is it rude to ask people what their salary is?
-
Yes, I certainly find it absolutely rude!
Because a person's earning capacity is a very private and confidential thing. That's why pay slips issued by the HR always come sealed!
Asking a person his salary is the equivalent of asking that man how long his c0ck is or a women, how large her b00bs are...... RUDE!! -
why the secrecy?
unless you are a high income earner. -
i dun think its rude.....however it isn't a comfortable question to ask
-
It all depend on how u ask it.... if u phrase it rite and at the rite time.... u can ask any question... and it wouldn't seem rude or anything.... if u arent that diplomatic, then u might wanna try thr underdog method... say with the help of alcohols?
-
but if your salary is high, there are reasons to hide it as well...Originally posted by Guardx:If your salary is so little there is no point hiding lor. -
it is ok to ask for the first time ...
it is rude if u persist similar question... -
It's not rude to ask for salary. It's just being kay poh.
But I would really hate it if people (including close friends) ask how much I earn because it may stir jealousy among some people. I would just give them the units and leave them to guess. -
ppl find it rude when u urself earn high salary and the person you ask dont lol
-
to me it's not rude...it's just a sensitive question.
-
do u eben knw dat dis behaviour is beri detestable?Originally posted by mochou:If close enough, sure it's not a problem to ask.
If not very close, i also asked and i get my answer.
Just dont ask directly "how much you getting" and dont expect a exact figure(though some may tell you exact figure).
Estimate his/her salary first, then base on the way he/she spends, you can hint something to "ask".
Like "How must is the loan for your car? add on petrol and parking, it's gonna use up half of your salary, right?
Or guess his/her salary to see the response like:
"I heard your company pay quite well, every month you take home aound 4K right?"
i know. coz thr r acherly such ppl in my life.
got one eben more devious. calculator in hand. asked abt hw much i gib family, my insurance, transport n all. as if i will say. kpo chee.
got one machiam thief eben go flipped thru my wallet! mere words canot describe such ppl!
hw much others earn is lealli none of ur biz! it's nt my fault dat u r worth dat lil! if u simply not as capable, den i can oly say too bad! -
Depend, when you are interviewing a person with regard to loan or application of credit, it is a must to ask your customer his pay structure.Originally posted by january:as per above. I find it strange that this is a rude question. -
what is so angry abt people knowing our salary. i understand one may feel embarrased if he does not earn much, but angry? it seems weird. I personally find it strange. Its not as if you want to bring ur secret to the coffin. I can understand if a person says "paiseh, i prefer not to tell" for personal and privacy reasons.Originally posted by browniebaobao:depends on how close are u with that person...
my jiemeis ask me, and i was open about it...
but then i realize they will go around telling ple
"my fren xxx's starting salary is $xxxx.. the other fren got $zzzz...
wah.. i hope i can get $zzzz too"
so ever since my increment, i nv tell them how much im earning. -
Originally posted by :
does not mean that it is sealed means you cannot share your salary. Nowadays, we need information so as to know which jobs are good and make the market competitive.
Yes, I certainly find it absolutely rude!
Because a person's earning capacity is a very private and confidential thing. That's why pay slips issued by the HR always come sealed!
Asking a person his salary is the equivalent of asking that man how long his c0ck is or a women, how large her b00bs are...... [b]RUDE!![/b]
Knowing more salary of jobs will prevent company from giving low pay and making them follow market rate. Therefore, sharing information is beneficial actually!!
I guess its some remanants of past that make people still carry these thoughts. As some people have said, some people are open about it and they thus learn more about different job prospects. -
its sensitive becos we heard some people getting angry it and due to past habits of older generation and so subconsicously when we ask people or being asked about salary, our mind reacts with discomfort also.Originally posted by selfobliged:to me it's not rude...it's just a sensitive question. -
deleted ......
-
if ppl wan knw the market rate, thr is dis yearly publication that they can buy to refer to.
-
Rude is perhaps not the right word to use as asking about a person's salary has got nothing to do with manner but more with curiosity. Some may called it kaypoh, but it is in everyone's nature to want to know how much people earn, especially amongst co-workers. This is where inequity can set in and comparison is inevitable. If two persons are doing more or less the same work and if their salaries are miles apart, it can cause a lot of problems.
Of course, if salaries are exactly the same for everyone regardless of experience, qualification, performance, merits and so forth - then it encourages people to do the barest minimum resulting in mediocre work. That's what happened in communist countries where EQUALITY is the objective. So what you get is equally bad work!
For people who cannot perform, has no capability, motivation and interest to work, equal pay appeals to them. Such societies remain backward.
On the other hand, if you have the capability and are better than the next, surely you want to be paid more! To each his own, to each his best. This is meritocracy. You want more pay, you do better than your co-workers.
Having said that, it is not difficult to estimate how much a person earns. There is such a thing called market rate, median salary, salary range and so forth. Also, variations can be expected in different companies or organisations.
At end of day, it you want to be just an employee earning a salary - then choose a line of work where special skills are required and where there is a market demand or shortage. Otherwise, be your own boss. Write your own pay cheque! And nobody can say you earn an indecent salary. -
when they know how much your pay is,
they will know who to turn to when they need financial help...
-
i nv say i angry ar.Originally posted by january:what is so angry abt people knowing our salary. i understand one may feel embarrased if he does not earn much, but angry? it seems weird. I personally find it strange. Its not as if you want to bring ur secret to the coffin. I can understand if a person says "paiseh, i prefer not to tell" for personal and privacy reasons.
i think it's personal..
i got a v qian bian ex classmate, she bumped into me one day at a shopping mall, then she asked. 'how much are u earning ar?'
i said 'market rate' lor.
then she said 'how much is market rate? i duno leh'
thick skinned ple..
how much im earning is none of ur business right? -
Of course it's rude! Why so nosy? Salaries are confidential. You are not suppose to discuss or compare especially if working in the same company. Firstly it will stir up unhappy and dissatisfied sentiment in colleagues especially the other party gets more when that person has been working shorter period than the other one. Big companies have this rules that workers are not suppose to compare or speak out how much they earn. If they do the company has a right to terminate them.Originally posted by january:as per above. I find it strange that this is a rude question. -
really close friend canOriginally posted by january:as per above. I find it strange that this is a rude question.
-
it's a sensitive thing, just like people askin how big is your p3nis and all or how heavy are you
but if we're close friends i can reveal my salary a little -
to close fren can reveal abit but to colleagues, nvr to reveal, it may spark jealousy, this is common sense
-
wah so serious mei? get terminated for comparing salaries.Originally posted by BeautifulBetty:Of course it's rude! Why so nosy? Salaries are confidential. You are not suppose to discuss or compare especially if working in the same company. Firstly it will stir up unhappy and dissatisfied sentiment in colleagues especially the other party gets more when that person has been working shorter period than the other one. Big companies have this rules that workers are not suppose to compare or speak out how much they earn. If they do the company has a right to terminate them.
My gf will terminate me if I compare her with Beautiful Betty.