Is my life pathetic?
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There there,here's a reply.Originally posted by M©+square:I'm no better.
Notice whenever i post any comments, people rarely reply?
People don't like me.
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I feel so loved.
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Originally posted by M©+square:
Does the number of replies indicate the level of popularity? Trolls and clones get lots of replies in their threads, too.
Notice whenever i post any comments, people rarely reply?
People don't like me.
Besides, some posters (not me, unfortunately) may not want to ursurp the thread by replying to the comments made by other posters rather than to the thread starter.
Or maybe sometimes your comments were too deep or comprehensive that other posters didn't know what to reply or add on other than perhaps "+1 "? -
kaoz.. stop harping on "my life is pathetic i just wanna die" thing will you dude? and man... if you're upset nobody replies your posts, your life's really pathetic. no offence dude, but there's got to be more than "a lot of people replies to my posts so i am having a life". -_-"
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Yo deathman, qi zao ba zao, give me such a greeting as 40+ auntie ah....not yet le..
but it doesn't really matters lah....
I can see many of them have given you and those who are in the same boat good advice.
i like especially what smudgey said.
Not all of us are born to be good in socializing. Some efforts needed to be put in to find your friends. Then again it needed to be reciprocal. Meaning two or more ppl must be willing to be each others' friends. So if they don't, drop them, find again.
I have no friends during primary schools. But it didn't bother me much, maybe cos i am that kind, have ok lor, don't hv also no big deal, i would just walk round and round the school compound for the bell ring.
So when my younger brother join me in school, i played with his friends lor...
Is only into Sec and College i start to find some friends, few but good ones. Still in touch with those kakis from college.
Now i can friend ppl of all ages, young ones and older ones. You will find your 'skill' with time.
Meanwhile, stop feeling sory for yourself being without friends.
Wishing you all the best in finding your true friends.
Originally posted by smudgey:ok the pimple thing is easy to take care of... alittle care by washing ur face more... using better pimple creams it should clear up.
as for not having life outside the chat forums... instead of spending all ur tine in front of the screen, take part in more ECAs and join in in more gp activities. be more outspoken.
I was like u in sec sch. but just b4 starting poly, i made a concious effort to be more outgoing. and talk more... soon when u find the right group of friends u'll feel comfortable enough.
making friends is easy but the easy part is being hi-bye friends... ppl that u smile to and say hi but not more then the 'weather' type talk.
making friends who'll stay by ur side when u are in trouble, or are troubled. is not easy. but they all start at the same point. u'll have to make the first move and put in lots of effort.
Believe me when i tell u making friends is the easy part. keeping friends, staying in touch when u all have ur own seperate lives and activities to take care of is the HARD part!!!
but nothing is impossible. the fruits of all these hard work is deliciously sweet!!!!
try harder.... remember they may be just as shy, and desperately looking for a friend as u. -
Thank you, but the problem is lah i'm very shy lor. I dun even know how to go ard talking to pplOriginally posted by a_splash:Yo deathman, qi zao ba zao, give me such a greeting as 40+ auntie ah....not yet le.. but it doesn't really matters lah....
I can see many of them have given you and those who are in the same boat good advice.
i like especially what smudgey said.
Not all of us are born to be good in socializing. Some efforts needed to be put in to find your friends. Then again it needed to be reciprocal. Meaning two or more ppl must be willing to be each others' friends. So if they don't, drop them, find again.
I have no friends during primary schools. But it didn't bother me much, maybe cos i am that kind, have ok lor, don't hv also no big deal, i would just walk round and round the school compound for the bell ring.
So when my younger brother join me in school, i played with his friends lor...
Is only into Sec and College i start to find some friends, few but good ones. Still in touch with those kakis from college.
Now i can friend ppl of all ages, young ones and older ones. You will find your 'skill' with time.
Meanwhile, stop feeling sory for yourself being without friends.
Wishing you all the best in finding your true friends. -
take a look at these :Originally posted by The man who was death:Thank you, but the problem is lah i'm very shy lor. I dun even know how to go ard talking to ppl
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/nefsky2.html
http://www.webspawner.com/users/shyness/
think you should be able to find more info on this in the library.
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Who are you talking about? M©+square or Mr Death? Cos you're sounding like you're talking to the same person.Originally posted by starblue:kaoz.. stop harping on "my life is pathetic i just wanna die" thing will you dude? and man... if you're upset nobody replies your posts, your life's really pathetic. no offence dude, but there's got to be more than "a lot of people replies to my posts so i am having a life". -_-" -
Alamak....why am i involved....Originally posted by ^spidee^:Who are you talking about? M©+square or Mr Death? Cos you're sounding like you're talking to the same person. 
There's nothing to rant about, i'm just stating that at times when self doubt will thread into my mind.
Nothing significant anyway, why do i care what people comment about me?
Ha. It's sgforums man, not as if my life relies on it. -
I agree with starblue. I am getting kind of irritated and sick of seeing this post whenever I come in.Originally posted by starblue:kaoz.. stop harping on "my life is pathetic i just wanna die" thing will you dude? and man... if you're upset nobody replies your posts, your life's really pathetic. no offence dude, but there's got to be more than "a lot of people replies to my posts so i am having a life". -_-"
New replies will just mean u nvr listen to people's advices at all, so wats the point of getting one if u are not going to listen?
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you may find a friend in SMAPlionheartOriginally posted by The man who was death:I have no friends in real life, i've got lots of pimples on my face, i go out only for school and when i go out i always go to the same places. I've got friends here but i think i'll get disillusional one day if all i know are online.
The person i enjoy talking to the most here is an 40+ auntie called a_splash. I don't even talk to mother who's abt 40+. I'm not saying it's bad but it is when u only talk to ppl online. So basically my life is virtual, i don't have a real life.
What should i do?
PM him today~!!!! -
hey threadstarter dont worry so much ya, its not that good to have many friends than lets say just a few gd ones because when your down and out its usually your buddies that pull u up and not those "hi-bye" ones. As for knowing more friends u got to be a bit patient i guess because i believe someday u will meet friends that pursue the same interest or at least can click with u, so dont give up and keep trying yeah...but u have to be at least friendly and approachable first la okay...
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Not everyone's life is a bed of roses, so why can't we just cut the thread starter some slack and move on? I know eveyone's entitled to freedom of speech in cyberspace, but is it necessary to diss someone just because the thread is not pleasing to the eye?Originally posted by shaunlaw:I agree with starblue. I am getting kind of irritated and sick of seeing this post whenever I come in.
New replies will just mean u nvr listen to people's advices at all, so wats the point of getting one if u are not going to listen? -
And i didn't know there were already so many pathetic threads
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Originally posted by The man who was death:And i didn't know there were already so many pathetic threads
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there are definitely a lot. the only difference is some or most people dont even know they are.
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and alot of pathetic people like you and me, and non-pathetic-people-wannabes.Originally posted by The man who was death:And i didn't know there were already so many pathetic threads -
join a gang ?
haha kidding
but dont worry too much about this man
i had a friend just like this
we all saw him as a friend but one we didnt really treat very well
he was a transfer student into our "elite school " from a neighbourhood school.
from the first day we met him in sec 3 we made fun of him alot . but he was still our friend and he hung out with us .
after o lvs he started asking us all these weird questions about how to dress and what hair styles are nice and stuff .
when we went to jc . he had made an attempt to clear up his face which was quite bad. ( its still quite bad but you can see the attempt made and the difference ) . hes now sort of poser la but he definitely looks cooler than he was before and hes more sociable and confident about himself .
but infront of his old group of friends he still holds some apprehension
i hope you take heart from my story
just move on with life and improve yourself
no matter what age you are
theres always time to change yourself and remake yourself
and make friends.
what do you think SDU is for ? -
changing the appearance doesn't change the person.Originally posted by sethrogx:join a gang ?
haha kidding
but dont worry too much about this man
i had a friend just like this
we all saw him as a friend but one we didnt really treat very well
he was a transfer student into our "elite school " from a neighbourhood school.
from the first day we met him in sec 3 we made fun of him alot . but he was still our friend and he hung out with us .
after o lvs he started asking us all these weird questions about how to dress and what hair styles are nice and stuff .
when we went to jc . he had made an attempt to clear up his face which was quite bad. ( its still quite bad but you can see the attempt made and the difference ) . hes now sort of poser la but he definitely looks cooler than he was before and hes more sociable and confident about himself .
but infront of his old group of friends he still holds some apprehension
i hope you take heart from my story
just move on with life and improve yourself
no matter what age you are
theres always time to change yourself and remake yourself
and make friends.
what do you think SDU is for ? -
yes which was why he was able to socialize with people who had not known him from his so called "bad" times
but to his old friends he was still the same
i know its being shallow
but thats the way it is
and this guy is obviously concerned about his looks if he talks about his pimples .
the truth is that the good looking people always have more friends and more fun than the ugly people .
same with talkative over quiet
but noone is stuck the way we are . we can either be happy with what we are which is good . or if we arent we should do something about it . -
true frens -> a few is enuff... if u have prob making frens, then maybe u can try changing the way u treat ur frens.. maybe make more effort to keep in contact with pple u meet... if not, ur family members are ur best frens... they will be the ones that stick by u in times of difficulty... remember to treat ur siblings well...
pimples -> they come n they go.. visit a specialist if u hv a serious acne prob... i also like dat last time, n worse, itchy finger go press them... but itz alrite, i still feel confident abt myself... the worst u can do is to feel despondent and inferior...
u have a life where u still can eat, sleep and play w/o worries... ur life is definitely NOT pathetic..
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Originally posted by M©+square:
After so long...you still feel the same? 
True Love wor.... 
Of course... WHO DARE TO SAY YOU ARE DUO YU DE???
/me hands flare with intense unholy flame.
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icic.Originally posted by sethrogx:yes which was why he was able to socialize with people who had not known him from his so called "bad" times
but to his old friends he was still the same
i know its being shallow
but thats the way it is
and this guy is obviously concerned about his looks if he talks about his pimples .
the truth is that the good looking people always have more friends and more fun than the ugly people .
same with talkative over quiet
but noone is stuck the way we are . we can either be happy with what we are which is good . or if we arent we should do something about it .
im sure its bad enough, maybe an entire facial outbreak? if its dats bad, its not something u can just wave away.
anyways, i disagree, i'd rather have no friends den to have flocks of flies hovering all around. -
Originally posted by The man who was death:
Now in answer to the thread-starter's question:
Is my life pathetic?
"Cogito ergo sum." (I think, therefore I am.)
- Rene Descartes
You think it is, therefore it is.
This was this episode from the recent "An Eye For A Guy 2" series that I just happened to catch on TV. There was this guy who had given the girl lots of little meaningful gifts throughout the series and he even drew her a pencil sketch portrait. The girl would probably have let him gone on the show if he had not been over-humble and downplayed himself as "just an average guy". Her parting words to him was "I've never thought of you as average till you said you were average."
I know the show is tacky entertainment, and probably not a credible reference, but think about this: If you were a girl and a guy who liked you kept harping about how pathetic his life was, how would you take it? Would you want to be with someone who is confident of himself and able to provide you with security, or with someone who considers himself pathetic and predicts (self-fulfillingly) he'd never win your heart?
One would never gain confidence and respect from others if one does not have any confidence and respect in oneself.
Rise and smell the flowers out there, kid. There's more to life than chatting with 40-year-old obasan's. -
Get a job, things will be different.Originally posted by The man who was death:I have no friends in real life, i've got lots of pimples on my face, i go out only for school and when i go out i always go to the same places. I've got friends here but i think i'll get disillusional one day if all i know are online.
The person i enjoy talking to the most here is an 40+ auntie called a_splash. I don't even talk to mother who's abt 40+. I'm not saying it's bad but it is when u only talk to ppl online. So basically my life is virtual, i don't have a real life.
What should i do?
When you realised that your life is routine, static, at a standpoint and nothing else seems to be moving, do not fret over it.
It's you who is not moving in your life at all. So to solve this, just do something out of your ordinary routine usually called-boring lifestyle and you'll realise what I meant.
When at the end of the day, you usually hop onto mrt, bus to go home...instead of going home, try taking a little detour and go shopping, or drop off at a few stops before your stops and walk home, or simply hop out of the train and give your friends a simple hello call and missed the train on purpose and take the next train again. There're tons to things to do out of ordinary, so never fret if you realised your life is getting routine and you're going to feel sick about your life.
Of course if you start to feel this way and not do anything about it, you will ultimately go into depression...which you and I don't want that to happen.
Do something and run your life the way you want it. Create little adventures so that you'll have lots of memories with you and you won't feel alone anymore.
Those memories will filled you up so much that you'll recall them and smile/laugh by yourself even when you're alone.
Good luck.