filial piety
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I prefer to have my parents stay at home so I can take care of them... I feel bad sending them to old folk's home...that's too bitter a pill for me to swallow...
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My friend told me that many years ago, he and his siblings decided to send his father to the old folks home. He was the one who sent the father in his car. Throughout the journey, his father begged the son not to send him there.
Very sad.
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Originally posted by Melovefireice:
Parents are being dumped in old folk homes.Is filial piety still important today?
Getting "dumped" in old folk's home doesn't necessarily mean your child, or your kid is unfillal. It could be inevitable reasons like you're UNtrained, UNskilled, UNable to give as much attention as the nurses in the home could give.
Like dumbdumb! have said, "my gf's grandfather is in the old folks home, 96 years old, brain function reduced to basic motor function only. but her mum goes down there 3 days a week at least, cook salmon porridge etc for him."
Sending parents or grandparents to old folk's home may seem poor thing, but sometimes you have to make the best decision for you and your folks
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Originally posted by Honeybunz:
My friend told me that many years ago, he and his siblings decided to send his father to the old folks home. He was the one who sent the father in his car. Throughout the journey, his father begged the son not to send him there.
Very sad.
BEGGED?!
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Originally posted by udontknowme:
my grandmother requested to go.
she didn't want to live with her kids.
my parents have already told us kids they want to go to one too. just make sure we send them to the same one. hehe
Usually parents who say that actually mean they do not want to give any troubles to their child as everyone knows when someone gets old, sickness and illness all come knocking on their doors. But it doesn't mean that they don't want to stay with the child.. till the very last breath, just that they rather see you happy and it's ok that they make the scarifice by staying in a home.
No parent wish to leave their child...
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Same also. My parents say dun wanna trouble us kids. -_-"
But they dun wanna be in old folks home also. They got property around the world and its ideal for them to retire in the future. So , what can i say right ? Options are there.
BUT... if they are sick , i think its our duty to give them the best medical care , best help , best maid etc irregardless of anything or whatever they say.
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Originally posted by BadzMaro:
Same also. My parents say dun wanna trouble us kids. -_-"
But they dun wanna be in old folks home also. They got property around the world and its ideal for them to retire in the future. So , what can i say right ? Options are there.
BUT... if they are sick , i think its our duty to give them the best medical care , best help , best maid etc irregardless of anything or whatever they say.
Yeah, I agree.. You can't really listen to them when they tell you how they should be treated and where they should live. Because in this world, all parents love their kids. And naturally would want to be with them.. They might say they don't mind staying in old folk's home, they are often lying.. reason being, they don't want to give troubles to you and your possible future spouse.