I have 2 kids in the threshold of being teens. I have never used the cane, nor have I ever use my hands to hit them.
Whenever they do wrong, I gave them a lecture on the pros vs cons of what they have done and let them know the consquences of their actions, citing examples of similar actions and its' consequences that were publised in the local papers/news.
I than asked of their opinion, what they felt about their actions and whether they find it is ok or wrong about it and why. We have a discussion to iron out the problem and misunderstanding.
I can say my kids have learnt to understand that bad actions do not bear fruit for them in their future.
