Will guys mind if the girl has an ex bf?
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This kind of gals ought to be shotOriginally posted by Honeybunz:I know of a handful of girls who do that to their bfs. "last time my ex do this and that for me. you never." -
maybe i will outgrow it lolz...Originally posted by Devil1976:You're not insecure lah... You're just a young boy boy, that's why...?? Can be EXCUSED....
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Gosh! 17th bf? alarm bells should start ringing in yr head when she tells u this.Originally posted by yahoo.com:ya loh we guys will dump u oni if lose interest in u. not becoz of ur past. me tog with my gf. sad to say i m her 17th? feel so sad but i acept it. do so much for her yet when quarrel she always says she tired of being with me. used to always give in. now i m tired of her. its always abt how I can improve myself or act accordingly to ehr needs. but its never her. to hell with this type of women.
This shows that she plays with guys' feelings -
I'm probably much older than that girl... and the number of ex's I have are definitely less than the no. of fingers on one hand!Originally posted by gerrykoh:Gosh! 17th bf? alarm bells should start ringing in yr head when she tells u this.
This shows that she plays with guys' feelings
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now what age liao, where got ppl mind??
unless she said she don't have one but turned out to be a lie. that's meant trouble. -
ShrodingersCat, I love to read your posts because we seem to be on the same wavelength!Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:i think.. a girl who is so insensitive
as to bring up her ex when her current bf give her a TISSUE
she's got ISSUEs thats non-tissue related.
some girls LIKE to tell people they have a lot of ex
cos it makes them sound 'desirable' like WA so many bfs but I dump them all
type of mentality.
But for the general matured enough person...
where previous relationships that didnt work out meant a failure, and a learning experience
having previous rships to learn from may save a lot of problems in the current relationship.
I dont talk much about my 'past' with the husband, but I do explain to him that whatever happened in the past, it made me who I am today - someone who will treasure him for who he is, and cherish the relationship that we both share and my value and priority system. I think as long as the guy is confident and secure enough, who cares. Ultimately it is he who lasts the longest (heheh) that matters.
You are soooo right... our past forges us and makes us who we are today. You can also tell him to be grateful that all your mistakes weren't committed on him so he was spared the pain and anguish!
It really doesn't matter what happened in the past. The important thing is that you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with him.
We can never undo the past but we can sure look toward the future! Regrets and accusations re. the past are futile and sheer wastes of precious time that could be spent building the relationship.
Why dig up bones? -
I would mind if she keeps talking about her ex.
I would not mind even if she slept with her ex, participated in mass orgy, blah blah, as long as she dont carry STD.
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It is not true that we are toying with guys feelings when we have many ex boyfriends. We do not have some much time to spare; to ask you to be our stead, go out with you and at the same time toy with your feelings.
It is just that we belongs to a group of people that fall in love and develop feelings quickly like "Love at first sight" and we know that if we cannot work out a relationship, we come out of it fast so as not to waste each other time. -
Yeah.. Sure you will...Originally posted by weidev:maybe i will outgrow it lolz... -
Hey this is a great spin. Short relationships are a result of increased productivity and efficiency in dealing with relationships.
Originally posted by Waterapple:
It is not true that we are toying with guys feelings when we have many ex boyfriends. [b]We do not have some much time to spare; to ask you to be our stead, go out with you and at the same time toy with your feelings.
It is just that we belongs to a group of people that fall in love and develop feelings quickly like "Love at first sight" and we know that if we cannot work out a relationship, we come out of it fast so as not to waste each other time.[/b] -
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ONS more efficient . . . . .Originally posted by choco B:Hey this is a great spin. Short relationships are a result of increased productivity and efficiency in dealing with relationships. -
then the guy can say he got 'n' girl frens before la?
so unfair ar? have means have. what's there to hide?
mind then dun be together lor, wana mind, then i can mind about his past also lor..
but to me past is alrd past wor..y bother? i only care abt the future, and perhaps, future.
anyway i noe of some guys who will mind..and some girls who will mind if their bf has no experience in love..gotta teach him lots of things leh..headache.. -
*shrugs* it's practical.
But in terms of relationships, that's a different thing altogether.Originally posted by Qitai:ONS more efficient . . . . . -
If base a person's judgement on rship with his judgement on business investment then VERY DANGEROUS liaoOriginally posted by Waterapple:It is just that we belongs to a group of people that fall in love and develop feelings quickly like "Love at first sight" and we know that if we cannot work out a relationship, we come out of it fast so as not to waste each other time.
imagine everytime think WA good idea, then invest money in it,
then suay, oops, sorry i wrong, not such a good idea
close business again
WAh... very waste resources.
Best to 'train' until you dont need to try a relationship, already have enough foresight to know even if you like someone, doesnt necessary need to have rship with someone. Then not only save time, also save all those emotional investment and spend time doing better things than working on rships that don't go anywhere. -
dun really understand wat teh last para is about..Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:If base a person's judgement on rship with his judgement on business investment then VERY DANGEROUS liao
imagine everytime think WA good idea, then invest money in it,
then suay, oops, sorry i wrong, not such a good idea
close business again
WAh... very waste resources.
Best to 'train' until you dont need to try a relationship, already have enough foresight to know even if you like someone, doesnt necessary need to have rship with someone. Then not only save time, also save all those emotional investment and spend time doing better things than working on rships that don't go anywhere.
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some dun mind the past but MOST really do...they will prompt u to tell them wad happen during ur past relationship... upon hearing will developed in quarrels or arguements.. wan to hear yet hear alredy uncomfortabel or jealous.. typical guys... some may not mind but hmmm will leave a impact or impression in their mind... whenever u be sweet to them or wad they will have the impression tat u r also doing it to ur ex last time too... they will ask u" are u like this to all ur ex?" by asking this i think they mind.... naturally all huamans are selfish they wan to be t eone and only one... it may feel nice to hear like" u r the first person who i brought here" " u r the only one i did this for etc etc.. so those who say they dun mind are actually also bullshitt... somehow or another it will leave a impact...not worht it to be truthful maybe..
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some ppl.... wanna noe everything about ur EX..den when u tell, they throw a tantrum... so she's better than me lar? go find her lor! den u'd be.. har? hey, u're the one who asked ok?
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basically telling U to train urself until like nun/monk....Originally posted by shinta:dun really understand wat teh last para is about..
kan4 po4 hong2 chen2
se4 ji2 shi4 kong1,kong1 ji2 shi4 se4 -
After reading all the posts, I guess there are really many guys who are big hearted enough to accept a girl's past. Perhaps it is my girl friends who are feeling insecure. That's why they told me not to tell my past.
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Actually,girls or boys who have past relationships are stronger and more mature thinking.I would prefer those girls if we are serious with one another.
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Er can i say something?Originally posted by Honeybunz:After reading all the posts, I guess there are really many guys who are big hearted enough to accept a girl's past. Perhaps it is my girl friends who are feeling insecure. That's why they told me not to tell my past.
not everyone thinks logically immediately...
can i suggest majority still are backwards or slow in responding correctly?
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Everyone would mind each other bad past in some way but that doesn't mean they could not accept each other. In many instances, the past is not strong enough to break up a relationship, unless it is very drastic case like Aids, Homosexualty etcOriginally posted by Honeybunz:After reading all the posts, I guess there are really many guys who are big hearted enough to accept a girl's past. Perhaps it is my girl friends who are feeling insecure. That's why they told me not to tell my past.
The wise words for couples are: "The smart ones should not reveal too much, the smart ones should also not ask too much"; if the couple is serious about a future relationship.
Revealing of one past to your the other half is necessary for him to know you better; on your values, background, likes and dislikes, habits etc. However, avoid revealing things that you do in the past that you feel is damaging to the relationship, because you are building a future not a past. -
it is always good to be truthful.... if a gal/guy mind about their partner past then this relationship won't last so no point hanging on.Originally posted by Honeybunz:After reading all the posts, I guess there are really many guys who are big hearted enough to accept a girl's past. Perhaps it is my girl friends who are feeling insecure. That's why they told me not to tell my past. -
It means you need 'foresight' and 'control'Originally posted by shinta:dun really understand wat teh last para is about..
don't mean that every attractive person you meet who likes you, must try try relationship. Very waste of emotional resources and time. Lots of things in Life to do and keep busy with.
Only got one heart. Must invest carefully.
what's the point of getting into so many 'failed' relationships?