Wedding dinner = give money to restaurants
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I feel that its quite dumb to hold wedding dinner and cause people to spend unecessary money. unless of course people are rich, which is not.
Last time my brother wedding, it cost 10 thousands dollars which we gave to the manager. One person transient happiness cost a collective damage of 10 thousands by all the guest. No wonder so many people are stressful about money.
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dun do dun do loh.
no want spend money no want spend money loh.
restaurant is doing business wat.
wats wrong with u -
then u wan ur wedding to be at the void deck like the songka laidat ah?
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Originally posted by january:
I feel that its quite dumb to hold wedding dinner and cause people to spend unecessary money. unless of course people are rich, which is not.
Last time my brother wedding, it cost 10 thousands dollars which we gave to the manager. One person transient happiness cost a collective damage of 10 thousands by all the guest. No wonder so many people are stressful about money.
If you don't want to wish the person then dun go to the weddingDun go wedding dinner = no need give ang bao
Anyway, most of the times these days the ang bao dun cover the cost of the dinner. This ang bao is to help the newlywed couple since they have to fork out a lot of money for their new home etc
And it's not like people you know are getting married every day or even every other day so what is there to be stressed up about money for weddings?
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They r dng business,so the way you see it and they see it is different.
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That is why there is also a standard hong bao going rate depending on the place that the dinner was held...
Thus the guest is also paying for the dinner in a way...
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Originally posted by FireIce:
dun do dun do loh.
no want spend money no want spend money loh.
restaurant is doing business wat.
wats wrong with uI think its dumb becos quite many people dun like to spend these money on wedding dinners. Some of them will complain, and some will keep quiet and complain quietly inside themselves becos no choice have to go becos they will be inviting them in the future or have asked people to go last time for their own wedding.
I dun blame restaurants at all. They are just manking money, which is alright to me. Personally, I just try to avoid going for such dinners.
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Originally posted by elindra:
If you don't want to wish the person then dun go to the weddingDun go wedding dinner = no need give ang bao
Anyway, most of the times these days the ang bao dun cover the cost of the dinner. This ang bao is to help the newlywed couple since they have to fork out a lot of money for their new home etc
And it's not like people you know are getting married every day or even every other day so what is there to be stressed up about money for weddings?
In a sense, the marriage causes money of friends, relatives and colleagues to be passed into the hands of restaurants.
To tell you the truth, i believe that there is a market for low cost marriage which have not be opened fully yet. Currently, the cheaper mode for wedding are those held at community centers, which proves that some entrepreneurs are already creating this market supply for consumers.
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You the kind to pay $28 to register at ROM and ok liao la...
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you can be like aunty automatic.....
invite your friends and relatives to your place saying you're holding a buffet. but call pizza delivery and ask them to deliver 3 hours after the stipulated wedding buffet.
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can have a quiet one lor, actually a wedding can be celebrated by closed family and friends. don't have to invite the whole neighbourhood down.
unless you want to hold it like a jew would la. one week of celebration i think. strangers also can come and celebrate. that way, just hold bbq at east coast park can liao. haha.
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hmm. depends on family ba. i mean marriage is once a lifetime though. so some like to have a big dinner to celebrate. depends on you then
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I also nv hold any wedding dinner.
From all the weddings I have gone to, I heard bad comments from the guest for 3 out of 4 wedding dinners, may it be food, programme, service, parking problem, crowd turnout etc.
My fd's wedding was a nightmare for life, as his guest fought at the dinner after drinking at the dinner.
Another fd chalked up a huge credit card bill as the wife insist on a lot of things which he could not say no.
And later in life, only the ROM cert is required for all kinds of registration. Who gives a shit about the photos you took for your wedding...
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memories. have u ever heard of that?
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So dun take photo , dun have any celebration nothing , and u save alot .
Go for a tour, some ppl r doing that and to different ppl memories means different way.
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Don't have a dinner. Or have a small gathering at home. Problem solved.
That is if your wife agrees.
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Originally posted by T.Ryousuke:
So dun take photo , dun have any celebration nothing , and u save alot .
Go for a tour, some ppl r doing that and to different ppl memories means different way.
Go tour spend more lor, actually if u can know how to make profit, wedding can earn money also. Choose the lousiest menu of dishes at a grand hotel, then invite relatives and pples, if per table of $700, u can receive $800, u make $100 per table lor, so invite 60 tables, u get 6k profit,...can go korea and japan liao. -
U can do it on HDB void deck, basket ball court and also playground, today wedding, tomollo funneral also can. Very Cheap, sometime town council give free electricity and space usuage.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Go tour spend more lor, actually if u can know how to make profit, wedding can earn money also. Choose the lousiest menu of dishes at a grand hotel, then invite relatives and pples, if per table of $700, u can receive $800, u make $100 per table lor, so invite 60 tables, u get 6k profit,...can go korea and japan liao.
On the practical side, your guest is the deciding factor...earn or lost depend on their ang bao.I got a fd lost $9K (one family come give $120), while another earn enough for a trip to Hongkong for 2 (One guest come already $120).
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Originally posted by Troy437:
On the practical side, your guest is the deciding factor...earn or lost depend on their ang bao.I got a fd lost $9K (one family come give $120), while another earn enough for a trip to Hongkong for 2 (One guest come already $120).
Then tactically, u should invite the rich one, the bosses, even they dun come the ang bao also big big, and they will inform u in advance, so u can invite another person.
My Dad last time marry, earn about 12k, then divorce..then marry again, earn 14k, then divorce again. Now he dun want to marry liao, just take care me, ah ma and his mistress.
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Well, only once a while life time mah
Why so stingy with money
If so stingy of paying money by going to ppl wedding
next time ppl will also do the same back to u one
If not willing to spent on wedding , best dun get marry
but then no ROM cert, hard to appy for HDB leh.
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Originally posted by noahnoah:
Well, only once a while life time mah
Why so stingy with money
If so stingy of paying money by going to ppl wedding
next time ppl will also do the same back to u one
If not willing to spent on wedding , best dun get marry
but then no ROM cert, hard to appy for HDB leh.
Aiya, Unker, TS is implying why we all should let the restaurants earn our money, nothing to do with you give or they dun give matters.And i thot bachelor and sinister also can apply HDB mah, no HDB, can also buy private house mah. Why need to ROM and have the hard copy of it.
If stingy can also hv wedding mah, but give sting ray dishes can liao
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well, this is the problem with sporeans sometimes.....mostly chinese though.....
if they come from a demanding family background especially with those rich aunties and uncles, they would definitely feel malu about doing things "cheaply"
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Aiya actually for my wedding we just wanted to ROM -_-"
My parents were ok, his parents were ok but my Grandma kpkb so much bo pian in the end to accomodate her
Didn't want a dinner because it is a pain in the ass to arrange one
So in the end we did it Buffet Style at Mauritius Mandarin and made it free sitting so if you don't like someone, you don't sit beside them.
Of course we get the usual how come so messy etc but we also heck care the comments because we didn't even want to invite anyone in the first place
Anyway my husband and I say that we just treat this as a treat to the relatives lor. Just throw a dinner and get over with it. Whole affair cost us 12k. No we didn't earn from ang baos.
There was no debt either because we paid the hotel in cash.
Btw just for your info, that is the dinner after ROM hor. Not the actual wedding dinner. My grandma asked if there is going to be a wedding dinner but I asked my mum to put it nicely to her that we complied with a dinner after ROM and no there won't be another typical Chinese wedding dinner.
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The choice is yours...you can do a simple fare...or go for the extravagant banquet...the choice is yours...at the end of the day...its just a wedding...no biggie