rest of the 75 years that a human can live? have you think for that? You may think that ppl who support abortion here are only thinking of short term results, when in fact its for the long term results.Originally posted by jenn_y:i guess people here like to digress. the question here is what will you do if you find out that you are pregnant at 18. obviously, this isn't the time to talk about contraceptives or what nots, but focus on discussing what to do/what will you do.
first and foremost, be moral. although being pregnant at the tender age of 18 is not very common, sometimes not even accepted in some cultures, you should still bear with the pains and hardship of having a baby in your womb for 9 months. why? the main reason is that the baby is yours and thus you have a responsibility towards it. a 3 year old is a human, so is a fetus. if one feels that one has to take care of a child for life, then the same sentiments should be applied to a fetus. like the 3 year old child, a fetus also has a heartbeat, so the option of an abortion is intrinsically no different from cruelly murdering an innocent young child.
keeping the baby is one thing, planning for his and your future is another. planning for his future involves deep thinking. you have to take into account the baby's possibility of not having a father and the effects of that, and the age difference between you and the baby in the years to come that will lead to friction. you also have to take into account you future. how will you be treated in future, how you plan to overcome the challenges posed by your familiy, the society (friends), and even your baby.
taking on such challenges as an 18 year old is, i believe, an uphill task. this is probably one of the reasons why abortion is so popular in the world. humans are intrinsically selfish, in that ultimately, everything is done for their self-interest. here, it is shown by many that if having a baby creates a problem, it is discarded. sadly but truly, these irresponsible parents make use of the fact that abortion is not legally wrong to take away the life of another in the name of convenience and "thinking about the future". no matter what advocates of such frivolous arguments say, such careless actions should be condemned.
to the audience out there, when faced with a question like what our dear BaBy_JaP_WaWa has posed, do not callously answer, "go for an abortion lah". abortion is not the solution. it will pacify your emotions temporarily, but think of the repercussions, the chronic psychological effects of this irreversible decision.
look into the mirror, and give someone else a life.
In the animal world, some animals will eat their own young who they think they cant survive in the harsh world, so that those stronger ones are able to survive. Thats is the no 1 rule in surviving.
You said about planning for father, mother and the baby involve a lot of challenges. I post the 1st challenge, where will you find money to buy milk and other baby stuff? BaBy_JaP_WaWa said she is not working so there is no income, and since she said she is not on gd terms with her bf family, so dun put much hope on there. Not sure how old is her bf, but I guess he is still in NS or studying, so no income there too. Ask help from own family, ya, but how long can you ask them to help?
There are no right or wrong in here, my 2 cents worth