The Mushy Gang Crapbox
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Ok Pup, if you seriously think your friend does Not need help, & is using his problems as a shield, then why do you post here & ask for our advice? Are you here to rant, or to seek advice on how to help your friend?
YOU got outta the suicidal depression. GOOD ON YOU. But Not everybody is as strong as you despite your tender age. Can you understand that?
If teens were all as strong as you, then there wouldn't be so many cases in the world of teenage suicide.
If your friend doesn't wanna consult a teacher, you can speak to a teacher on his behalf if you're concerned enough.
This is my last take on this subject. Whether you wanna help your friend enough or Not is up to you. It's Not my friend. I know what I'd do if 1 of my friends was in trouble like this.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by StarPuppy:i seriously think i been spoon-feeding him a bit too long liao...his family no money, i have to take out savings to feed his family weekly..until my parents foudn out
gave him advice but hes too stubborn to take
sometimes u can't put family problems as a shield
my mother and father both working, only my grandmother took care of me and my brother... when i had a fever..my parents carried on working to support us..only my grandmother took care of me and my brother
Many years result:
My brother went astray, in/out jail 3-4 times
Me? I maybe weak in studies but i never broke the law
just because u dun have any support, doesn't mean u can use your family problems as a shield
I was having friday depression weekly last time because my mother argued everyday with grandmother and when my grandmother went down for walks on friday, my mother took it out on me..my father didn't care, just let it happen...my brother was never at home...
who could i turn to? i had to undergo depression in/out (which i think rainee knew) but i got it out myself -
err...me here cos heard got someone feeling suicidal ma...then last time ppl here helped me so much, so now must help a bit oso laOriginally posted by Boo777:Woooo Rainee.... looks like we have a new gal in town... and new things to fish...
heh heh heh heh.... -
Still got somemore
How could you so pian xing & buy things for your other wifey but Not me?
I want this, & this & this!
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Mao x 2:
There goes my $$$ again.. -
but what do u want me to do now?Originally posted by FeowFeow:Ok Pup, if you seriously think your friend does Not need help, & is using his problems as a shield, then why do you post here & ask for our advice? Are you here to rant, or to seek advice on how to help your friend?
YOU got outta the suicidal depression. GOOD ON YOU. But Not everybody is as strong as you despite your tender age. Can you understand that?
If teens were all as strong as you, then there wouldn't be so many cases in the world of teenage suicide.
If your friend doesn't wanna consult a teacher, you can speak to a teacher on his behalf if you're concerned enough.
This is my last take on this subject. Whether you wanna help your friend enough or Not is up to you. It's Not my friend. I know what I'd do if 1 of my friends was in trouble like this.
FeowFeow
he himself will keep on moaning and moaning and frankly speaking i already got no more cards already -
Good on you, I like your positive attitude : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by rainee:err...me here cos heard got someone feeling suicidal ma...then last time ppl here helped me so much, so now must help a bit oso la -
Go help him to find professional help.Originally posted by StarPuppy:but what do u want me to do now?
he himself will keep on moaning and moaning and frankly speaking i already got no more cards already
That's the only thing you can do..
Coz any advices won't help him anyway. -
hehe thanksOriginally posted by FeowFeow:Good on you, I like your positive attitude : )
FeowFeow
a few weeks ago i was really depressed and was feeling suicidal oso la...but thank goodness i got out of it without any serious injury to myself -
I agree to wat Feow had said. If u can't handle this problem, let someone else handle it. If a teacher can't do it, approach a professional councellor, or those hotline thingy.
Ok, u dun believe the hotline thingy can work? Well, u'll have to try it out, or u'll never know. Every little chance, is still a chance.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Ok Pup, if you seriously think your friend does Not need help, & is using his problems as a shield, then why do you post here & ask for our advice? Are you here to rant, or to seek advice on how to help your friend?
YOU got outta the suicidal depression. GOOD ON YOU. But Not everybody is as strong as you despite your tender age. Can you understand that?
If teens were all as strong as you, then there wouldn't be so many cases in the world of teenage suicide.
If your friend doesn't wanna consult a teacher, you can speak to a teacher on his behalf if you're concerned enough.
This is my last take on this subject. Whether you wanna help your friend enough or Not is up to you. It's Not my friend. I know what I'd do if 1 of my friends was in trouble like this.
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dat's why you need to set a limit.Originally posted by StarPuppy:but what do u want me to do now?
he himself will keep on moaning and moaning and frankly speaking i already got no more cards already
tell him you can't help him if all he does is whine and whine and whine. Whining gets nobody anywhere.
It is better to take some action, like dragging him to the counselling office or alerting some adults who can help more with his case rather than spending hours listening to him moaning about his current life situation. -
Not that I want you to do anything. But what's your purpose in posting your friend's problems here? Do you want our advice on what you can do to help him? Or do you want our advice on how you can prevent him from leeching onto you?
From what we saw at 1st, it appeared to be that you wanted advice on how to help your friend. So we duly gave you our opinion. But when we gave our opinion, you shot down every single 1 of them, saying that you had handled your own problems by yourself.
So the question should be reflected back to you. What do you wish us to help you with?
FeowFeowOriginally posted by StarPuppy:but what do u want me to do now?
he himself will keep on moaning and moaning and frankly speaking i already got no more cards already -
agreed.... going to church, joining in their "cell groups" gives him a sense of belonging, the feel that if there's things he can't handle, someone Up there or in the group can help him deal...Originally posted by Pommes frites:pup,think you must encourage him, coz sometimes when things gets overwheming,committing suicide seems to be the best way...
BUT
you must tell him, it is a PERMANANT solution to a TEMPORARY situation!!!
even if he dies,the situation doesnt change.
he needs to have hope..let him now its not the end of everything..i have a suggestion,u know any church people?maybe can get him to attend church service,who knows he might feel better. (not trying to preach here although im a christian) but sometimes attending church helps. -
Congrats, you've levelled up!!
What doesn't kills you makes you stronger. Originally posted by rainee:hehe thanks
a few weeks ago i was really depressed and was feeling suicidal oso la...but thank goodness i got out of it without any serious injury to myself -
lolz...level up makes me think of levelling up in MapleOriginally posted by Boo777:Congrats, you've levelled up!!
What doesn't kills you makes you stronger.
Yea, someone said I am not strong enuff last time...but I think I am stronger now tho of cos I do have my weak moments oso la... -
And there's also... US...!!!
Originally posted by smudgey:agreed.... going to church, joining in their "cell groups" gives him a sense of belonging, the feel that if there's things he can't handle, someone Up there or in the group can help him deal... -
Maple sux!!
Play World of WarCraft, dudette!!
Btw, watz Maple?Originally posted by rainee:lolz...level up makes me think of levelling up in Maple
Yea, someone said I am not strong enuff last time...but I think I am stronger now tho of cos I do have my weak moments oso la... -
Good for you : )
I trust that you've gotten everything straightened out? : ) There's always light at the end of the rainbow *blinks blinks big eyes & sings Rainbow Connection*
FeowFeowOriginally posted by rainee:hehe thanks
a few weeks ago i was really depressed and was feeling suicidal oso la...but thank goodness i got out of it without any serious injury to myself -
At first when I saw the first post that pup post regarding his friend, my first impression of his friend is he came from a family that is poor, where domestic violence is the norm and suffering from depression.Originally posted by StarPuppy:look..he wants to end his life for the past 2 years..everytime he got depressed, i had to talk to him
like, my fren loan him PS2 for his birthday..at first he asked me for games...i said cannot lend..then i see his sad face..i have to loan it to him (became give)
he knows i give in easily...
the point is not this...the point is..he complains..why ppl have a PS, why he dun have...moan moan..den one of my classmates loan (gave it to him)... i told him..dun play the PS near O lvls..he said ok, i will control
one of the weeks i drop by..i see him playing his gameboy...nothing wrong..but i asked him..u done your revision..he said ya...study for 2 hours, play for 3 hours
I had to burn midnight oil and dinner and sometimes forsaking sleep 2 weeks before my Os and hes complaining why his result so lousy
But my impression changed from this post. It seems that... true that he is depressed but he is not making the effort himself to lift himself and his family out of this situation. Poor yes, but those hours of playing games on consoles could be spent on studying hard or taking up odd jobs to make more money and perhaps can help out with the family expenses alittle. $10 wages for 3hours is not much if for a Macdonalds worker but a $10 can still provide some decent dishes for the whole family. This is where I see is contradictory here, someone whom is depressed, wants a solution and willing to work hard to that compared to someone whom is depressed, wants a solution but also want to just sit there complain and complain until it happen miraculously. -
Maple lor...the game...Originally posted by Boo777:Maple sux!!
Play World of WarCraft, dudette!!
Btw, watz Maple?
wats the website again...forgot liao...last time used to play it one...but got until level 43 then stopped le... -
Originally posted by smudgey:agreed.... going to church, joining in their "cell groups" gives him a sense of belonging, the feel that if there's things he can't handle, someone Up there or in the group can help him deal...
yup =) -
why i no presents?
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*rolls a welcoming matOriginally posted by rainee:err...me here cos heard got someone feeling suicidal ma...then last time ppl here helped me so much, so now must help a bit oso la
welcome to AAforums :3 -
YupOriginally posted by FeowFeow:Good for you : )
I trust that you've gotten everything straightened out? : ) There's always light at the end of the rainbow *blinks blinks big eyes & sings Rainbow Connection*
FeowFeow -
FeowFeow wants to level up & sweep out all the FAKE competition for my FAKE LARLING
FeowFeowOriginally posted by rainee:lolz...level up makes me think of levelling up in Maple
Yea, someone said I am not strong enuff last time...but I think I am stronger now tho of cos I do have my weak moments oso la... -
http://www.maplesea.com/Originally posted by rainee:Maple lor...the game...
wats the website again...forgot liao...last time used to play it one...but got until level 43 then stopped le... -
Sounds like the majority of common folks living in this world.Originally posted by NekoRin:At first when I saw the first post that pup post regarding his friend, my first impression of his friend is he came from a family that is poor, where domestic violence is the norm and suffering from depression.
But my impression changed from this post. It seems that... true that he is depressed but he is not making the effort himself to lift himself and his family out of this situation. Poor yes, but those hours of playing games on consoles could be spent on studying hard or taking up odd jobs to make more money and perhaps can help out with the family expenses alittle. $10 wages for 3hours is not much if for a Macdonalds worker but a $10 can still provide some decent dishes for the whole family. This is where I see is contradictory here, someone whom is depressed, wants a solution and willing to work hard to that compared to someone whom is depressed, wants a solution but also want to just sit there complain and complain until it happen miraculously. No offends. 