Bear bear!!! must have more confidence in yourself ok?
My friend once told me... *pointing at a couple of"mei nu" walking past* he said "You see those gals, attractive right?? why do you think they are attractive? when u look closely,not chio at all ma... It's the way they walk, the way they carried themselves... they have confidence, hence when ppl see them they see the confidence and they look attractive! they do not hang their heads low, or doubt themselves."
Bearbear, you must realise, yes, you have certain flaws...
but forever thinking, or pointing out your flaws, cowering in a corner, hoping ppl do not see your flaws, or predicting negative things to happen in order not to feel TOO dissappointed if/when it does turn out negatively (so you can say to yourself, " see? I knew it will fail one... no surprise right?"... will not help you feel better about yourself, just the opposite, really...
No one is perfect. but the difference between the "chio" ppl and us (low self-esteemed ppl) is that.. they do not harp on their flaws.... they do not think all day.. "if only I'm slimmer, If nly I'm smarter... I'm not good enough"
They know their flaws and they try to either hide it or improve on it.
I know there are times when you want to do something, but there's something else that's stopping you, a little voice in you that say things like "You can mei?.... don't make yourself malu!!!.... Better not la.... you think you very handsome mei very macho mei??? better not.... what if you fail??? will only make yourself malu...."
DON"T LISTEN TO THAT VOICE!!!
JUST DO IT... Prove to yourself!!!
even IF you DO fail, was it really that bad? really that malu? are you missing an arm or a leg after that?
think back, think of one malu thing that you did in the past.... very malu right??? at that time you must have thought "dunno how I can face that person who saw me malu, ever again!!!" but did it kill you? when you next saw that person, was the experience that painful? learn that it is these "failures" in life that help make us a better person.
Bottom line : be a bit more thick skin... have fun!!! the ppl who see you "malu" and stick with you are ppl you can call friends... ppl who see you malu and then avoid you are ppl YOU should avoid.... because they obviously do not know the meaning of the word FUN!!!!
Don't be afraid to be yourself!!!
Originally posted by Simple_Bear:
*Simple Bear heart - broken...
So I was also Ur 'trainee'?...