Why married when don't want kids.....??

• digicharat

  29 Jan 07, 19:28

  have kids for what?
  got money? got time? got energy?
  tell the government to shove their incentives up their... just get more ft in to replace the aging population lor.
• NeverSayGoodBye

  30 Jan 07, 10:38

  Originally posted by ShutterBug:

  I rather feed and grow my bank accounts than try to raise kids in Singapore.
  
  Here's why:
  
  >> I hate the education system here, period. Doing it my way, will mean overseas education all the way, but that will be expensive.
  >> If I have a son; he will be obligated by nationality to serve NS much of his life, and in the end his career here will be impeded by the many foreigners here who DO NOT serve NS. Getting a better career would mean going overseas, which is quite LPPL - i might as well migrate and have a son abroad.
  >> if I get a daughter; she might very likely be attracted to a foreigner and fly away eventually
  >> and in decades into the future, general costs of living will be exorbitant, considering that GST might very well be over 10%! Effects of globalization can potentially mean a meaninglessly tough living just because our go wants to make more money
  
  As such, I'd rather bank on lots and lots of money, which will take care of me and my wife when we retire elsewhere. I'm gonna demand all our CPF back.
  
  And tell em to shove it!
  
  

  ..... don't you think you are making decision for your kids when they are not even born yet?
• NeverSayGoodBye

  30 Jan 07, 10:39

  Originally posted by rane:

  aiyo, neversaygoodbye, gan kai dian lah!!! To each his/her own mah! Depends on the purpose of them getting married. Some marry to have companion, some marry to have their own family- to give birth!! Whether to have kids or not for the married ones, think the difference between cohabiting and marriage is - we all know, marriage is registered, it is legal!
  
  Some wanna have kids, but have problems conceiving, so we can't just blah blah blah, gotta look at situation mah! some wanna have kids but don't want to give birth so soon. So . . . . . . .. ... gan kai, gan kai!!! It's their life!!!!

  ..... Ok ok i gan kai liao
• Agenda

  30 Jan 07, 10:40

  2 kids at most.. unless after the 2.. suay suay hit the jackpot again
• choco B

  30 Jan 07, 10:41

  This is an assumption you make for yourself, not everyone holds same view
  

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  After all to marry is to have a proper family unit, so without kids somehow it looks incomplete........

• NeverSayGoodBye

  30 Jan 07, 10:43

  Originally posted by the_don:

  my personal opinion is marriage is not about kids.
  
  marriage is about putting on paper a commitment between 2 people. a promise to love and hold each other, in sickness, in health, in rich, in poor, in faithfulness til death do them part. kids are a bonus, an addition joy, an addition blessing to a family. if you don't have/can't have kids, you are still a family and still have joy.
  
  the difference between marriage and co-habitation? a piece of legal paper. you can co-habitated and have the same promise. personally i feel that if you and your other half can make this promise, you should also legalized it to protect each other (and your future kids).

  ..... i believed marriage is not about a piece of legalise paper, it is about commitment to share each and other life together. If there is no commitment a paper is just a paper.
• NeverSayGoodBye

  30 Jan 07, 10:47

  Originally posted by digicharat:

  have kids for what?
  got money? got time? got energy?
  tell the government to shove their incentives up their... just get more ft in to replace the aging population lor.

  ..... there are so many homeless children and ophans in the world, if the goverment can bring in so many FT, why can't they bring in all these children into singapore and place them up for adoption?
• NeverSayGoodBye

  30 Jan 07, 10:50

  Originally posted by Agenda:

  2 kids at most.. unless after the 2.. suay suay hit the jackpot again

  ..... one kid already complain so much liao, sometime i don't understand why couple want to have kid, and when they have them, they complain so much this and that, must as well don't give birth.
• Ito_^

  30 Jan 07, 10:51

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  ..... there are so many homeless children and ophans in the world, if the goverment can bring in so many FT, why can't they bring in all these children into singapore and place them up for adoption?

  Singapore, Global Children Adoption Hub.
• noahnoah

  30 Jan 07, 10:53

  
  To me,
  
  If no money ,better dun hav baby lor
  
  I ever see children want to eat a good meal or
  
  buy toy, mother just say no money Lar
  
  i mean if want to have children , make sure give
  
  them best , dun bring them into this world
  
  and make them suffer without a proper good life
• NeverSayGoodBye

  30 Jan 07, 10:53

  Originally posted by choco B:

  This is an assumption you make for yourself, not everyone holds same view
  

  ..... i assumed you have married friends who prefer not to have kids? May i know what's their reasons?
• NeverSayGoodBye

  30 Jan 07, 10:55

  Originally posted by Ito_^:

  Singapore, Global Children Adoption Hub.

  ..... I shall put you as Minister-in-charge
• Agenda

  30 Jan 07, 11:00

  I'm not very fond of kids leh.. Maybe because last time when young, Whenever I go my grandma house..
  
  Always always kena bullied by my cousins, I still remembered once they took like 10 packs of bomb bags and stuffed it into my back..
  
  Til now, I don't like hanging at my grandma house, So I'm not very good with my cousins except for my same age cousin and his bigger bro..
  
  Anyway, My grandma very biased 1.. Now my cousin in NS, Always specially cook tonic for him, Last time my brother in NS don't even get such treatment..
  
  Then can sense that she don't like me and my mother, probably because I look more like my mum
  
  Then always got chance talk bad about me 1.. Say I always play computer 24/7 no life etc..
  
  My mother side 1 better, All the cousins very matured.. And my aunties all very nice 1
• choco B

  30 Jan 07, 11:01

  One of the reason is because to them a couple is already a family unit, they do not require children to form a complete family unit.

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  ..... i assumed you have married friends who prefer not to have kids? May i know what's their reasons?

• rane

  30 Jan 07, 11:16

  aiyo, it's their life lah, whether they wanna have kids or not. It is so futile to talk about it!
  
  I know of people who wanna have more kids (they already have kids), but can't afford it. REason quoted by them, the cost of living here is very high, they can just manage to make ends meet, no extra for any new baby!!! With those perks from govt is not enough!!!!
• Urroh

  30 Jan 07, 11:40

  Having kids make a complete family. If you never have kids, aint you missing out on something?
  
  When you are old as a couple.. you had travelled to so many places like Japan, Hong kong and China or even USA or Europe, each continents for over 10 times in 30 years. Aint you gonna get sick of other countries or travelling?
  
  When you are old as a couple, are you gonna come home and see yr wife and you in a house that empty of laughter and sounds? You mean SG couples like to stare at each other till they are old and dead?
  
  Although having kids is tough cause of the costs, the challenge of bring them up as good citizens, fillal and responsible is what a parent will be proud of.
  
  So what if you are rich, hav damn lots of assets like cars/ condos and all the 5Cs.. you see parents with kids so happily together.. you will feel lonely too.
  Anyway i can see most parents take pride in bring their kids up.
  
  I am father of a baby boy and i see my family enjoying travels/fun/laughters/company and love and also grandchildrens when i am old.
  
  So having kids make yr life more meaningful. I doubt those views above are really the views of unmarried couples. I know alot of couples planning or already have kids. Why adopt when you can have yr own? Aint the costs are the same?
  
  Think about it..
  
  
• cAr|n

  30 Jan 07, 11:47

  Originally posted by Urroh:

  Having kids make a complete family. If you never have kids, aint you missing out on something?
  
  When you are old as a couple.. you had travelled to so many places like Japan, Hong kong and China or even USA or Europe, each continents for over 10 times in 30 years. Aint you gonna get sick of other countries or travelling?
  
  When you are old as a couple, are you gonna come home and see yr wife and you in a house that empty of laughter and sounds? You mean SG couples like to stare at each other till they are old and dead?
  
  Although having kids is tough cause of the costs, the challenge of bring them up as good citizens, fillal and responsible is what a parent will be proud of.
  
  So what if you are rich, hav damn lots of assets like cars/ condos and all the 5Cs.. you see parents with kids so happily together.. you will feel lonely too.
  Anyway i can see most parents take pride in bring their kids up.
  
  I am father of a baby boy and i see my family enjoying travels/fun/laughters/company and love and also grandchildrens when i am old.
  
  So having kids make yr life more meaningful. I doubt those views above are really the views of unmarried couples. I know alot of couples planning or already have kids. Why adopt when you can have yr own? Aint the costs are the same?
  
  Think about it..
  
  

  well-said! i agree
  
  i also think that kids motivate us to be better people and enhance our views on morality because we want to work hard to provide the best for our children and want to set good examples for them to follow
  
• Bontakun

  30 Jan 07, 11:52

  I like kids! But I am not prepared yet to have one...
• noahnoah

  30 Jan 07, 11:55

  
  
  So in summary
  
  If you want have kids , better marry someone
  
  share the same thoughts as you too
  
  or else sure will end up in cold war over
  
  "having kids issue"
• Bontakun

  30 Jan 07, 11:57

  Originally posted by noahnoah:

  So in summary
  
  If you want have kids , better marry someone
  
  share the same thoughts as you too
  
  or else sure will end up in cold war over
  
  "having kids issue"

  I more of tinking marrying not exactly equals to getting married. You know some married couple dun wan kids. Some married couple adopt kids. I only know there are many unmarried who have kids.