How to make friend pay money back??
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I was once counseled by a wise old man that, you lend only what you can afford to lose.
therefore in deciding whether to lend or not, you always do so on the basis that you will never see a single cent back. See it as no different from giving, therefore your decision tree should be :
1) can I afford to lose $XXX; if so,
2) is the "borrower" worthy of a $XXX gift from me.
That way you mentally prepare yourself to lose everthing and you never lend more than you can afford to lose. The same principles are applied in banking.
So remember, never lend only give. Happy giving. -
Ask her can you borrow $$$ from her to buy a certain thing. If she rejects, the next time she ask you for $$$, you said you still not enough $$$ to buy the previous stuffs. If she ask why, gently remind her of the $$$ you lent her which causes you to have insufficient $$$ to buy the thing you want.Originally posted by Jerina:Yar, but i'm sure you wont like it if someone treats you like some kinda debit card. Borrowers shld have basic courtesy to return stuff they borrowed, i think.
Besides, how wld you know if your friend is merely being careless or taking advantage of you???
IF she said the item you are buying is not important, then take note of that and reply her the next time she ask $$$ from you. -
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Easy - you just have to say the same thing first before she does !Originally posted by Jerina:Haha.
Btw, it's difficult to say no when she says stuff like, 'Can you pay for my drink first? I'll pay back later.' And 'later' never comes!!!!! -
at times sure will b pai sehz one. but depends on how u see the F/S..
if its realli a rotten frend, go ask back the money !!!!!!
i personally not so ge gao over $$$$ . (even though now i still owe ppl $$ )
at least i remember who i owe rite ?
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your are in the same situation as me. but im probably worse, my friend is gonna to migrate and my 60 bucks will most prob fly away with her.
Maybe sent her a msg like what im planning to do. Oh, does she have any of her property in your hands? If have, super easy. Balckmail. -
$60 only...?Originally posted by TYING:your are in the same situation as me. but im probably worse, my friend is gonna to migrate and my 60 bucks will most prob fly away with her.
Maybe sent her a msg like what im planning to do. Oh, does she have any of her property in your hands? If have, super easy. Balckmail.
I lent $300++ bucks and I dun expect any returns. -
no.Originally posted by Jerina:Haha.
Btw, it's difficult to say no when she says stuff like, 'Can you pay for my drink first? I'll pay back later.' And 'later' never comes!!!!!
typical singaporeans live a sad life with virtual friends. -
I think its not abt the $$.. itss abt u take the person as a good frend, but its like he\she is takin advaantage of u like tat.. majam a kuku birds.. let thm shoot..
lifes kinda hard !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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60 bucks still $$$ leh. im still a student with no income lor...Originally posted by Bontakun:$60 only...?
I lent $300++ bucks and I dun expect any returns.
and you better hunt tt friend of yours down, 300++ bucks can do a lot things with it lor.
You first get back the money maybe using unorthodox methods then make him vanish from your life forever... -
can i borrow 300$ exclusive gst?Originally posted by Bontakun:$60 only...?
I lent $300++ bucks and I dun expect any returns. -
No need. They got helped me in other ways $$$ can never pay enuf.Originally posted by TYING:60 bucks still $$$ leh. im still a student with no income lor...
and you better hunt tt friend of yours down, 300++ bucks can do a lot things with it lor.
You first get back the money maybe using unorthodox methods then make him vanish from your life forever...
David arh... I dunno you. So no lend to you.
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unless u have kept track of how much she borrow i dun think there is any point getting it back now.
next time say u dun have so much with u lor. hide ur money in secret compartment in wallets if she need evidence -
if bo bian right call her parent might help
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make her sign iou the next time she tries to borrow money from you.
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I've found you can get people to agree to almost anything under torture.Originally posted by bozo43:I was once counseled by a wise old man that, you lend only what you can afford to lose.
therefore in deciding whether to lend or not, you always do so on the basis that you will never see a single cent back. See it as no different from giving, therefore your decision tree should be :
1) can I afford to lose $XXX; if so,
2) is the "borrower" worthy of a $XXX gift from me.
That way you mentally prepare yourself to lose everthing and you never lend more than you can afford to lose. The same principles are applied in banking.
So remember, never lend only give. Happy giving.
Hope this helps. -
normally works broOriginally posted by scabstermooch:I've found you can get people to agree to almost anything under torture.
Hope this helps. -
If u are willing to lend someone money, u must be prepared to write off in case the person don't want to return you. You sometimes cant trust people 100%
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Sometimes I dont know if she genuinely forgets or takes advantage of me. I try to avoid lending her ANYTHING at all, but sometimes cannot be avoided.
Why cannot avoid? She let u see her drain ah?
Stop borrowing her lah. Tell her u also short of money and begin to borrow from her till you get back the amount of money she own u. Good friend somemore, cannot pig head or put lock. 
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When in doubt, kung fu her ass:
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Stop lending it to her.. maybe she a money sucker.. borrow and borrow.. stop lending her and chase her.. then she learnt her lesson..
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i dunnoe, but i dun wanna mix with his type.Originally posted by Jerina:Yar, but i'm sure you wont like it if someone treats you like some kinda debit card. Borrowers shld have basic courtesy to return stuff they borrowed, i think.
Besides, how wld you know if your friend is merely being careless or taking advantage of you???
he wanted to buy something den i searched for him, found it, den he said, he say say only and he wld pay for it anyways. but ended up avoiding me for weeks. still dare to say "10 dollars only wad, u wan $10 give u la!"
so i told him keep his money and fuk off.
pui!
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like that still
call good friend -
Just start by not lending any money to your "friend". For all the money you have lent and not got back a cent, just treat it as 'school fees' for a lesson learn - You SEE what kindof "friend" you have........ Wisen up!
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Oh, I so adore you!Originally posted by bozo43:I was once counseled by a wise old man that, you lend only what you can afford to lose.
therefore in deciding whether to lend or not, you always do so on the basis that you will never see a single cent back. See it as no different from giving, therefore your decision tree should be :
1) can I afford to lose $XXX; if so,
2) is the "borrower" worthy of a $XXX gift from me.
That way you mentally prepare yourself to lose everthing and you never lend more than you can afford to lose. The same principles are applied in banking.
So remember, never lend only give. Happy giving.