would you go for someone who's attached?
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nope.
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Originally posted by fudgester:One word answer: no.
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Well, frankly, you made the right decision. If every idiot (those who step into somebody relationship) think and do like what you did, the world will be better.
Don't worry, a better one will be waiting for you in your life.
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YES. I'm an IDIOT??
Okie.. I'm a DEVIL... Does that EXPLAINS EVERYTHING?
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Yes, hell is the only place for you.Originally posted by Devil1976:YES. I'm an IDIOT??
Okie.. I'm a DEVIL... Does that EXPLAINS EVERYTHING? -
what i see is
if the person feel that the attached party is worth it..
he or she shd go for it..although it is not ethical...afterall it's for yr own happiness..except it's at the expense of others
but if the attached party is serious with his or her attached partner..
no other people can come in between them.. -
I will and i have
and theres nothing wrong, unless they're married -
married also can divorce 1 nowadays
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its not a moral objective to break up ppl's family.Originally posted by BufPuf:married also can divorce 1 nowadays -
it doesn't matter if they are married with kids or not. marriage is nothing but an admin procedure for ROM. if she can be happier with someone else, there is no reason why not. why be bound by a piece of paper and suffer in silence?Originally posted by Forever84:I will and i have
and theres nothing wrong, unless they're married -
because she's taken a vow to love him in sickness and health, unless the guy is freaking JERK then i would say it be fine. Otherwise, NO because if she feels unhappy with him, she shouldn't have lied in the first place wanting to take care of each other.Originally posted by boy in blues:it doesn't matter if they are married with kids or not. marriage is nothing but an admin procedure for ROM. if she can be happier with someone else, there is no reason why not
I can't believe marriage is such a trivial thing to you, "nothing more than a piece of paper". If its such a small thing, get people to witness for what? You come my house la, i print 1 piece of paper for u. -
What if one day you realise that you are not running a charity and its time to place your own goals and happiness ahead ?Tough argument eh.Originally posted by fudgester:One word answer: no.
I will never ever get in the way of two people who are in love.
If you think that it's easy for me to say that cos I've never been in that kind of situation, think again. I was in such a situation once.
I fell in love with my junior. She was such a sweet and charming girl.
Unfortunately, she fell in love with another guy (another junior!)
My heart ached terribly. I really, really wanted to tell her how I felt about her but I realised that I couldn't. That might very well drive a wedge between them..... They really respect me as their senior (I helped the both of them with their schoolwork a lot)..... and I just didn't have the heart to risk hurting the two of them. In the end, I would end up hurting myself as well.
So I made a choice. I decided to leave them alone. Rather than risk hurting all three of us, I decided that I should be the only one who gets hurt.
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would i go for someone who's attached? never.
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No...someone is going to get badly hurt in that equation and I dont want to do something like that to anybody coz I know how badly it can hurt.
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BINGO.Originally posted by BufPuf:what i see is
if the person feel that the attached party is worth it..
he or she shd go for it..although it is not ethical...afterall it's for yr own happiness..except it's at the expense of others
but if the attached party is serious with his or her attached partner..
no other people can come in between them.. -
Hell is my home? Besides.. It's not like the rest of you are gonna live eternity..?Originally posted by eveline:Yes, hell is the only place for you.
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It's also not moral to break up an attached couple what...?Originally posted by Forever84:its not a moral objective to break up ppl's family. -
Good point. Someday I'm going to have to have to find someone and settle down. Someday I'm going to have to consider about my own happiness... my own future.Originally posted by LazerLordz:What if one day you realise that you are not running a charity and its time to place your own goals and happiness ahead ?Tough argument eh.
But what kind of future am I going to have if I have to break the hearts of others to achieve it? And should that happen..... how do I live with my own heart being broken by my act of breaking the hearts of others?
I just hope I don't have to live through that scenario again...... -
it shouldnt be your goal to break up a r/s but if the person in the r/s decides to leave their partner and be with you, its a different thing.
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I am new here, lost my gf to someone else when I am busy struggling for exam and work. Only got to know the truth from her friends. She went out with that guy behind my back. Still struggling to move on but really feel hurt.
Furthermore, that guy ask me not to call her, contact her so on so forth. Initially my friends want to look for this guy, I told myself just let her go. A girl so naive to trust a guy from the internet chat.
Sorry, just want to release my anger. -
if you still consider her as a friend, get her out of that relationship. he has every right to intercept if he is better than you. unfortunately, he has exposed his insecurities by restricting her freedom and basic rights to socialise with other guys. this spirit of monopoly shows he has no interest to give to her but only to possess. break them upOriginally posted by ptw:I am new here, lost my gf to someone else when I am busy struggling for exam and work. Only got to know the truth from her friends. She went out with that guy behind my back. Still struggling to move on but really feel hurt.
Furthermore, that guy ask me not to call her, contact her so on so forth. Initially my friends want to look for this guy, I told myself just let her go. A girl so naive to trust a guy from the internet chat.
Sorry, just want to release my anger. -
challenge him back la dun give up... he called ur gf when she is attached, now is nth wrong for u to contact her.. but ur gf treat u like that better dun care her.. move on u nv noe wat is aheadOriginally posted by ptw:I am new here, lost my gf to someone else when I am busy struggling for exam and work. Only got to know the truth from her friends. She went out with that guy behind my back. Still struggling to move on but really feel hurt.
Furthermore, that guy ask me not to call her, contact her so on so forth. Initially my friends want to look for this guy, I told myself just let her go. A girl so naive to trust a guy from the internet chat.
Sorry, just want to release my anger. -
Thanks for your advice,
My ex told me that I am a nice and trustable person, but just dont have enough time for her due to my studies and work. She want someone to tease her, talk to her everynight. Like a young girl kinda thing. I focus on future but she look at the current things that makes her happy. Yet, she trusted a guy whom she know for less than 2 months! I dont know, its like entering a trap kinda thing.
Before we broke up, I asked her to give ourselves some cool down period to salvage our relationship. But just before the cool down period ends, she initiated for a breakup and her friends told me she was actually trying out to see if that guy is trustable, if not, she would rather stay with me. Yah right, she assume that trust can be tested within a few meetups.
He is mean, I believe he made my ex to cut off all communication means away from me. Its like hell, dont know what did I do wrong, no head and no tail. Its only recent that we start to comm via email.
Its like stabbing you deep and dump you at a corner suffering.
I need to move on and hope that she do not need me in future cos if she really does, something terrible might have happened to her. -
If they really like each other so much, i don't see how someone new can just pop out and break them upOriginally posted by Devil1976:It's also not moral to break up an attached couple what...? -
no...
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If it is destined to be yours, it will be.
