Money, Materials Possesions and Gold Diggers
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Hi guys, just want to discuss issues regarding using money or material possesions to make someone happy.
My thoughts are that its shallow and superficial.I made a video about it too , talking about my thoughts on gold diggers.
gold-digger
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a woman who forms relationships with men purely to obtain money or gifts from them.
"girls who go out with men your age are just gold-diggers!"
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Discuss, about money or material possesions.
And girls, discuss your views about gold diggers in your opinion too. -
In your own words, if one day you are a father with daughter, your message is it alright to marry an pauper, and you definitely have no problem in supporting especially finanically for her until you are too old to work?
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If my hypotetical daughter could be happy marrying the pauper, by all means go ahead.
Having a flashy car and apartment along with limitless amounts of credit cards to swipe doesn't necessarily equate to happiness.
To answer your question, yes, I'm ok if my hypotetical daughter tells me that she is happy with that man. Yup, I would support her financially even if I'm too old to work. I mean she and her husband have to work for themselves too right? They can't be lazy bums and laze all day. Pauper doesn't equate to handicapped. So I assume both of them can still work.
It's only in the event where that amount of money is not enough, then I would give further financial assistance. -
hello Jimmy. Just one question. Do you really need to think about this thing while you are still studying? If you ever meet a girl who is a gold digger and she is arrogant towards you...tell her to go to Australia to become an Opal Digger lols. I think for most females....they want security in their lives. And in Singapore generally, the parents want to see their daughters marry the right man.....good stable job, responsible, kind, loving and lastly a man who can really take care of their daughter and family.
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Oh snap, how do you know I'm still studying?
Yes. I'd think about it. I don't want to date a girl only because I bring her to restaurants to enjoy a Pinot Noir with Ribeye Steak, burning a hole in my pocket. Point is, security, blablabla, is just an illusion. True happiness matters the most, ain't it?
Does sound like fairytale, in my humble opinion, but not unworkable though.
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Originally posted by Jimmy Ng:
Oh snap, how do you know I'm still studying?
Yes. I'd think about it. I don't want to date a girl only because I bring her to restaurants to enjoy a Pinot Noir with Ribeye Steak, burning a hole in my pocket. Point is, security, blablabla, is just an illusion. True happiness matters the most, ain't it?
Does sound like fairytale, in my humble opinion, but not unworkable though.
Happiness? True Happiness? What is that? If taken on exterior basis...that is only temporary. If taken within your own Self....that is quite different...wisemen...call it True Happiness. What you see within and exteriorly is totally two different perspective. You are actually talking about Contentment is it not? And what is your definition of True Happiness? -
True happiness covers a very wide scope. It's difficult to define.
To some people , happiness could be listening to their favourite songs.
To some people, happiness could be eating their favourite food, better still, just decent, normal food.
To some people, happiness could mean playing basketball with their friends.
To some people, happiness could be playing their favourite computer game.
To some people, happiness could be just being together with someone they love.
"Temporary happiness based on an exteror basis?" I'm sorry, Sir, could you explain that? -
Exterior Happiness means those things you see and think that will make you happy.....materialism...it doesn't last forever..but temporarily. You cannot buy happiness with materialism.
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That's exactly what I'm saying since I started this tread, both in my forum posts and in the video I posted.
So it seems we have the same agreement. -
Ok. The topic of yours itself is very general. It applies to all those whose are looking for wealth and success. Its human nature that one would like to strive for happiness in the beginning by pursuing exterior materialism. However, once you have achieved those goals...you find that its not what you really expected. Then you will look for other happiness within the context of happiness without wealth or success. True Happiness doesn't exist. Its an idea of happiness brought down from generation to generation since the beginning of time. Contentment is the key word to happiness, exteriorly, internally and spiritually.
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Hi jimmy interesting topic u hve there. Whilst i understand that some may view it as shallow, my opinion is that there are people that genuinely take pleasure in collecting material wealth. And these people if dissuaded from their path wud be living a lie. I respect their choice. I have met people from less fortunate circumstances who have that mentality and to me its fine. Whilst coming from a good background we may not have that mentality ingrained in ourselves some are not so fortunate. Maslows hierachy of needs. If material wealth is not lackinglacking u move to other needs.... to be gracious eloquent bla bla bla... but to someone without that background from young..... it has been ingrained since young.... wealth is everything.
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u are entitled to wat u think
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Originally posted by zulkifli mahmood:
Ok. The topic of yours itself is very general. It applies to all those whose are looking for wealth and success. Its human nature that one would like to strive for happiness in the beginning by pursuing exterior materialism. However, once you have achieved those goals…you find that its not what you really expected. Then you will look for other happiness within the context of happiness without wealth or success. True Happiness doesn’t exist. Its an idea of happiness brought down from generation to generation since the beginning of time. Contentment is the key word to happiness, exteriorly, internally and spiritually.
I'm not sure if I could agree with you about true happiness not existing, but purely an idealogy passed down by generations.
True happiness is an emotion , strong feeling and affection experienced by oneself towards life. It could be obtained by the simplest thing of life, doing simple tasks such as chatting with your friends or playing basketball , etcetera etcetera.
Point is, you just classified true happiness as non-existent, something I cannot agree with.
Then you did a word play, by saying contentment is the keyword to happiness, exteriorly , internally and spiritually.
Your point of the word play, may I respectfully ask? -
True Happiness - do you mean by being endlessly happy or just a spur of the moment? Or do you mean having fun in happiness. But can you be happy with every moment? Contentment is the element that you accept of who you are, what you have and you are happy with that.....and be happy with your life...regardless of with or without wealth.
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True happiness.
I categorize it as being endlessly happy.
Alright, I got it. I understood what you meant by contentment now.
They're synonyms, you see. I kinda got confused. -
Another question here for you, hope you don't mind ok. If a girl you like or you think she likes you or you feel can be your dream girl says to you, "I think we are not meant for each other. You are not rich." How will you take it?
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Originally posted by zulkifli mahmood:
Another question here for you, hope you don’t mind ok. If a girl you like or you think she likes you or you feel can be your dream girl says to you, “I think we are not meant for each other. You are not rich.” How will you take it?
Take it like a true boss.
Be good friends with her, continue helping her in her life if she encounters any problems whatsoever.
That's because I truly like her ,even though she thinks that we are not meant for each other, we can still be good friends.
Ain't it? -
Originally posted by Jimmy Ng:
Take it like a true boss.
Be good friends with her, continue helping her in her life if she encounters any problems whatsoever.
That's because I truly like her ,even though she thinks that we are not meant for each other, we can still be good friends.
Ain't it?
Good answer and very noble of you. But will you still wish for her after that? -
Obviously I will guide her and help her find someone that is suitable for her in that case.
That's because I truly like her/ love her. -
Originally posted by Jimmy Ng:
Obviously I will guide her and help her find someone that is suitable for her in that case.
That's because I truly like her/ love her.
Ah..you are in love. Is nice to fall in love...but you must also see the reality in life. You must move on with your life too or you will be hurting yourself. -
Look at the creatures and animls round you do you think they are happier than you? The answer is yes because you know too much and that is the price for not being happy.
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Originally posted by zulkifli mahmood:
Ah..you are in love. Is nice to fall in love...but you must also see the reality in life. You must move on with your life too or you will be hurting yourself.Just because I am in love doesn't mean I can't see the reality in life.
I am moving on both in my life and yet being in love.
Hurting myself, doubt it. Acceptance of another party not having the mutual feeling is necessary to love someone.
Thanks for your advice though, genuinely accepted. -
Originally posted by Jimmy Ng:
Just because I am in love doesn't mean I can't see the reality in life.
I am moving on both in my life and yet being in love.
Hurting myself, doubt it. Acceptance of another party not having the mutual feeling is necessary to love someone.
Thanks for your advice though, genuinely accepted.
Ok Jimmy. You take care. You will find your dream girl one fine day. -
Originally posted by Twilight SG:
Lol i think that would be a question of morals not so much gold digging.
For clarity's sake.... someone might luv to gold dig but would not feel right about hurting his/her partner by being with the father just for the sake of gold.