what a way to lose a friend...
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sigh...i don't know where to start...i was on my honeymoon trip the whole of last week, but one of my platoon mate/friends passed away on the second day of the trip...
it all began about 2 weeks before my wedding...i had called alvin asking if he has received my wedding invitation...he joked that he has received 2, one from mindef to receive an order for failing to report for ippt, and the other one from me...then, just 4 days before my wedding...on the 3rd of oct...i received a call from my friend's wife, saying that he has met with an accident, and thus, would not be attending my wedding...i let out a loud "huh?!" and asked if it was serious, she replied that it was quite serious and then asked me how to go about informing mindef...i gave her some numbers and wished her all the best...then, i started smsing our friends about the bad news...
apparantly, alvin fell from a truck while helping a friend unloading goods and hit head first onto the ground...he was rushed to the hospital, and operations were done to remove clots on his brain...immediately that nite, our NS platoon sgt went to visit him...and updated us on his condition...critical, but stable...the next day, more of platoon mates visited him, but not me...i badly wanted to, but was told not to, just in case it jinxed my marriage... -
thats fucked up.
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Oh dear. Thats totally bad.
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mi condolence
losing a loved one is hard... -
so u didnt go visit a friend in need in case it jinxed ur marriage? ur a bad friend
.... theres no jinx to go visit sick friends!!!!!! -
and on my wedding day, though i was busy and supposed to be happy, my mind would automatically think of alvin, and hoping he would pull thru...and during the dinner, i caught up with those who had visited him, and asked for updates...his head was swollen so bad, they almost couldn't recognise him...
and then on monday, i flew off for my honeymoon...it was a trip my wife and i looked forward to...we were happily shopping on the streets of hong kong, until i received an sms from another friend..."those who have yet to visit alvin, pls do so asap. doctor say it's not lookind good"...and this "just visited alvin again...asked about his condition, but nurse would not comment..."and more of those until i received a call..."they're pulling the plug off the life support tomorrow nite..."
my jaw dropped...how could this be? he's only 32! he's my age! memories started flooding my mind...our army days, in taiwan...reservist...and his birthday is just 1 day before mine...and on thursday nite, i received this message "alvin has left us peacefully at 11.25pm"...i had mixed feelings...on one hand, i'm on my honeymoon trip, on the other, i just lost a friend...i was so helpless...i told my friend i couldn't make it to the wake, and asked him to send my deepest condolence on my behalf to his wife...
if you can read this, Alvin Lee, i know you'd rather be at my wedding than lying there on the hospital bed...I was looking forward to seeing you again, and we were supposed to have fun during our coming incamp...but all these will never happen again...all that i have left are the memories of your laughter and those fotos we took together...Rest In Peace, my brother... -
there's something you wouldn't understand...my wife's cousin is a medium and he warned me about the consequences...esp since it's so close to my wedding day...and i don't want to make anymore excuses...i'm feeling bad enough about it already...thanks for not making it any better...the world needs more ppl like you...Originally posted by mikecola:so u didnt go visit a friend in need in case it jinxed ur marriage? ur a bad friend
.... theres no jinx to go visit sick friends!!!!!! -
there there...Originally posted by Schwing:there's something you wouldn't understand...my wife's cousin is a medium and he warned me about the consequences...esp since it's so close to my wedding day...and i don't want to make anymore excuses...i'm feeling bad enough about it already...thanks for not making it any better...the world needs more ppl like you...
now you cannot do anything else. except just enjoy and spend time with your new wife.
if everything is ok... go and visit his grave and pay your respect as a friend. and also hold a gathering with your mates to honour him. im sure you nor he wouldnt want this to happen. -
please dont pay attention to jerks...Originally posted by Schwing:there's something you wouldn't understand...my wife's cousin is a medium and he warned me about the consequences...esp since it's so close to my wedding day...and i don't want to make anymore excuses...i'm feeling bad enough about it already...thanks for not making it any better...the world needs more ppl like you...
im sure you never expected that and its not your fault either...
hope u feel better soon -
i think a visit to pay my respect is the least i could do...my friends all understand my situation, and i know Alvin would too...Originally posted by mhcampboy:there there...
now you cannot do anything else. except just enjoy and spend time with your new wife.
if everything is ok... go and visit his grave and pay your respect as a friend. and also hold a gathering with your mates to honour him. im sure you nor he wouldnt want this to happen. -
i'm feeling kinda weird, cos i just came back from honeymoon, and i lost a friend while i was there...talk about mixed feelings...Originally posted by udontknowme:please dont pay attention to jerks...
im sure you never expected that and its not your fault either...
hope u feel better soon
incamps will never be the same without my dear old friend... -
Originally posted by Schwing:i'm feeling kinda weird, cos i just came back from honeymoon, and i lost a friend while i was there...talk about mixed feelings...
incamps will never be the same without my dear old friend...
i know how that feels...well...sort of...
but you will get over it. you will.
just remember that you are NOT at fault. -
Oh, this is so sad. Sorry to hear/read but please don't feel bad. I think your friend will know that you are/were with him in spirit.
To Alvin, RIP. -
i'm not blaming myself, for i know alvin wouldn't...it's just sad to lose a friend this way...and he's 32, mind you, at the prime of his life! makes me realise even more that life can be so brittle...one moment, you're fine and dandy, next, you're in the hospital, fighting for your life and when they pull the plug on you, you're dead...Originally posted by udontknowme:
i know how that feels...well...sort of...
but you will get over it. you will.
just remember that you are NOT at fault. -
Sorry to hear about your friend. You shouldn't need to have any regrets for not visiting your friend.... I believe your friend would understand your predicament.Originally posted by Schwing:sigh...i don't know where to start...i was on my honeymoon trip the whole of last week, but one of my platoon mate/friends passed away on the second day of the trip...
it all began about 2 weeks before my wedding...i had called alvin asking if he has received my wedding invitation...he joked that he has received 2, one from mindef to receive an order for failing to report for ippt, and the other one from me...then, just 4 days before my wedding...on the 3rd of oct...i received a call from my friend's wife, saying that he has met with an accident, and thus, would not be attending my wedding...i let out a loud "huh?!" and asked if it was serious, she replied that it was quite serious and then asked me how to go about informing mindef...i gave her some numbers and wished her all the best...then, i started smsing our friends about the bad news...
apparantly, alvin fell from a truck while helping a friend unloading goods and hit head first onto the ground...he was rushed to the hospital, and operations were done to remove clots on his brain...immediately that nite, our NS platoon sgt went to visit him...and updated us on his condition...critical, but stable...the next day, more of platoon mates visited him, but not me...i badly wanted to, but was told not to, just in case it jinxed my marriage...
Just enjoy your honeymoon and your married life (don't think your deceased friend would want you to be unhappy on your honeymoon because of him). Perhaps, when you get back from your honeymoon, try to check on your deceased friend's wife and see if there's anything you can help. She'll need lots of support during this time. I believe that's the best thing you can do for your friend.
Just be sensitive though, as she may want time and space to grieve alone.
Congratulations on your marriage! Enjoy your new life together.
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deepest condolences to your friend.
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life is relli unexpected
i have frens who left us just like tt
rber to treasure ur family and frens when they are stll around.........
and by the way, congratz......and why no invite me?
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RIP
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that is why we all need to learn NOT to take anything for granted ...Originally posted by Schwing:...and he's 32, mind you, at the prime of his life! makes me realise even more that life can be so brittle...
one moment, you're fine and dandy, next, you're in the hospital, fighting for your life and when they pull the plug on you, you're dead...
treasure those around us every day -
rip..
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was choked wif emotions when readind it.
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BAd timing.
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treasure the pple around coz when that time comes u wished you had done so
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sigh...i wish i could...the fact is, out of the 40 tables, i only had 4 to myself...21 went to my dad in law, 4 for my wife, and the rest for family and relatives...even my colleagues were not invited...Originally posted by FireIce:and by the way, congratz......and why no invite me?
next time see you i buy you a drink lah...or i intro one hairy chest guy for you...if that is still your fetish... -
i guess there is no good timing when it comes to death...Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:BAd timing.