Please advise
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but the thing now is that.. both of us quit from the company last month already.Originally posted by rainee:erm, she is making use of you for your company? When all her other friends desert her, she knows that you will still be there to accompany her...she knows she can always rely on you for help because she knows you love her. While her other friends might not be able to do that for her.
And if you really want to know what's exactly on her mind, your best bet would be to actually talk to her. Communication is very important in a relationship. So instead of worrying about this, just talk to her and tell her what is bothering you
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And i said yes! to your last post.Originally posted by rainee:Yea...
hence I asked him in my post above to talk to her...cos he wants to know what is exactly on her mind. Well, we are all just speculating based on his side of story. We can base our advice on nothing else at the moment, unless the lady involved comes in and give us her view on this matter.
So I think it is best if he just talks to her and let her know of his worries and concern. And if she is truly in love with him, she will tell him how she truly feels and assure him that she is not making use of him? -
True.. this applies to her.. she told me frankly that in her life. The most important person is her son then followed by me. And whenever we go out, she will bring her son along.. there's also no chance for us to spend time alone...Originally posted by Eiizumi:Patience.
She have a child.
Remember, she have a child. Woman's 1st priority is to love her child. Your priority is just to love her.
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Likely because you're easy to manupilate.Originally posted by gabriel_gab:I agreed with u.. if she's making use of me, for wat?
You've allowed yourself to be thrown towards her as and when she wants.
This is a very bad effect towards her.
She might not be attracted to you, but because you're 'easy'.
She can tap on your weaknesses.
Other than that, just take it that she have her own things to sort out.
She have her child.
She have her personal space.
Her ideal of LOVE and relationship is different from yours.
Question: Is she a single mother? Or Divorcee?
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Yea...but she still needs to pay attention to this guy whom she claims to love. Not neglect him altogether and then just call him when she needs his help.Originally posted by Eiizumi:Patience.
She have a child.
Remember, she have a child. Woman's 1st priority is to love her child. Your priority is just to love her.
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no no...I dun mean company as in the place you both work in...Originally posted by gabriel_gab:but the thing now is that.. both of us quit from the company last month already.
I mean company as in companion... -
just saw it after I posted that replyOriginally posted by M©+square:And i said yes! to your last post. -
She's married.. not divorced yet.. but she and her husband dun stay together. Her son 3 yrs oldOriginally posted by M©+square:Likely because you're easy to manupilate.
You've allowed yourself to be thrown towards her as and when she wants.
This is a very bad effect towards her.
She might not be attracted to you, but because you're 'easy'.
She can tap on your weaknesses.
Other than that, just take it that she have her own things to sort out.
She have her child.
She have her personal space.
Her ideal of LOVE and relationship is different from yours.
Question: Is she a single mother? Or Divorcee?
How old is the child? -
Then the story involves more parties.Originally posted by gabriel_gab:She's married.. not divorced yet.. but she and her husband dun stay together. Her son 3 yrs old
I suggest you take a bow and leave. -
haiz...Originally posted by gabriel_gab:She's married.. not divorced yet.. but she and her husband dun stay together. Her son 3 yrs old
I see no future..
I advise you to talk to her...see what she says...and give her some ultimatum...like if she says she really loves you and wants to be with you, then she has to get that divorce... -
Trust me.Originally posted by rainee:Yea...but she still needs to pay attention to this guy whom she claims to love. Not neglect him altogether and then just call him when she needs his help.
It is rather unfair to him.
Its a mother's instinct.
Even though I'm not a woman, you must understand why gab's gf behaves that way. It is sort of her right as a "single" mother.
She's a "single" mother afterall.
Gab's love must have that utmost understanding and patience. Only this much love can be given to her. Once, she has this kind of love overflowing in her heart, she could then have that spare love for him.
Love is mutual yet it is uncondition. Its not always one for one.
She could not always return his love for him. This is the kind of love and trust she expects.
Once she know of this sacrifice, she then only could give you back.
She needs time to settle with her past. -
leaving her is wat i thought of too.. n i tried b4 too.. juz tt whenever she asked me out.. i cannot resist..
N one more thing i got to admit.. I dun bear to... coz i put in lots of effort in this relationship.. perhaps.. time is all i need. -
Hmmm?Originally posted by Eiizumi:Trust me.
Its a mother's instinct.
Even I may not be a woman, you must understand why gab's gf behaves that way. Its sort of her right.
She's a "single" mother afterall.
Gab's love must have that utmost understanding and patience. Only this much love can be gievn to her. Once, she has this kind of love overflowing in her heart, she could then have that spar love for him.
Love is mutual yet it is uncondition. Its not always one for one.
She could not always return his love for him. This is the kind of love and trust she expects.
Once she know of this sacrifice, she will give you back.
Ok.
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Hmm... Wat's that for?Originally posted by M©+square:Hmmm?
Ok.
Cheers -
That is why if you found tat what i've listed earlier seems right. Then you should think about it and decide.Originally posted by gabriel_gab: leaving her is wat i thought of too.. n i tried b4 too.. juz tt whenever she asked me out.. i cannot resist..
N one more thing i got to admit.. I dun bear to... coz i put in lots of effort in this relationship.. perhaps.. time is all i need.
Ok. I'm leaving this thread to the expert to counsel you. Take care.
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Oops... wrong posting.
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pls talk to her about this...dun keep it all to yourself...cos r/s is two way, even tho she is a single mother, she will still need to do sth for the r/s...cannot just let you do the work all the time...it is tiring...Originally posted by gabriel_gab: leaving her is wat i thought of too.. n i tried b4 too.. juz tt whenever she asked me out.. i cannot resist..
N one more thing i got to admit.. I dun bear to... coz i put in lots of effort in this relationship.. perhaps.. time is all i need. -
haha I am not expert...I better chao osoOriginally posted by M©+square:That is why if you found tat what i've listed earlier seems right. Then you should think about it and decide.
Ok. I'm leaving this thread to the expert to counsel you. Take care.
Cheers
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there's one who claim to know women.Originally posted by rainee:haha I am not expert...I better chao oso 
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In fact im really tired.. thats y i need some advice. I tried but she avoid... I really wan to know more abt her n her husband, but she juz dun wanna tel me.. she juz change topic. wat can i do?Originally posted by rainee:pls talk to her about this...dun keep it all to yourself...cos r/s is two way, even tho she is a single mother, she will still need to do sth for the r/s...cannot just let you do the work all the time...it is tiring...
It's tired to guess wats on her mind.
It's tired to make her son accept me.
I wan to hold her hands when we go out, but we cannot.
I wan to spend time juz with her alone sometimes, but her son will be there everytime...
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so instead of telling this to us, tell it to herOriginally posted by gabriel_gab:In fact im really tired.. thats y i need some advice. I tried but she avoid... I really wan to know more abt her n her husband, but she juz dun wanna tel me.. she juz change topic. wat can i do?
It's tired to guess wats on her mind.
It's tired to make her son accept me.
I wan to hold her hands when we go out, but we cannot.
I wan to spend time juz with her alone sometimes, but her son will be there everytime...
I'm tired. But i love her.
That might be able to solve all your problems and to be able to share your burden with someone, it might make you feel less tired
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[quote]Originally posted by rainee:
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so instead of telling this to us, tell it to her
I hint her b4 already.. but no use..
I dun wanna tel her straight in the face coz i dun wanna make her unhappy... -
When you already have suspected and not trusting her, better you end this relationship. End your misery.
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Then you rather be unhappy urself?Originally posted by gabriel_gab:[quote]Originally posted by rainee:
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so instead of telling this to us, tell it to her
I hint her b4 already.. but no use..
I dun wanna tel her straight in the face coz i dun wanna make her unhappy...
Then I have nothing to say le. -
Im just hope that there's still a way to save it...Originally posted by Oyathatsme:When you already have suspected and not trusting her, better you end this relationship. End your misery.