Kerotan got problem
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Dear Frog (what an APT name),
I seriously do NOT how unreasonable it is for a girl to wish for her guy to be faithful. Period.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Kerotan Frog:be good how? she is being so unreasonable. btw, why u keep hitting on me? -
I feel your pain..Its so scary, shes starting to control you. Damn you better ditch her b4 she control u like a puppy.Originally posted by Kerotan Frog:if i don't make love with her she will accuse me of having another women outside. I can't reject her if she wants sex because i don't want her imagination to run wild. this is the first time i encounter having sex without enjoying it. it's very jialat. No i don't hate her at all but she thinks too much.
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lol...Originally posted by starblue:you deserve it. or bi goot.
... if i m not mistaken, u were the only who agreed with me in froggie's previous 2 mails... now's my turn.. Kerotan, U HAD IT COMING...
ur story isnt a unique one, as i had been a listening ear to a close army fren who was also facing the same situation, except that the gal is not as gila as ur one... that's y i kept telling u to be cautious, n to go out as frens first n so on...
other forumites n i have already warned u b4 not to get too close to her... u kept deluding urself by defending ur actions as well as her sexual advances with a classic sentence that was like "i dunno how to reject..." yada yada or smthing like that... u cant blame us for being heartless...
u only have 2 choices now, IMHO.. one is to tell her straight with a FIRM tone (muster up all ur manly courage) that u have no breathing space, ask her to back off a lot so that u guys can cont the r/s... two is to tell her FIRMLY that u dun want to be in a r/s n should juz cont to be frens...
the sickening thing abt u is that u always try to act noble... u think by giving way is to route to salvage the situation.. u have a BRAIN, so use it... if u cont to drag n drag n drag n drag n drag n drag n drag the prob, one fine day u get her pregnant n dun have any other alternatives, u GONNA REGRET BIG TIME... u r a guy for goodness sake, it's time to be in control of the situation... gd luck -
I see blood - and i like the phrase!Originally posted by mercurialz:
the sickening thing abt u is that u always try to act noble...
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.BEEN reading your previous threads : i think you are not totally at fault , only partly .The girl doesnt know what is shame or modesty for a lady.iF I am a guy and this girl literally throws herself at me , i would eventually accept you.She needs to know that if you truly love her and want to be with her eternally , you would be able to resist temptations and possible challenges that will surface in this relationship.She has a high sex drive
Love,sex and possessivness cant keep a man's heart.She must know that she cant keep your heart no matter how she seduced you with her affections ,threats and her body.She jolly well should know that any other girl can sleep with you as a confession of their love and devotion to you. You better handle this affair sensibly.She is getting more possessive and revengeful.sounds like a psycho to me.If you have grown tired of her,please sever all ties with her ,dont let this drag on or i forsee a possible life and death issue here.This girl needs to know that love cant be forced.Why is she so bold sexually?i dont know.She is like a pest,so thick-skin...her behaviour wouldnt earn the respect of any guys.If you wanna break up with her , ask her out for a dinner and tell her you need some time for yourself,or let her know you would prefer an open relationship not an exclusive one.
Lastly , please dont impregnate her.If she becomes pregnant with your child,she has winning hand and you have to marry her .Refrain from having any intimacy with her.The girl nows wants you body,soul and your life.Got it?
how to break up with her :
i hereby recommend 6 methods,the trial and error kind
(1) Missing in Action : This wouldnt work since this girl is probablygoing to pester you 24/7 until you give her a definite response
(2) Treat her badly (the sly method) : treat her like a jerk,let her detest you and she will get over you
(3) chat to her heart to heart :probably the conversation will ends with a sexual intercourse,since this girl doesnt really know how to control her sexual desire for you.
(4) aSK A friend or a confidant for help :get him to explain things to her in your presence.Its like a conference between the affected parties while the friend acts a middle man
(5) Tells her you have become a gay suddenly and your bf is some wrestler
(6) ask her to log on to www.sgforums.com and read your postings.LET HER KNOW how you are tormented
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Dear NotForMe,
No offence, but I beg to differ. It takes 2 hands to clap. If the guy isn't the type to cheat, why would she be so insecure? The insecurity then translates to possessive & jealous (psycho?) behaviour, which then suffocates her FROG (definitely NO Prince here), & the vicious cycle continues.
I trust my guy. But it's cosh he's shown me before how devoted he is. If he behaved like the FROG, I would probably freak out major too. In fact, I would never have gotten involved with him at all, unless it was decided mutually that we wanted an open relationship/fling.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by notforme:i think you are not totally at fault , only partly .The girl doesnt know what is shame or modesty for a lady.iF I am a guy and this girl literally throws herself at me , i would eventually accept you.She needs to know that if you truly love her and want to be with her eternally , you would be able to resist temptations and possible challenges that will surface in this relationship
Love,sex and possessivness cant keep a man's heart.She must know that she cant keep your heart no matter how she seduced you with her affections ,threats and her body.She jolly well should know that any other girl can sleep with you as a confession of their love and devotion to you. You better handle this affair sensibly.She is getting more possessive and revengeful.sounds like a psycho to me.If you have grown tired of her,please sever all ties with her ,dont let this drag on or i forsee a possible life and death issue here.This girl needs to know that love cant be forced.Why is she so bold sexually?i dont know.She is like a pest,so thick-skin...her behaviour wouldnt earn the respect of any guys.If you wanna break up with her , ask her out for a dinner and tell her you need some time for yourself,or let her know you would prefer an open relationship not an exclusive one.
Lastly , please dont impregnate her.If she becomes pregnant with your child,she has winning hand and you have to marry her .Refrain from having any intimacy with her.The girl nows wants you body,soul and your life.Got it? -
i think you have no idea of the whole story. please read previous threads by kerotan. it's in june i guess.Originally posted by notforme:i think you are not totally at fault , only partly .The girl doesnt know what is shame or modesty for a lady.iF I am a guy and this girl literally throws herself at me , i would eventually accept you.She needs to know that if you truly love her and want to be with her eternally , you would be able to resist temptations and possible challenges that will surface in this relationship
Love,sex and possessivness cant keep a man's heart.She must know that she cant keep your heart no matter how she seduced you with her affections ,threats and her body.She jolly well should know that any other girl can sleep with you as a confession of their love and devotion to you. You better handle this affair sensibly.She is getting more possessive and revengeful.sounds like a psycho to me.If you have grown tired of her,please sever all ties with her ,dont let this drag on or i forsee a possible life and death issue here.This girl needs to know that love cant be forced.Why is she so bold sexually?i dont know.She is like a pest,so thick-skin...her behaviour wouldnt earn the respect of any guys.If you wanna break up with her , ask her out for a dinner and tell her you need some time for yourself,or let her know you would prefer an open relationship not an exclusive one.
Lastly , please dont impregnate her.If she becomes pregnant with your child,she has winning hand and you have to marry her .Refrain from having any intimacy with her.The girl nows wants you body,soul and your life.Got it?
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Originally posted by M©+square:I see blood - and i like the phrase!
muahahahahahhahaha... ... i know itz a bit heartless, but after reading all 3 of his threads, i feel that itz justified... i mean, i juz checked on my prev replies to this guy n so much abt going to a hols with the gal, sharing the same room n saying that he will not do anything to her.. then comes the bj thingey in the cinema n then having intercourse with the gal when they sleep on the same bed yada yada... itz getting ridiculous... 
n Kerotan, i think i realised wat the classic sentence is: "Being polite,....." ... yup, i think u r trying to act blur n covering it up by saying that u r being polite... u know fully that she's "easy", n that u can have a lot of "fun" with her... that perhaps clouded ur mind despite the repeated warnings from forumites here...
anywayz, if u still think u are a man, stop procrastinating/lamenting n start sorting the issues out with her... gd luck.. -
I can't be bothered with self righteous guy in the first two thread. Dillusionised person.Originally posted by mercurialz:
muahahahahahhahaha... ... i know itz a bit heartless, but after reading all 3 of his threads, i feel that itz justified... i mean, i juz checked on my prev replies to this guy n so much abt going to a hols with the gal, sharing the same room n saying that he will not do anything to her.. then comes the bj thingey in the cinema n then having intercourse with the gal when they sleep on the same bed yada yada... itz getting ridiculous...
n Kerotan, i think i realised wat the classic sentence is: "Being polite,....." ... yup, i think u r trying to act blur n covering it up by saying that u r being polite... u know fully that she's "easy", n that u can have a lot of "fun" with her... that perhaps clouded ur mind despite the repeated warnings from forumites here...
anywayz, if u still think u are a man, stop procrastinating/lamenting n start sorting the issues out with her... gd luck.. -
I dont agree with you. Let me ask u this. As a man, can u resist the temptation??Originally posted by mercurialz:
muahahahahahhahaha... ... i know itz a bit heartless, but after reading all 3 of his threads, i feel that itz justified... i mean, i juz checked on my prev replies to this guy n so much abt going to a hols with the gal, sharing the same room n saying that he will not do anything to her.. then comes the bj thingey in the cinema n then having intercourse with the gal when they sleep on the same bed yada yada... itz getting ridiculous...
n Kerotan, i think i realised wat the classic sentence is: "Being polite,....." ... yup, i think u r trying to act blur n covering it up by saying that u r being polite... u know fully that she's "easy", n that u can have a lot of "fun" with her... that perhaps clouded ur mind despite the repeated warnings from forumites here...
anywayz, if u still think u are a man, stop procrastinating/lamenting n start sorting the issues out with her... gd luck.. -
Originally posted by aCid_rAIn:i think you have no idea of the whole story. please read previous threads by kerotan. it's in june i guess.
i think you'll think abt him differently after reading his story.
AGREED!!!! u need me to put my arms n legs up in the air??
notforme, pls go read his threads, if u need a summary:
1) guy knows gal who is "deeply in luv" with him... (i should rephrase that to become "madly", in the literal sense..)
2) guy hesitant abt going into r/s at first, sought help from forumites here
3) guy advised to be very careful as gal seems to be a little dubious...
4) guy said he wanted to be polite n didnt know how to reject gal, subsequently went ahead with r/s
5) gal gave guy a bj in cinema for unknown reason, guy say he is a guy n has his needs... (sorry pple, but i thot this is lame n deserved a second mention...i think for this, he kena lambasted by a lot of pple here)
6) now gal possessive, guy dunno how to get out of trouble... -
yes..i read the previous posting by this frog, but obviously he is the passive party and the girl is wooing him.The girl doesnt have that bit of shame or self-respect. i understand the girl loves the frog dearly but does she needs to initiate sex on each meeting?
She thinks sex is the ultimate weapon in keeping the frog's heart.Love is elusive .I think its sort of a sexual liaison to me and not an underground affair as proclaimed by the frog .
Yes , i admit the frog should be adamant in rejecting the sexual advances of this girl .I think he is greedy .HE WANTS the cake and eat it too. But actually ,i dont think the girl is that far from good-looking .Other beautiful girls might not treat the frog with so much devotion.I advise him to be give himself a self-imposed exile.Go to the monastry... -
Temptation also depends what kind of girl.Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:I dont agree with you. Let me ask u this. As a man, can u resist the temptation??
Analogy -
Your favourite fruit is apple. And you have the last one left at home. But it comes with defects.
Will you eat a apple that is dented or turned brown?
Will you be tempted to eat it anyway?
Cheers -
i beg to differ. if u r a man and have a sense of responsibility, u'd know better than to have sex with someone u dun like and u know it's going to do harm to her and u. some men just think of what's before their eyes but failed to consider the consequences.Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:I dont agree with you. Let me ask u this. As a man, can u resist the temptation??
do not use an argument of i-am-a-man-thus-i-cant-resist-temptations. it's just being a comfortable and irresponsible excuse. -
Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:I dont agree with you. Let me ask u this. As a man, can u resist the temptation??
the answer is: YES... if i m not sure whether i want to go into a r/s with a gal, i will not have any sexual encounters with her... for one, u dunno if u can handle the responsibility after that.. for two, what if u decide to back out after serious consideration? how would u answer to the gal? making things so difficult for urself... for three, if u cant even control ur own emotions, u arent a man..
my qn back to u is this: does it mean that if any gal by the street offers sexual favours to u, u must take it in order to proof that u r man? is that ur definition of being a man?
my opinion of a true man is knowing how to do the right thing at the the right time... unless one is dead serious abt a gal, sexual encounters should not even be in the to-do list... spare a thot for the gal if the r/s doesnt work out... howz the gal gonna face her next partner if he is not as open-minded? -
yawn
just woke up
sorry hor for so being so late.
Seems like everyone one is blasting at you for what you have done.
I promise you that I will teach you how to solve your problem but can I ask if you can really have the heart to break up with her?
I do not wish to waste my time cos if you became soft hearted and go back to her again.
If you wish to break throughly then start by being brave and face her. She will kick and scream, if she wants to die she would have already died. Since you said she had so many bf before you and I believed that she had already used this method countless times.
If you do not want to face her and let the problem countinue then all means go ahead but the problem will grow bigger and cause more pain to your family soon. -
From man's point of view, its hard to refuse sexual advance from opposite sex. Sense of responsibility dont really exist in this time..not in sg now. Im being frank here, dont blast me ok.Originally posted by aCid_rAIn:i beg to differ. if u r a man and have a sense of responsibility, u'd know better than to have sex with someone u dun like and u know it's going to do harm to her and u. some men just think of what's before their eyes but failed to consider the consequences.
do not use an argument of i-am-a-man-thus-i-cant-resist-temptations. it's just being a comfortable and irresponsible excuse.
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im asking the frog :If you claim earlier that you have fallen in love with her ,why is it that you cant commit to her ?what is holding you back?Obviously , if a better girl comes along , i dont think you will be contented with her .You will not be satisfied no matter how good the girl is inwardly and outwardly .for certain, you dont know what you really want in a relationship and what are the innate qualities your partner/gf possesses. Happy strolling in across
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If you dont eat the apple, others will. So..just eat itOriginally posted by M©+square:Temptation also depends what kind of girl.
Analogy -
Your favourite fruit is apple. And you have the last one left at home. But it comes with defects.
Will you eat a apple that is dented or turned brown?
Will you be tempted to eat it anyway?
Cheers
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Originally posted by notforme:yes..i read the previous posting by this frog, but obviously he is the passive party and the girl is wooing him.The girl doesnt have that bit of shame or self-respect. i understand the girl loves the frog dearly but does she needs to initiate sex on each meeting?
She thinks sex is the ultimate weapon in keeping the frog's heart.Love is elusive .I think its sort of a sexual liaison to me and not an underground affair as proclaimed by the frog .
Yes , i admit the frog should be adamant in rejecting the sexual advances of this girl .I think he is greedy .HE WANTS the cake and eat it too. But actually ,i dont think the girl is that far from good-looking .Other beautiful girls might not treat the frog with so much devotion.I advise him to be give himself a self-imposed exile.Go to the monastry...
i have to disagree with u on the point that the gal "luvs frog dearly"... going by what he had described, i cant help but to feel that the gal has a serious prob of being alone n single, n not having a guy in her life... so in her desperation, she gives sexual favours to guys so as to keep them beside her, but guys juz keep leaving her... after a while, this became too much to handle, n forced her to become more possessive of the next guy in her life... this is my interpretation... -
Hua xin & Duo qing is 2 different thing..Originally posted by notforme:im asking the frog :If you claim earlier that you have fallen in love with her ,why is it that you cant commit to her ?what is holding you back?Obviously , if a better girl comes along , i dont think you will be contented with her .You will not be satisfied no matter how good the girl is inwardly and outwardly .for certain, you dont know what you really want in a relationship and what are the innate qualities your partner/gf possesses. Happy strolling in across green pasture.
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wOooHOooOoooOooooOoo!!!!Originally posted by aCid_rAIn:i beg to differ. if u r a man and have a sense of responsibility, u'd know better than to have sex with someone u dun like and u know it's going to do harm to her and u. some men just think of what's before their eyes but failed to consider the consequences.
do not use an argument of i-am-a-man-thus-i-cant-resist-temptations. it's just being a comfortable and irresponsible excuse.
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it's just a matter of conscience and what kind of values one hold.Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:From man's point of view, its hard to refuse sexual advance from opposite sex. Sense of responsibility dont really exist in this time..not in sg now. Im being frank here, dont blast me ok.
i am also a man n i had resisted cos i know it's not going to do any good for us at that point of time.
as i've mentioned earlier; it differs from person and unfortunately, the frog doesnt have this kind of conscience nor sense of responsibility and ended in this plight. it's wat he deserves.
while people learn from their own mistakes; it's always better to learn from others' mistakes.
haha i wont blast u, peace
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Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:If you dont eat the apple, others will. So..just eat it
if u play chinese chess, there's a saying that goes like "bu chi bai bu chi, chi le bian bai chi...".. .. in english, the direct translation is "dun eat waster dun eat, eat already become retarded"...
well, the thing is not to go with the flow... if sense of responsibility is lacking in SG, then wat makes a person stand out will be that very sense of responsibility that he/she is able to display at the right moment... dun u think? -
You said she got a few ex b4 right.. they broke up le... and she's still alive leh... she may sound very real when threatening.. but maybe under the cover...she's one kia see fella.. u will never know...
Anyway u had it coming for u la...haiz...