How To Win Her Back
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Yea, good luck and remind yourself everyday that she is not worth your thoughts. She might even be laughing at you now.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Time is indeed very very precious. I wasted the past 9 mths coming out with ideas and gifts to win her back. I did ALL I CAN. But at the end of the day, I failed and hence I started this thread hoping for some guidance. Its time to take care of myself now.
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Everybody is asking the same qns. Why u dun haf any interest in life to pursue? Honestly, my interest is to share my life with the special someone.Originally posted by rainee:Go join a club or sth. Don't you have an interest that you have been wanting to pursue?
This is what happens when you based your life on someone too much. Now that she is gone, you dunno wat to do with your life.
This is the consequences I have to bear but focusing too much on her. I simply shut my world when I am with her. I thought giving her 100% attention will be good enuff. Maybe I was naive back then. No way I am going to repeat this mistake again. -
Maybe you can try going for the outings here? There you can meet ppl and maybe then you might be able to find someone specialOriginally posted by AnimalArmy:Everybody is asking the same qns. Why u dun haf any interest in life to pursue? Honestly, my interest is to share my life with the special someone.
This is the consequences I have to bear but focusing too much on her. I simply shut my world when I am with her. I thought giving her 100% attention will be good enuff. Maybe I was naive back then. No way I am going to repeat this mistake again.
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I really want to prove to her that letting me go is a mistake. But I doubt she even care. Thanks. I will try harder this week not to think abt her.Originally posted by rainee:Yea, good luck and remind yourself everyday that she is not worth your thoughts. She might even be laughing at you now.
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Haha... I din noe they haf a outing here. Honestly, I am not looking for someone special at the moment. No so fast. Give my heart a break.Originally posted by rainee:Maybe you can try going for the outings here? There you can meet ppl and maybe then you might be able to find someone special -
I think AA has an outing on Feb 14. So maybe you can consider joining them for a chit chat session. At least you will make new friends and won't spend the whole day moping around and thinking about the past.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Haha... I din noe they haf a outing here. Honestly, I am not looking for someone special at the moment. No so fast. Give my heart a break.
Let the past be the past. I have a past and I know that it is hard to let go of it, but at least I have been trying hard. So I would like you to be able to say to yourself that you will be trying hard to forget it as well.
There are many more outings taking place here, just look around the forum and you will find some to join
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Sometimes the 'wrong' doesn't necessarily has to be with yourself...Originally posted by AnimalArmy:I dunno what went wrong till now. I am a wonderful bf. U can name what I haf not done but the fact is I done them all to make her feel love. Things just happen like that...
But there're not 'standard things' to do in a relationship so that it is really 'complete'... -
Part of growing up is having relationships and losing them, through some faults of others or ours, either entirely or partly. But we need to hopefully learn from each of those previous relationships and hope we don't repeat the same mistakes in future relationships. But at the same time we ought not to be cynical or having the revengeful mindset in future relationships.
Live life because of yourself. There is no need to prove anything to your ex. It's your life.
Looking for someone new? Sometimes, love is strange, the more you look for it, the more elusive it is. Don't be in a hurry to seek out that new love. It will seek you out in due time.
As others have said before, it's time you get into the big pool again. Who doesn't have scars? Not many of us get to settle with our first love. Don't lose faith. -
Originally posted by Croaking_Toad:Part of growing up is having relationships and losing them, through some faults of others or ours, either entirely or partly. But we need to hopefully learn from each of those previous relationships and hope we don't repeat the same mistakes in future relationships. But at the same time we ought not to be cynical or having the revengeful mindset in future relationships.
Live life because of yourself. There is no need to prove anything to your ex. It's your life.
Looking for someone new? Sometimes, love is strange, the more you look for it, the more elusive it is. Don't be in a hurry to seek out that new love. It will seek you out in due time.
As others have said before, it's time you get into the big pool again. Who doesn't have scars? Not many of us get to settle with our first love. Don't lose faith.
Post of the Day.
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Its really a very meaningful post. Every failed relationship is a lesson learn. But then, why can't we resolve and repair a failed relationship. I thought a successful relationship is when both parties learn to grow up together?Originally posted by Croaking_Toad:Part of growing up is having relationships and losing them, through some faults of others or ours, either entirely or partly. But we need to hopefully learn from each of those previous relationships and hope we don't repeat the same mistakes in future relationships. But at the same time we ought not to be cynical or having the revengeful mindset in future relationships.
Live life because of yourself. There is no need to prove anything to your ex. It's your life.
Looking for someone new? Sometimes, love is strange, the more you look for it, the more elusive it is. Don't be in a hurry to seek out that new love. It will seek you out in due time.
As others have said before, it's time you get into the big pool again. Who doesn't have scars? Not many of us get to settle with our first love. Don't lose faith. -
Not every relationship is meant to be successful... Then again... Care to define 'successful'Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Its really a very meaningful post. Every failed relationship is a lesson learn. But then, why can't we resolve and repair a failed relationship. I thought a successful relationship is when both parties learn to grow up together?
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A successful relationship:Originally posted by Devil1976:Not every relationship is meant to be successful... Then again... Care to define 'successful'
1) Mutual understanding - Able to sort out all issues
2) Undying feelings - When one party is away, the love will not witter but in fact should grow stronger
3) Maturity
4) Giving personal space
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Have you realise that your definition of successful r/s doesn't include eternity(hypothetically) or Timelessness?Originally posted by AnimalArmy:A successful relationship:
1) Mutual understanding - Able to sort out all issues
2) Undying feelings - When one party is away, the love will not witter but in fact should grow stronger
3) Maturity
4) Giving personal space
5) Committed
That means in a successful relationship - in your term. There is still a lifespan.
Time to wake up.
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No. That's not really the case.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Its really a very meaningful post. Every failed relationship is a lesson learn. But then, why can't we resolve and repair a failed relationship. I thought a successful relationship is when both parties learn to grow up together?
I have seen many relationships fail. And there can be many reasons involved. Could be both sides lose interest, or the love just fades. Its no one's fault really.
Or most of the time its one side giving too much, the other taking him/her for granted, like your case.
But i believe in this simple philosphy, if she can do it once, she can do it again. (Twice should be enough to set your alarm ringing.)
I believe you're still young. Try looking around for other girls and settle down with. There's no need to be with her all the time.
And if you, after many a few years, still think she's the one for you, then you may wish to woo her again.. -
Originally posted by _Aaron_:
Note the highlighted sentence in RED. I just dunno why she has to do this to me not once but twice?
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No. That's not really the case.
I have seen many relationships fail. And there can be many reasons involved. Could be both sides lose interest, or the love just fades. Its no one's fault really.
Or most of the time its one side giving too much, the other taking him/her for granted, like your case.
But i believe in this simple philosphy, if she can do it once, she can do it again. (Twice should be enough to set your alarm ringing.)
I believe you're still young. Try looking around for other girls and settle down with. There's no need to be with her all the time.
And if you, after many a few years, still think she's the one for you, then you may wish to woo her again..[/b]
Many of the folks here ask me to move on. I guess she will get married in a few years time. -
And the problem is... She might not be thinking the same...Originally posted by AnimalArmy:A successful relationship:
1) Mutual understanding - Able to sort out all issues
2) Undying feelings - When one party is away, the love will not witter but in fact should grow stronger
3) Maturity
4) Giving personal space
5) Committed -
You changed so much for her but she's obviously taking it for granted...
I know how you feel...sometimes when we really love someone no matter what they've done to us, we'll always love them somehow...even if we did silly things.... 
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Ya... I certainly changed a lot for her and yet she just can't feel the love from me. Weird... I also dunno why?Originally posted by AshedAnna:You changed so much for her but she's obviously taking it for granted... I know how you feel...sometimes when we really love someone no matter what they've done to us, we'll always love them somehow...even if we did silly things....
I love her so much that I can overlook the wrong she has done to me. Well, this is call love ba... Or am I just plain silly to allow her to hurt me time and time again? -
Sillyness with love?Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Ya... I certainly changed a lot for her and yet she just can't feel the love from me. Weird... I also dunno why?
I love her so much that I can overlook the wrong she has done to me. Well, this is call love ba... Or am I just plain silly to allow her to hurt me time and time again?
You have high tolerance.
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Hi dear ....Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Ya... I certainly changed a lot for her and yet she just can't feel the love from me. Weird... I also dunno why?
I love her so much that I can overlook the wrong she has done to me. Well, this is call love ba... Or am I just plain silly to allow her to hurt me time and time again?
i honestly feel that it is time to let go.....
love can make us silly
but to let her hurt you time and time again is RIDICULOUS!
letting go will make you a happier man, be strong...... you can do it. HAVE FAITH!
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Originally posted by AnimalArmy:
Dear AnimalArmy,
Hi peeps,
Seriously need everyone's help? Anyone actually patches back with his ex-gf before? I haf bottle my problems for months. I cannot take it anymore. Pls help.
[b]My Story
The relationship was like a fairy tale initially. But then, neglection, misunderstanding and disagreements set in...
Broke off twice. An on both occasions, third party was involved.
1st occasion, she went steady with another guy without letting me noe. I thought the breakup was just as simple as that but until my friend told me that she is in fact seeing another guy even before we broke up. However, I accepted her again.
2nd occasion, happens 6 mths later, this time she was close with another guy and went out with him behind my back. However, I tried to accept her back but she told me the feelings are really gone for good.
Question 1: I cannot believe that if u (as in her) claim to love someone so dearly, how can u hold someone's hand and become a 2-timer? Are her words too cheap to believe?
Question 2: I did all I can when we patched back the first time round. Sincerity and hard work does not help to save the relationship. I dunno what else I can do to save the relationship?
Question 3: My love for her is genuinue and I can accept her flaws and even accept the fact that she 2 time me. I dunno what she wants from me? Even though she claims I can be the best boyfriend?
Question 4: How can I save this relationship cos I did hate her after the 2nd occasion and pester her non-stop by calling her and waiting for her to come home. End up we quarrelled and at some time, it was pretty ugly. I regretted my actions and now she does not even want to talk to me. What can I do? I cannot be blamed for what I did cos I am the victim...
Question 5: She grew from strength to strength and yet I am living in a pathetic world of my own. I am lost, very lost. What can I do?
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After reading your post it is obvious that she has a major problem staying faithful in the relationship that both of u shared. My question to u is why would you still want her back ? So that she can hurt u again for the 3rd time ??
Forgive me for being straight-forward, but have you ever thought of this, what if the 2 of you were to be married and she did the same thing ?? Imagine what that will do to you mentally ?? therefore it is best to move on while you can ..... you deserve someone much better.
these are jus my thoughts, what to do is up to you. Advise can be given by anyone, but it is you and you alone that makes all the choices in life.
No one can force you into doing something that you do not wish to do.
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My close friends says I have good endurance and tolerance.Originally posted by M©+square:Sillyness with love?
You have high tolerance.
cheers
Silly? Maybe I think I am now. -
Originally posted by MiX Metal:Dear AnimalArmy,
After reading your post it is obvious that she has a major problem staying faithful in the relationship that both of u shared. My question to u is why would you still want her back ? So that she can hurt u again for the 3rd time ??
I agree that she has problem being faithful and committed. I cannot explain why she is behaving this way? I want her back because I love her. I dunno whether she will do it again. But I do trust her.
Forgive me for being straight-forward, but have you ever thought of this, what if the 2 of you were to be married and she did the same thing ?? Imagine what that will do to you mentally ?? therefore it is best to move on while you can ..... you deserve someone much better.
I have thought of it. I believe marriage will really make her committed. Legally bounded lei.
these are jus my thoughts, what to do is up to you. Advise can be given by anyone, but it is you and you alone that makes all the choices in life.
No one can force you into doing something that you do not wish to do.
All the Best to u !! -
Love is making me look silly. More time is needed. I am having weird dreams abt her again.Originally posted by pinkygal76:Hi dear ....
i honestly feel that it is time to let go.....
love can make us silly
but to let her hurt you time and time again is RIDICULOUS!
letting go will make you a happier man, be strong...... you can do it. HAVE FAITH! -
you have a big heart being still able to trust her after what she has done to you ...... putting marriage as a bet hoping that she will change is a big risk ......Originally posted by AnimalArmy:
but then again, no one knows what's going to happen in the future so ..... I may disagree with the way you think ..... I'm keeping my fingers cross for you.
Please take sometime to think things through before doing anything .......