is it true that..

• papercut87

  22 Apr 06, 13:35

  the deeper u love the person, the more you'll hate him/her once he/she dumps you (or does anything to hurt you)? heard dis fr somewhere.
  
  what are your views?
• ^tamago^

  22 Apr 06, 13:39

  true.....
  
  u jus broke up ah....
• ditzy

  22 Apr 06, 13:40

  Dunno, got to ask Jay Chou about that.
• papercut87

  22 Apr 06, 13:41

  haha no lah... was just chatting with my buddy abt this.. she thinks its liddat also..
• papercut87

  22 Apr 06, 13:42

  Originally posted by ditzy:

  Dunno, got to ask Jay Chou about that.

  why jay chou..? hahaha *blur*
• ditzy

  22 Apr 06, 13:44

  Originally posted by papercut87:

  haha no lah... was just chatting with my buddy abt this.. she thinks its liddat also..

  Your buddy doesn't want to get into a long talk with you, easiest is to just agree with you.
• papercut87

  22 Apr 06, 13:46

  Originally posted by ditzy:

  Your buddy doesn't want to get into a long talk with you, easiest is to just agree with you.

  nah its not like that... either way we'll still end up discussing
• wenyong90

  22 Apr 06, 13:52

  depands on what u think,if u are reasonable enough,u wont hate her if u break up with her...
• ^tamago^

  22 Apr 06, 13:52

  papercut got bf? or ex?
• papercut87

  22 Apr 06, 14:12

  Originally posted by ^tamago^:

  papercut got bf? or ex?

  excuse me we're trying to engage in a general discussion. no personal attacks ok
• rainee

  22 Apr 06, 14:15

  after a while, i will just let it go...no point hating someone...in the end it will just hurt yourself
  
  hatred is a doubled-edged sword...
  
  it doesn't mean I will forget abt it..but no hatred...i will just ignore him from then on...
  
  being neutral is often a more powerful state to be in than to hate someone
• ditzy

  22 Apr 06, 15:52

  Originally posted by papercut87:

  excuse me we're trying to engage in a general discussion. no personal attacks ok

  He's trying to sian you.
• SGpork

  22 Apr 06, 15:53

  
• browniebaobao

  22 Apr 06, 15:55

  no la.. hate also muz have reason..
  
  actually, the more u love a person, the more u dun want to hate him.
  
  but if i really hate my ex, he must have hurt me very very deep.
• papercut87

  22 Apr 06, 16:02

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  no la.. hate also muz have reason..
  
  actually, the more u love a person, the more u dun want to hate him.
  
  but if i really hate my ex, he must have hurt me very very deep.

  agree i have a friend whose bf hurt her alot of times (eg. two-timing).. but she juz cant seem to break up with him n her reason is becoz she just cant bring herself to hate him.. cos she loves him alot.
• rainee

  22 Apr 06, 16:04

  Originally posted by papercut87:

  agree i have a friend whose bf hurt her alot of times (eg. two-timing).. but she juz cant seem to break up with him n her reason is becoz she just cant bring herself to hate him.. cos she loves him alot.

  break up doesnt mean need to hate le ma...can just become neutral or remain frens, up to her
• papercut87

  22 Apr 06, 16:07

  i personally think that the neutral feeling you mentioned earlier is only possible with time.. after all the wounds are healed.
• rainee

  22 Apr 06, 16:09

  Originally posted by papercut87:

  i personally think that the neutral feeling you mentioned earlier is only possible with time.. after all the wounds are healed.

  or after you have found someone better ba
  
  but yea i guess every wound needs time to heal it no?
• FadeToBlack

  22 Apr 06, 16:10

  its true to some extent...
  
  but see lah... a more mature person will not hate... for what rite?
• papercut87

  22 Apr 06, 16:12

  so how wld a matured person handle such feelings?
• ^tamago^

  22 Apr 06, 16:12

  Originally posted by papercut87:

  excuse me we're trying to engage in a general discussion. no personal attacks ok

  haha, no lah, just wan to noe if u had a prior experience tat might have shaped ur views.
• ^tamago^

  22 Apr 06, 16:14

  maybe it's like, they'll see it as a lesson learnt, or an experience, or part of life, or that she/he is also a human, no use getting each other into hate each other and stuff...
• browniebaobao

  22 Apr 06, 16:17

  Originally posted by FadeToBlack:

  its true to some extent...
  
  but see lah... a more mature person will not hate... for what rite?

  mature or not, we are all humans.
  
  i think it depends on the situation and individual.
  
  let's say a girl was raped by her bf.
  
  will u say she is not matured if she hates him?
• rebound

  22 Apr 06, 16:47

  Originally posted by papercut87:

  the deeper u love the person, the more you'll hate him/her once he/she dumps you (or does anything to hurt you)? heard dis fr somewhere.
  
  what are your views?

  if the person u love alot cheat on u or do something bad may b or else dun think so
• FadeToBlack

  22 Apr 06, 21:37

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  mature or not, we are all humans.
  
  i think it depends on the situation and individual.
  
  let's say a girl was raped by her bf.
  
  will u say she is not matured if she hates him?

  rape by bf?
  one must understand that, whatever we do, whatever choices we make in life, we, ourselves bear the unforseen consqeunces.
  if she make a rapist her bf, it's her choice and not mature enough to take more steps like understanding her bf.
  
  Yes, of course she will hate him. But who is at fault? It's either both party's fault or none. It takes 2 hands to clap.