not good enuff?
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oei it works hor.Originally posted by huiz:-_-"...
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u gal arh? got try b4 arh?Originally posted by Ito_^:oei it works hor. -
no no, of cause not. Dont be silly.. more is bestOriginally posted by idunnohow:lolz r my posts too long?
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no la..Originally posted by huiz:u gal arh? got try b4 arh?
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first time i hear.Originally posted by alexkusu:no no, of cause not. Dont be silly.. more is best -
PEPSI: Ask for more!Originally posted by Ito_^:first time i hear.
damsel in distress ma, how can we not help rite?
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Dear Idunnohow,
Seriously, you should stop worrying abt whether you are having a problem. I guess its social or peer pressure that you start to think that you have a problem.
Seriously, at the age of 21, without a bf isn't anything big deal. If you have a bf and he turns out to be a bad guy, he can do you more harm than good. So, let time and fate take over.
When I was your age, I din have a bf. I seriously dun think i had a problem then. And now, I still dun have a bf even both my elder and younger sisters are married. So, why should you be worried? Unless you are thinking of having a bf and that no one came along and swept you off your feet. So, not to worry and enjoy your singlehood now. Who knows? Maybe when that time comes, you want singlehood more than anything else!
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hey i suppose u're rite.
in sum way even tho i dun tink abt it all e time.. i smtimes ask myself y nobody sweeps me off my feet.
it's peer pressure smtimes but mostly i dun tink abt it.
recently cuz bai nian, c relatives n recently 21st bdae so parents NAG n NAG until like i really have prob so i was quite frustrated mah.
thnx i m ok now.
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no need to think so much laa.... it will come when u least expected it....Originally posted by idunnohow:hey i suppose u're rite.
in sum way even tho i dun tink abt it all e time.. i smtimes ask myself y nobody sweeps me off my feet.
it's peer pressure smtimes but mostly i dun tink abt it.
recently cuz bai nian, c relatives n recently 21st bdae so parents NAG n NAG until like i really have prob so i was quite frustrated mah.
thnx i m ok now.
happy new year everybody!
enjoy being single now... trust me... u will miss being single when u bcme attached.... things will b veri different due to the commitment -
Haha ...
I can really identify with you.
You know, my dad once asked my sis this question...
"Eh sy(my sis's name), is there something wrong with Jx(me), how come he doesn't have a gf after so many years?"
Man, i'm only 22 this year, and my dad thinks i'm Gay or something.
I'm a nice guy, i don't look that bad, most people say i'm cute, most think i look 16-18... and 99% thinks i'm attached.
But i'm not.
I haven't been attached for a long time. And i sincerely doubt that my first 2 relationships were even really relationships. They were just too weird.
There's nothing wrong with you. Maybe some guys are just too shy to ask you out. Besides... i'm sure in time, you'll sweep someone OFF their feet. Then that's when things will start happening for you.
The wait may be intense... but maybe you can start initiating something when you see someone you like... the guys don't always have to make the first move...
Hope i've been of help..
Aaron -
if for mi i sure wun ask u out de.. cos i low self confidence la.. den i dunno how to dress to match u some more..
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Can I have your number?
So what you don't have a bf? You're only 21. It's perfectly alright I think. I'm 24 and only had a gf that lasted 3 years. I have students that had 4~5 relationships and they are still under 16! I sometimes think that's I'm so useless too: I belong to the average, can talk, "fun to be with" and have a lot of friends type also. But only had 1, and she ditched me some more one loh...
It's not the quantity that matters. It's the quality. And you should't give yourself too much stress or give in to peer pressure. No use trying to get a guy, put your heart and soul into it, and break up just 1~2 weeks right? And I think you're still a bit young for your parents to worry about. Or maybe you can get a guy friend to act like an irresponsible+irritating pig bf that you truely love infront of your parents. Maybe they would rather you be single for the time being.
That said, you shouldn't worry much. Leave everything to fate. You must have more confidence about yourself! Confident women look pretty by itself! And don't be so pessimistic, yeah? You're still too young to worry. Wait til you are 31 then you can start complaining bah...
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not i want to quarrel, it's someone else trying to start a flame war. When i'm not tempted, he try harder and still CMI. THen really cannot he jus push the blame.Originally posted by idunnohow:haha no lah i just came back frm 1 house alreadi now lunch at my house. happi new yr!
anw hu is xinyi.
hmmm y u say i got prob.. maybe i do, but i dunnno wat it is.
but my frens tell me i'm ok.
dunno.
haha so farnie no lah i m not les lah. i like guys. juz dat nowadays i feel uninterested in them cos i tired of likin them n den i even make it so obvious they juz flirt back but nv do anythin. u tink it's coz i make obvious or nt? guys dun like so bold is it? most recent is last yr feb i interested in dis guy 4 5 mths i really liked him cos we had lots in common n same interests all dat budden he was way older n den he alwayz say i'm like a kid liddat. cos he 26 i 21. but i look like 19 liddat. sometimes ppl tink i 16 even. go club sure muz get ic checked wan. but i gt over it fast cuz later i find out he was goin out wif sum1 alreadi.
wait is lookin 2 young oso a prob. like guys in schl all older than 22 liddat maybe they dun like my face or wat. tink i like a kid or sth.
i look young. as in if i wear sec schl uniform can pretend lor.
n yah, i alwayz tink gettin attached can wait. cuz it's nt like life n death. n depends on luck oso rite? if i stay single oso wun die wat.
budden my parents say until like i alien now dat i MUST have sum prob liddat dat's y still nobody.
i'm juz wonderin how cum nobody even juz ask me out normally cuz my frens in uni keep on askin me y i nv go on dates.
they say it's juz datin, how cum i can't even get a date. n no la they r nice ppl they r juz bein honest.
thx ppl ..
i was juz feelin down last nite cos my mum was like tellin my grandma i m sum freak liddat.
felt like shitlah.
but keep advicing. thks.
o btw dun quarrel leh.
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hah . same case as u. ever since i broke off with my 1 and only , i nv fall in love again. its not that i cant forget my past , but i dont know why i juz cant have that special feeling towards any girl. i started to think that is it im turning gay , but no , my small dragon still wake up for girls , not guys. is that feeling , that special feeling im missing since my ex. im still finding the answer haha.
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Hi threadstarter & Aaron , i can RELATE to that feelin...
i guess being single is stil ok during normal time, but that stigma is magnified during such festive seasons...
And at least u ppl stil have a lot of frens... it's only u haven't found that special one. I have a BIG problem with my social life at large (u can see my probs from my previous post) & to to complete my catalogue of total misery, i dun have a gf....
i'm 24 tis yr... i had my 1st taste of love at 18... it was like i was ahead of my most of my peers at the time where they were indulging in PC games & sch stuff etc... But then i've been alone for the past 3 yrs... & suddenly now it's like everyone ard me is attached... like during the CNY gathering jus now, all my cousins & even my younger bro is attached ... thou no one explictly asked me y i'm single, i feel deep down inside like a loser...
jus lost temper at my mom jus now... cos they were rattling non-stop abt the beau of my cousins etc etc... it's not anyone fault i know... i jus feel angry at myself sometimes
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Originally posted by M©+square:
question:
Who is cupid and when does he appear?
Is it a he/she?
And how does a cupid work?
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And please.....Don't associate you and the rest of us Guys together with you.
WE???? Let me teach you how not to assume that the rest thinks the way you do.
Either use - Generally or Most of the guys.
Cheers -
gd things come when u least expected it.
know more frens, frens outside ur usual circle of frens.
no guy ever hinted to u that they are interested in u? or u nv catch the hint?
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Originally posted by idunnohow:i am new here
lately i a bit sad cuz i juz turned 21.. and i still no bf.
prob is, ppl tink i look like i already had so many bfs but in the end i actually have none!
not that i m pretty i m v. average but i tink i noe how 2 dress. ppl hu noe me at 1st tink i have somebody or i dun care abt lookin 4 anybody. i dunno y i seem dat way.
n even my father now naggin me abt bein single 4 so long. i have lots of frens n he's still tellin me 2 b more sociable. like scared i cannot get married ah? v. irritating
all my frens gettin attached n neglectin me i also beg 2 feel v. lonely.
my sister n brother (both younger) already have steads n i still dun. my whole family is tokkin 2 me like i have sum big prob liddat.
if they nv say anythin i wldn't realise all dis.
at 1st i juz take it dat they r naggin or teasin me den 1 day i wake up n tink, yar hor y nobody eva interested in me?
nobody at all. i was frm mixed schl all e way even now.
i dress quite well, i noe abt fashion n stuff, i have guy frens (but juz frens n we neva fall 4 each other wan)
i'm v. confused. everytim i meet up w ppl i neva c 4 a long long time, they will think i have bf already. and i say no, and once sum1 insisted i was lyin.
is there sth wrong w me? dat guys dun like?
i really dunno how..
rite now i haven even had a crush on anybody in months cos i juz tink dat all guys won't eva like me somehow so no pt even givin myself trouble.
nobody ask me out b4. n i tink sum guys quite scared of me. smtmes they rather tok 2 others arnd me n not me.
how cum nobody interested in me.
i have liked ppl b4, i made it so obvious den they play along but nv eva did anything more than flirt.
sigh. by e time im workin alreadi oso no experience den how.
i dun even need a bf i juz need at least sum dating experience rite.
i haven done anythin 2 give myself bad rep or wat, i have been an ok person, nv really tok bad abt ppl, always tellin jokes. i can make frens easily w ppl but how cum nobody liked me b4?
nobody even wan 2 ask me out now?
i dun have any problems lah. i have 2 eyes a brain 1nose 1 mouth . n i get along ok w everybody. i look v normal. i tok normal. i tink normal.
advice?
n den sum guys when they noe me all they do is joke abt my looks my height (i'm 1.55) n den i ask others they say i'm ok but new guy frens i make oso do same thing 2 me like tell me "wah u not chio enuff" or stuff. i noe jokin onli but after so long wif SO MANY DIff guys i wonder if i really got problem.
i noe i dun have 2 let it bother me so much budden i really wanna noe y nobody ever interested in me even when i'm straight n i do drop big hints b4 only now i dun anymore cos i give up.
anything?
tks.
You are a niche market. You are fine; but you are a niche product, waiting for someone who could appreciate such thingy to pass by.
Sometimes, it goes beyond that of physical and emotional boundaries. I have a Libra friend who is exactly like you; problem is that she is indecisive and tall. In the end, she also ended up with someone. (When the time comes, fate will reveal all).
Sometimes, it's because you are too 'brotherly' - all your guy friends becomes your brother (Sun/Mars in 5th house Leo) that it becomes difficult for relationship to go beyond that. Has a Virgo friend who has this problem.
Difficult for me to pinpoint what's wrong especially since I don't know you personally. But as long as your social circle maintains and widens, somebody will find appreciation in you.
P.S: Remember, your self worth is not measured by the number of BGRs or how late your first relationship comes.
Cheers -
x 2Originally posted by Yunhaier: You are a niche market. You are fine; but you are a niche product, waiting for someone who could appreciate such thingy to pass by.
Sometimes, it goes beyond that of physical and emotional boundaries. I have a Libra friend who is exactly like you; problem is that she is indecisive and tall. In the end, she also ended up with someone. (When the time comes, fate will reveal all).
Sometimes, it's because you are too 'brotherly' - all your guy friends becomes your brother (Sun/Mars in 5th house Leo) that it becomes difficult for relationship to go beyond that. Has a Virgo friend who has this problem.
Difficult for me to pinpoint what's wrong especially since I don't know you personally. But as long as your social circle maintains and widens, somebody will find appreciation in you.
P.S: Remember, your self worth is not measured by the number of BGRs or how late your first relationship comes.
Cheers -
HAHAHAH OMG i m LIBRA!
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21 is single for a long time. Then how about those who aren't married at age of 30? Super old liao like that.
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hanor hanor...dragg how old hia?Originally posted by ndmmxiaomayi:21 is single for a long time. Then how about those who aren't married at age of 30? Super old liao like that. -
Meimei.. don't doubt urself or let pple put u down. And don't juz get hitched or chin chai settle for any 1 guy ah. Have a mind of ur own, u don't haf to follow suit what others r doing with their lives. If u think 1 looks better as "i'm taken" than "nobody wants".. u r wrong. If pple kpo keep asking Y still no bf? U can tell them u'r still young.. enjoy dating / courtship 1st coz selection too wide liao. Anyway not in a hurry to get married mah!
Shine with confidence, then u'll find pple queueing up for a very eligible bachelorette! U'r gonna spend more than 1/2 ur lifetime with dat special some1 when he comes along to sweep u off ur feet 1 day (when u least expect it).. so enjoy ur singlehood while u still can. -
omg i libra too!
From this i can deduce that librians like us are like wine...
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well said... LOL!