My gf cheated on me...
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Your wife's name selina?Originally posted by maxcp:I understand how you feel .... in fact we r in he same boat ... only different is she's my wife ... forget her she will never change ... I confronted my wife 3 times and every time she said she will stop but in the end she still do it .... I can't eat , sleep and work .... -
no .... you know someone by this name selina did the same to the husband ???Originally posted by gur:Your wife's name selina? -
Hi guys/gals...my first post..
Here's a scenario.. ..
"My girl was clubbing with her own friends and she complained she dropped something at the club and lost her belongings...
Being worried i came down to look for her, and saw her and a guy (whom she introduced to me only a couple of days ago) boarding a taxi... I decided to follow her as she was nearly brought to some guy's home by one of those so-called friends...
The tailing ended up at the guy's place inevitably.
She went up with him in the lift with him. Then she Sms-ed me that she loved me...
I called back immediately to ask her to come down. But she had switched off her phone on purpose. I then decided to look for her at that particular floor..
Having found her, I pressed on the bell till the guy answered the door. I asked for her and she came to the door but REFUSED to go back with me. She SAID she's not gonna do anything just that she doesn't want to go back home.
I left only after she threatened to leave me forever.
I came back in 6 hours time and asked her to leave with me. And she didn't either.
Should i believe that they didnt do anything?
Or i was just dumb?"
I was once told, if you truly love somebody you'd accept anything, even when you're on the losing end. Even when the odds seem impossible.
Tell me wat's the story guys and girls...
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1) Why she did not want to go home ? She quarrel with her family?
2) You are not dumb just that you love her a lot and wanted the best for her but it seems that she is afarid of you.
3) So are you going to dump her after she stay in another guys house?
If you do not trust her is time for you to let go.
If you want to go on with this relationship then you must try to accept the fact it may happen and you will never know the answer as you no longer trust your gf. -
not the first time i found her alone in a place with a bed and alone with a guy.
there was this other time when she ended up in a hotel room with this so called "mutual" guy friend whom she introduced to me also.
But, she called me down and when i got there the guy was like stoned out...
and being the first time i let it go and gave her full trust...
now this.. hmm
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1) dunno whether there was a real quarrel cos i talked to the mom and everything seemed fine. I had to lie to the mom that she was with me while i knew she wasn't.
2) yea we had some problems about privacy and somehow i'm always updated on time u know wat i mean
3)we are mutually over. but i miss her lots.
She's the real playful type. As in REALLY goddamn playful. The type u guys say are only good for flings. And i knew that first day i met her. Maybe i was just asking for it.
But i thot things would change.
Does sex really matter so much?
If ever one day i met a wonderful girl and she's like fucked 500 guys, i wouldnt hold it against her.
If ever one day i see her again, i wun hold it against her that she ever betrayed me, i'll still think she's wonderful.
Should i wait for her to change? Or should i move on? -
But i dunno if i can accept her again despite wat i say.
Am in conflicts between my personal ego/libido and how i feel...
Should i settle for 2nd best? Or should i be more important than anything else? Is love really supposed to be this way? -
She's the real playful type. As in REALLY goddamn playful. The type u guys say are only good for flings. And i knew that first day i met her. Maybe i was just asking for it.
If your gf is playful then you should be prepare for this things, sex to her may be like eating a meal, no longer impt.
But i thot things would change.
Everyone thinks so too. They thought by doing nice things people will change to their way of thinking but in the end no one can change a person unless the person really wants to change.
Does sex really matter so much?
Differs from person to person. If a person likes it very much she or he will not mind doing it with anyone.
If ever one day i met a wonderful girl and she's like @%&@ed 500 guys, i wouldnt hold it against her.
You were not there when she is having sex with the person so it is easy to say you do not mind but when she starts having sex with other guys in front of you you will mind.
If ever one day i see her again, i wun hold it against her that she ever betrayed me, i'll still think she's wonderful.
That is if you still got the chance to ever see her again.
Should i wait for her to change? Or should i move on?
DO you think she will ever change? Come on if you like her then accept her wild and playful ways.If not is time to move on to someone less playful and willing to be nice to you. -
But i dunno if i can accept her again despite wat i say.
Am in conflicts between my personal ego/libido and how i feel...
Should i settle for 2nd best? Or should i be more important than anything else? Is love really supposed to be this way
my guess you will not accept her again cos deep in your heart you really mind that she is having sex.
Yes I guess you can say you are having conflicts cos you do not know what you want in a gf.
You like her because of her sexy, playful ways but refuse to accept the problem thats she is sleeping around with other people.
True love requires a person to accept the his lovers ways and life. you could not change the person and dump the parts you dislikes. -
honestly, she will nvr change. if u believe she did nothing, i have nothing 2 say. even if she really did nothing, can u endure her behaviour 4 long? if yes, how long? 1 day the bubble will burst. plenty of gals out there. i think u shd jus forget this 1
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Bro, I've seen girls cheating behind their bfs' backs b4 and vice versa. Being cheated is universal. What matters most is that we take things within our stride and move on with life.
If that girl is no longer worth what it takes to love her, then just forget it! There are so many better ones out there to let you pick. My advice is that true love withstand all trials. If you really think that girl is 'the one', then I guess you should've trusted her more. Doubting her will lead to MORE quarrels, break-ups and patch-backs. Is that what you want?
Then again, open your eyes and look around carefully for your perfect bride might be someone close to you. But don't rush into one so soon. Allow yourself to recover before deciding on a new one.
From my pov, that girl is no better than a slut(sorry to say). In my opinion, I club, party but I don't want a girl who does the same. Insecurity is pointless. Go find one whom is 10X better than you.
Don't give everything to any girl, thinking she's the one. Self-control is better than prevention.
Just my 0.01c worth -
move on. time will heal
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oh no another victim .... sigh .. Y they wanna do that ???? partan we r in the same boat ...... lucky for u is that she is juz ur gf ..... my is my wife ...Originally posted by partan:But i dunno if i can accept her again despite wat i say.
Am in conflicts between my personal ego/libido and how i feel...
Should i settle for 2nd best? Or should i be more important than anything else? Is love really supposed to be this way? -
oh well
i guess i'll take a step back... and think about wat i truly want and whether i am really able to accept everything tat comes with the package...
Someday i know i'll see her and if there's love, there's no way out, it comes full circle... right ?
I really hope so man
*sigh*
I pray i have the strength to see my heart through... -
partan, how old r u ?Originally posted by partan:oh well
i guess i'll take a step back... and think about wat i truly want and whether i am really able to accept everything tat comes with the package...
Someday i know i'll see her and if there's love, there's no way out, it comes full circle... right ?
I really hope so man
*sigh*
I pray i have the strength to see my heart through... -
i'm 26...
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oh .... still young ... still lotsa chance to meet gals ..... me too old for that liao .... sighOriginally posted by partan:i'm 26... -
she will continue to cheat on you,
you will pay for everything she spends on, and she will enjoy having fun with whoever guys she is with.
if that is what you want, help yourself. -
u r not a man if u still weep and cry like a child over her...u just "buey gan huay" datz y can't let go of this r/s...u can't accept the fact she cheated on you hence u think u still can accept her ...SNAP OUT!!!Originally posted by partan:oh well
i guess i'll take a step back... and think about wat i truly want and whether i am really able to accept everything tat comes with the package...
Someday i know i'll see her and if there's love, there's no way out, it comes full circle... right ?
I really hope so man
*sigh*
I pray i have the strength to see my heart through...
there are worse cases out there man!!!hahahahaa
I saw my ex with another gal in my car!damn!I got up and chased da gal out !!see..there are many bitxhes around...bastxrds as well...
just open yr eyes wider next time to find yr true love!good luck !! -
for partan still got next time cos he is only 26 ...... for me thats it liao ..... too old for that .....Originally posted by spikedoll:u r not a man if u still weep and cry like a child over her...u just "buey gan huay" datz y can't let go of this r/s...u can't accept the fact she cheated on you hence u think u still can accept her ...SNAP OUT!!!
there are worse cases out there man!!!hahahahaa
I saw my ex with another gal in my car!damn!I got up and chased da gal out !!see..there are many bitxhes around...bastxrds as well...
just open yr eyes wider next time to find yr true love!good luck !! -
Originally posted by partan:
You can put aside the issue of sex, but can you put aside the betrayal of your faith and trust?
If ever one day i met a wonderful girl and she's like f ucked 500 guys, i wouldnt hold it against her.
If ever one day i see her again, i wun hold it against her that she ever betrayed me, i'll still think she's wonderful.
Your generosity is mighty admirable. Don't worry, one day when she is done playing (and doesn't want to play anymore) OR when she has been done playing with (and no one wants to play with her anymore), let her know that you still think she is wonderful and she'd probably come back to play with you (and hopefully not play you out) again.
You also wouldn't hold it against her if she's like given you 500 kids and none of them carried your DNA, right? -
HAHHAHA that really cracks me up!Originally posted by Oyathatsme:Next.
She's riding on his dick while you are waiting for her call or msg.
Move on. -
well my ex gf cheated on me b4. So I did the same. To hurt her more, i made out with one of her friends. lol
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Hey peeps,
realli sorri after readin wat happened between relationships. Niwae, mine happened abt 4 yrs ago. I lost my relationship to another guy, n e worst ting is we borke off 1 wk b4 i enter NS. My officer ask me hw m i copin so well e first dae i went in, n i replied "wat can i do, unless u wan 2 write a report rgdin ur recruit jump 2 death due 2 relationship probs." Niwae, frm my pt of view, no matter hw much u love a gal, 1nce seperate, jus let it go. Instead, let it b sumtin 2 spur u on in ur career or other stuff. No pt ponderin over it. When we broke off initially, i told her n swear upon ma life i wun b callin, smsin, or get ani contacts wif her ever again, unless over my dead body. N im proud of it, cause till nw, i havent contact her. I promise myself tat im gg 2 b damm successful in my career n make her regert her decision. HA... 1 yr after my ex broke off wif me, her mum's frien call n c if im attach, n i said im nt. Then last yr, her mum calls me, n ask me hw im doin, at tat time, my career is at peak, even till nw. N she ask me if im attach, n says tat my ex's friens saw me clubbin wif gals n veri close to them. Till nw, my ex's mum n brother r still callin her 2 cum bk 2 my side, but im nt interested. Im enjoyin singlehood nw, no worries, no commitment. Wat im tryin 2 say is move on, dudes. Use all these negative tings 2 spur u on in life. If e gal wans u bk, she will try all means 2 ask her friens ard abt u. S o dun worry. N REMEMBER, RELATIONSHIP IS NT A GAMBLE, NEITHER ITS A INVESTMENT, CAUSE WHEN U R IN 1, IT A WIN WIN SITUATION. U DUN SAY IT AN INVESTMENT OR GAMBLE WHEN U R HAVIN SEX WIF HER, CAUSE U R WILLIN 2 GIVE ALL OUT URSELF, NOBODI'S FORCIN U.
gODSENT, out! -
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