Big surprise for ex
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rammstein619,Originally posted by rammstein619:Well I can't just sit there and pretend to forget her birthday right?
or should I?
This shouldn't be what you should be thinking.
Rather passive person aren't you? Maybe you're clueless how this matter could be resolved and closure would be easy.
Remember her birthday. Approach her and not talk to her messenger, why are you talking to a common friend when you can get as much information as you want by talking to your ex? Unless you tell me you're still in SEc Sch or JC.
My question: What do you wish to achieve from this?
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Why are you doing so much for an ex? LOL Don't be a sucker hon, money can't buy you love.
But I can't resist the shopping part
so here's my advice:
Buy the thing that you're most confident she'll like
Also, your budget is too high, especially for an ex. You can get decent accessories for under $10 these days.Originally posted by rammstein619:
Basically my ex birthday is in 2 weeks time and she wants me to buy a present for her.
So here comes my first question......
1) Out of the [b]fashion accessories , cosmetic set , perfume , pencil box and bag , pick the 2 most appropriate items which would be most meaningful[/b] -
If you want to know the truth.Originally posted by rammstein619:But on one hand , I really want to make her birthday a meaningful one but on the other hand , I got a feeling she's trying to get back at me by playing around with my feelings....
You can either do it the foolish way, make it meaningful and buy presents for her. Or be smart, gain back the relationship by merely going for dates.
Difference between foolish ways and smart ways?
One is you don't know what you'll get back in the end, left hanging in the air. .
Ther other is, you'll know what is going on, good or bad ending. You might save your r/s or could be a closure for you to move on.
Win win situation.
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Yunhaier should give you her thesis on the sub-conscious mind
She's good, listen to her.
If you have the feeling that they're trying to get even, why should you be sucked in? I have a suggestion, though I'm Not sure if you're willing to try it out, but it's a way to test whether they're playing monkey with you.
Tell her best friend that you'll only buy your ex those presents IF she was willing to talk to you FIRST. At least you'll be assured that she's spoken to you PRIOR to buying the present. Also, the risk of her Not talking to you after receiving the presents is removed.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by rammstein619:I have a feeling that she and her friend are trying to get back at me by playing around with my feelings and milking my cash away.... -
If he really want to know. He'll go look for yunnie's post.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Yunhaier should give you her thesis on the sub-conscious mind She's good, listen to her.
If you have the feeling that they're trying to get even, why should you be sucked in? I have a suggestion, though I'm Not sure if you're willing to try it out, but it's a way to test whether they're playing monkey with you.
Tell her best friend that you'll only buy your ex those presents IF she was willing to talk to you FIRST. At least you'll be assured that she's spoken to you PRIOR to buying the present. Also, the risk of her Not talking to you after receiving the presents is removed.
FeowFeow
Passive....i see.
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I intend arrange a date with her in which we could possibily catch up on each other after all these months. Just a casual outing before her birthday I guess. To tell you the truth , I hate to find out about her through a messenger but it's just that she still never replies my sms let alone even responds to my calls....Originally posted by M©+square:rammstein619,
This shouldn't be what you should be thinking.
Rather passive person aren't you? Maybe you're clueless how this matter could be resolved and closure would be easy.
Remember her birthday. Approach her and not talk to her messenger, why are you talking to a common friend when you can get as much information as you want by talking to your ex? Unless you tell me you're still in SEc Sch or JC.
My question: What do you wish to achieve from this?
Cheers
If she replied my sms and calls , It would be a totally different story...
I don't wanna constantly sms and call her to find out about her...maybe once in a while...maybe like one sms per month or something?
I'm in poly year 1 by the way , so it's as good as saying I'm in JC....
Yes , you can say that I'm rather confused now....
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Hi Rammstein619,
Let me point it out very clearly to you: If she was sincere about talking to you, wouldn't she talk to you direct than go through a messenger? I hope you get it already, I can't make it anymore obvious to you.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by rammstein619:I intend arrange a date with her in which we could possibily catch up on each other after all these months. Just a casual outing before her birthday I guess. To tell you the truth , I hate to find out about her through a messenger but it's just that she still never replies my sms let alone even responds to my calls....
If she replied my sms and calls , It would be a totally different story...
I don't wanna constantly sms and call her to find out about her...maybe once in a while...maybe like one sms per month or something?
I'm in poly year 1 by the way , so it's as good as saying I'm in JC....
Yes , you can say that I'm rather confused now.... -
A girl's sincerity can be seen in how she approaches you.Talking to you hesitantly is way ahead than "sweet" words through a messenger.In this case, you can "shoot" the messenger cuz she doesn't seem to be in your court, rather, she appears to be in cahoots with your ex..and this is very suspicious.
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Yeah I get your point.
You can imagine seeing your best friend going through a lot of pain caused by another party and you will feel like you wanna get back at the other party who hurt your best friend. I understand how it feels....
In fact , a very close friend of mine told me that should the entire situation did not go according to plan , He'll get back at the messenger because he knows that I have a "weak heart".
In this case , the messenger does not deserve much credibility from me because words are not coming out from the horse's mouth...
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Originally posted by rammstein619:I intend arrange a date with her in which we could possibily catch up on each other after all these months. Just a casual outing before her birthday I guess. To tell you the truth , I hate to find out about her through a messenger but it's just that she still never replies my sms let alone even responds to my calls....
If she replied my sms and calls , It would be a totally different story...
I don't wanna constantly sms and call her to find out about her...maybe once in a while...maybe like one sms per month or something?
I'm in poly year 1 by the way , so it's as good as saying I'm in JC....
Yes , you can say that I'm rather confused now.... 
For what?
By doing so much for your previous love, whom very likely hold little feelings for you, considering that it is a thing of the past - AND all you want is merely to meet up and catch up on each other?Originally posted by FeowFeow:
If I wanna catch up with an ex who's decided to remain friends with me, there's No need for romantic settings. We can just go for coffee, or dinner.... There is no need to go through all the lengthy effort if she wants to reconcile with you all these while and if you don't even have the desire to patch back with her, you won't go through such miles to plan your romantic settings.
From above, do you see how your confusion come about?
Your soul probably wants to be together, but because you know your chance of failure is so high, you tell yourself you only want to meet and catch up.
You can delude your mind, but you can't fool your heart.
I understand where you are coming from; to attempt the last resort because you have nothing much to lose. It's like you are fighting a losing battle, thus you will probably try anything... ANTYHING... even constitute to losing further, in hoping to turn the tides over.
Your regrets fuels alot of reason for your behavior and action. You probably regreted, in some sense, 'I should have done this... should have done that...'
*** We all must understand where the line is drawn.
We walked passed the line and everything's concluded, even if decide to walk further, thinking that there will be another drawn line. But that doesn't change the fact that we have advance passed the line, which marked 'Our past.'
What you are doing are likely to be futile, but if you must allow yourself a chance to do what you must - please do. We live for ourselves - if we must fall, you must understand the pain and why.
P.S: Romantic setting is like appreciation; only used on people worth your affection. Because when you shower upon those who doesn't bother - there is no effect.
Cheers -
Feoq , I can finally see what you're implying at....
Now I've decided to decrease my budget to $30 and buy her something casual but then again , What most of you all said is that I should walk out without giving any due thoughts about it? -
Originally posted by rammstein619:Feoq , I can finally see what you're implying at....
Now I've decided to decrease my budget to $30 and buy her something casual but then again , What most of you all said is that I should walk out without giving any due thoughts about it? still don't understand. -
Well I'm giving your replies a lot of thought since almost all of you voted for a flop....
But nonetheless I'm grateful for all your replies....keep it coming in
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Hello : )
*Sigh* Everybody here is telling you what they think. Ultimately, the decision lies with YOU. As Auntie Yunnie says, if you feel you must do it, then go ahead & do it. If you really realised & "saw through the light", you wouldn't have even allocated a budget for her gift UNTIL you've spoken to her. After that, it wouldn't be too late to buy a gift, at least you would know what her intentions are. If she refuses to talk to you in person PRIOR to getting the gift, then it would be a waste of time, since it's likely she wouldn't talk to you after the gift anyway.
Why don't you get her a nice crystal hairclip? It's
FeowFeowOriginally posted by rammstein619:Feoq , I can finally see what you're implying at....
Now I've decided to decrease my budget to $30 and buy her something casual but then again , What most of you all said is that I should walk out without giving any due thoughts about it? -
Tell me about it But since he's 17, I'm being more patient
FeowFeowOriginally posted by M©+square: still don't understand. -
Not that i'm impatient. Thinking of something else. Close to this topic la.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Tell me about it But since he's 17, I'm being more patient
FeowFeow
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I suggest that you do something for her instead of buying things for her.
Like a pic album of the times you were together, to remind her of the fun and laughter both of you once had.
using this method will test whether she is playing with you or she is really wants to patch back with you.
Buy a simple cake, find a place for a nice dinner and then give her the pic album.
If she dumps or quickly just flip through the pic album it shows that she no longer loves you. If she still treasure your love she will looked at each page carefully with tears in your eyes.
Is up to u to decide whether is worth to go after her again or not but I hope that you will be able to accept the fact she may reject you again. Once you are prepare for the worst, then is time for you to face her once again. -
Yes the ultimate decision lies within me but whatever I do , I'm responsible for my own actions....
Whether I'll become a millionaire on the next day after her birthday or an emo goth freak , I'm still responsible for myself -
Originally posted by M©+square:Not that i'm impatient. Thinking of something else. Close to this topic la. .. what's in ya mind, MC?
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I'll post it in another thread in datin.sgforums.comOriginally posted by Mao x 2: .. what's in ya mind, MC?
Regarding a close pal having opportunites. But he always missed it. Not because he couldn't handle. But he like to play it all TOO cool.
Another opportunity comes along. I gotto give him a hand, don't want him to lose it this time.
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I see. Will look forward to ya thread.Originally posted by M©+square:I'll post it in another thread in datin.sgforums.com
Regarding a close pal having opportunites. But he always missed it. Not because he couldn't handle. But he like to play it all TOO cool.
Another opportunity comes along. I gotto give him a hand, don't want him to lose it this time. -
Actually hor, these too bo chup guys should combine with the si3 chan2 lan4 da3 guys, then the 2 negative qualities will neutralise each other, & they'll become perfect
FeowFeowOriginally posted by M©+square:I'll post it in another thread in datin.sgforums.com
Regarding a close pal having opportunites. But he always missed it. Not because he couldn't handle. But he like to play it all TOO cool.
Another opportunity comes along. I gotto give him a hand, don't want him to lose it this time. -
NOthing is perfect anyway wor..Originally posted by FeowFeow:Actually hor, these too bo chup guys should combine with the si3 chan2 lan4 da3 guys, then the 2 negative qualities will neutralise each other, & they'll become perfect
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Hmmmmmm... *ponderz*
Ok, just for discussion's sake, have you ever wondered:
Would a person who's absolutely perfect be perceived as unattainable by other people? Hence they probably won't want to chase him/her anyway? What about the person who's absolutely perfect, would he/her want to accept a partner who's flawed, unlike him/herself?
Then, if 2 people, who're flawed, deeply love & accept each other, & are very happy together, wouldn't their love be just perfect for them, warts & all?
So perhaps Not being perfect may be perfection in itself to some people? I talk until I dunno what crap I'm saying
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Mao x 2:NOthing is perfect anyway wor.. -
in singapore girls are plentiful & easy to find...why the rush? i'd blow your ex off with a smirk...she's not worth it...money digging cheebye...
spend the $100 in geylang instead...you won't find love but for sure you'll find fulfilment...
if all else fails...vietnamese brides are cheap & easy to get...
sometimes it ain't worth the trouble to get worked up over a materialistic bimbo...