Is waiting a fool's game? (for love)
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wow now then i realize that we are on the same boat. I didn;t know so muuch guys is like the same situation as me. Perhaps u might hate her, but in the end things will really turn out to b v different frm wat u expected!
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Sticking and staying with an option is a CHOICE.Originally posted by Dendrite88:Theres so much truth in what you say devil, I'm expecting you to be experienced. So whilst waiting what do you do??
Tell me, I have indulge myself in games, going out with friends and more gaming (No drinking, underage 
) . But it still makes me sad despite having friends around.
No obligation is true. Seriously think your darn right
Nobody guarantees you anything nor can anybody guarantee nothing would come out of it. Just that people can roughly estimate the chances sometimes?
Sad and pain in a CHOICE in your case. If you spill your milk kid... Are you gonna just sit over there and cry over it....
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im currently for my ex of 2 years to come back to me. So far i've clocked 4 mths goin to 5. She's currently with her new bf of 3 mths. i can really feel for you guys man... i tried to go on another relationship with another girl but it failed. i couldnt forget my ex.
Just broke up slightly more than a week ago. she knows how i feel. Still the wait is devastating me. i feel like goin for other girls while waiting for her. but i know somewhere in my mind it is an unethical thing to do. How do you guys keep goin for 2 years? -
Yeah, agree to those in red.Originally posted by Devil1976:Sticking and staying with an option is a CHOICE.
Nobody guarantees you anything nor can anybody guarantee nothing would come out of it. Just that people can roughly estimate the chances sometimes?
Sad and pain in a CHOICE in your case. If you spill your milk kid... Are you gonna just sit over there and cry over it....
For my case, I do know the chances are very low, for she only treats me as a good friend now. Every now and then I will have the thoughts of whether is it really good to continue the wait or just move on. But I do know that I will definitely regret it if I didn't wait.
Tredding barefooted on the path strewn with shattered glass, painful with every step yes... but I have to walk on. -
how many of u guys are waiting?
type "-raises hand-"
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-raises paw-
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-raises a weary hand-
sigh... i dunno la. For my case, things seem to be goin strong between her and the current bf.
Is it right if i seek out other girls while waiting for her? I feel that i really need the companionship, or i'll slip into depression. -
Hypercurry,
Before you seek out other girls whilst waiting for her, consider how you would feel if you were sought out whilst the girl was waiting for another guy? It's Not only unfair, it's downright insulting.
Perhaps to make it more fair to the girls, you may wish to tell them that you have someone in your heart already. Let them go into a relationship with you with their eyes open. At least, Nobody can blame you for keeping them in the dark.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by hypercurry:-raises a weary hand-
sigh... i dunno la. For my case, things seem to be goin strong between her and the current bf.
Is it right if i seek out other girls while waiting for her? I feel that i really need the companionship, or i'll slip into depression. -
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i waited and wooed for 4 years
in the end... good friends...
cannot means cannot
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if they are very comfortable speaking to you, it's time to move on to another target.
damn it -
Thanks for the advice.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Hypercurry,
Before you seek out other girls whilst waiting for her, consider how you would feel if you were sought out whilst the girl was waiting for another guy? It's Not only unfair, it's downright insulting.
Perhaps to make it more fair to the girls, you may wish to tell them that you have someone in your heart already. Let them go into a relationship with you with their eyes open. At least, Nobody can blame you for keeping them in the dark.
FeowFeow
Of course, i don't plan on keep them in the dark. I already screwed up once, i dont want to screw up forever. It's just the sense of helplessness i feel right now thats driving me crazy.
I didnt regret screwing up. If i hadnt done so, i wouldn't have realise how important she really is to me, and how much badly i love her afterall. Waiting is also in a way a lesson and a punishment. I feel the pain, but i know i deserve it.
The best things in life are worth waiting for. -
You've got strong willpower. After my 1st rejection in sec 2 i never woo-ed a girl until poly. Call it a very traumatic experience. Sure it may seem like God's testing you but at the rate you're going theres bound to be a suitable partner for you. All the best to you.Originally posted by Dendrite88:Hi all, new here
Just wanna post something that has been on my mind for very long time, but dont really have the guts to. ( dont really know if this topic was created before, i apologise if i did a repeat thread)
Just a general statement, is waiting a fool's game (for love).
I know that in my case, I always have been waiting for the girl to accept me. Despite waiting for ages (sec1 - sec 2 End of year ) , all i Got was a negative reply. I put in the effort and time to woo the girl, but still , i guess i dont make the cut. Although the girl said NO to me once before, i continued to woo her still , thinking i can melt her heart.
But, then i asked again after another year, but this time i just realised that she has a boyfriend, so i discontinued my "waiting game". It was devastating, i was totally crushed and felt so lost. I wandered aimlessly in msn, games and all around thinking that this shouldnt be happening.
But i got back on my feet and widened my social circle (I only have a few close friends with me back then), I got to know this girl through IRC (same school) and she is supposedly to be the smart,nice,sweet, girl next door.
Half a year later (sec 3 mid year) , I found that we have common interests and stuffs so I decided to try my luck and began the "wooing process". I admit, i pestered her aimlessly on msn and smses. I told her I would wait for her, which took another half a year , and still we kept in contact and I still waited and waited and waited. But in the end, she gave me a reason to why cannot accept me, all due to studies. I was crushed yet once more, how many times God wanna test me? I asked myself whether is it because of my looks and character?
Then now, I'm in a poly, which i wont disclose, I just recently found interest in another girl (same class) , though she hinted to me many times that I do not stand a chance, I'm still determined to woo her. tell me, is history going to repeat itself and me... am I a fool, for this waiting game? -
It was not very traumatic for me, more like a good experience after the 1st two rejection. Made me learn tonnes of stuffs, like know when to back off on the amount of sms or calls and being more matured about contraversial stuffs.Originally posted by nullifi3d:You've got strong willpower. After my 1st rejection in sec 2 i never woo-ed a girl until poly. Call it a very traumatic experience. Sure it may seem like God's testing you but at the rate you're going theres bound to be a suitable partner for you. All the best to you.
Thanks so much for the experiences expressed above and well wishes from you peeps
Persevere on! -
nah.. i don wait anymore i now going for another I will find my happiness soon.
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You need to learn to observe more, of how girls work and what makes them tick.Originally posted by Dendrite88:It was not very traumatic for me, more like a good experience after the 1st two rejection. Made me learn tonnes of stuffs, like know when to back off on the amount of sms or calls and being more matured about contraversial stuffs.
Thanks so much for the experiences expressed above and well wishes from you peeps
Persevere on!
I believe those 'tonnes of stuff' you've learnt are just the tip of an iceberg?
Waiting is not a good move. You need to be occupied, almost all the time.
Clear signals/repulsive signals are strong indications you should grace away and seek other opportunites.
So much for now.
Cheers -
Mr Thread-Starter,
I waited for a girl I like in JC for 4yr.
In the end, I realise the only person guarding my own interest is me - not her, not anyone else. I moved on.
If you read many posts in this forum, you can see many examples of girls still clinging on to their boyfriends, even if they treat them like shit.
I found a girlfriend not long after I moved on. She came into my life, at the time I decided to give myself a break from any courtship processes. I didn't expect to find a girl who is so into me, and share similar interest.
Life sucks (unfortunately), but good things in life do come at the most unexpected times. -
Ok, my concern is that you at least be fair to the girls. To a certain extent, I do understand how you're feeling. Many of us would've regretted 1 time or another, letting go of someone we THINK is the love of our lives, or The One.
I was very young then... Thankfully, I didn't stubbornly hang on waiting for someone who was forever lost to me. Along came somebody who made me happier, & we're still together today. Still very happy, by the way.
Perhaps you may want to consider the fact that, by focusing on 1 pine tree, you may Not realise that oak is more to your preference afterall. Ultimately, it's your choice. However, do note that, a woodcutter who keeps waiting for his pine tree sapling to grow when it's already dead, shouldn't whine that he can never profit. Hope you get my drift
FeowFeowOriginally posted by hypercurry:Thanks for the advice.
Of course, i don't plan on keep them in the dark. I already screwed up once, i dont want to screw up forever. It's just the sense of helplessness i feel right now thats driving me crazy.
I didnt regret screwing up. If i hadnt done so, i wouldn't have realise how important she really is to me, and how much badly i love her afterall. Waiting is also in a way a lesson and a punishment. I feel the pain, but i know i deserve it.
The best things in life are worth waiting for. -
Yeah, I also decided to move on after many days of thinking. No use standing at that particular position, go on and take another route and who knows just ahead is the actual route you want =3
Just realised that I have tons of other things waiting for me whilst I'm still stranded within emotion well. Time to catch up on my dreams
will be very poor for the next 5years 
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to me, how effective is the waiting game depends on how you wait. It's like hunting for a rabbit that is cooped up in her own rabbit hole.
When it doesn't want to come out, you can choose to wait passively, like sleeping and hope it will appear once you woke up. It is the easiest, because you can be occupied while waiting, and time flies really fast.
Or you can choose to wait actively. You can place carrots and cabbages outside the hole to lure it out, look out for cues or signs that the rabbit is leaving its hole, devise a trap mechanism to trap it etc (u get my drift). Yes it takes more effort/energy/money, and the outcomes might may usually not turn out as u planned, at least u know u did your best to lure the rabbit out, and you didnt waste any time or opportunity from sleeping.
So i think what i want to say to those waiting is:
Do you want to wait passively, or wait actively? -
Originally posted by hypercurry:
Both, I don't wish to stress her in any sort of way. But now I just shift my concentration on other matters which are more pertaining to my life.
to me, how effective is the waiting game depends on how you wait. It's like hunting for a rabbit that is cooped up in her own rabbit hole.
When it doesn't want to come out, you can choose to wait [b]passively, like sleeping and hope it will appear once you woke up. It is the easiest, because you can be occupied while waiting, and time flies really fast.
Or you can choose to wait actively. You can place carrots and cabbages outside the hole to lure it out, look out for cues or signs that the rabbit is leaving its hole, devise a trap mechanism to trap it etc (u get my drift). Yes it takes more effort/energy/money, and the outcomes might may usually not turn out as u planned, at least u know u did your best to lure the rabbit out, and you didnt waste any time or opportunity from sleeping.
So i think what i want to say to those waiting is:
Do you want to wait passively, or wait actively? [/b] -
even waiting 2 years,she nw got new bf...recently de...everyday i feel so despair...at nite i sometimes wake up midway n cant go back to slp..keep tinking of her...
my friend oso say they dun understand her...they know im serious but duno y she dun wan gime chance..i've the looks,luv for her n maturity...juz tat i dun have the height...is height more important than sincerity...
at times she makes me hate her n luv her at the same times...cant take this agony anylonger...
perhaps i wasnt born to love... -
Originally posted by olala:even waiting 2 years,she nw got new bf...recently de...everyday i feel so despair...at nite i sometimes wake up midway n cant go back to slp..keep tinking of her...
my friend oso say they dun understand her...they know im serious but duno y she dun wan gime chance..i've the looks,luv for her n maturity...juz tat i dun have the height...is height more important than sincerity...
at times she makes me hate her n luv her at the same times...cant take this agony anylonger...
perhaps i wasnt born to love...