How To Win Her Back
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Can u tell me why being too nice is a form of destruction for a r/s?Originally posted by rainee:Sometimes being too nice is destroying to a r/s.
Anyway, it is over...so you should concentrate on forgetting her instead of trying to find the reasons for her leaving you.
The fact is that she has already left you. Don't go after someone who wouldn't even glance back and know what you have been going thru.
I am trying hard but I am still having dreams in the middle of the night.
She should empathise me for the hurt she has caused me. -
its symphatise.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Can u tell me why being too nice is a form of destruction for a r/s?
I am trying hard but I am still having dreams in the middle of the night.
She should empathise me for the hurt she has caused me. -
y would she if she had already moved on happily?Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Can u tell me why being too nice is a form of destruction for a r/s?
I am trying hard but I am still having dreams in the middle of the night.
She should empathise me for the hurt she has caused me.
shouldn't u be doing the same?
look la dude, if any girl is not interested in u or wadsoever, there's NOTHING u can do to win her back!
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Pls la...she has oledi betrayed you not once but twice...get a grip on yourself and move on. It is lucky she leaves you actually.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Can u tell me why being too nice is a form of destruction for a r/s?
I am trying hard but I am still having dreams in the middle of the night.
She should empathise me for the hurt she has caused me.
Why should she empathize with you? She doesn't even have you in her mind now. Wake up and stop pitying yourself because I don't think she pities you at all.
Being too nice sometimes can be destructive to the r/s because she might have taken you for granted. And she might feel that things are getting too routine, and hence left you to find another guy who will bring more excitement in her life. -
Originally posted by The Emperor:
I agree with what u haf said on the last sentence.
y would she if she had already moved on happily?
shouldn't u be doing the same?
look la dude, if any girl is not interested in u or wadsoever, there's [b]NOTHING u can do to win her back! [/b]
She did put it straight across my face saying that if a gal is not interested, no matter what I do, she will not be interested. But the point is, we were once in a relationship before. -
You deserve better than this. -
So? If you are in a r/s with her before doesn't mean she will stay that way with you forever.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:I agree with what u haf said on the last sentence.
She did put it straight across my face saying that if a gal is not interested, no matter what I do, she will not be interested. But the point is, we were once in a relationship before.
People get together and break up all the time. People come and go. It might be a hard fact to accept, but this is the reality. -
i think he is just making things even more difficult for himself by wanting to wait for her when it is clear she won't return. If he makes up his mind to move on, things will be better.Originally posted by DriftingGuy:You deserve better than this. -
SOOO?? So what if u were once in that relationship before? Now u're not. So... move on lar! She'll be laughing at u for such a weakling like this... because she herself has already moved on without u. so aren't u gonna do the same? if u're not, then u'll only be the laughing stock in her eyes and everybody else's.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:I agree with what u haf said on the last sentence.
She did put it straight across my face saying that if a gal is not interested, no matter what I do, she will not be interested. But the point is, we were once in a relationship before.
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U mean I should count on my lucky stars that she left me. But I think what has happen, she will not dare to cheat on another person again.Originally posted by rainee:Pls la...she has oledi betrayed you not once but twice...get a grip on yourself and move on. It is lucky she leaves you actually.
Why should she empathize with you? She doesn't even have you in her mind now. Wake up and stop pitying yourself because I don't think she pities you at all.
Being too nice sometimes can be destructive to the r/s because she might have taken you for granted. And she might feel that things are getting too routine, and hence left you to find another guy who will bring more excitement in her life.
I agree being nice is no good. She did complained that things are getting too routine. Well, she is not even putting the effort to make it more interesting. I was the one constantly coming up with ideas to surprise and please her. What is wrong with being stable and routine? Marriage life will be even more routine.
She found excitment in another guy. Well, that's only short term. Eventually, once the courtship is over and the "fire" is gone, the excitment will be gone too. And that's when i think the commitment level comes in to substain the realtionship. Gals like her only go by the feelings. -
My close friend was telling me recently that she must haf cast a spell on u. Or else why can't i let go?Originally posted by The Emperor:SOOO?? So what if u were once in that relationship before? Now u're not. So... move on lar! She'll be laughing at u for such a weakling like this... because she herself has already moved on without u. so aren't u gonna do the same? if u're not, then u'll only be the laughing stock in her eyes and everybody else's.
She did reprimanded me right into my face saying that she hates such a weakling like me. I was like shocked. How can she say such a thing? That hurts!!! -
How do you know she will not cheat on another person again? She has done it twice, there is nothing stopping her from doing it again. You might think breaking up with you is a big matter, but to her, it might not even mean anything.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:U mean I should count on my lucky stars that she left me. But I think what has happen, she will not dare to cheat on another person again.
I agree being nice is no good. She did complained that things are getting too routine. Well, she is not even putting the effort to make it more interesting. I was the one constantly coming up with ideas to surprise and please her. What is wrong with being stable and routine? Marriage life will be even more routine.
She found excitment in another guy. Well, that's only short term. Eventually, once the courtship is over and the "fire" is gone, the excitment will be gone too. And that's when i think the commitment level comes in to substain the realtionship. Gals like her only go by the feelings.
So all along it has been an one-sided effort. Isn't it tiring to be in such r/s? So I wonder, why are you holding on to it. -
How do you know she will not cheat on another person again? She has done it twice, there is nothing stopping her from doing it again. You might think breaking up with you is a big matter, but to her, it might not even mean anything.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:U mean I should count on my lucky stars that she left me. But I think what has happen, she will not dare to cheat on another person again.
I agree being nice is no good. She did complained that things are getting too routine. Well, she is not even putting the effort to make it more interesting. I was the one constantly coming up with ideas to surprise and please her. What is wrong with being stable and routine? Marriage life will be even more routine.
She found excitment in another guy. Well, that's only short term. Eventually, once the courtship is over and the "fire" is gone, the excitment will be gone too. And that's when i think the commitment level comes in to substain the realtionship. Gals like her only go by the feelings.
So all along it has been an one-sided effort. Isn't it tiring to be in such r/s? So I wonder, why are you holding on to it. -
actually, pardon me for saying this, but i think u r a weakling too.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:My close friend was telling me recently that she must haf cast a spell on u. Or else why can't i let go?
She did reprimanded me right into my face saying that she hates such a weakling like me. I was like shocked. How can she say such a thing? That hurts!!!
because look at u, all ur post, all that u haf mentioned about ur actions and reactions towards the break up, really speaks for itself that u r nothing but a weakling.
if i'm a girl, i wouldn't haf fallen for u also. take my words.
i apologize for my bluntness but i have to do this. -
It wasn't a one-sided intially when we were having our honeymoon period. But things changed when she started to work. I dun expect she will return her kindness or love to me like what she used to do.Originally posted by rainee:How do you know she will not cheat on another person again? She has done it twice, there is nothing stopping her from doing it again. You might think breaking up with you is a big matter, but to her, it might not even mean anything.
So all along it has been an one-sided effort. Isn't it tiring to be in such r/s? So I wonder, why are you holding on to it.
Sometimes, I feel she is asking too much from me. I see my friends who did nothing and yet their gf still love them. In fact, I was the one who suggested all the wonderful ideas to my friends on how to surprise or pamper their gf. I haf done wonders to my ex-gf but yet all I did means nothing to her.
Why am I holding back? The reason is simple. I have plans to marry her but I din expect her to drop the bombshell. Really nothing can move her meh? -
She has already told you to move on. You have plans to be with her but sad to say, her plans in life do not include you.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:It wasn't a one-sided intially when we were having our honeymoon period. But things changed when she started to work. I dun expect she will return her kindness or love to me like what she used to do.
Sometimes, I feel she is asking too much from me. I see my friends who did nothing and yet their gf still love them. In fact, I was the one who suggested all the wonderful ideas to my friends on how to surprise or pamper their gf. I haf done wonders to my ex-gf but yet all I did means nothing to her.
Why am I holding back? The reason is simple. I have plans to marry her but I din expect her to drop the bombshell. Really nothing can move her meh? -
Who say I am a weakling!!! Hey put yourself in my shoes and see how u will feel when u r cheated, not once but twice.Originally posted by The Emperor:actually, pardon me for saying this, but i think u r a weakling too.
because look at u, all ur post, all that u haf mentioned about ur actions and reactions towards the break up, really speaks for itself that u r nothing but a weakling.
if i'm a girl, i wouldn't haf fallen for u also. take my words.
i apologize for my bluntness but i have to do this.
My life still goes on. Who say I can't meet the daily challenges? I am only weak in relationship and I dun see it as a point that will deem me as a weaklings. I noe how to draw a line when it comes to work and relationship.
U are seeing from a guy's perspective. Look on the other side, I displayed my commitment and faithfulness and I believe these are what a gal is looking for.
So dun judge a person based on what you haf read. Becos u only see a very small picture over here. -
Ya, I agree. I will have this plan of mine with someone better. Now is how to curb with all the dreams that are coming back now and then. It is something I cannot control.Originally posted by rainee:She has already told you to move on. You have plans to be with her but sad to say, her plans in life do not include you. -
Why are you cheated twice? Because you allow her to do that to you.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Who say I am a weakling!!! Hey put yourself in my shoes and see how u will feel when u r cheated, not once but twice.
My life still goes on. Who say I can't meet the daily challenges? I am only weak in relationship and I dun see it as a point that will deem me as a weaklings. I noe how to draw a line when it comes to work and relationship.
U are seeing from a guy's perspective. Look on the other side, I displayed my commitment and faithfulness and I believe these are what a gal is looking for.
So dun judge a person based on what you haf read. Becos u only see a very small picture over here.
Commitment and faithfulness are two aspects that girls are looking for. But there is also such thing called compatibility and chemistry. maybe she no longer feels anything towards you, so even if you are committed and faithful to her, that doesn't count towards anything. -
Try to do some other activities that will take your mind off her. Or maybe you have some friends that you can hang out with? Just keep your mind occupied and stop yourself from thinking abt her all the time. Tell yourself to move on, go out and meet more people.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Ya, I agree. I will have this plan of mine with someone better. Now is how to curb with all the dreams that are coming back now and then. It is something I cannot control. -
Yup, I allow her to do it. I blame no one but myself.Originally posted by rainee:Why are you cheated twice? Because you allow her to do that to you.
Commitment and faithfulness are two aspects that girls are looking for. But there is also such thing called compatibility and chemistry. maybe she no longer feels anything towards you, so even if you are committed and faithful to her, that doesn't count towards anything.
I agree those 2 are the basic aspects a gal looks for. No feelings is the reason. There is nothing I can do but I hope feelings can come back. It happens to some of my friends though. -
Stop deluding yourself k? It has been 8 months already, if the feelings were to come back, she would be by your side by now.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Yup, I allow her to do it. I blame no one but myself.
I agree those 2 are the basic aspects a gal looks for. No feelings is the reason. There is nothing I can do but I hope feelings can come back. It happens to some of my friends though.
So stop hoping for the impossible and spare yourself some heart pain and move on. Time is precious and is not supposed to be wasted by waiting for a person like this. -
But my schedule these days is so disorganised. The days with her were so much organised and fulfiling. Basically, I am bumping around. Friends cannot be there 24/7.Originally posted by rainee:Try to do some other activities that will take your mind off her. Or maybe you have some friends that you can hang out with? Just keep your mind occupied and stop yourself from thinking abt her all the time. Tell yourself to move on, go out and meet more people. -
Time is indeed very very precious. I wasted the past 9 mths coming out with ideas and gifts to win her back. I did ALL I CAN. But at the end of the day, I failed and hence I started this thread hoping for some guidance. Its time to take care of myself now.Originally posted by rainee:Stop deluding yourself k? It has been 8 months already, if the feelings were to come back, she would be by your side by now.
So stop hoping for the impossible and spare yourself some heart pain and move on. Time is precious and is not supposed to be wasted by waiting for a person like this. -
Go join a club or sth. Don't you have an interest that you have been wanting to pursue?Originally posted by AnimalArmy:But my schedule these days is so disorganised. The days with her were so much organised and fulfiling. Basically, I am bumping around. Friends cannot be there 24/7.
This is what happens when you based your life on someone too much. Now that she is gone, you dunno wat to do with your life.