How to ask someone out
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b'dae coming thn good lor...buy her present thn meet up wif her to giv it to her...Originally posted by Hocklez:huh? i am younger than u leh, i no experience in love one... u say me until i very pro like tt...
guys, i had decided to call her one of these days. well, lucky i din call her cuz she was really tired yesterday. and another good thing is that her birthday is coming yeah. still must pluck up my courage to call her if not everything is as still is before. -
hmm let me carry on the story, i called and asked her out in the morning, i took up all of my courages just to make this call.
The few seconds of waiting for the phone to be picked up seems like i could hear noting except for the ringing of the dialing tone. she picked up. shocked and we were like err, ahh, yaa... in the end she is not prepared to meet me this afternoon....
to be continued until our next move... -
wait, u know her in actual life anot? like classmate, collegue or something liddat? a while bak i oso got same prob wif u leh, i juz asked her out on sms (give some excuse) and tell her face 2 face str8 away...budden mess 1/2 way and she is like "eh, lets just stay as friends"
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So how is the situation now?
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"want to go out?"
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you shouldn't have rushed it mah, or else she will be shocked. don't worry, got a lot of other gals around for you.Originally posted by enemychaser:wait, u know her in actual life anot? like classmate, collegue or something liddat? a while bak i oso got same prob wif u leh, i juz asked her out on sms (give some excuse) and tell her face 2 face str8 away...budden mess 1/2 way and she is like "eh, lets just stay as friends" 
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Muster your courage man, i just did that just now, and i've got a positive reply amongst other strange questions like "why you ask me out on xmas eve?"
Why do ladies ask questions that are so darn obvious?!?
Good luck dude.. And merry xmas -
to test a guy's reaction. treat it as an oral examination.
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yups. Agreed, girls are afraid of being too paranoid and think too much when all the guys want is something simple. Like company.
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Wah, ask some1 out oso like exam liddat, no wonder our generation so stressed larOriginally posted by Ray87:to test a guy's reaction. treat it as an oral examination.
On a serious note tho, the 1st step is always the hardest, after tat it shud be much easier (at least tat's wat i heard
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i really hope that is that case, who knows what is going to happen next...Originally posted by enemychaser:Wah, ask some1 out oso like exam liddat, no wonder our generation so stressed lar
On a serious note tho, the 1st step is always the hardest, after tat it shud be much easier (at least tat's wat i heard)
guess i really didn't go thru the feeling of her when i called and asked her out suddenly... -
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yeah.. first time the hardest.. but after that, ur subsequent gal u not that shy liao..
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I tell you something dude,you two can chat very well online doesnt mean you can chat very well in person.Speaking from personal experience.Be forewarned.Originally posted by Hocklez:we never talk face to face or even on phone before. just sms and chat on net. how am i suppose to ask her out? in what manner? what to do when we are out if i succeed?
Also you two know how each other looks like? -
ya know, after all 3 pages of posts i still dunno if u know her in real life anot... if both of u met online i wun recommend u cont. dis thing, cuz most dates tat started out online usually end in failure...
otherwise, i think she's a bit shocked when u ask her out all of a sudden... on the phone somemore leh, maybe wif ur relationship it might be easier (and more natural) to juz ask her out via sms or msn/irc liddat -
does it really means failure? i know i am a introvert in real life... but i am trying hard to change it...Originally posted by enemychaser:ya know, after all 3 pages of posts i still dunno if u know her in real life anot... if both of u met online i wun recommend u cont. dis thing, cuz most dates tat started out online usually end in failure...
otherwise, i think she's a bit shocked when u ask her out all of a sudden... on the phone somemore leh, maybe wif ur relationship it might be easier (and more natural) to juz ask her out via sms or msn/irc liddat
i knew her on net and we happened to be in the same sch and level at that time. it is like we know each other in school but we nv talk and nv acknowledge the fact that we knew each other.
i know i had forgotten to think about her feeling when i called, my mistake. but i hope it might just be the turning point for us, to know each other in real life and not continue having it in the virtual form of sms, msn... -
The virtual world is full of truth and untruth. Even though you and her is from the same school and level, it doesn't make her natural defenses any less. She might think you are one who always talks to girls online. And many more (only girls can think of those crazy ideas. I'm not a girl, don't ask me. Maybe FeowFeow?Originally posted by Hocklez:does it really means failure? i know i am a introvert in real life... but i am trying hard to change it...
i knew her on net and we happened to be in the same sch and level at that time. it is like we know each other in school but we nv talk and nv acknowledge the fact that we knew each other.
i know i had forgotten to think about her feeling when i called, my mistake. but i hope it might just be the turning point for us, to know each other in real life and not continue having it in the virtual form of sms, msn...). Take it one step at a time. Get to know her more and make sure she gets to know you more. You can easily tell if a girl you talk to is attracted to you. A simple thing like "you too hors.. sleep early hors.." can mean that. By the way, i would encourage you to use MSN rather than SMS. SMS ensures that if the girl is polite, she would reply you and you two can have a long chat. MSN ensures real-time response and to me, more intimate than SMS. But FTF is still better. Phone comes second. (unless you and her have 3G phones. Video conference. Then i have nothing to say.) BTW, you're in the same school with her, right? Then maybe get your presence a little more noticed by her. Try to appear within her sight, etc.
So, summary. Talk to her on MSN more often. Drop very mild hints every now and then. (my every now and then doesn't mean once every day. It means once around 4 / 5 days.) Try to register your face in her mind. -
Start first by joking ard. DOn b 2 rush in dating gals. U have to treat her as a friend in the frist place, not someone u plan to date her. The easiest way to talk to her is by joking to her. Start by "suan" her or some sort of way to make her abit angry so that she will say u back 2. Once u established some sort of friendship then start your plans to date her. Check out her profile. Check her email, friendster or her friends. Find out more abt her and u will get your answer to the question. RIght now jus establish a good friendship with her. And don ever b shy in dating chicks.
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still asking arh?
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trying... i had my first call to her le... finally...Originally posted by Ito_^:still asking arh? -
yar, rushing it wud not work... best course of action wud to be gd frens wif her 1st, then after u know her a bit better liao its still not too late to make ur move... dun make the same mistakes i did (even tho i waited for 2 yrs
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eh hocklez gd luck, hope u can succeed in asking her out soon
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Good luck, Hocklez. You can do it.
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Buddy.. go for it! Im behind you always
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i just went out with a girl that i like and it was suprisingly not as difficult to talk face to face as i expected.