testin my patience... still coping..
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1st weekend : Friend one comes to stay
2nd weekend: friend 2 comes to stay
this month: Boyfriend comes to stay.. and still staying..
next month: another 2 friends comin to stay for the weekend..
she asked me " they can stay right?"
i say " anithing"
she : can right?
i : anithing
she seldom talks to me. this is one of the times she does.
we are colleagues that happen to share the same apartment our company rented for us. 2 rooms, 1 kitchen, 1 toilet, 1 small living room. we jus got to know each other.
its nice meeting new pple.. i relai liked that.. but no when she plans everything and dun let me know/join..
I feel like an intruder. no privacy at all..
maybe it dun sound bad that her bf is stayin tog. bt our apartment is so small, dinner time all 3 squeese inside prepare dinner, but 2 sets of dinner.
breakfast, he will took up the whole kitchen. i onli can make cornflakes n milk.
if everyone takes care of each other , maybe livin tog is nt difficult.
but I am like invisible.
when we take the bus to work in the morning, i took a double seat , and she will jus sit somewhere else.
if she chooses the seat 1st, she will choose a single seat.
i duno how long i can live with her. its so tiring. sad -
from this... i think she dun like u leh.. can u ask ur company to share another apartment with another person..Originally posted by ilovethesun:1st weekend : Friend one comes to stay
2nd weekend: friend 2 comes to stay
this month: Boyfriend comes to stay.. and still staying..
next month: another 2 friends comin to stay for the weekend..
we are colleagues that happen to share the same apartment our company rented for us. 2 rooms, 1 kitchen, 1 toilet, 1 small living room. we jus got to know each other.
its nice meeting new pple.. i relai liked that.. but no when she plans everything and dun let me know/join..
I feel like an intruder. no privacy at all..
maybe it dun sound bad that her bf is stayin tog. bt our apartment is so small, dinner time all 3 squeese inside prepare dinner, but 2 sets of dinner.
breakfast, he will took up the whole kitchen. i onli can make cornflakes n milk.
if everyone takes care of each other , maybe livin tog is nt difficult.
but I am like invisible.
when we take the bus to work in the morning, i took a double seat , and she will jus sit somewhere else.
if she chooses the seat 1st, she will choose a single seat.
i duno how long i can live with her. its so tiring. sad
& oso.. i dun think she is allowed to bring other ppl in to stay lor.. very inconsiderate person.. -
tell her to fu ck off.
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yup i think so too.. but when she ask me for favours, she wil be realli nice..Originally posted by mystee:from this... i think she dun like u leh.. can u ask ur company to share another apartment with another person..
& oso.. i dun think she is allowed to bring other ppl in to stay lor.. very inconsiderate person..
" XXX, my bf comin, he can stay with us for the time being? oh pls... "
den i cant bear to say no, den i say .. yup sure..
when i make pasta for dinner, i wil ask if she wants,, den i make double.
but when she / bf makes meal.. they jus make for themselves.
cant. onli the 2 of us here for work.
i also think she is inconsiderate. but i cant tell anyone..
freak.. damn pissed.. i nvr met anione like her before.
so mani frens came to stay.. and all are guys.. i find it quite ridiculous.. -
tell the bfOriginally posted by ilovethesun:yup i think so too.. but when she ask me for favours, she wil be realli nice..
" XXX, my bf comin, he can stay with us for the time being? oh pls... "
den i cant bear to say no, den i say .. yup sure..
when i make pasta for dinner, i wil ask if she wants,, den i make double.
but when she / bf makes meal.. they jus make for themselves.
cant. onli the 2 of us here for work.
i also think she is inconsiderate. but i cant tell anyone..
freak.. damn pissed.. i nvr met anione like her before.
so mani frens came to stay.. and all are guys.. i find it quite ridiculous..
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if i were u.. i cant stand it one lor.. since she is so bad.. i dont c any point for u to be nice to her.. complain to ur company if u cant stand it..Originally posted by ilovethesun:yup i think so too.. but when she ask me for favours, she wil be realli nice..
" XXX, my bf comin, he can stay with us for the time being? oh pls... "
den i cant bear to say no, den i say .. yup sure..
when i make pasta for dinner, i wil ask if she wants,, den i make double.
but when she / bf makes meal.. they jus make for themselves.
cant. onli the 2 of us here for work.
i also think she is inconsiderate. but i cant tell anyone..
freak.. damn pissed.. i nvr met anione like her before.
so mani frens came to stay.. and all are guys.. i find it quite ridiculous.. -
Originally posted by lageihsif:tell the bf another way is.. seduce all the guys who she bring in.. haha.. then she wont dare to bring any more guys liao...
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It's really very inconsiderate of your colleague. When she asked you about her friends coming to stay, you should use the opportunity to say no. You shouldn't let her continue to step over your boundary otherwise very soon you might end up sleeping on the street.Originally posted by ilovethesun:1st weekend : Friend one comes to stay
2nd weekend: friend 2 comes to stay
this month: Boyfriend comes to stay.. and still staying..
next month: another 2 friends comin to stay for the weekend..
she asked me " they can stay right?"
i say " anithing"
she : can right?
i : anithing
she seldom talks to me. this is one of the times she does.
we are colleagues that happen to share the same apartment our company rented for us. 2 rooms, 1 kitchen, 1 toilet, 1 small living room. we jus got to know each other.
its nice meeting new pple.. i relai liked that.. but no when she plans everything and dun let me know/join..
I feel like an intruder. no privacy at all..
maybe it dun sound bad that her bf is stayin tog. bt our apartment is so small, dinner time all 3 squeese inside prepare dinner, but 2 sets of dinner.
breakfast, he will took up the whole kitchen. i onli can make cornflakes n milk.
if everyone takes care of each other , maybe livin tog is nt difficult.
but I am like invisible.
when we take the bus to work in the morning, i took a double seat , and she will jus sit somewhere else.
if she chooses the seat 1st, she will choose a single seat.
i duno how long i can live with her. its so tiring. sad
I think the boyfriend is rather selfish too. Since he's not in a hurry to go to work or something, he should let you use the kitchen/bathroom first so that you can get ready to go to work.
I don't think you should just keep quiet and feel miserable. Talk to her about it!!! -
had a teleconversation with our bosses this morning. they asked hw r we coping.. any issues or problems..
so wanna scream out " YES.. PLS bring me back home.. idun wann be here with her anymore.. "
but the words came out was " yes.. we r fine.. enjoyin ourselves"
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or maybe another way is.. tell u r boss that u prefer to stay alone.. not comfortable staying with another person.. cos living lifestyle differ..Originally posted by ilovethesun:had a teleconversation with our bosses this morning. they asked hw r we coping.. any issues or problems..
so wanna scream out " YES.. PLS bring me back home.. idun wann be here with her anymore.. "
but the words came out was " yes.. we r fine.. enjoyin ourselves" -
welll
it will all come out when u have a private conversation with the boss.
no use always taking all the damage rite? -
i think u are not allowed to bring other ppl to stay in the apt rite?
it's paid by the company
u can go report her to the company
or u can try to live with it and stop being nice to her -
I wish to stay alone too... but its bad because they are payin for our accomodation.. so if 2 separate will be quite an additional cost.Originally posted by mystee:or maybe another way is.. tell u r boss that u prefer to stay alone.. not comfortable staying with another person.. cos living lifestyle differ..
at 1st they asked if we wanted to stay with another british family, but we choose to stay on our own.
shit.. shld have chosen the former. -
ask her go her frens/bf hse lo
or u ask ur frens come over too -
u will be working here for good.. or temporary?Originally posted by ilovethesun:I wish to stay alone too... but its bad because they are payin for our accomodation.. so if 2 separate will be quite an additional cost.
at 1st they asked if we wanted to stay with another british family, but we choose to stay on our own.
shit.. shld have chosen the former.
if u will be here for good.. i will suggest u to tok to your company abt it... but if u just here for a short period & u dun want to make things bad.. then try & tolerate and live with it.. but dun let her climb up ur head & sh1t there.. stop treating her well.. cos... she dont deserve it!
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yes girl, u;re right.. i shld have but i din know hw to reject nicely.Originally posted by honeymouse:It's really very inconsiderate of your colleague. When she asked you about her friends coming to stay, you should use the opportunity to say no. You shouldn't let her continue to step over your boundary otherwise very soon you might end up sleeping on the street.
I think the boyfriend is rather selfish too. Since he's not in a hurry to go to work or something, he should let you use the kitchen/bathroom first so that you can get ready to go to work.
I don't think you should just keep quiet and feel miserable. Talk to her about it!!!
I was quite pissed off. i dun wan my words to hurt or wad.. i can be quite crude . i din look at her.. jus lookin at my monitor and i was at a loss for words. wth.. i diin wan to sound petty.. like.. SORRY>> ITS OUR HOME< SO no friends allowed anymore.
The bf woke up to make breakfast for her. she was zzz still.
he camehere to find a job too.. and if he does, he will quit his sg job n stay here for 1 yr.. -
act mean.
next time say no, with valid reasons.
obviously she is looking down on you, takes advantage of you and deem you unworthy in her social circle.
complain to the company, if u wan.
i think its easier if u live alone, than with someone like that. -
Actually its perfectly ok if frens comes to visit . stay while here, IF me n her gets along well and we are on good terms.Originally posted by lageihsif:ask her go her frens/bf hse lo
or u ask ur frens come over too
but things gets abit tough when i feel that she is selfish n inconsiderate.. i dun wanna give her friends/ bf the privilege of free accomodation .
you get wad i feel?
yea.. but we jus got here barely 1 mth, and im still tryin to cope with the change and there she is.. alradi announced and invited her frends before hand. hhaha.. haiz.. -
pay rent!Originally posted by ilovethesun:Actually its perfectly ok if frens comes to visit . stay while here, IF me n her gets along well and we are on good terms.
but things gets abit tough when i feel that she is selfish n inconsiderate.. i dun wanna give her friends/ bf the privilege of free accomodation .
you get wad i feel?
yea.. but we jus got here barely 1 mth, and im still tryin to cope with the change and there she is.. alradi announced and invited her frends before hand. hhaha.. haiz..
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My friend, please learn to stand up for yourself. I think she can see your weakness (doesn't dare to say no) and continue to take advantage of you.Originally posted by ilovethesun:yes girl, u;re right.. i shld have but i din know hw to reject nicely.
I was quite pissed off. i dun wan my words to hurt or wad.. i can be quite crude . i din look at her.. jus lookin at my monitor and i was at a loss for words. wth.. i diin wan to sound petty.. like.. SORRY>> ITS OUR HOME< SO no friends allowed anymore.
The bf woke up to make breakfast for her. she was zzz still.
he camehere to find a job too.. and if he does, he will quit his sg job n stay here for 1 yr..
I understand you want to be nice, however sometimes you need to learn to protect your own boundary - to learn when to say yes and when to say no. If you don't think you can speak to her directly, write her a note.
At the same time, talk to your company about the situation and try to find out if the company can find you another place to stay. Since the company sent you there to work, it's an obligation for your company to meet your needs regardless the cost.
If you don't know what to write in the note, I am happy to help you to write it and I will try to put it in the best possible ways.
Be strong my friend.
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yar.. i think she tinks im dumb. everytime i say smthg, she will.. " no.. " then will correct me. sianz.. like our colleague ask us how much we spend on todae's trip.. i will say abt £5.. agar agar..Originally posted by Ito_^:act mean.
next time say no, with valid reasons.
obviously she is looking down on you, takes advantage of you and deem you unworthy in her social circle.
complain to the company, if u wan.
i think its easier if u live alone, than with someone like that.
then she is this kind who wil say.." no.. its not that much.. its abt £4.55"
u know.. !! its stressful even talking beside her.
i also cant stand her habits.
we were on a course last week, with colleagues fr other european branch.
and she can go to work with uncombed greasy hair .
i din give ani comments at all. coz she mite feel offended.
but if she's my fren, i definately wld have done smthg abt it.. -
seems that she dun enjoy being alone with u..
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here for a couple of months only.Originally posted by mystee:u will be working here for good.. or temporary?
if u will be here for good.. i will suggest u to tok to your company abt it... but if u just here for a short period & u dun want to make things bad.. then try & tolerate and live with it.. but dun let her climb up ur head & sh1t there.. stop treating her well.. cos... she dont deserve it!
i told her once " how long is ur bf stayin with us?"
then she say " AT most 2 MONTHS wad... blah blah blah"
her tone realli veri rude !! i was so shock.
then the day before her bf came, i said " hm.. i think we shld clean the place up abit since ur bf comin"
then she " YAR.. i wAS planning to vacuum the carpet already WhaT"
but wad i meant was.. we can do some cleanin up together.. not askin her to clean or wad!!
u know her attitude.. i jus dun feel like talkin to her.. so hard to communicate! -
anyway that place safe anot?
since its all guys going over there -
bingo!Originally posted by browniebaobao:seems that she dun enjoy being alone with u..
last sat.. (the onli weekend so far that she had no frens over) ., she jus shut herself in her room WHOLE DAY!
haha. .i was amused coz its reali veri kua zhang.. .onli come out go toilet.. den go in liaoz..
i was in the livin room usin computer.
i duno why she dun like me so much.. (i feel) but i tot i was nice to her..
during our short company trip , she wil talk to everyone, laugh, "act cute" , giggle... haha.. den i tot abt her attitude at home.. when she walk past me and im like invisible... l
i find it quite amusing.. there must be something seriously wrong with me.. lolz..