Is it a good idea to have a kid in Singapore?
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I dont know about you but this sounds good to me I want my kid to be excellent.Originally posted by TransientR:Now the education system is more stressful and competitive than ever. Not only do kids have to excel academically, they have to excel in their character, leadership abilities, ability to think on their feet, resilience, social and emotional skills, aesthetics appreciation, physical fitness, etc etc etc they are basically assessed on everything. -
I'll teach my kids how to see Value and see beyond Money...
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I have 2 kids and they brought lots of joy to the family. I know kids are important to me. They are great inspirational forces to both me and my wife to our otherwise monotonous life. They created a more balanced life, they made up for a complete family, they bring in the ups and downs of life, they showed me how I needed to improve myself so that I can teach them, they make do good things so that I am right model for them, they make my life very busy but with a purpose, they make me open up my emotions which I always hide in front of the adults, ...
I simply love kids and wouldn't gave them away for even a billion dollars. With my 2 little children, even the very simple things in life can bring tons of joy. I don't need tons of money to get happiness. I also realise kids don't need tons of money to excel because parents are the best teachers for kids.
Just like many good thing in life, u need to put in lots of right effort to nurture great kids. And kids being something which you cannot simply throw away or easily give up halfway, will surely bring the best out of you and will take almost all your free time away especially in the early ages of a child.
Yet for all those good experiences and even if you are mentally, financially and physically prepared, I would advise that you consider carefully about having a child. Climate change is something I believe in and which is something I feel will happen in our lifetime. I also look at it very pessimistically. So much so, that my wife and I have decided not to have anymore children.
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It is a good idea only if you can afford to raise children. Do not bring them into this world only to have them trapped in the vicious cycle of provety...
If you planned to have children, I think it is expected of you to give them the best... -
Its hard to bring up a kid anywhere anytime, not just in Singapore... -
they may bring you joy luagther and happiness, or they could bring you sadness weeping and agony.Originally posted by Cool-gal:the advantage of having a kid is far more than disadvantage.
a kid can bring u joy, laughter, happiness and oso they make u grow up as a parent.
the most u support them for 23yrs of their life afterwhich its the other way round.
the best is to have at least 2 or more.
actually it might be longer if the kid's a bum and lets just say in singapore expecting the kid to support you is abit on the tough side cos they are struggling to look after themselves in the first place -
Kids are cute but when they become teens, the trouble comes in.
The next gen of kids will not take care of parents anymore. Every parent for himself/herself.
At this point in my life, I see them as poor investments but who knows, I may change my view....Wonder how many more see them the same way as me. -
i believe that if kids grow up knowing what its like to be erm...poor, it'll make them a better person when they grow up.Originally posted by Cro-Magnon:It is a good idea only if you can afford to raise children. Do not bring them into this world only to have them trapped in the vicious cycle of provety...
If you planned to have children, I think it is expected of you to give them the best...
doesnt apply to all cases
but id rather have my kids work for stuff and earn what they deserve than to have the parents give then whatever they want. -
Have more children.
Singapore Inc needs them as batteries for the economy.
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nope.. cos singapore life too stress liao.. then the standard of living is very high.. have to spend a lot on raising kids..
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No pain no gain
If your kids are willing to work hard they can get what they want .
Some ppl do not have gd jobs is because from young they don't have a goal
They can have any jobs and in the end they suffer if they have a goal they can choose the job they wanted it and work towards it .
So it is a gd idea to have a kid in S'pore
Even china ppl are sending their kids here to study and soon they will go back to their homeland and work there ....
Like i said no pain no gain , you will feel the "pain" when you rise the kid up but what if one day he succeed in his life isn't that the "gain" ?
Gd luk ~!
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we r more than animals...we dun juz live a life to produce the other generation...to juz do that wuld render ur life insignificant...if u want to b significant, do somthing for the world...for the ppl arnd u...or at the very least, live happy, so that u wun b a burden to others...Originally posted by sunny6110:As a Human... Having kids is your duty -
Kids bring joy to your life, and complete you as a woman.
I have met many who say they don't want to have kids, but upon having them, cannot imagine not having them. They struggle maybe, in low paying jobs like driving taxis etc to make ends meet, but never say they regret having children.
If I have kids, even if I have an ang moh husband, I would prefer to bring up my child here, where it is safe, and sex and drugs are not easily available. -
It depends on what values you espouse and what kind of people you want your child to mix with.
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questions?
can a local Singaporean enroll his or her children into a international school and not the local government school be it the so call top school or neighborhood school now, 2007?
last time can not? i wanted my kids to have a normal childhood, for the good of him. we went away.
tell me i am toopic, when times come for NS, i'll tell him to go back serve.
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Yes u can if u can afford the fees. My brother wanted to bring his kids back from overseas but decided not to cos they cannot adapt to the edn system here.Originally posted by Joshua1975:questions?
can a local Singaporean enroll his or her children into a international school and not the local government school be it the so call top school or neighborhood school now, 2007?
last time can not? i wanted my kids to have a normal childhood, for the good of him. we went away.
tell me i am toopic, when times come for NS, i'll tell him to go back serve.
To have a kid, make sure you are financially able. Don't bring them to this world to suffer. Life for them is tougher & very competitive.
That's why I start saving early, buying insurance & edn. plans when they are born to see them thr uni. -
not a good idea.
i barely earn enuff to feed myself..
maybe when kids can get their nutrients from breathing alone, den i'll consider havin 1 -
not really leh...Originally posted by udontknowme:i believe that if kids grow up knowing what its like to be erm...poor, it'll make them a better person when they grow up.
doesnt apply to all cases
but id rather have my kids work for stuff and earn what they deserve than to have the parents give then whatever they want.
a kid can grow up in a rich family.. as long as the parents instill the right valies, the kid can still grow up to be a better person
some of the f-up ppl i noe.. belong to the poor side of the country. -
alot of china pple sending their kids here cos our dear government is splurging our money on them giving them free education and money. (while we have to pay thru our noses for the education, living expenses and everything else too)Originally posted by MrSotong:No pain no gain
If your kids are willing to work hard they can get what they want .
Some ppl do not have gd jobs is because from young they don't have a goal
They can have any jobs and in the end they suffer if they have a goal they can choose the job they wanted it and work towards it .
So it is a gd idea to have a kid in S'pore
Even china ppl are sending their kids here to study and soon they will go back to their homeland and work there ....
Like i said no pain no gain , you will feel the "pain" when you rise the kid up but what if one day he succeed in his life isn't that the "gain" ?
Gd luk ~! -
A lot of comments here mention about money. In fact, I also hear the same thing from my overseas colleague in Shanghai, India, etc...
But I've seen so many cases where parents who are not rich yet are still able to make end needs. I have an eldest brother with very low education level but have 4 children, he worked very hard at the food stall and have never once went for a tour since his marriage. I've often advise him to take a break since the fruit of his hardwork, after so many years, has at last brought him a stable income but he has yet heeded my advise. The tour was secondary to him. His children was his primary. They are his source of motivation, his source of courage, his source to move on and of course his source of happiness and sadness. He wouldn't have succeeded if he didn't have his children and wife to motivate and inspire and he wouldn't have felt more fullfilled and confident if he didn't have this family.
Committed parents can tell you so much of the successful stories and the goodness of children but you have empathise us to deeply feel our perception. Having a family requires a paradigm shift. It shifts away from thoughts of selfishness towards thoughts of selflessness. When you are able to do this, you will surely be a great mother even with very little money.
When people tell me they don't to have children, I also always wonder if they have ever thought what they are going to do with so many years of life ahead. Even at 30 yrs old, we are not even halfway through our life! -
there r those.Originally posted by shinta:not really leh...
a kid can grow up in a rich family.. as long as the parents instill the right valies, the kid can still grow up to be a better person
some of the f-up ppl i noe.. belong to the poor side of the country.
parents spend all day out working earning marnee.
maids bring up the kids.
parents feel guilty and use marnee to 'bribe' the kids or whatever
there are also those poor parents who work hard but still no marnee
too tired to bring kids up properly
still got many scenarios.
but...the one i listed is based sort of on personal experiences i guess... -
some of the downright rotten ppl i met..... comes from the poor, the rich n the middle income familiesOriginally posted by udontknowme:there r those.
parents spend all day out working earning marnee.
maids bring up the kids.
parents feel guilty and use marnee to 'bribe' the kids or whatever
there are also those poor parents who work hard but still no marnee
too tired to bring kids up properly
still got many scenarios.
but...the one i listed is based sort of on personal experiences i guess...
its the parents... so doesn matter if rich or not... its hw to parents or the family teach.
last time i was a wild kid... my parents got no time to teach (wild as in no manners )
it was the family maid who taught me a bit, and the rest my classmates and aunt.
they asked why u do this or say this? ur parents no teach? den they go on to explain why certain things can be said or done. -
i'm pretty sure you can find other thigns to do than rearing children.Originally posted by apples:A lot of comments here mention about money. In fact, I also hear the same thing from my overseas colleague in Shanghai, India, etc...
But I've seen so many cases where parents who are not rich yet are still able to make end needs. I have an eldest brother with very low education level but have 4 children, he worked very hard at the food stall and have never once went for a tour since his marriage. I've often advise him to take a break since the fruit of his hardwork, after so many years, has at last brought him a stable income but he has yet heeded my advise. The tour was secondary to him. His children was his primary. They are his source of motivation, his source of courage, his source to move on and of course his source of happiness and sadness. He wouldn't have succeeded if he didn't have his children and wife to motivate and inspire and he wouldn't have felt more fullfilled and confident if he didn't have this family.
Committed parents can tell you so much of the successful stories and the goodness of children but you have empathise us to deeply feel our perception. Having a family requires a paradigm shift. It shifts away from thoughts of selfishness towards thoughts of selflessness. When you are able to do this, you will surely be a great mother even with very little money.
When people tell me they don't to have children, I also always wonder if they have ever thought what they are going to do with so many years of life ahead. Even at 30 yrs old, we are not even halfway through our life!
and of course we have stories of pple regretting they have children or saying its so hard and whatever after they have children..... -
i will definitely regretOriginally posted by hisoka:i'm pretty sure you can find other thigns to do than rearing children.
and of course we have stories of pple regretting they have children or saying its so hard and whatever after they have children.....
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It's definietly great having kids around as they bring joy to your life but I would not encourage you to have kids here for all the obvious reasons. Best thing you can do for your kids is give them an environment elsewhere...
Many of us have already left this place with no regrets and we are encouraging more to join us. No point bringing up your kids here. In fact, many of our friends have gone to north america just to give birth to their kids so that they will be treated as a citizen there. Do the right thing for your kids, migrate.