Trap in a bad relationship
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Every coin have two faces, maybe something good in that rotten
apple was shown to ur friend, so live with it.
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this is really ur two cents of advise.. i see some truth in wat you said..Originally posted by :I've read the psychological explanation to this peculiar situation:n It all has to do with how resistant we are to change.....
Because women detest change so much, they are resistant to the extent that they would rather tolerate with the abuse they are used to than move on to a cimpletely new situation they are unfamiliar with and feel insecure.....
Then also there is some truth in girls being attracted by bad guys because these girls find the regular guys BORING.......
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oh manx.. sounds like white rat conditioning...in the lab.Originally posted by the Bear:here's a theory.. it's about people remembering things that are out of the ordinary, and forgetting or being desensitised to what happens all the time...
the man who is good to the lady, his actions "desensitise" her to his goodness.. in a way, she takes his goodness for granted and expects that.. the baseline is set.. when he screws up just once, that one time he screws up will be remembered..
she will keep harping on it, thinking about that one incident, letting her imagination get the better of her.. until one day she decides that he doesn't love her anymore because that one incident is all she thinks about... so she cries bitterly and leaves him...
the man who is consistently bad to the lady, and his actions "desensitise" her and sets this crappy baseline... he does one thing good for her and it sticks out, she remembers that one thing and comes to a conclusion that he loves her.. and sticks by him no matter...
it works the other way too.. with a lady who is good and being left by the guy.. and the bad lady whose guy stays with her.. -
in many ways, it is.. isn't it?Originally posted by angel za:oh manx.. sounds like white rat conditioning...in the lab.
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+1 b4 i go work
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Unconsciously, they like such guys, so they just like to be like that, nothing you should do about it. If they really don't want to be in such a situation, there is nothing you need to do about, they will just choose not to be in such a situation in the first place. Ironic, wasn't it?Originally posted by angel za:Why some woman cannot get out of a bad relationship?Even though her partner has prove to be un-repentant. And she seem to dive into one after another bad r/s. No matter how you advise them, they sink anyway. There are also this bunch of woman who just take verbal and physical abuses in silence...they get molest or raped, they also kept their silences..and sink by themselves.
Why?! And how can we help them? -
Women are very nice people .they forgive people easily....
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Are u the one that trap into thsi form of relationship?
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well, after prolong exposure to these friends.. i have come to accept this characteristic as a type of mindset.. and as a friend.. i have to accept whatever they feel is right for themselves. and all i can do is stand by them.. in times when they are down..
but againz..
i hate to hear them whinning after a while.. its always the same old story. annoying!
So there is no way we could convince our friend to understand the big picture ya?
sad
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To TS,
you have your own life to lead, and since if you have advise your friend, and nothing could be done, the only way, we could do is be there for them when they need us
so
conclusion
what really matters, is your own welfare
love thy self -
Nothing you can help them !!!Originally posted by angel za:Why some woman cannot get out of a bad relationship?Even though her partner has prove to be un-repentant. And she seem to dive into one after another bad r/s. No matter how you advise them, they sink anyway. There are also this bunch of woman who just take verbal and physical abuses in silence...they get molest or raped, they also kept their silences..and sink by themselves.
Why?! And how can we help them?
In the first place - when she is trap ? she is not physically trap in cage or what , she can any time stop it. It is mental, she just keep telling herself she is trap - she is just trap by fear of the unknown. What will happen if she break the relationship. Sometime do not thing so much just take a step at a time, just walk out of the cage - that is step 1 . ... without step 1 , you will never know step 2 or 3. -
not all....some women can b worse esp in backstabbing, than guys...at least most guys talk it out straight, if not talk with their fist=pOriginally posted by hobochua:Women are very nice people .they forgive people easily.... -
Don't see when they're outside the guy like dominating lor, behind closed doors, you'll never know who's wearing the leash.
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Hmmm. Perhaps the ladies need to meet the so-called Mr Wrong before they meet their Mr Right.
Ladies should be protective of themselves, once they see the true colours of a jerk, DITCH HIM DUMP HIM. -
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advice is the easiest thing to listen and hardest to heed. if only we learn to understand more and experience less.
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nan ren bu huai, niu ren bu ai......
simple as that -
wadever u do, juz dun get into a r/s with stooky. later more clones appear
