love or bread?
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If you do not wish to lose, don't gamble.Originally posted by Steph84:tats so sweet of u... thanks....
haiz ya deep in my heart... i noe onli i can decide.. oh man.. it feels like a gamble..
and im not a gambler
There is still a 3rd alternative.
Then again, you'll never find out which one will work out. This is human nature.
Cheers -
isnt ur answer clear in ur head? for some reason i can sense that u only want to be with guy 1..Originally posted by Steph84:Guy 1: u love him more, but he is lazy n aimless... dun feel secure with him at all.... however feel comfortable with him..
Guy 2: have got the bread and is hardworking and more mature..... u like him...
who'd u choose??
i know u love guy 1 more, but imagine if u are with him, for long term... 2 years? i dun even know will u be able to stand him for 2 years? mayb half a year than problem all come out liao.. if u are able to change him with ur love, mayb can work things out..
guy 2 on the other hand, is a better choice.. but like wat u said u love guy 1 more, but rem dun hurt guy 2 if u really wan to be with guy 1 than dun even give guy 2 the chance... at least tell guy 2 that u only want to be friends with him.. -
wait this is a little weird.. dont feel secure but comfortable with him.. how can you feel comfortable without feeling secure?
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Guy 2 lah! of course!
guy 1 got no future with him. -
Don't go for guy who is aimless, u end up having to support him financially & emotionally. Very exhausting & in long run, may end up in divorce.
As for Guy 2, get to know him better, see whether he has the qualities (eg caring, responsible, honesty) as a life partner.
If he isn't suitable, drop both guys & look elsewhere. I'm sure won't be difficult for u. -
hmm.. so m i right to say tt u r currently in a r/s w/ guy 1 but going on w/ a cooling off period when guy 2 came into the pic?
if tt's the case..
the feeling tt u hv w/ guy 1 might not be due to the fact tt u luv him more.. coz it might juz be a feeling of 'dependency'.. someone whom u know so well n is familar w/..
fr my pt of view, being a women, ultimately is to be able to find the 'pi fen gang' someone whom can take care of u and provide u w/ a sense of sercuity.. juz ask urself, many yrs down the road, if u n guy 1 were to be together, do u think u still can std all his nonsense? -
erm.. i'm wondering why nobody has asked this... erm.. how can you love two guys at once?? aren't you being a little......... *can't find politically correct word for it*
get a grip girl. you can only love one guy at a time, if not, you're bound to run into problems, and hurt everyone involved....
as for who to choose, i'm sure you'll figure out what is more important to you. personally, i'd drop guy 1. i'm one who needs a lot of sense of security. but that's just me.
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Originally posted by Steph84:Guy 1: u love him more, but he is lazy n aimless... dun feel secure with him at all.... however feel comfortable with him..
Guy 2: have got the bread and is hardworking and more mature..... u like him...
who'd u choose??
You see, it is a problem of choices and slight suitability issues.
Suitability as in deciding which is the best partner... with the best potential... and the least potential problematic kind... prior to an actually relationship.
But if you ONLY have one option, you would probably settle for that one. Even if you may hestitate on Guy 1, but definitely, if he did the 'right' things to woo you, you will probably end up with him.
This is the problem of choices, which goes to question yourself: You sure you definitely have to choose between the two?
Confusion between two guys often signify two things: you don't really know what you are looking for and because you don't know what you are looking for, you stall and wonder. You can ask most of your friend about this and a general group of them would tell you Guy 2 is better... a safer bet.
P.S: If you never knew what you are actually looking for in a person, you will always have this problem... the problem of choices.
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i dun LOVE both. read againOriginally posted by starblue:erm.. i'm wondering why nobody has asked this... erm.. how can you love two guys at once?? aren't you being a little......... *can't find politically correct word for it*
get a grip girl. you can only love one guy at a time, if not, you're bound to run into problems, and hurt everyone involved....
as for who to choose, i'm sure you'll figure out what is more important to you. personally, i'd drop guy 1. i'm one who needs a lot of sense of security. but that's just me. -
leave him alone then...Originally posted by Steph84:nah i know guy 1 wun change.... even now i've told him abt this prob very seriously n we're at cooling period, he has not told me once that he will change... haiz..
but i noe i love guy 1 more. tats y i dilemma. think i jus dun haf the courage to gif him up. -
Need a balance of both.
I won't give out bread totally for love n neither will i give up love totally for bread.
I believe in striking a healthy balance -
Imagine yourself 10 years down the line with:
Guy 1- You just discovered you are pregnant with your third child. He comes home telling you he quit his job again...that's the third time this year. You have been the main financial support of the family and now you think you cannot afford to have this child...
You still love him deeply but can love solve your problems now?
Guy2- You just discovered you are pregnant with your third child. He comes back late as usual, having called earlier to say he won't be back for dinner. In fact, he is seldom home for dinner but tries to make up for it by bringing the family on vacations to exotic locations every year. Now that you are pregnant, he suggests you quit your job and look after the kids instead, since he can more than provide for the family...
You thought you could never love him like Guy 1 but you are growing to love your husband more each day.....
ok..ok...this sounds very wayang but you get my point? -
Dear Steph84,
If you have to ask who to accept, then your heart may Not actually belong to either of them : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Steph84:Guy 1: u love him more, but he is lazy n aimless... dun feel secure with him at all.... however feel comfortable with him..
Guy 2: have got the bread and is hardworking and more mature..... u like him...
who'd u choose?? -
Hi Steph84,
The problem was Not Starblue's comprehension of your post, but your choice of words in your previous post.
I love Guy 1 more can be inferred as: I love both guys, but I love Guy 1 more.
If you had put it in another way, e.g., "But although I'm attracted to Guy 2, I still love Guy 1", then perhaps there would've been a lower risk of others misintepreting.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Steph84:i dun LOVE both. read again -
hi dearOriginally posted by oxford mushroom:Imagine yourself 10 years down the line with:
Guy 1- You just discovered you are pregnant with your third child. He comes home telling you he quit his job again...that's the third time this year. You have been the main financial support of the family and now you think you cannot afford to have this child...
You still love him deeply but can love solve your problems now?
Guy2- You just discovered you are pregnant with your third child. He comes back late as usual, having called earlier to say he won't be back for dinner. In fact, he is seldom home for dinner but tries to make up for it by bringing the family on vacations to exotic locations every year. Now that you are pregnant, he suggests you quit your job and look after the kids instead, since he can more than provide for the family...
You thought you could never love him like Guy 1 but you are growing to love your husband more each day.....
ok..ok...this sounds very wayang but you get my point?
this doesnt sound wayang... in fact this scenario never once came into my mind till i read ur post... which i tot could very well happen in the future.... thanks man... i get ur point...
btw, jus to update..
i've actualli decided that i love Guy 1, so im going to choose love. so i told guy 1 again wad is bothering me and if he wans me, wad will he do to make me feel more secure n all..
his reply was: he had waited again n again for my ans n he is hurt. and he also added tat: since i was the one who called for time off, i should be the one who should mend the relationship, not him.
so i replied: i have nothing to mend. if u feel that u haf nothing to do as well, then theres no point in carrying on.
den he said: I've already said wad i wanted to say. if u worry abt my status, i say you leave me.
yah. so now i am single...
ok think my problem's being solved. thanks everyone for ur time..
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Originally posted by Steph84:ok think my problem's being solved. thanks everyone for ur time..
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just a question. if you "i've actualli decided that i love Guy 1", then why are you not fighting to save your relationship?Originally posted by Steph84:hi dear
this doesnt sound wayang... in fact this scenario never once came into my mind till i read ur post... which i tot could very well happen in the future.... thanks man... i get ur point...
btw, jus to update..
i've actualli decided that i love Guy 1, so im going to choose love. so i told guy 1 again wad is bothering me and if he wans me, wad will he do to make me feel more secure n all..
his reply was: he had waited again n again for my ans n he is hurt. and he also added tat: since i was the one who called for time off, i should be the one who should mend the relationship, not him.
so i replied: i have nothing to mend. if u feel that u haf nothing to do as well, then theres no point in carrying on.
den he said: I've already said wad i wanted to say. if u worry abt my status, i say you leave me.
yah. so now i am single...
ok think my problem's being solved. thanks everyone for ur time..
I know I love my bf and as long as he loves me too I'll fight till the end to keep my relationship going.
remember "For richer or poorer, for better or for worse.." i think what your guy1 wants is for you to accept him as he is. -
Hehehehehehe, HIGH 5
Smudgey = Feow Feow # 2
Now FeowFeow doesn't need to write essay already, Smudgey says it exactly like how I wanna say it, so Smudgey can say it for me
FeowFeowOriginally posted by smudgey:just a question. if you "i've actualli decided that i love Guy 1", then why are you not fighting to save your relationship?
I know I love my bf and as long as he loves me too I'll fight till the end to keep my relationship going.
remember "For richer or poorer, for better or for worse.." i think what your guy1 wants is for you to accept him as he is. -
Hmm....my interpretation is straightforward.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Hi Steph84,
The problem was Not Starblue's comprehension of your post, but your choice of words in your previous post.
I love Guy 1 more can be inferred as: I love both guys, but I love Guy 1 more.
If you had put it in another way, e.g., "But although I'm attracted to Guy 2, I still love Guy 1", then perhaps there would've been a lower risk of others misintepreting.
FeowFeow
Here goes
'I love Guy 1, i like Guy 2'
'I Love Guy 1, but I love him to have Bread too!'
'I like Guy 2, and i Love Bread'
One is Feeling, One is Material.
She has already made the distinction clear between two.
Cheers -
Opens Champage!!Originally posted by Steph84:hi dear
this doesnt sound wayang... in fact this scenario never once came into my mind till i read ur post... which i tot could very well happen in the future.... thanks man... i get ur point...
btw, jus to update..
i've actualli decided that i love Guy 1, so im going to choose love. so i told guy 1 again wad is bothering me and if he wans me, wad will he do to make me feel more secure n all..
his reply was: he had waited again n again for my ans n he is hurt. and he also added tat: since i was the one who called for time off, i should be the one who should mend the relationship, not him.
so i replied: i have nothing to mend. if u feel that u haf nothing to do as well, then theres no point in carrying on.
den he said: I've already said wad i wanted to say. if u worry abt my status, i say you leave me.
yah. so now i am single...
ok think my problem's being solved. thanks everyone for ur time..
Call for celebration Step..!!
I think u have made the right choice coz from his words he dun really care about u.. or if there us.. maybe just a little..
your next step is to sms guy 2 that u broke off with guy 1 -
ya.. exactly wad i wish to convey... thanksOriginally posted by M©+square:Hmm....my interpretation is straightforward.
Here goes
'I love Guy 1, i like Guy 2'
'I Love Guy 1, but I love him to have Bread too!'
'I like Guy 2, and i Love Bread'
One is Feeling, One is Material.
She has already made the distinction clear between two.
Cheers -
If you r not a risk taker....go for guy 2..... ultimately....I think you may want to settle down wif a guy who can provides you security....plus its not exactly youOriginally posted by Steph84:tats so sweet of u... thanks....
haiz ya deep in my heart... i noe onli i can decide.. oh man.. it feels like a gamble..
and im not a gambler
dun love guy 2 isnt it?
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Mei Wen TiOriginally posted by Steph84:ya.. exactly wad i wish to convey... thanks -
MC,
What I'm saying is that, others COULD infer different meanings from what she had written. You interpreted it right, I interpreted it the way she intended for us to interpret it, but Starblue didn't.
However, re-reading her post, I could see why Starblue drew her conclusion.
Get it?
FeowFeowOriginally posted by M©+square:Hmm....my interpretation is straightforward.
Here goes
'I love Guy 1, i like Guy 2'
'I Love Guy 1, but I love him to have Bread too!'
'I like Guy 2, and i Love Bread'
One is Feeling, One is Material.
She has already made the distinction clear between two.
Cheers -
Dear Steph84,
Just because a few interpreted it correctly, did NOT mean that you stated it correctly.
Regards,
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Steph84:ya.. exactly wad i wish to convey... thanks