i very sad
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hi beckboy.. sorri to sidetrack a bit.... wch unit u frm? do u stay out?? i got a fren whoose story is darn similar to urs.... maybe can intro u both and share each other's pain...
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haih...girls like this .... need to balance. Spent too much time with them,they feel no freedom... Too little time...well they think we dont care for them.Originally posted by beckboy:i wan to get her back....but...i dun wan to keep pestering her...scally...made her very annoy...maybe...some smses n chatting on phone..see how the road appear in front
finger crossed....i really hope..she will be back....even though i know it will not be so soon she will come back....
Sad to say until now i also cant balance it. Bcos the other side also dun want to balance it.
So actually depends on them also... -
haiz....got qian bai ge bu yuan yi to let her go..
really dun bear to see her..in other pple de arms..
know her toking wif the guy whom like her....i still jealous leh.... -
Dec? it's almost 11 month away!Originally posted by beckboy:erm....dunno wat to say...coz...juz settle things wif her...we sort of...end it wif a happy state..
i am letting her go....i think she is happy ...she also told mi she dun bear...but now still young...she wan to try everything
she also said..she can't promise anything in this vocation...she might fall for others..but we promise....this 12th dec...our 2 yr anniversary...to sit down..n see wats the road ahead...
she said i am porridge...eat too long le.....feel very plain...she wan to eat some oily de food...after eating oily de food.....she will still wan to eat porridge becoz....she say its healthy
Porridge? want you back coz you are healthy?
hmm..
dude, u wana wait for her? -
Pat pat on beckboy's back...Originally posted by beckboy:hi everyone...i am a new forumate
i had a very big problem..
my gf..after 1 yr....decided to break off...the reason is...she wanna have fun, go out wif frends, n enjoy...she also found tat...i have been neglecting her...
i am in NS..everyday 8-5.30....she always wan to meet mi after i off from work..but i always ask her to go home 1st...as i really dun wan to tired her out..but she think is ..i dun wan meet her...
as time goes by...she got to been in contact wif an ex project lab mate..
tat guy...told my gf he like her...but during tat time...she was still wif mi..tats y she nv agreed..he started to take over my duty as a bf..n as my gf told mi...she was lonely...n need someone accompany...she said tat she won't go steady wif tat guy...but she can't promise mi she won't in the future..
now....she said....she wan to take a break....a vocation..to sort things out..n got to know more pple...then decide whether to return to mi onot..
i ask her she will be gone for how long...she said....she dun kno...
i really dun bear to lose her....after all she really is a very gd ger...i believe she suggest the break up is not becoz of tat guy...its juz tat...she find our relationship is getting plainer n plainer...
i spend 2-3 days trying to talk her into giving mi 1 more chance....but her mind seem set..i took an urgent leave from ns to pei her 1 whole day....send her to sch n fetch her back...
should i let her go on a "vocation"? or should i continue wooing her?
i kno tat if she go on a vocation....she will definately go out wif other guys...coz she said she wanted to meet more pple b4 deciding...
i really dunno whether she will be back to my side after the vocation...i really is...lost....
if u all dun understand wat i writing...its ok...i juz...wan to find a space to voice out...if u all understand wat i wrting....i hope there will be some gd advice...
how can i let go...when i really dun bear....
1 yr relationship..y she can bear to let go.....
haiz.....
I knw how you are feeling now cos I gone through exactly the same thing as you did.
Hiaz... Feels like shit rite??
Yet.. life still goes on... You may feel like shit these few weeks..
But promise us one thing, dun ever ever do something foolish cos I seen that happen to someone before.
One day, you WILL get someone who loves you and be ur wife.. and on ur marriage day, you Will turn back and thk..
How did I ever looked into her (ur current ex) tat very day?
Take care pal..
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There are certain times in our short lives, that its best to do nothing.
This may be one of those times.
She wants to eat oily food right? So why should she still eat porridge once a week? She's been eating it everyday for a year, she knows how it tastes like.
Let her eat all the oily stuff, and when she gets sick of it, she'll return to the porridge.
I think you should make yourself invisible if you truly respect and love her.
This will also show how mature you handle the situation.
Since she's a clever girl, i'm sure she'll appreciate what you've done.
So sit back, and let fate decide. If she's yours, even if she wants to run away, she can't.
Live life without worries, and perhaps it'll be a more enjoyable one for you.. -
Go & date other girls & let her know that u are in demand.
Who knows she might get jealous & decides to come back.
In a way it is good for each of u to date others.
Then u can compare & see whether there are others better. -
thanks guy...i have been to hell...i still in hell now...
really broke up liao...
feel very lousy....
she say...we broke is not because of 3rd party....but....2 days after we broke..she agreed go stead wif tat guy...
i really hate to think tat..she dun wan mi..is becoz of tat guy...i really hate to think tat....she "zhao sai" mi...but....wat she have done...really made mi...think....wtf....
but still....she told mi..its not because of 3rd party...and i really believe her..becoz..i kno at the beginning..things wouldn't turn out this way becoz she assure mi...she juz wanna rest afew days...then will still wan to continue wif mi..but i backside itchy..keep pestering her..until she think i am handling the matter very childishly...she wan mi to learn how to put things down..
i really like her..but since she now got a new bf..i think i should't woo her furiuosly....i continue to let her kno i am by her side...but at the same time...i think i try to kno more pple also...
but....really feeling lousy...nv so down b4...hate to see her in other pple de arms...really have to let go liao...wtf....
she is my 1st love...i really really bu se de, alot of dun bear to let her go...i really love her...
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One day, you WILL get someone who loves you and be ur wife.. and on ur marriage day, you Will turn back and thk..
Very Very Very well said.
How did I ever looked into her (ur current ex) tat very day? From wat I've read so far, I say........ Move on bro..... move on. -
Still got return ticket 1 ah? 1st love sure cannot forget 1 la. But boi, both of u still haf a long way to go, lots of pple to meet, things will change faster den u can imagine. 5 yrs later, u may even have problems recalling her telephone number. (or even laff at urself for offering "return" ticket)
Even if u don't enlist, how long do u tink she'll stay with u? Or who noes u might meet some1 even better when u start working? "Bing bian" is so common. Time will heal u..
Slowly la, if u muz, get ur buddies out & drown ur sorrows. Drunk liao go home K.O. Tomolo wake up still "yi tiao hao han".
Frens r very impt. @ ur age, u shld b hanging out wif ur frens, having fun & meeting new pple. Don't waste youth!
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Originally posted by LuNAtIcfArKeR:
There's always a reason for two person to fall in love.
[b]Very Very Very well said. From wat I've read so far, I say........ Move on bro..... move on. [/b]
'Wrong' persons(or so you have thought) may appear to have teach us certain lessons in life.
We should appreciate them and wise up for the next relationship. -
When's your next...?Originally posted by M©+square:There's always a reason for two person to fall in love.
'Wrong' persons(or so you have thought) may appear to have teach us certain lessons in life.
We should appreciate them and wise up for the next relationship.
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yeah....u all r rite...
i tot i can really dun care for her for 10mths...but i was wrong...today is the 1st day...but i juz cannot help keep thinking...wat they r doing now..where r they going now...r they holding hands....
mi really very tong ku....wtf tat i said give each other 10 mths...i think it juz made mi feel hurt now...then maybe 10mths later....hurt another time....
i think i should really settle everything once n for all....n break off cleanly...i wan to ask her to tell the truth...n stop all the plain porridge n oily food stuff..
its now or nv....even its very hurtful for mi...i think i should get hurt once n for all...instead of...pulling myself together now...then hurt another time...
yeah...i really wan to thank my frend...they really stand by mi ....even 3 or 4am in the morning...they also pick up my call...
dun intend to settle everything now...my frends all advise mi to really cool down afew days....wait for the weekend...when they all can gather around mi n support mi...
i wish i could really stay cool until saturday....coz now...i not juz feeling sad..tear juz auto drop also...
i really dun understand...how she can have fun while knowing mi will be really sad...how can she...let go of everything so easily... does she kno tat....when she go out wif tat guy....i am thinking of her n crying for her... -
Hey, I just broke off with my ex and this is my advice to you:
Never, ever pester her after you break off with her. I know you'll keep thinking of her, keep wanting to have her back, beg her and stuffs. You'll go crazy and a lot of silly things.
But, NEVER EVER pester her.
She'll get annoyed and irritated by your action, even though you THINK it is alright. Trust me, it's never alright.
Let her cool off first, can still be concern abt her but dont be OVERLY concerned. I guess an sms a day is ok.
Impt thing is, dont do things to irritate her. Let her cool off. Let her have her space.
If it's really meant to be, she'll come back SOONER OR LATER.
Just be paitient and don't piss her off!!!
Yes, yes, I irritated my ex till a point, where now she totally ignore my every response. -
wah....rumie....but ur ex...not got new partner?
or remain single...
mine got a new partner.... -
wah....rumie....but ur ex...not got new partner?
or remain single...
mine got a new partner.... -
Cheer up lah, dun be sad, okay?
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If you really wanna let it go...Originally posted by beckboy:yeah....u all r rite...
i tot i can really dun care for her for 10mths...but i was wrong...today is the 1st day...but i juz cannot help keep thinking...wat they r doing now..where r they going now...r they holding hands....
mi really very tong ku....wtf tat i said give each other 10 mths...i think it juz made mi feel hurt now...then maybe 10mths later....hurt another time....
i think i should really settle everything once n for all....n break off cleanly...i wan to ask her to tell the truth...n stop all the plain porridge n oily food stuff..
its now or nv....even its very hurtful for mi...i think i should get hurt once n for all...instead of...pulling myself together now...then hurt another time...
yeah...i really wan to thank my frend...they really stand by mi ....even 3 or 4am in the morning...they also pick up my call...
dun intend to settle everything now...my frends all advise mi to really cool down afew days....wait for the weekend...when they all can gather around mi n support mi...
i wish i could really stay cool until saturday....coz now...i not juz feeling sad..tear juz auto drop also...
i really dun understand...how she can have fun while knowing mi will be really sad...how can she...let go of everything so easily... does she kno tat....when she go out wif tat guy....i am thinking of her n crying for her...
Forget about the 'porridge & oil'... Forget about the '10 months'...
Forget about who she's with now.... She've got her own life to live... And you've got yours... If you wanna tag on to it, it's YOUR CHOICE.... -
Morale of the storyun get a girlfriend when u are serving NS.
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very sad for u boy, but it occurs in a lot of couples, not only u. you will not know what she is thinking about. alot of times, what we say is not what we think.
but i want to comment on something, if she can get a stead after breaking up wif u in just 2 days, most likely there are 2 possibilities:
1) to her, going stead is not a process in which she really needs to like the guy, but can be just "tryout", so when she was wif u, she may be just "trying out" too, and not seriously in love wif u
2) she already likes another guy even when she is wif u.
so sorry to say these cruel words, i'm also a newbie here, but it all depends on u too, do not just treat her words so seriously, she may not realise what she is saying after all. gals & guys are both like tat. Anyway, do get on with ur life, but do tell her that u will promise to be a better man/bf. If she comes back, she will be happier, and u too. If she doesn't, you have also changed to become a better man, and u should be happy cos more gals will like u, and u will not regret, but she may regret instead.
Stay happy each day, its true tat some one commented earlier, whatever is urs, its just a period of possession, it will not last forever. As we will be gone someday, so why be so tough on yourself and ur soul to struggle for something which may not even last?
Sorry if i offend or hurt any of u, just hope to help. You can also add mi in msn or icq so that we can chat, in case you feel sad, frens will always be there to lend a helping hand. -
haha....thanks all for tat advices...
i kno wat i wanted now...
i won't do anything i said ....i think i juz let things go as they will...
watever i said these few days....i think....most r my angry words....
now i cool down abit..i think...haha....watever i said these few days...abit funny...
but i very concern about her...
i dun dare contact her.....
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that's because you're a damn fool...Originally posted by icyprincess:hmm...if she is like me, she wun go back again...
but then again, dats me, i m very stubborn and my pride always gets the better of me in this kinda situation...
well, think of it this way: if it is meant to be, it will be...
i.c.y
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you idiot...the other guy got her from you...you should try your best to get her back from him...let him feel the pain...pester her until she agrees to sleep with you...at least if she decides to leave you for a second time, you'd gotten something out of it...Originally posted by beckboy:thanks guy...i have been to hell...i still in hell now...
really broke up liao...
feel very lousy....
she say...we broke is not because of 3rd party....but....2 days after we broke..she agreed go stead wif tat guy...
i really hate to think tat..she dun wan mi..is becoz of tat guy...i really hate to think tat....she "zhao sai" mi...but....wat she have done...really made mi...think....wtf....
but still....she told mi..its not because of 3rd party...and i really believe her..becoz..i kno at the beginning..things wouldn't turn out this way becoz she assure mi...she juz wanna rest afew days...then will still wan to continue wif mi..but i backside itchy..keep pestering her..until she think i am handling the matter very childishly...she wan mi to learn how to put things down..
i really like her..but since she now got a new bf..i think i should't woo her furiuosly....i continue to let her kno i am by her side...but at the same time...i think i try to kno more pple also...
but....really feeling lousy...nv so down b4...hate to see her in other pple de arms...really have to let go liao...wtf....
she is my 1st love...i really really bu se de, alot of dun bear to let her go...i really love her... -
mahai.....r u crazy....
i won't think like u....becoz...if u truely love a person..u won't think tat way.. -
Our mahai is trying to make you understand that, perhaps subconsciously though.Originally posted by beckboy:mahai.....r u crazy....
i won't think like u....becoz...if u truely love a person..u won't think tat way..
Glad to have you back with us. If you still need help to nurse your heart break... you can check out How to recover from a broken heart.
As time go by, you will realise that your actions during these days are really weird and strange, and you may even feel embarassed about it. Hey, its completely normal, we've all been there...
Remember to move on ... that's the most important thing. Don't stay behind while she carries on her life. Show her you can lead a good life, better than her too.~