gf blues... i guess =/
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If you know you cannot, you will not be able to do anything.Originally posted by shade343:Maybe your horoscope isnt compatible with her. Ask Mcsquare for the compatibility chart.
If you do not know that you are fated to be unable to do something, you will acheive that.
Difference between knowing too much or a little less. Be less curious about your so-called fated future.
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Its not about fate. Its about personality and compatibility issues.Originally posted by launtpc:If you know you cannot, you will not be able to do anything.
If you do not know that you are fated to be unable to do something, you will acheive that.
Difference between knowing too much or a little less. Be less curious about your so-called fated future.
And don't click attachments. -
Ki siao ar? ask ppl 2 break up?
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den u want him to constantly call her back everytime she act "angry" and hangs up?Originally posted by Ayukat:Ki siao ar? ask ppl 2 break up? -
I see a trend in AA..
whenever a guy complains about his gf, most of the guys here will encourage him to break off.
quite a serious problem, isn't it?
is ending a r/s a solution to the problem? NO!
like in this case, i tink the girl has attitude problem. She is also not understanding enough. Whole family gathering, what for go pester ple to talk. zhen bu hui zuo ren.
I believe her attitude problem can be changed tho, not so serious that he must break up with her. -
this trend u see is because people in here sometimes think "worst case..last straw event"Originally posted by browniebaobao:I see a trend in AA..
whenever a guy complains about his gf, most of the guys here will encourage him to break off.
quite a serious problem, isn't it?
is ending a r/s a solution to the problem? NO!
like in this case, i tink the girl has attitude problem. She is also not understanding enough. Whole family gathering, what for go pester ple to talk. zhen bu hui zuo ren.
I believe her attitude problem can be changed tho, not so serious that he must break up with her.
however...as MC and some others have said...all this are just opinons...its up to the person to decide if he/she should break up or not...
we are just viewing it from a 3rd party view..we dunno the full story of it
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy -
Honestly lar bro why do you like her at all?Originally posted by xloongx:Hmm, relationship lasted like 7 months and still ongoing... kinda rocky though. really have to ask here .... heh..
well, here it goes...
gf who is quite spoilt and gets hooked on com... and uh.. yeah.. that...
now me... erm.
I don't know what to say, but ya.. here goes lol.. =x
whatever i do seem to be like a burden and a tough descision. like.. hmm..
let me pick a recent senario...
she called me on cny eve and uh, wanted me to chat with her.. at that time my family, grand parents and all, just finished our tradition of going to temples and pray.. then at that time we were settling down for roti prata. then she called me to call her. i did so. however, when the food came, i said i have to go, she refused... and uh, that dragged like 10 mins or so. so, soon enough, she got like fed up of me saying that i need to go, and saying no, she decided to just hang up on me. and i got a nice blast of "music" by my dad and grand parents.
this hanging up thing is kinda common.. anything she doesnt think that is favourable to her she just hang up the phone.. like when she does something wrong and i decide to talk to her about it.. she just do that. and irony, she wanted me to give a farewell everytime we are to end calls...
current situation...
she thinks that we have not been trusting each other, however, which is untrue of course... i told her what i know, my everyday and all, what she gives is a occasional "its not my business" reply, while the other way round, i have never doubted her words. CURRENTLY!!! she's kinda flared up and threatened to uh, cease the relationship..
yeah, need some thoughts on this... maybe include why i keep giving and get nothing in return... =/
you and I know that she is giving you problem lar.
treat you like sh-it and she is so happy about it.
She knows that you can be played around and is pushing her luck all the way.
From my point of view best split cos she treat her dog better then you.
I just do not see the point of treating a girl with the love when everytime she just threaten to end it all so easily.
I have been down the road before.
The whole thing can even become a standard SOP liao.
This methods that they commonly used on guys whom they claim they so call "love"
First she plays with you calling you when she is free and you must answer or else you get it from her. If she is not happy she slams down the phone or ends the call.
When she is busy you must not call her. Or else she will scold you like a dog when she is free.
You tell her what you have done everyday but did she cared?..
plays like a princess if you do not treat her well she will make a big fuss..
Look at her is only 7 months she already threated to break up with you.
The big joke is what do you think she will do to you a few months later if both of you can make it that far.
The methods to handle is simple.
Find ways and methods to make her love you seriously.
like being more handsome, earn more money, be a smooth talker.
If not you are wasting your time.
If you want to go on loving her despite all she had done by all means go ahead. But please do not come here and complain when she dumps you. You had enough warnings liao. -
i agree.Originally posted by StarPuppy:this trend u see is because people in here sometimes think "worst case..last straw event"
however...as MC and some others have said...all this are just opinons...its up to the person to decide if he/she should break up or not...
we are just viewing it from a 3rd party view..we dunno the full story of it
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy
my view of him is this sad fella being controlled by his gf. cannot even eat/talk with family. -
precisely! we duno the whole story, so we shouldnt encourage him to break right?Originally posted by StarPuppy:this trend u see is because people in here sometimes think "worst case..last straw event"
however...as MC and some others have said...all this are just opinons...its up to the person to decide if he/she should break up or not...
we are just viewing it from a 3rd party view..we dunno the full story of it
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy -
[that is why u never (even so...rarely) see me replying to this kind of topics]Originally posted by browniebaobao:precisely! we duno the whole story, so we shouldnt encourage him to break right?
bbb jie, you are right, we shouldn't encourage him to break up...breaking up is the last resort after heart-heart talks
BUT
they are right too...his gf is too childish...bringing up the issue of breaking up after a arguement....
to a guy..this kind of remarks really hurt them and their r/s alot
Note: Have a heart-heart talk before breaking up....try all ways to salvage a problem before calling it quits
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy -
Originally posted by unknown_member:
ok if the gf is not wrong then what is wrong?
Well girls are like that.
im a girl myself so i cannot say that ur gf is wrong. My relationship oredi for
2yrs 5mths and there's a lot of shit we do to each other.but in this situation,
having dinner with folks is much more important than toking to your gf.. it
does not mean ur gf is immature. Its unfair to say that. Putting down the
phone is common among girls coz [b]WE expect you to call us back you
see.. Hmm... but that doesn't happen does it?
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If his gf cannot even let him have time with his parents and slam down the phone is not immature then what is?
Then what is fair? Should the girl bark at him for more time and force him to stop talking to his parents and come and meet her asap. So is that fair to him? Is that the so call imature act?
Is common for girls to put down the phone, i will only agree if they are fighting. But just normal talking already trying to show who is boss? How would you feel if your bf always does that? Are you expected as a girl to call him back?
Girls only push their luck when they do not like the guy they are with. Have you seen girls who really love their guys? They will please the guys so much until to the extend of begging for the guys if the guys are showing signs of leaving them. -
im waiting to see the mods' views on this thread.Originally posted by StarPuppy:[that is why u never (even so...rarely) see me replying to this kind of topics]
bbb jie, you are right, we shouldn't encourage him to break up...breaking up is the last resort after heart-heart talks
BUT
they are right too...his gf is too childish...bringing up the issue of breaking up after a arguement.... to a guy..this kind of remarks really hurt them and their r/s alot
Note: Have a heart-heart talk before breaking up....try all ways to salvage a problem before calling it quits
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy -
How to ask her to change her attitude when the girl do not even respect the guy? Do you seriously think that the guy is able to ask her to change?Originally posted by browniebaobao:I see a trend in AA..
whenever a guy complains about his gf, most of the guys here will encourage him to break off.
quite a serious problem, isn't it?
is ending a r/s a solution to the problem? NO!
like in this case, i tink the girl has attitude problem. She is also not understanding enough. Whole family gathering, what for go pester ple to talk. zhen bu hui zuo ren.
I believe her attitude problem can be changed tho, not so serious that he must break up with her.
Just look at him. shakes head. Even she slaps him, he will still go back to her.
just a suggestion lar..do not want people to say i am hard hearted lar.
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Originally posted by zeny:ok if the gf is not wrong then what is wrong?
If his gf cannot even let him have time with his parents and slam down the phone is not immature then what is?
Then what is fair? Should the girl bark at him for more time and force him to stop talking to his parents and come and meet her asap. So is that fair to him? Is that the so call imature act?
Is common for girls to put down the phone, i will only agree if they are fighting. But just normal talking already trying to show who is boss? How would you feel if your bf always does that? Are you expected as a girl to call him back?
Girls only push their luck when they do not like the guy they are with. Have you seen girls who really love their guys? They will please the guys so much until to the extend of begging for the guys if the guys are showing signs of leaving them.
u really sound like a MCP.
If I have to beg him to stay by my side, then it shows that he dun love me.
If he dun love me, why keep him? I deserve someone better.
Is it really love when one begs? Nope, the girl might be insecure or too dependent on the guy. -
lol.. I guess so.. everyone have their own views. uh, determine that slap lor, if i done something really wrong, i don't think that's harsh, if it's something that i have not done wrong and it is really out of point, i think i would go mad and blast at her... =/...
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hmm...bbb jie...Originally posted by browniebaobao:
u really sound like a MCP.
If I have to beg him to stay by my side, then it shows that he dun love me.
If he dun love me, why keep him? I deserve someone better.
Is it really love when one begs? Nope, the girl might be insecure or too dependent on the guy.
from what i see his reply
his does have a slight truth...
some girls are evil enough to squeeze the guy dry
and force the guy to break up and putting the blame on the guy
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy -
me chat with the girl?Originally posted by zeny:How to ask her to change her attitude when the girl do not even respect the guy? Do you seriously think that the guy is able to ask her to change?
Just look at him. shakes head. Even she slaps him, he will still go back to her.
just a suggestion lar..do not want people to say i am hard hearted lar.
maybe bbb can try to chat with the girl and advice her to change..
if he can't handle her, do u think I can?
one has to learn.
people will mature and change over time.
i still duno how old are the two of them. girls throw tantrums is quite common, but if she is 20+, then really jialat liao.
I agree with u, she has to show him a little bit of respect and not too demanding. -
A slap on the face is an insult.Originally posted by xloongx:lol.. I guess so.. everyone have their own views. uh, determine that slap lor, if i done something really wrong, i don't think that's harsh, if it's something that i have not done wrong and it is really out of point, i think i would go mad and blast at her... =/...
Regards.
I din want to do that to my ex tho he asked me to, coz he really let me down.
Try not to use violence under all circumstances. -
you want to know wahts the big joke?Originally posted by browniebaobao:
u really sound like a MCP.
If I have to beg him to stay by my side, then it shows that he dun love me.
If he dun love me, why keep him? I deserve someone better.
Is it really love when one begs? Nope, the girl might be insecure or too dependent on the guy.
Is the girls I have seen begging my friends not me..
My girls in the past never beg me,I never allow that. let me put it straight for the record.
I too told them what you have said begging my friend will not help anything but did they listern no they just beg and beg.
The girl love the guy thats why she begged if not do you really think they care?
In the xloongx case the gf treat him like dirt. Honestly do you really think the girl like him? -
sometimes when a person love...they love the wrong wayOriginally posted by zeny:you want to know wahts the big joke?
Is the girls I have seen begging my friends not me..
My girls in the past never beg me,I never allow that. let me put it straight for the record.
I too told them what you have said begging my friend will not help anything but did they listern no they just beg and beg.
The girl love the guy thats why she begged if not do you really think they care?
In the xloongx case the gf treat him like dirt. Honestly do you really think the girl like him?
upbringing could be a result...certain family tell their children that they excerise their authority because they care and love but they just dunno how to show...
but frankly speaking..it does show that she does treat him like dirt and it seems TO ME that she is just toying him around -
when she really slaps you in front of your friends. you will not have time to think that much. you will lose every single respect of your friends.Originally posted by xloongx:lol.. I guess so.. everyone have their own views. uh, determine that slap lor, if i done something really wrong, i don't think that's harsh, if it's something that i have not done wrong and it is really out of point, i think i would go mad and blast at her... =/...
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Originally posted by zeny:you want to know wahts the big joke?
Is the girls I have seen begging my friends not me..
My girls in the past never beg me,I never allow that. let me put it straight for the record. I nv assume that any girl begged u before. Please get this straight.
I too told them what you have said begging my friend will not help anything but did they listern no they just beg and beg.
The girl love the guy thats why she begged if not do you really think they care?
In the xloongx case the gf treat him like dirt. Honestly do you really think the girl like him?
How would I know? I'm not her. -
I see a trend in AA also. Most of the time it's almost always like the guys gets rejected or dumped or hurt or confused. Now dun get me wrong, Im not trying to say it's the females' fault. No one's at fault. It differs from r/s to r/s. Every case is different.Originally posted by browniebaobao:I see a trend in AA..
whenever a guy complains about his gf, most of the guys here will encourage him to break off.
quite a serious problem, isn't it?
is ending a r/s a solution to the problem? NO!
like in this case, i tink the girl has attitude problem. She is also not understanding enough. Whole family gathering, what for go pester ple to talk. zhen bu hui zuo ren.
I believe her attitude problem can be changed tho, not so serious that he must break up with her.
There is a general trend that the guys complaining they are so nice to their gals yet it seems the gal does not appreciate it. And they are often confused by their gf's mixed signals. Can it be that being 'nice' backfires?
It's not that ending a r/s is a nice thing to do. But both parties have to have something common--they like each other mutually a lot. If one party doesnt, what's the point of continuing the r/s? It's hurting to the other party and a waste of time. -
if the gal begs the guy. There can be 2 reasons.Originally posted by zeny:ok if the gf is not wrong then what is wrong?
If his gf cannot even let him have time with his parents and slam down the phone is not immature then what is?
Then what is fair? Should the girl bark at him for more time and force him to stop talking to his parents and come and meet her asap. So is that fair to him? Is that the so call imature act?
Is common for girls to put down the phone, i will only agree if they are fighting. But just normal talking already trying to show who is boss? How would you feel if your bf always does that? Are you expected as a girl to call him back?
Girls only push their luck when they do not like the guy they are with. Have you seen girls who really love their guys? They will please the guys so much until to the extend of begging for the guys if the guys are showing signs of leaving them.
1) the gal like the guy too much
2) she has low self-esteem.
The first reason seems most likely the case. -
Hmm.. bleh.. So more or less... a talk... then if things doesn't work really out.. then break =/ ... Hmm.. okay...