anyone having long distances relationships?
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hows your situation like?like how long will u n your ai ai not be able to see each other?Originally posted by rainee:me and my ai ai are in one currently
It will definitely need a lot of trust, faith and love to keep it going.
And you would have to willing to. If you are forcing yourself into making it work just because you want it to work, it will never work out...you would have to trust that both you and your bf can work it out together. Dun get into it just because you dun have an option....
So yea, definitely invest in a webcam and get skype to save on the phone bill. OR MSN messenger works pretty well for me too, most of the time.
And at least you know both of you are going to be together in a year's time...so at least dats something to look forward to
How long have you two been together? And how did you guys meet? -
actually ive already "tasted" a long distance relationship earlier this year.for 6 mths.he was in BKK...but den got budget airline,so im able to go there almost once a mth.so not really counted.
the real thing comes next mth!
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Your situation sounds very much like a friend of mine.
He loves his gf very much, but her family was opposed to it (dunno if that's YOUR case or Not) because of family background issues, & difference in education levels. She was sent to Melbourne to further her education (after her degree, I think).
FeowFeowOriginally posted by laosu:I'm definitely in one and honestly it's not easy at all. -
no la...different.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Your situation sounds very much like a friend of mine.
He loves his gf very much, but her family was opposed to it (dunno if that's YOUR case or Not) because of family background issues, & difference in education levels. She was sent to Melbourne to further her education (after her degree, I think).
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your nick-Pommes Frites-do you know what it really means?Originally posted by Pommes frites:apple fries?what has it got to do with apple fries?
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Well...for my case, I havent even met him yetOriginally posted by Pommes frites:hows your situation like?like how long will u n your ai ai not be able to see each other?
I have been in this r/s for close to a year now...just passed our 8 months anniversary 
If everything goes as planned, I will be able to meet him next June -
Laosu's is different?
Actually, I was addressing Laosu
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Pommes frites:no la...different. -
No lah...mine is definitely not about family background or difference in education level. It's something more crucial, harder to accept.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Your situation sounds very much like a friend of mine.
He loves his gf very much, but her family was opposed to it (dunno if that's YOUR case or Not) because of family background issues, & difference in education levels. She was sent to Melbourne to further her education (after her degree, I think).
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Harder to accept?
Laosu, you're a female also?
FeowFeowOriginally posted by laosu:No lah...mine is definitely not about family background or difference in education level. It's something more crucial, harder to accept. -
its french fries.apple in german is "Apfel"Originally posted by rainee:your nick-Pommes Frites-do you know what it really means? -
oh..paisehOriginally posted by FeowFeow:Laosu's is different?
Actually, I was addressing Laosu
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pomme = apple in french, potatoes are pomme de terre.Originally posted by Pommes frites:its french fries.apple in german is "Apfel" french fries are simply called frittes. -
i was in a LDR before.. seriously it isn't easy..
it takes alot of trust..
imagine when u really wish your partner is beside u.. but all u can do is hug the CPU or monitor...
i've been thru that man.. really don't feel good..
but look on the bright side.. if u both can pull thru until he/ she returns,.. its really heaven..
i'm in heaven now.. keke -
Im talking german.not french.Originally posted by vito_corleone:pomme = apple in french, potatoes are pomme de terre. french fries are simply called frittes. -
speaking*.Originally posted by Pommes frites:Im talking german.not french. wah lao enrgish never learn properly learn german... -
Then how do you handle LDR when one is born and stay in Malaysia and the other born and stays in Singapore?Originally posted by smallcloud:i was in a LDR before.. seriously it isn't easy..
it takes alot of trust..
imagine when u really wish your partner is beside u.. but all u can do is hug the CPU or monitor...
i've been thru that man.. really don't feel good..
but look on the bright side.. if u both can pull thru until he/ she returns,.. its really heaven..
i'm in heaven now.. keke -
Originally posted by smallcloud:i was in a LDR before.. seriously it isn't easy..
it takes alot of trust..
imagine when u really wish your partner is beside u.. but all u can do is hug the CPU or monitor...
i've been thru that man.. really don't feel good..
but look on the bright side.. if u both can pull thru until he/ she returns,.. its really heaven..
i'm in heaven now.. keke 
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One of the good examples I've seen is MARRIAGE... The family (now couple with kids) actually take the initiative of staying over in Malaysia for a period of months then staying with his family in Singapore (with his family members) ALTERNATIVELY....Originally posted by laosu:Then how do you handle LDR when one is born and stay in Malaysia and the other born and stays in Singapore?
laosu.. For YOUR CASE.. There are 2 QUESTIONS I wish to ask you...?
1. What is it that brought BOTH of you TOGETHER...
2. What has CHANGED NOW Sometimes things don't change very much by itself... It's just that when a relationship MATURES and GROW... 2 hearts just YEARN for MORE -
oh ya huh..haha...Originally posted by vito_corleone:speaking*. wah lao enrgish never learn properly learn german... -
surprisingly...I don't have the answer for the first question. I only know I can lose her. For my entire 28yrs, she's the only woman who knew me inside out. Knows how I feel, what I'm thinking. She felt the pain I'm going through despite the distance between us. She doesn't need to be beside me to know that I'm crying. All these 4yrs of knowing her, she never left me.Originally posted by Devil1976:One of the good examples I've seen is MARRIAGE... The family (now couple with kids) actually take the initiative of staying over in Malaysia for a period of months then staying with his family in Singapore (with his family members) ALTERNATIVELY....
laosu.. For YOUR CASE.. There are 2 QUESTIONS I wish to ask you...?
1. What is it that brought BOTH of you TOGETHER...
2. What has CHANGED NOW Sometimes things don't change very much by itself... It's just that when a relationship MATURES and GROW... 2 hearts just YEARN for MORE
It's for about the same reason that she love me too. It seemed a little unbelieveable but then it's true that we can feel each other. She can feel it when something is bothering me without me telling her or I can feel that something is bothering her without her tell me.
I'm not sure what has changed either. Maybe nothing has changed. It's just back to the time we weren't together as a couple. And the only changes is that we are together now (I mean as a couple).
Maybe in a way I'm starting to ask for more from this relationship but which r/s don't face this? -
in a "sort of" r/s. its complicated.Originally posted by Pommes frites:im going to get into one,haiz.... -
Nay... I BELIEVE in what BOTH of you FEEL...Originally posted by laosu:surprisingly...I don't have the answer for the first question. I only know I can lose her. For my entire 28yrs, she's the only woman who knew me inside out. Knows how I feel, what I'm thinking. She felt the pain I'm going through despite the distance between us. She doesn't need to be beside me to know that I'm crying. All these 4yrs of knowing her, she never left me.
It's for about the same reason that she love me too. It seemed a little unbelieveable but then it's true that we can feel each other. She can feel it when something is bothering me without me telling her or I can feel that something is bothering her without her tell me.
I'm not sure what has changed either. Maybe nothing has changed. It's just back to the time we weren't together as a couple. And the only changes is that we are together now (I mean as a couple).
Maybe in a way I'm starting to ask for more from this relationship but which r/s don't face this?
You're not sure what has changed? But perhaps getting a bit close on that...?
Yes.. You're asking for more in this relationship... INDEED, which couple won't face that? But the pace and appropriate things to BUILD UP and BUILD IN are often directly related to your means and the current situation...? Don't RUSH THINGS especially when it's not time yet... Just cause PROBLEMS to BUILD UP and WORSE, the boat to OVER TURN...?
Back to the 1st question... Which perhaps is the fact when both of you ain't couple yet... WHAT kept you 2 close? (refer back to your reply to me..) And UNDERSTAND that even as a relationship GROWS... The 1ST QUESTION... Needs to be constantly reminded and never really underestimated unless your grounds have changed... -
We both are someone who will stand strong by a friend's side when they need us and that's how we have become each other's soulmates and somehow the feeling just starts to adds on and on until we realised that we love each other.Originally posted by Devil1976:Nay... I BELIEVE in what BOTH of you FEEL...
You're not sure what has changed? But perhaps getting a bit close on that...?
Yes.. You're asking for more in this relationship... INDEED, which couple won't face that? But the pace and appropriate things to BUILD UP and BUILD IN are often directly related to your means and the current situation...? Don't RUSH THINGS especially when it's not time yet... Just cause PROBLEMS to BUILD UP and WORSE, the boat to OVER TURN...?
Back to the 1st question... Which perhaps is the fact when both of you ain't couple yet... WHAT kept you 2 close? (refer back to your reply to me..) And UNDERSTAND that even as a relationship GROWS... The 1ST QUESTION... Needs to be constantly reminded and never really underestimated unless your grounds have changed...
No, my grounds for our r/s never changed. Or maybe mine changed. The feelings keeps adding on and on and I love her more each day even till now despite all the problems. Maybe it's adding on too much and too fast and she finds it hard to keep up especially with all the other problems that's weighing her down. Maybe... -
I'm in one too...sending lots of cards to him will help.
The voice chat feature on MSN works pretty well so Skype's just an alternative...and there are webcams/headphones which come with integrated microphones.
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Then perhaps it's time to do a reality check and give her some room to breathe..? Like I've said previously, try to pace everything...Originally posted by laosu:We both are someone who will stand strong by a friend's side when they need us and that's how we have become each other's soulmates and somehow the feeling just starts to adds on and on until we realised that we love each other.
No, my grounds for our r/s never changed. Or maybe mine changed. The feelings keeps adding on and on and I love her more each day even till now despite all the problems. Maybe it's adding on too much and too fast and she finds it hard to keep up especially with all the other problems that's weighing her down. Maybe...
By the way... The 'will to survive in a relationship' shouldn't be confused with 'love' sometimes...? Though they might probably means the same thing in most cases but in some... Hmm..
Nonetheless, same thing as I've previously said.. PACE THINGS OUT...