What's Wrong with the older Generation
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Just last night I had to have dinner at my wife's grandmother's place. Believe me I never liked to go there.
Its inhabitants the grand pa and ma, and 50+ aunt that is not married ever, and a 40+ uncle. Going there makes me feel so old.
What ever it is I got in to a slight disagreement with the Aunt. As my Cousin-in-Law is getting married and "The Aunt" told me what I must address the Cousin-in-Law's wife as. And of course I said huh????? and WTF in my heart. And explain if the person is a generation above or older we should give them the respect and greet them the title they deserve like Aunt, Uncle and grandma and so on... So I would just call my cousin in law and his wife by name as we are in the same generation and its not needed and both of us would feel so awkward if i were to do so. So i rebark that their favorite boy the family my wife's younger brother (a brat and Spoilt brat by "the Aunt " and grandmother) also never call me by my title "Brother in Law" and do you know what they replied "he's still young"
Do you think 21 years old is still considered young, finish NS still need "the Aunt" and grandmother to scoop rice and other food for him during meals and wash his plates after that and also do his laundry for him weekly.
I think the older generation perception of respect is totally wrong and its subjective to their likings.
Whould you all agree with me? What "the Aunt" said is totally rubbish as she didn't ask my "young" bro-in-law to greet me with the title its not that I want it. Its that I don't like it when they say its a tradition that its a must. Almost felt like saying to "the Aunt" up yours you old hag. You should stay in the 70's it fits your mentallity perfectly.
On another occasion "the Aunt" complain that we must increase the household payment to them as I am going there to eat and its not enough.
Let me explain, my mother in law gives 300 to them and only the "Brat" goes there to eat everyday. Me and my wife gives 100 and I go there like once or twice per week. The reason why the money is not enough is because the grand mother would buy snowfish like a small piece for $18-$20 for the brat to eat. Where as me and my wife would always be the last to eat, therefore eat the left overs. Its totally stupid and nonsense for "the Aunt" to claim more from me.
Than it came down to the grandmother. Telling us we must give more Ang Pao to the Cousin-in-law for the wedding. Then I was thinking to myself WTF when I got married they never give a cent to me because they were not married and now I must give more.
That's why I'm so fed up of this place, these type of tradition shit is too much for me to handle there fore lucky me my application to migrate is approved and I'm getting the F**k out of this place in 3-4 months.
I hope you people are more lucky than me and your in-laws don't suck like them. Anyway Peace, Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year in 1 months time.
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wah..so long..can summarize or nt?
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You come here to read or complain.
If i write shorter you complain too short don't understand, I write too long you say summarise...
I short "older generation" too traditional
I hate my "Aunt-in-Law" Dislike my bro-in-law disagree with my grandmother in law. And I'm moving away from Singapore to Canada
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snowfish is codfish rite?
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good riddance.
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Bye bye.... need not write back..... when in Canada, if you face more problem.... feel free to move away again. I'm SURE it will solve ALL your problem.......
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traditional chinese respect is really like too arrogant.
respect shld be earned, u cannot jus expect respect. -
Yes, snowfish is cod fillet.. anyway yr snowfish is too expensive.. i tot older generations know better?
Funny that you and yr wife go eat outside more cheaper.. altogether yr family gave 400 dollars for meals.. when i only gave 200 for meals to my family. And cant yr wife cook on weekends??
Anyway that brat goes into NS he will suffer inconsiderably..
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And u stop whinning cause if you go CaNADA, you ae going to die of cold from winter and deprive yrself of homecooked chinese food.
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they says that marriage dosen concern u and ur wife alone.. it concern the whole family.. since u are married with your wife, u should accept her whole family too.
i noe ur wife's relatives are rather ridiculous.. i do feel irritated by these titles and status too.. but no choice, accept it, be happy and take it easy rather than pulling the whole face and complaining every time..
if i were u, since i cun make myself to accept them, maybe i should jus stay away from them, avoid visiting them or go to their hse for dinner often.. -
For your information i stayed there for 6 month before for work and Its definately better there. I'm sure u wouldn't not be able to understand my troubles and i don't expect someone with your mentality to understandOriginally posted by hloc:Bye bye.... need not write back..... when in Canada, if you face more problem.... feel free to move away again. I'm SURE it will solve ALL your problem....... -
ok bye bye...dun come bk horOriginally posted by IronBandit:You come here to read or complain.
If i write shorter you complain too short don't understand, I write too long you say summarise...
I short "older generation" too traditional
I hate my "Aunt-in-Law" Dislike my bro-in-law disagree with my grandmother in law. And I'm moving away from Singapore to Canada
Short enough?
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Yeah told them before already but they refuse to listen and expect us to listen to them.Originally posted by Urroh:Yes, snowfish is cod fillet.. anyway yr snowfish is too expensive.. i tot older generations know better?
Funny that you and yr wife go eat outside more cheaper.. altogether yr family gave 400 dollars for meals.. when i only gave 200 for meals to my family. And cant yr wife cook on weekends??
Anyway that brat goes into NS he will suffer inconsiderably.. .
And u stop whinning cause if you go CaNADA, you ae going to die of cold from winter and deprive yrself of homecooked chinese food.
Now we try not to go there for dinner but still give the money WTF we cook most of the dinner ourselves even on week days.
As for the brat he went through NS and still is like that didn't seem he suffered that much during NS...
I don't think i'll die there I'm well prepared for it -
Whatever retard... even if I come back also none of your concern retard! SG is not yours .... ha ha haOriginally posted by kaobeikaobu:ok bye bye...dun come bk hor -
Totally agree with you man +1 for youOriginally posted by The man who was death:traditional chinese respect is really like too arrogant.
respect shld be earned, u cannot jus expect respect. -
retard says who..quick..too slowOriginally posted by IronBandit:Whatever retard... even if I come back also none of your concern retard! SG is not yours .... ha ha ha -
If you say so retardOriginally posted by kaobeikaobu:retard says who..quick..too slow -
wahhaha...hiak hiak hiak...Originally posted by IronBandit:If you say so retard
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i feel sorry for TS's wife's family. Tsk.
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All i can tell you is: "One day you will get old too."
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oh! now i understand whats going on...Originally posted by IronBandit:You come here to read or complain.
If i write shorter you complain too short don't understand, I write too long you say summarise...
I short "older generation" too traditional
I hate my "Aunt-in-Law" Dislike my bro-in-law disagree with my grandmother in law. And I'm moving away from Singapore to Canada
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Who on earth is TS?Originally posted by Ito_^:i feel sorry for TS's wife's family. Tsk. -
threadstarter. you.Originally posted by IronBandit:Who on earth is TS? -
TS = Thread Starter.
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I have to agree with you on that note but I'll not be that changed to that extend of what I've been throughOriginally posted by mochou:All i can tell you is: "One day you will get old too." -
And why do you need to feel sorry for my wife... to tell you the truth my wife dislike their ways of doing things as well.Originally posted by Ito_^:threadstarter. you.
As they are hypocrits say one thing do another thing. The only times their rules are to their favour.
You should have save some sorry for the TS man...