a minor dilemma
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U need to be more thick skinned...Originally posted by starblue:wah lah.. you got see people drink water then suddenly spill on other people one meh??
dun liddat lah. give me constructive advice leh...
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hmm..i am in a similar situation except tat i get to talk to him over work. a few days ago, he actually gave me a lift to my bus stop together wif his dept colleagues. except tat i haven get any of his contacts yet. i heard tat he will leave my company one day but i dunno when exactly. i am scared tat he leaves b4 i get his contacts. how???
how do u ask for someone's contacts? i am too paiseh to ask something like 'can i have ur msn email?' out of the blue. 
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Originally posted by starblue:er.. ok, let's assume i have the acting skills.. so wad happens after that???
"oh my god, i'm sorry.. here, give me your shirt, i'll wash it for you." 
how abt dropping some food with gravy instead? water will dry up one so he may say dun need. -
I say, go up to him and just ask him for his number.
i know it's bold, but sometimes boldness is appealing to the guys, besides in a few weeks you won't see him anymore so if there's any awkwardness, u wouldnt have to worry about facing him in tutorials...
Try and sit next to him, borrow a pen, pass a note?? etc... -
initiate a conversation? guys can be shy too, although most may seem aloof about it..
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I like gals who are bold...Originally posted by smudgey:I say, go up to him and just ask him for his number.
i know it's bold, but sometimes boldness is appealing to the guys, besides in a few weeks you won't see him anymore so if there's any awkwardness, u wouldnt have to worry about facing him in tutorials...
Try and sit next to him, borrow a pen, pass a note?? etc... 
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Make sure yr drink is some nasty solvent like thick chocolate shake or sweet fruit juices that will real mess up his shirt or pants. After spill,die die sometimes must be done to make up for him ,like compensate his shirt ,pants or buy him a meal. He sure will not reject!Originally posted by starblue:er.. ok, let's assume i have the acting skills.. so wad happens after that???
"oh my god, i'm sorry.. here, give me your shirt, i'll wash it for you." -
or say you like his view on something during tutorial, and after tute, ask if he wanna discuss it further..
oh, and he's not attached yah? -
Hey Starblue,Originally posted by starblue:there is this guy whom i just got to know about 4 weeks ago, from my tutorial class... he just catches my eye. but the thing is, i will only get to see him on tutorial days, for that short 2 hours. and there is only 3 more tutorials left, spanning over 1 and a half months...
i don't know how things will work out, since we dun have much contact. and it will be terribly wierd for me to just go up and ask him out... i don't know if i should let myslf continue to like him and possibly sink in further. or to just nib it in the bud... and hope that, after the term is over and i dun get to see him anymore, i will get on with life the way it was before i even met him.
how??
be a brave lady n open up to him...hint to him that u like his company
A wonderful friendship, or even, a relationship might juz blossom from here..for all u noe.
Rather than juz keeping mum abt ur admiration n lose a chance to have a great r/s with tis guy. Or simply being frens wif himf for a start, wont b too much to ask, im sure.
All healthy r/s starts from a true, pure friendship
Go, girl power, go!
I'll giv u my support here! -
Hi huiz,Originally posted by huiz:hmm..i am in a similar situation except tat i get to talk to him over work. a few days ago, he actually gave me a lift to my bus stop together wif his dept colleagues. except tat i haven get any of his contacts yet. i heard tat he will leave my company one day but i dunno when exactly. i am scared tat he leaves b4 i get his contacts. how??? how do u ask for someone's contacts? i am too paiseh to ask something like 'can i have ur msn email?' out of the blue.
I think u can try going up to the guy, smile, be natural, and ask for some school work advice..keke.
He, if is a helpful guy, wld certainly giv u a helping hand for sure, and e rest is up to u
If he's dao, then u can diss him away..haha
Hope it works, I tried it b4 for ur info. -
i have his number lah.. haha.. the first tutorial he was the one who made us all write our numbers and say he will email us all each other's numbers... so i have already.. hehe.. and i tried smsing him twice. first time he never reply. the sec time it was about the exams lah... so never talk anything outside of the module loh.. haiz...Originally posted by smudgey:I say, go up to him and just ask him for his number.
i know it's bold, but sometimes boldness is appealing to the guys, besides in a few weeks you won't see him anymore so if there's any awkwardness, u wouldnt have to worry about facing him in tutorials...
Try and sit next to him, borrow a pen, pass a note?? etc...
the gravy thing not good leh.. he will be in school and all.. like very de bad loh.. and plus we usually just go our separate ways after tutorial, never go canteen one leh... -
oh..for work, simply ask for some help wif work matters..works even betterOriginally posted by CP25:Hi huiz,
I think u can try going up to the guy, smile, be natural, and ask for some school work advice..keke.
He, if is a helpful guy, wld certainly giv u a helping hand for sure, and e rest is up to u
If he's dao, then u can diss him away..haha
Hope it works, I tried it b4 for ur info. -
hmm... how to hint that i like his company.. anyway, my main concern is.. i cannot show that i am interested in him too much, cos we barely know each other you see.. he will find it wierd wun he??? i also want to build a friendship first. but i dunno how to, without seeming too "obvious" about it... sigh...Originally posted by CP25:Hey Starblue,
be a brave lady n open up to him...hint to him that u like his company
A wonderful friendship, or even, a relationship might juz blossom from here..for all u noe.
Rather than juz keeping mum abt ur admiration n lose a chance to have a great r/s with tis guy. Or simply being frens wif himf for a start, wont b too much to ask, im sure.
All healthy r/s starts from a true, pure friendship
Go, girl power, go!
I'll giv u my support here! -
just call him one day and chat. try a few times... you'll never gain anything unless you risk some...Originally posted by starblue:i have his number lah.. haha.. the first tutorial he was the one who made us all write our numbers and say he will email us all each other's numbers... so i have already.. hehe.. and i tried smsing him twice. first time he never reply. the sec time it was about the exams lah... so never talk anything outside of the module loh.. haiz...
the gravy thing not good leh.. he will be in school and all.. like very de bad loh.. and plus we usually just go our separate ways after tutorial, never go canteen one leh... -
kaoz.. call him out of the blue even wierder loh.. besides, i dun wan to do that lah.. the last time i did, i got myself into a lot of pain...Originally posted by smudgey:just call him one day and chat. try a few times... you'll never gain anything unless you risk some...
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buy something which can be brought ard, like fishballs with chilli sauce inside.... oh well never mind.Originally posted by starblue:i have his number lah.. haha.. the first tutorial he was the one who made us all write our numbers and say he will email us all each other's numbers... so i have already.. hehe.. and i tried smsing him twice. first time he never reply. the sec time it was about the exams lah... so never talk anything outside of the module loh.. haiz...
the gravy thing not good leh.. he will be in school and all.. like very de bad loh.. and plus we usually just go our separate ways after tutorial, never go canteen one leh... -
ok..i tink if he's so insecure abt ladies being upfront abt liking towards him, and he doesnt seem to reciprocate after seeing e obvious ( guys r hyper-sensitive, they know it instantly wen u show signs of liking!), then its time to switch attentionOriginally posted by starblue:hmm... how to hint that i like his company.. anyway, my main concern is.. i cannot show that i am interested in him too much, cos we barely know each other you see.. he will find it wierd wun he??? i also want to build a friendship first. but i dunno how to, without seeming too "obvious" about it... sigh... -
are you sure guys will know?? i've always thought guys are kinda thick when it comes to hints??Originally posted by CP25:ok..i tink if he's so insecure abt ladies being upfront abt liking towards him, and he doesnt seem to reciprocate after seeing e obvious ( guys r hyper-sensitive, they know it instantly wen u show signs of liking!), then its time to switch attention
actually, i was thinking, maybe i should just hold his gaze longer than normal the next time i see him in class.. will that do as a sign of interest?? -
r u a gal oso?Originally posted by CP25:Hi huiz,
I think u can try going up to the guy, smile, be natural, and ask for some school work advice..keke.
He, if is a helpful guy, wld certainly giv u a helping hand for sure, and e rest is up to u
If he's dao, then u can diss him away..haha
Hope it works, I tried it b4 for ur info. 
hmm he said he wanted something from my dept...which i haven got for him yet. there was once i went to see him over work matters, then he said he was still waiting for the thing. do u think i stand a chance or wat? -
look for an excuse.... but when it comes down to it, its either you risk it all or lose it.
how's this for an idea, on night, just call him, (let's say his name is John) and say "hey John, it's me (your name) hey I am going to get the gang together for dinner tommorow, are you free???" if he says errr... who's the gang?
just treat it as you called the wrong john... but ask him if he wants to meet up another day anyways...
or organise a class outing and try to talk him into organising it with you?Originally posted by starblue:kaoz.. call him out of the blue even wierder loh.. besides, i dun wan to do that lah.. the last time i did, i got myself into a lot of pain... -
Originally posted by starblue:
yeah...i tot guys can be quite mu tou?
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are you sure guys will know?? i've always thought guys are kinda thick when it comes to hints??
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Okay lah, some advice for this "lady with a crush".
Next time, you see him before tutorial, walk up to him, say a quick hello and then ask him anything about the lesson.
Later if you are thick-skinned enough, jio him for a lunch or something, maybe for the reason of wanting to ask him more questions of what you have been learning etc blah blah blah.....
Then, if he accepts the lunch, maybe you can start off by initiating any sort of conversation under the sun, crapping lah. Most important thing is be natural, you don't want to show your "true feelings" for him too soon lest he get scared of you.....
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haiz.. i realise that he sort of not interested in me leh... i tried smsing him ask him if he is still studying.. then a couple of sms only he say good night al of a sudden.. haiz...
maybe its time to bury this one... -
Oh well, cheer up gal.Originally posted by starblue:haiz.. i realise that he sort of not interested in me leh... i tried smsing him ask him if he is still studying.. then a couple of sms only he say good night al of a sudden.. haiz...
maybe its time to bury this one...
There's still plenty of trees around. Don't abandon the forest just because of a stupid lousy tree. -
Guess its better that you know now that later.
If you fall for him more and find out he is not interested even worst la. More painful. Still better make sure. If he likes you he would make oppotunities to be with you. Odds are if he isn't than either he got someone he like already or he gay
Hehe.
Most important to find out if he has feelings for you. If not all your best laid out plans sure going to fail one la.
Great One